How do you know if a guy likes you? He may be acting friendly and flirty towards you, but how can you know if that’s just his personality? You want to know if he has a crush on you rather than just being someone who hits on every other woman he meets.
It can be pretty hard to figure out if the attention a guy is giving you is genuine. Hopefully, this guide can give you some clarity.
Sections
- Signs a guy likes you
- How can you tell if a coworker likes you?
- Does your best friend like you?
- How to be sure whether or not a guy friend likes you
38 signs a guy likes you
When a guy has a crush on you, his behavior towards you will usually change. However, it can be difficult to figure out. He may be acting nervous because he’s shy or flirty because he’s friendly and outgoing.
Here are the best signs to help you tell if a guy has a crush on you or not.
1. He stares at you
You probably know how hard it is not to look at someone you like. Prolonged eye contact without talking is a big tell that a guy likes you.
But to be fair, it’s common for guys to stare at any girl they find attractive. And it’s an easy way for him to show his interest without having to approach you. But who knows, he might even have a secret crush on you.
2. He mirrors you
Mirroring means that his body language, posture, or even what he’s saying reflects what you said or did.
Examples of mirroring:
- When you take a sip of your glass, he also takes a sip of his glass
- When you cross your legs, he crosses his legs
- When you get very animated/passionate in a conversation, he also gets animated
- When you lean in, he also leans in
- When you laugh, he laughs
Note that mirroring is done subconsciously when he has a good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if he wants to impress or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.
3. He added you on social media
Adding you on social media means he wants to keep in contact with you and might be interested in you. This is also good because now you can more easily start a conversation with him online.
4. His texts are longer than yours
If his texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.
If he usually gives short answers compared to you, that’s a bad sign. When you’re giving him long replies but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager.
In that case, it’s good to step back a bit and try to match him better. Keep in mind that some people are naturally better at others at texting.
5. He teases you
Most forms of teasing (even mean teasing) are usually a sign he’s interested in you. It means he’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that he wants a reaction from you.
Have fun with it, and don’t be afraid to tease him back! 😉
6. He’s leaning in
If he’s leaning in toward you, that shows he wants to get closer to you (or he’s really passionate about what he’s saying). When a guy has a crush on you, it can feel like he’s magnetically drawn to you.
7. He’s getting physically close to you
If you’re in a conversation and you feel like he’s edging closer to you, or as if he’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. He may be attracted to you and wants to feel physically and mentally closer to you.
Note that different cultures have different “personal spaces.” So, if he’s from a different culture than you, see how close he gets to others to see if it’s just you.
8. He offers you a massage
This is one of the most obvious tells that a guy likes you. Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a guy to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer him one back if you like him!)
9. He smiles at you
If he’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach him. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home.)
If he’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign he likes you. Especially if he has a light smile while you’re not even joking.
10. He’s giving you mixed signals
Mixed signals are really tricky to interpret and can make anyone confused. But in most cases, they do mean he’s interested in you. Here are the most common reasons why he’s giving you mixed and confusing signals.
Nine reasons why he’s giving you mixed signals:
- He doesn’t want to come off as too eager
- He’s shy
- He’s nervous and insecure
- He’s afraid of seeming desperate
- He’s afraid you’ll reject him
- He’s inexperienced in flirting
- He’s following some weird rules or pick-up tips he’s read
- He’s just flirting with you (because flirting is all about giving mixed signals)
- He likes the attention or validation he gets from you but isn’t really interested in you
Giving mixed signals may mean a guy likes you, but it doesn’t mean he’d make a good partner. If someone sometimes ignores you or is mean to you, you should avoid dating even if you have a mutual crush on each other. You deserve a partner who won’t have you second-guessing yourself.
11. He compliments you
Getting a compliment from a guy your age is a good sign. If he’s giving you compliments about how pretty you are, it’s an even better sign.
It can be hard to tell a friendly compliment from a romantic one because they can sound exactly the same. To know for sure, look for other signs he’s also giving you or describe your situation in the comments below.
12. His pupils are large
If his pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.
13. He makes eye contact with you
When a guy has a crush on you, it can be so hard for him to keep his eyes off of you. You can notice this if he’s holding eye contact with you for slightly too long.
It can almost feel a little weird or intense when it happens. And that’s great (if you like him).
14. He looks at you with open body language
This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example, at a bar or a club.
If he’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that’s a sign he’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you he wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.
15. He straightens his posture
Is he straightening his back and standing up more straight? It means he’s a bit self-conscious when hanging out near you and wants to make a good impression.
It’s not a strong sign because most single guys want to make a good impression on attractive girls. But if you see it together with many other signs, it means more.
