How do you know if a girl likes you or even has a crush on you? These days, it can be quite difficult to know. She may be acting friendly, but what if she’s friendly towards everyone? Is she flirting, or are you imagining it?
Some women are more outgoing than others, so they may seem like they’re flirting even when they’re not. And some are shy, so they may seem withdrawn and interested even if they have a huge crush! It can be pretty hard to figure out, which is why we wrote this guide.
- Signs she likes you
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Unless a girl tells you outright that she likes you, you will have to try to understand by her context clues. When we have a crush on someone, there are usually changes in behavior around that person. Some changes are intentional (if they’re trying to show you that they are interested), while others are unintentional (due to nervousness).
The more of these signs she shows, the more likely it is that she has a crush on you, rather than just being a flirty or friendly person overall. Here are 47 signs to help tell if a girl likes you.
1. She laughs at your jokes
Laughing at your jokes can be a huge sign of interest (especially if you are not a particularly funny person…) If she smiles and laughs a lot around you, she may have a crush.
Read more: How to be funny (for un-funny people).
2. She mirrors you
Mirroring means that her body language, posture, or even what she’s saying reflects what you said or did. So if you take a sip of your glass, if she’s mirroring that, she’ll also take a sip of her glass. Or if you cross your legs and she does the same, that’s also mirroring.
Remember that mirroring is done subconsciously when she has a very good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if she wants to impress or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.
3. She adds you on social media
This one means she wants to stay in touch and is at least a little bit interested in you. It also makes it much easier for you to take initiative by messaging or commenting on her posts.
4. She writes you long texts
Is she always giving you short answers, or is she giving you a small novel as a reply?
If her texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.
If you’re usually giving her long replies but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager. In that case, it’s often good to step back a bit and try to match her better. Give her some space, so she wants to come back to you again.
5. She teases you
Is it mean teasing or more flirty and light-hearted?
Most forms of teasing (even mean) are usually a sign she’s interested in you. I LOVE it when a girl I like tries to tease me. It means she’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that she wants a reaction from you. Just don’t take it too seriously and try to have fun with her!
6. She leans in toward you
If she’s leaning in toward you, that’s a sign she’s eager to get your attention or get her message across. And in the best case, it also means she’s eager to get closer to you.
7. She moves closer to you
If you’re in a conversation and you feel like she’s edging closer to you, or as if she’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. It could mean she’s attracted to you and wants to feel closer to you both physically and mentally.
Take note that different cultures have different “personal spaces.” So, if she’s from a different culture than you, it might just be because of that.
8. She bites her lips
Biting herself lightly on the lip is a flirty and cute (or sexy) signal. If she’s biting herself in the lip while you’re talking, that’s great. She’s probably into you.
9. She smiles at you
If she’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach her. Or she’s flirting with you. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home. I almost did that once; not recommended!)
If she’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign she likes you. Especially if she has a light smile while you’re not even joking.
10. She licks her lips or teeth
Is she licking her lips or teeth? This is similar to biting her lips, but a bit more subtle and less flirty. Still a good sign she might like you.
11. She’s blinking more than normal
According to Blake Eastman, a body language expert, an increased blink rate can signify attraction, so it may be a good sign if you notice that she seems to be blinking more around you.
12. Her pupils are larger than normal
If her pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.
13. She’s keeping eye contact for longer
If you notice that she’s holding eye contact slightly longer than normal, she’s probably trying to get your attention or make a connection with you. It’s a good sign that she’s interested in you. That kind of eye contact often feels more intense and can even be a bit weird or uncomfortable.
14. She’s gives you a light smile
Say that you’re all standing in a circle, and you two make eye contact when someone else is talking. Does she give you a slight smile? She probably likes you (or is a very kind person, which is also a good sign!)
Same thing if you make eye contact at a distance, in a park, or at a bar. A smile is like an invitation to start talking.
15. She looks at you with open body language
This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, such as a bar or a club.
If she’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that can be a sign she’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you she wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.
16. She corrects her posture
Does she straighten her posture when she gets your attention or is close to you? That means she’s trying to make a good impression on you.
On the other hand, a more relaxed posture can mean that she feels comfortable around you, which can also be a good sign.
17. She faces you
If she’s facing you more often than she’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign she’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not even the one talking the most in the group.
