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Imagine getting past the “-How are you?” “-I’m good, how are you?” “-Good…” and building a real connection instead.

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Rachel Keller, 19
Student, United Kingdom
From sobbing before social events to looking forward to them
“I’m not joking, I’d start to sob because of how nervous I was. It was the most extreme case of social dread. But now…”
Social anxiety Read Rachel’s story →
Jerry Finn, 28
Web Developer, Arkansas, USA
Went through high school without speaking. Not anymore.
“I was so uncomfortable socially that I didn’t even speak. A lot of people didn’t even know what my voice sounded like. For years I felt trapped in my own head, until…”
Shyness Read Jerry’s story →
Taylor Goodwin, 35
Naturopathic Doctor, Oklahoma, USA
Cut his fear of people by 40% in six weeks
“I’d just been through a traumatic experience that made me fear most people. It led to me nearly quitting medical school in my last year. Then one exercise…”
Reading social cues Read Taylor’s story →
Lindy, 58
Musician, Canada
Made two new close friends in her late 50s
“I am at a time in life when people start to lose friends. Before, I just let others pick me as a friend. Then I deliberately set out to…”
Making friends Read Lindy’s story →
Monica Meas, 36
Accounting Specialist, Washington, USA
Isolated for 34 years. Now building the life she wanted.
“I was socially and emotionally isolated for over 34.5 years, and I suffered extreme loneliness. Then…”
Loneliness Read Monica’s story →
William Richards, 20
Student, California, USA
Now the most social guy at the table, according to his friends
“The conversation would hit a wall and I didn’t know how to avoid it. People took advantage of my kindness. Then one Saturday night…”
Confidence Read William’s story →
Michael Green, 54
Michigan, USA
Better social skills now than before his brain injuries
“My injuries basically reset all my social skills. Before, I wouldn’t even consider joining a group. Now…”
Starting over Read Michael’s story →
Alice Chang
Mental Health Professional, New Jersey, USA
An extreme introvert, now excited to meet strangers
“Being extremely introverted, I assumed that others were comfortable socializing. Then for the first time in my life, I was excited to…”
Introversion Read Alice’s story →
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Theodor Kristiansen, 22
University student, Norway
From “the silent one” to the guy people keep talking to
“Everyone began going to parties while I was just sitting at home doing my homework. Then at a birthday party last weekend…”
Making friends Read Theodor’s story →
Rebecca
University student
Small talk with strangers is now effortless
“I became very withdrawn around age 12 and have been very reserved ever since. Then in my first year at university…”
Conversation Read Rebecca’s story →
Lorena Hernandez, 23
Doctor Assistant, California, USA
No friends her whole life. That changed.
“I’ve felt uncomfortable socially my whole life. It has resulted in me not having any friends. Then, after a year of…”
Social nervousness Read Lorena’s story →
Anthony, 32
Product Manager, North Carolina, USA
Feels like a completely different person in groups
“I used to struggle with socializing and felt uncomfortable in social settings. Then I learned how to approach people without coming off as…”
Confidence Read Anthony’s story →
Claire, 33
The Netherlands
Can finally tell that people enjoy talking to her
“Not feeling socially skilled gradually eroded my self-confidence. I preferred to stay alone where things are ‘safer.’ Then I realized…”
Overthinking Read Claire’s story →
Kristina Chepak, 28
UX Researcher, California, USA
One tip changed how she talks to strangers
“I used to get too nervous when speaking to strangers, or even my loved ones! Then one tip changed…”
Talking to strangers Read Kristina’s story →
Rakesh Aggarwal, 20
University student, India
Completely eliminated awkward moments
“I thought people wouldn’t want to talk to me as they had nothing to gain from associating with me. Then…”
Awkwardness Read Rakesh’s story →
Bianca Gelli
Self-employed, Brazil
Finally has real conversations with her dad
“My dad and I spent so much time in silence that we got numbed to the awkwardness. Then I learned…”
Family Read Bianca’s story →