16. He faces you in group situations
If he’s facing you more often than he’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign he’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not the one talking the most in the group.
17. His feet are pointing towards you
If his feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if his body is facing you. He’s subconsciously focused on you, which makes his feet point toward you.
18. He fiddles with his clothes or accessories
This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because he wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.
19. His palms face you
If the palms of his hands are pointed in your direction, he might be interested in you. It’s a small sign, but it’s still positive because it’s part of his open and welcoming body language toward you.
20. He touches you when you touch him
For example, if you touch his arm, does he touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If he does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign.
If he’s shy or inexperienced, he might not feel comfortable touching you back, even if he has a crush on you.
21. He is extra touchy with you
A good tell he likes you is if he’s touching you unusually much compared to others.
Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if he touches those.
22. You have “peripheral physical contact”
Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.
A good example is when you’re both sitting down, and your thighs barely touch each other.
This kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of suspense and attraction. It’s the best feeling being close to someone you got a crush on.
23. He gives you more of his attention than others
The more attention he gives you, the more interested he usually is in you. Compare this to how much attention he gives to other girls also hanging out with him or in the same group as you.
For example, If you’re in a group and he seems to direct most of his attention toward you. It could be that he’s asking you lots of questions or that he’s laughing more than others at your jokes. Or just listening more intently to you.
24. He blushes when you talk or make eye-contact
He might just be shy, but he’s probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because he likes you. This makes him blush around you.
Social anxiety can also cause blushing. But it’s still a great sign.
25. He seems to look in your direction from far away
Guys can be a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. And if he has sunglasses, it’s even harder to know if he’s checking you out.
So if he’s looking in your direction, especially if he does it several times, he’s probably checking you out.
26. He keeps the conversation going
What happens when there’s a pause in the conversation or if you stop talking? If he seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If he lets the conversation die out or excuses himself, he may not be that interested (unless he’s just shy).
If you have problems with the conversation dying out, check out this guide on keeping the conversation going with a guy.
27. He quickly replies when you text or message him
A quick reply is a good sign he likes you. Also, if he replies with several texts to your one text, that’s even better.
However, if he likes you, he may also delay his replies to avoid seeming needy or desperate. But as long as he replies, it’s all good. If he’s slow to reply, it could just mean he’s busy, or he doesn’t like texting, so don’t read too much into it.
28. He texts or calls first
Is he the one initiating contact, or are you? If he is, that probably means he’s interested in you.
But if he never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if he will take initiative. If you’re always so quick to take initiative, he might never even have a chance to do it first.
29. He texts you often
Compare this to how often you text him. He’s eager if he’s texting more often than you, and you’re more eager if you’re the one texting more often. If he’s sending you several texts in a row without a reply, it’s a stronger sign.
30. He becomes awkward in a conversation with you
Does he stammer, stutter, or otherwise become awkward with you? This could mean that he feels shy or self-conscious around you. When a guy likes you, it’s common that he gets a bit extra flustered when talking to you. That’s because he gets uncomfortable and doesn’t want to mess up in front of you. It’s kind of cute, isn’t it?
31. He doesn’t back off if you get a bit too close
If he doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to his personal space, that’s a sign he wants you close to him.
If you take a step closer, and he backs off by a step, that’s a sign he’s a bit more reserved toward you.
32. He talks about things he wants to do with you
Planning or mentioning things he wants to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.
Example: If you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!”
33. He’s happy to discover you have something in common
If he’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, such as you living in the same part of town, being the same age, or you both like pizza. For more tips, check out this guide on how to talk to a guy you like.
Example: You discover that you both grew up in the same city, and he gets really excited about it even if it’s no big deal.
34. He asks you personal questions
Personal questions are telling you that he wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more he asks, the better.
Example: Asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or your favorite food.
35. He asks you about your plans
Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be him trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if he brings it up near the end of the conversation.
36. He tries to make you jealous
This is a strong sign he’s interested in you. But it’s also a sign he’s emotionally immature and manipulative. I would avoid someone acting like that. You deserve to be treated with respect.
37. He’s told his family about you
This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I think it’s worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if he’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.
If he’s told his family, it means he is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!
38. He stays to talk with you even though his friends have left
This is a big tell. If you’re in some sort of group conversation with him and his friends, and all his friends leave, but he stays – he’s probably into you. It still might not be a romantic interest if you just have a great conversation and have lots in common.
An example could be when you’re at a party, and all his friends leave to get a bite to eat, but he stays with you.
How can you tell if a coworker likes you?
At work, It can be hard to tell if a coworker is flirting with you or just being friendly. Usually, guys play it safer at work because he doesn’t want to create any awkward situations if he would be rejected. So, he might be probing to see if you like him before he gives you any clear signs of interest.
Six ways to tell if a coworker likes you:
- He comes over to talk with you as often as possible
- He often teases you
- It seems like he’s flirting, but you’re not really sure
- He tries to hang out near you when possible
- He tries to be funny when he’s near you
- He’s eager to do any work tasks where you work together
- He goes above and beyond to help you out at work
- He gets weird or stiff when he’s near you, but he’s normal with everyone else
How do you know if your best friend likes you?
Here are seven signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend:
- He’s acting differently from how he usually behaves
- He seems jealous or dismissive of other guys you might like
- He’s suddenly extra touchy-feely
- He seems unusually interested in your interests
- He seems extra needy
- He’s told you he has feelings for you
If you’re still unsure, let me know about your situation in the comments below, and I’ll do my best to help.
How do you know for sure if a guy friend is interested?
You can’t know for sure if a cute guy is interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few questions you can ask yourself:
- Is he regularly showing you signs of interest?
- Does he act differently to others than to you? (So he’s not just flirty with everyone.)
- Has he shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
- Can you see any patterns in his behavior toward you?
Are you still unsure if he likes you?
Write down your situation in the comments below in as much detail as possible. That way, others can help you out by giving their opinion. I also expect you to help someone else by replying to their comment. We need to all pitch in and help each other.
Hello, I don’t know how I should start this story. I like someone. We first met at the bus stop 7 months ago and it continues to this day.
At first I didn’t really think of that person. I just think he’s the same as other people I meet every day at the bus stop.
2 months later, in my office there was a change in schedule so that I and the person never met when I returned home. Suddenly I thought about him. At that time, I didn’t know what this feeling was, was it just curious.
Until one day, when I took the bus home, he suddenly appeared and sat right in front of my seat. Then a few days later, he sat behind me. When I looked sideways and glanced back, I felt he was looking at me, but I thought it was just a feeling, just like other strangers looking around while on the bus.
After that time, a lot of things happened. When sitting side by side but on the different seats on the left and right, he used to like tousled his hair and tidied it without cause. Another day, when I hugged my bag, I glanced at him doing the same thing. Then I changed the position of my hand so it was not the same as him, and at the same time he changed the position of his hand again up to 3 times.
One afternoon when I was on the bus on my way home, I was shocked by something. I always stand facing the bus window on the left side in the middle of the bus. The man always sits or stands behind the bus for about 2 meters. But suddenly when I turned around, he was already standing facing me, even though it was quiet around me, he could have stood on the other side of the bus or even facing back to me. I tried to turn my head towards the front because of embarrassment, the bus was shaken slightly he shifted forward so I could still see his face. Then I turned my face to the left, and when I turned around, he already turned around.
Other events when walking on the bus, I walked in front of him and stopped on the left side. At that time the bus was not very busy. However, I felt that every time he walked, he always seemed direct to my body to the position where I was standing, even though sometimes it was only slightly touched on my upper arm.
I always find him standing in a position where he can freely look straight at me, and vice versa, maybe he just stands in his favorite position.
We always walk close together when getting off the bus. Sometimes I’m in front and he’s behind, or he’s in front and I’m behind. When the bus is busy or not, it often happens. Maybe it’s just a coincidence.
I once rode the bus in full condition, and could not move, so he and me stood next to each other. He stood facing right where I was standing and I stood facing forward. During the several trips that continued, I did not dare look in his direction but when the bus had begun to quiet he did not change its position. Until I moved to sit in the back seat, he suddenly turned his body to the left. Though there is an empty chair, but he does not want to sit.
I sometimes go at the same time as him. The bus stop where I have to go up and down the stairs. When we arrived at the bus stop, when he found out I was walking behind him, he would walk very fast seems like he really hated me, there was a time when that happened and he was riding an online driver, he looked at me and looked down.
Once when we were waiting for the bus at the bus stop, I stood about 1.5 meters from him, and when I saw him from the side, I found him glancing from the corner of his eye towards me standing while his face was facing the cellphone. At that time I thought what was wrong with that person, or was it just his habit of looking at people with a glance.
When we stood close together, he did not try to keep his distance. I, who normally isn’t comfortable standing close to other people, will take a step away if I get too close. But when I noticed, he also often stood close to other people.
On the bus I often found him standing facing me but he always looked down at his handphone. He sometimes doesn’t always face me but my position and he can easily see each other.
He never waited for me at the busway stop. But when I was there, he was look depressed. Does my existence bother him? I really come every day and come home at the same time as him so I can see him. Occasionally see it but with a distance of 1.5 – 2 meters.
Recently one afternoon I sat facing the front and I looked towards the windshield of the bus. He stood next to the door which was then on the right side and I sat on the right side facing forward. At that time I knew he was standing there but did not see his face, only his body was standing. Then I raised my gaze to his face and found him looking right at my face. When I do that our eyes meet and see each other. Not wanting to make him think I saw him, I immediately looked towards the windshield of the bus, as if nothing had happened.
I am curious about what is wrong with the man. These incidents have been going on for 4 months and almost 5 months. Is there something wrong with me? Or does he hate me? why he keep so something like that but never asked me to talk?
What should I do with this man? Others think I should try to ignore him and see what he will do. Because he should know I am always around him.
If you know something please tell me and thank you wanna hear my story.
My question is, have you ever talked to him? Have you even asked him his name? He does seem a bit interested, but doesn’t know how to talk to you. He might be feeling that you are trying to dodge him, which might be why he seems kinda depressed. Have you tried to smile at him? Giving a smile and a slight nod is an invitation to get to know you better. Maybe you should show more interest in him, talk to him, smile, maybe even laugh. Make yourself seem open to him. Right now it seems you’ve put on the air of mystery, and you seem to show no interest. So smile and talk to him, get to know him a bit better. Seek him out a bit, and see if he returns the favor.
I’ve become friends with this guy. At first, it was just that; we were just friends. However, he tried to hug me one day, then texted me about his crush and then jokingly commented on something I said with “it’s because I love you.” I’m confused about his feelings.
Hey I have a co worker that I’m confused if he likes me or not ! He is shy ! But recently he breaks the touch barrier between us many times . He brushed my shoulders, touched my arm and back and I can feel that his head is very close to mine when he is standing behind me . He leans to me to talk to me . When I talk to someone and he or she doesn’t notice he looks at me and let them know I’m talking to them. Each time he sees me he raise his eyebrows with a wide smile ! He say hi many times . When he has eye contact with me he smiles . And one time I caught him was staring at me with very wide smile while I was talking in a group . He defends me from other coworkers and …
But he become more conservative when one of our female coworker is around ! I feel that there’s something between them ! However both declare that they are single ! And it seems he is not very interested to her ! But she is obviously very interested to him ! I don’t know what does that mean and I’m completely confused!
This guy showed all the body language and he told me he really really likes me alot after he put his arm around my shoulder and squeezed me tight. And then l had this meltdown and he came over to me and sat so close he could have been on my lap then he put his arm around my shoulder and then pulled me closer to where my head was laying on his chest then l looked up at him and asked him if he ever thought about me and he said all the time and he was picking me up for church for a while and then he could not give me a ride for a long time so now he just let me know that he can pick me up again and how he loves to do that. My question is where is all this going as far as how or what category would you say we are in
The reason why l am asking is l just need to know this so when we do talk l won’t feel like l am on a rollercoaster this is me wanting to know.
He sometimes assures me. I am the alone girl that close to him but he does not reply all my messages on time and I always chat first nowadays and say I question him to much and say it is sometime tiring chatting with me. But no matter the time I call him out, he answers and if I asked if I am disturbing him, he says no, if not he won’t be here and he is touchy most times and always lean towards me. And sometimes if I decide not to continue with him for somedays he will chat me up. And I am getting to attracted most times we fight I message first .
I met this guy at work who will be sitting in my office for the next 6 months, we keep bumping into each other so he said let’s grab coffee and you can tell me more about what you do (he said i will email you but i have pen and paper on hand so i just asked him to write that down. We began to text a little then we met in a work drink thing hosted by my boss, I was too busy talking to other people, so i went by his office after the drink and just casually say didn’t get a chance to you. Then i noticed he gets a bit nervous – keep fixing his hair, fidgeting a pen and check me out while sitting fully facing me.
We then went for coffee during the weekend: great conversation, strong eye contact, smile and he initiated plan to visit other coffee place i mentioned. He also texted me it was nice to see me. However, 10 days went by he did not follow up on the plan we talked about. We would still say hi and talk if we bump into each other at work. I thought i would like to get this over with instead of thinking about it, so i texted him on Friday about his plan for weekend. He did not reply until Monday morning saying his phone deleted Whatsapp itself because of space issue. He said we should go coffee (during work) and we did – he said we should grab lunch next week, which he mentioned that in the conversation multiple times. You probably can guess that did not happen – he did not follow up.
I do not understand why he would initiates plans/ seem so positive with the body language, when he does not seem to be this interested? Please help
I don’t know if my crush likes me because when I first noticed him in my choir class I would start looking at him and wouldn’t make it too obvious, and I didn’t really know that if he was looking at me because I started seeing that he was constantly and it started getting intense when he trys to come near me or he sits kind of five seats away and trys to look at me or finds a way to look at me and then two months later I see a girl that he’s with but she’s always in her nonstop and he trys to get her attention but who knows and I stop looking at him because I didn’t want to get between them and so in my corner of my eye, I still see him looking at me in lunch and in choir and this one afternoon in my choir we had to go to the auditorium to watch a play and It began and it was funny play and I was laughing but in my corner of my eyes he would stretch and try to look at me or when his friend would bend over to do something he would take advantage and look at me and it he did 7 times and even the closest friend of mine told me she notice my crush looking at me and I told her I didn’t know him even if I did but not too close and the play was done and he got his backpack and turned around and saw me and I walked up fast and went to my choir class and grabbed my backpack and went towards the hallway and Saw him alone with no girl that he’s usually with. And after that I saw this website and it didn’t really find what my crush was doing, so I wrote for you to understand what you think might think of me or what’s happening in this kind of situation. -elizabeth a.
There is this guy that I go to school with and i recently stared to become interested in him. About a couple of weeks ago we were working on a project together and he would always get really close to me and he call me names(not mean names just call me the wrong name to tease me) and every once in a while I caught him looking at me. He always finds an excuse to talk to me in class and we talk about a lot of different things. One day in class we were eating popcorn and he was tossing it up into the air and I was catching it in my mouth. One day in class he moved seats so that he could sit in front of me and that day he was teasing me a lot that day and out of nowhere he just looked me in the eyes and just smiled at me and stared at me for like 20 seconds. I catch him looking at me more and more every day and sometimes he looks away but others he looks back at me.I noticed that whenever another guy comes up to talk to me he comes up and gets himself into the conversation. One of my best friends is good friends with him and he normally tells her and he also tells me but now he wont tell either of us. I honestly dont know how he feels about me but what do you think?
I have a crush on this guy at work and in August I message him on Facebook. I never got a response so I thought he was ignoring me. Today I got a message from him and he said he hasn’t been on facebook over a year. Before this I thought he had some feelings for me as well. After the incident I kept my distance and didn’t want to talk to him. Do you think he like me??
so there’s this guy I am quite close to in social medias- I often chat with him n even share secrets. only recently, I had the courage to talk face to face with him. I always catch him staring at me since a long time ago but he’s sort of getting more flirtier with me since I talked to him irl. the thing is he has a lot of girl friends so I’m not sure if that’s just a ‘he’ thing to do :/
So, my classmate kinda found out i liked him, rejected me (but apparently, not directly) but it’s been some months and he’s showing a LOT of these signs. He’ll start talking out of nowhere and when our teacher asks what he’s talking about, he’ll just say he’s talking to me. He oftens leans to my side when we’re in class, and he’ll start mimicking my hand poses, and even when i crack my knuckles. There was this one time when he was talking to me and our lesbian friend asked why he was blushing and he just avoided eye contact and went to do something else. I don’t know if he likes me or not, even with all of these signs, i’d like a little help figuring him out.
He said that if I stop being creepy and wierd, then he might like me. He hung out with three girls over the weekend and was bragging about it like crazy. We basically never make eye contact. He knw I have a hige crush on him and continues to bring me up to his friend saying its creepy and wierd that I like him. Please help
He does not sound like a good man, he seems very immature and manipulative. Please avoid him, he will only break your heart. You deserve someone who treats you with respect.
I work with a guy who I noticed was looking at me in one of our meetings. Once I noticed, he quickly looked away. Over the last few weeks, I’ve noticed him making it a point to come to my office. We were talking about work related things, and then he asked me about my weekend and ended up chatting for a while. I notice a lot of eye contact, and it seems like maybe he’s a little different acting towards me. Do you think he might have a crush on me? It’s hard to tell because we work in a professional environment. Just getting a vibe.
I have a completely crush on one of my boy’s teacher. He had lesson with him for almost a year, but I felt in love two months ago only. Though I am married (not happily, but with kids) and he is not, the emotional situation become very complicated for me. After showing few signs of interest between each other, he made the first move to be closer to me and touch my hand. I stupidly freezed at that moment and pulled my hand away. Since than he keeps distance from me, but we still continue to stare at each other and he is offering to call him at any time my son needs help. Our txt were always business like with few smiles. I am now confused if he still likes me or is afraid to try any moves. He also offered an another lessons for myself, but I feel weird to pay him to be able to see him. we also don’t have much chance to talk privately during the lessons, he never texted me first, but replies straight away, he never asked me out. Don’t know what to do, as I can’t stop thinking about him and I am too shy to make any moves. Any advice very much appreciated.
I may not be professional and still a student but I would recommend you to ask him to have a cup of coffee sometime! I think it would help you both to talk about things and get to know each other better!
I feel like even though all might have “chemistry” you are married, i understand a “bad relationship” but cheating is not okay.
I went to a restaurant to see if they were open on christmas day. This guy came over and asked if he could help me, i asked him and he said 365, i said ok ur open all yr. and the next thing he said to me was would u like to have a date? I was so shocked i changed the subject right away. But he continued to flirt with me, making sure i would at least meet him there at the restaurant, (i think he was the bartender) on christmas day. He was acting like he really wanted me there, so i said ok. But i have to wonder, he never asked me my name or phone number etc.and if he was so interested why wait to see me for 2 months before christmas?? Also age is just a number, but just saying im 64, dont look it though, and he looks to be maybe in his late 30s or early 40s. I sure hope u can give me some insight on this, as hes very good looking and i dont want hurt.
There is this guy at the store where I work part time. We both are in completely different departments and have no overlapping work what so ever and most of our shifts are different days and timings. For the first few months we would just smile each other in passing but one day outside of work he stopped and asked me my name while on his way to lunch. since then i’ve noticed that he’s doing most of his work in the general area where i would be work or he would say stuff like i’m so bored or i’m not feeling well and we’d chat for a minute or two before we got back to our work.
now i’m not sure if he likes me because so far thats the only contact we seem to be getting due to the nature of our work. he’s not on social media or at least i dont think so (i tried looking him up) and he hasnt asked for my number or anything. Some times he would meet my eyes from a distance and other times he would just pass by without a glance. BUT he always smiles when he talks to me. I’m so confused.
I like this guy, and recently at events that both of us have been at I catch him watching me, and so do my friends. We were at a football game the other day, and while I was watching the game, my friend would nudge me and say ____’s watching you. It was very frequently. While I was at a party with a few friends the other day, we were all dancing (there were a few guys in the group, some of them were with their girlfriends), when ____ came up behind me and tapped my shoulder. He looked pretty pissed off and asked me which one of the guys was my date. I told him I didn’t have a date, and then I asked him the same question. He said that he was only there with friends. Then he went on about how he was sad that no one had really danced with him yet. We continued to have some small talk every once in a while for the rest of the night. My friends and I continued to catch him watching me from across the room. When a slower song came on, I went to go ask him to dance with me, but when I got to him he was dancing with another girl. I keep getting mixed signals like this from him. We flirt a little bit, but because we’re friends, I can’t tell if it’s just him being friendly or if it’s something more.
I work with this guy and I really like him a lot, and I think he likes me too but I’m not sure. We go to school and work together but there is a strict no dating rule so we don’t. He does touch me often when he can, fist bump, high five, he’ll place his hand out for me to hold (not a ton of time though because neither of us wants to lose our jobs), he’ll ask to hug me in my moments of stress or helplessness and will just always be there to comfort me when needed. He has also shared with me on numerous occasions about the past relationships he’s trying to get over and the effect it may still have on him, I have told him that I’ve never been in a relationship before but reassured him of his worth and that he desires someone that will treat him like the king he is. We work very well together and we clown around together very well. Or zodiac signs are compatible and we often make eye contact subtly around each other and then drop our heads and smile (briefly) (i hope that makes sense). If I’m being honest I really like the kid but I don’t know where he lies with me and I’m nervous to ask the question and things at work change for the worse. There are also things that make me think maybe he doesn’t like me in that way, his text messages aren’t terribly long (the passion is in our in-person chats), he’s told me about his family a ton and I don’t know if they know I exist, he never invites me to hang out with him on the weekends (but I don’t know if we’re in a position to have the ability to do that either. Anyway, I’m really conflicted and don’t know which way this man feels about me. Help me, please.
Hey! So there is actually this pediatrician that my neice goes to I’m mostly the one who takes her as her mom works a lot, her doctor is a young, and always carries on playful conversation, comments on my figure “ says things like I wonder where she gets her petiteness from then looks over at me, he even one time laid his arm on my thigh as he listened to her lungs. She cried one time and he said I know I’m not as pretty as you aunt. I’m just confused on whether he is being friendly or Actually flirting? He told me anytime I can’t get in with to tell the front desk to talk to him
Hello, I would like to describe my story below-
So I met this charming and really hawt guy on my Freshers Party in College. He ,infact is the Mr.Handsome of our college. I like this guy since the counselling session . So on the freshers day I have sent this guy a request on Instagram. He accepted it very soon ,like after 1 hour or so. I replied to his story and he thanked me. And then After many days I received a request from him on Facebook . Before this , I even Had a notification saying that “you have a new friend suggestion:His Name” So I accepted hia request too. Actually , The main problem is that he isn’t in my section . But he passes along many times in college. and we see each other. But neither he texted me nor did I. Nor do we talk in college. But on freshers day we had a very small conversation regarding who is gonno participate in the next round . That’s it .So I am really really confused that does he like me or not?
Cuz I am purely into him and cannot stop thinking about him ??Please do reply me . Its a request . Please reply Asap. I will be highly thankful to you.
Honestly, I would watch his actions a bit more, you have plenty of reasons to show that you like him, but not many showing he likes you. If he is Mr. Handsome in your college he is obviously pretty popular, so he would constantly check his friend requests. But you guys don’t even talk, and neither of you have sought out each other. Honestly, he hasn’t sent you many signs showing he’s interested, cause if he was he would have sought you out and gotten to know you better. He would be texting you and constantly replying to your feed.
If you really like him, maybe you should try to become great friends with him first, even though it seems hard because you like him. But you both will be able to get to know each other that way, possibly leading to a relationship in the future. But right now you both don’t know each other really at all. There’s really no way to know if he is interested because you don’t know him that well yet. All I can say is good luck, and try to get to know him a bit more. You are higher on his potential love list when you are his friend.
I have this new guy at work, who is very much a social butterfly. He is also a big jokester with everyone. He walks behind people and messes with their hair, pats backs, etc. he does this with everyone. He started this kind of thing with me first, I think because I was more welcoming to him. He added me first on Facebook, talks to me just a LITTLE more, and once while we were walking and talking down the hall, we looked at each other While smiling about something and he blushed. I feel a electricity with him sometimes, but other times, I really try to distance myself from that feeling because I don’t know if I’m alone in feeling it. Is he just really outgoing, or is there an interest there? Thanks so much!
There is a guy at work who seems interested in me, but I am not sure.. He makes prolonged eye contact with me (more than three seconds) often in conversation. One time, we were in a meeting and neither of us were talking, but we were making eye contact for about five seconds. He cracks jokes around me and I am very comfortable around him. He always compliments my work. He also dislikes criticism of his work, but welcomes my criticism. All this has been happening, but then when I was at work one day, I noticed his phone screensaver was him and a girl, who I assumed to be his girlfriend…. but he has never mentioned a girlfriend. What do you make of this situation?
Hi! So I have a crush on this guy in class. He was pretty rude to me before, bit I feel like now we are more nicer and closer to each other. We make eye contact pretty much everytime we talk together. And we both might smile too, it depends on the conversation. My friends told me that he sometimes stares at me. And he takes my things and plays with it and then gives it back. Our class had to perform in front of the whole school once, and before that he whispered to me that he’s nervous. He never told me anything like that, so I think he’s starting to trust me or something. But I still dont know if he likes me.
So I have this small crush on my guy friend. We both are in the same class. I’d say I’m attracted to him but I’m not sure if he is but I’ll say some points which I know happens a lot.
1) He leans his head on only my shoulder/arm and even said he’s very comfortable.(secretly if we are at the back of the classroom)
2) Our legs touch and he never backs away, he actually teases me about it.
3) He only asks me to hug him.(because he doesn’t really like hugging others)
4) He most of the time asks me to come with him a lot.
5) He is pretty hyper around only me.
6) He tries not to make others think that we’re dating and sits alone in front of me and my friend but still talks to us.
7) He said he will miss me a lot when I’m gone for holidays for a few weeks.(he didn’t say that to anyone before)
8) He teases me A LOT.
So actually we are now both dating!?❤️❤️❤️ I’m so happy!!! We both crushed on each other and it finally happened that we both are dating nowwwww❤️????
CONGRATS! <3 <3 <3
Thank you so much! ?
So actually he was fake so we broke up a few weeks ago.
Cat
Hi! I have this co worker who is extremely attractive and I can’t help but have a crush on him. I have extreme social anxiety and I have no idea if he likes me or he’s just being polite. He smiled at me and waved and when we were talking he was standing close to me and then a few weeks later he compliments my hair. Now I feel like he’s staring at me or looks at me a lot but my anxiety is telling me it’s just a coincidence but I can’t seem to get him alone or in a spot where I can talk to him especially in the middle of work
PLEASE HELP!
It sounds like some promising early signs. I wouldn’t read too much into it yet, but I think it’s great that you’re trying to talk to him one-on-one. If he’s really into you, he will make sure you happen to come across each other one-on-one sooner or later. There’s no big rush since you’re working together.
Have you also considered CBT-therapy to deal with your anxiety? There are many effective methods that aren’t that scary to overcome it.
Hi,
I have a co-worker crush situation. We only see each other for about 2 hours a day at work but over the course of the last 8 months we have gotten to know each other fairly well and there are days that I am 100% sure he is into me and then there are days I’m 100% sure he isn’t. Lately, he’s started teasing me in a elementary fashion: bumping my arm when I’m writing, mimicking the way I talk, playfully arguing with me, and he calls me out for blushing and always tries to make me smile.
We exchanged phone numbers a few months ago for work related reasons but now we text almost every day. He and I have even gone on a couple “dates” where we strolled on the beach (one of the dates was on his birthday) which would normally be romantic but he has never made any kind of “move” and he referred to them as “hanging out” so I never wanted to make any assumptions.
I want to know if he is into me, because I am definitely into him, but I feel weird asking. Especially because of work, I do not want things to get awkward at work if I am reading him wrong.
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Hi,
I have a co-worker from another team and he asks me to grab lunch or breakfast with him whenever our schedule aligns (his schedule is strictly by the minute). He doesn’t invite others though he asks me to invite our friends if they want to join). He also invites me to travel with him to other countries (he always say the more friends we travel with, the better.. But he never really invite our common friends and asks me to invite our friends instead). He invites me to go to some everns (like watch a wrestling match) with friends but when I don’t go, it ALWAYS get “cancelled”. When there was an earthquake here in my country, he messaged me saying “hey, there was just an earthquake a few seconds ago” – weird thing is.. We have a group chat with other friends but he messaged me directly and didn’t use the group chat to check everyone else. Also, when we are walking outsode the office to grab lunch or whatnot, he stands close to me to the point that our hands brush. There was also a time when he hugs me before saying goodbye and kisses me on my cheeks.
1 most recent thing.. I am the manager for my team and he is a consultant in his team. We have different teams. When we saw each other at the pantry when me and my team was having lunch, my team suddenly teased him and asked him is he has a crush on me. He never said “no” he just laughs every time he is asked that question. Then, my team asked him to hug me coz I smell good. He suddenly said “oh, I’ll just buy ice cream for everyone” WITHOUT any reason! He just said that he thinks of my team as his “family”.
My friends and team members really thinks this guy has a crush on me but is just too shy to make a move. But I don’t believe it. I think he just likes talking to me as he sees me as a confidant.
What are your thoughts please?
Thank you
So me and this guy hungout pretty much everyday for 2-3 weeks. Than he started to only hangout once a week for about an hour and that happened for 2 weeks. I’ve only said 2 words to him this week. But his friends keep taking pictures of me, i keep cathing him checking me out, his friends always talk highly of him around me and he’s shown up in places that im usually at but he never is. But he has been ignoring me and sounds annoyed when we talk and is constantly with a group of girls.
It is entirely possible he is trying to get over you or he is playing hard to get. If he is sounding annoyed when you talk though despite previously talking to you a lot, then he is probably not worth your time. If you genuinely have a crush on someone, you surely wouldn’t sound annoyed around them.
I knw dis guy since 2months who works in office,he often teases me,starts the conversation, stear at me,gets into my problem and often smiles whenever I passby.
I texted him but he replies slowly with single line answer. Doubtful does he really likes me? Between am a married woman ?
I have a crush who my friends say he have a girlfriend who is my friend but last Sunday he told me he likes me and was afraid to tell me and also his girlfriend who is my friend she is cheating on him ,I can’t tell him cause my friends don’t want him to tell him that we know he has a girlfriend what should I do? Please help me
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i have a crush on my classmate (i’ll call him dave for now) and he’s giving me mixed messages. he is showing a lot of signs. he looks at me A LOT during classes. he looks at me after he talks or says a joke. his feet were pointed to me. and today he spent lunch around me and my friends. he was near us for the last week but that’s because his friends were near us too. today his friends weren’t near us, but i overheard him asking someone if they knew where his friend was. and he has no problem with me copying his homework. but i asked him if i was rude and he said yes. my friend asked dave “if she’s rude why is she your friend?” dave said “who said she was my friend?” and walked away. he’s sort of mean but shows all these signs. i asked him what would he do if i fainted in front of him and he said he’d just leave me on the floor. he also said he would just let people punch me if people did. and i can’t ask his friends if he likes me because he’s kinda secure about himself. and yet he answered all my questions about him and his childhood. help. and don’t say he likes me so that i feel happy plz.