18. Her feet point towards you
If her feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if her body is facing you. She’s subconsciously focused on you, which makes her feet point toward you. It’s a sign of open body language.
19. She fiddles with or straightens her clothes, jewelry, or accessories
This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because she wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.
20. Her palms are faced in your direction
If the palms of their hands are pointed in your direction, she might be interested in you. It’s a weak signal, but it’s still positive because it’s part of an open and welcoming body language she has toward you.
21. She touches you back
For example, if you touch her arm, does she touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If she does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign, but it also depends on if she’s touchy with most people or just you.
Keep in mind that shy girls usually don’t touch back because they’re so afraid of messing up.
22. She touches you when you talk
Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if she touches those. Some girls aren’t so comfortable with touch, and it takes them a while to warm up. So if she doesn’t touch you, it isn’t necessarily a sign that she doesn’t like you if she shows many other signs on the list.
23. You have “peripheral physical contact”
Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.
For example, if you’re both sitting down and your thighs are barely touching each other. Or if you’re walking side by side and she grabs hold of your arm. That kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of tension and attraction.
24. She’s giving you more of her attention
For example, if she directs most of her attention when you’re in a group. Or if she’s only asking you questions or if she’s laughing more than others at your jokes.
The more attention she gives you, the more interested she usually is in you.
25. She blushes
Does she blush when you talk or make eye contact? She might be shy, but she’s probably a bit self-conscious around you because she likes you.
26. She looks at you from afar
Girls are often a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. I’ve even seen girls using window reflections to check out a guy (and to check if he’s looking at them). Sunglasses are even sneakier.
So if she’s looking in your direction, especially if she does it several times, she’s probably checking you out.
27. She keeps the conversation going
What happens when you stop talking or can’t come up with anything to say? If she seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If she excuses herself, she may not be that interested.
28. She always replies
Does she always reply when you call or text?
Quicker responses are often a sign of interest. But many girls are so afraid of appearing needy that they delay their response even if they like you.
29. She texts or calls you first
If she’s often the one initiating, that’s a very strong sign she’s into you.
But if she never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if she will take initiative when you don’t do it before she even has the chance.
30. She texts you often
Compare this to how often you text her. It’s the same principle as matching the length of her texts. She’s eager if she’s texting more often than you, and you’re eager if you’re the one texting more often.
31. She stammers, stutters, or forgets what she was about to say
Does she seem nervous when you guys are having a conversation? This could mean she’s a bit extra shy or self-conscious around you, which tells you that she might also be a bit extra interested in you.
32. She doesn’t back off when you get closer
If she doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to her personal space, that’s a sign she wants you close to her.
If you take a step closer, and she backs off by a step, that’s a sign she’s a bit more reserved toward you.
33. She talks about future plans
Planning or mentioning things they want to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.
For example, if you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say, “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!” If you’re talking about art and she wants to share her work, that’s a good sign too.
34. She’s pleased with your commonalities
How does she react when she finds out that you have something in common? If she’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, like that you live in the same part of town, you’re the same age, or you both like pizza.
35. She asks you personal questions
If she is, that’s telling you that she wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more she asks, the better.
For example, asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or just about your favorite food. Asking you questions is literally showing interest in you.
36. She asks about your plans
Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be her trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if she brings it up near the end of the conversation.
37. She seems embarrassed if you two are the only two people left in a situation
If she does but doesn’t do anything to leave the situation, that means she’s just a bit shy but still interested.
A classic example is if you meet her with her girlfriends at a bar, and then all her friends leave, but she stays. That’s perfect because it also means her friends approve of you.
38. She tells her friends or family about you
This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I thought it was worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if she’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.
If she’s told her family, it means she is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!
If she just told her friends, that’s also great, but not as big as her family.
39. She offers you a massage
Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a girl to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer her one back if you like her!)
40. She reschedules when she can’t make a date
Say you were meant to meet up with her, but she cancels. How can you know if she truly couldn’t make it or if she just isn’t interested?
Life happens, and everyone has to change or cancel plans sometimes. If she tries to reschedule when she cancels, it’s a good sign she is interested in you and had to cancel for legitimate reasons.
41. She compliments you
If she gives you positive feedback, it’s a good sign she likes you. While teasing can also be a sign she likes you, some women are more prone to compliment a guy they like, and many do both.
42. She gives you small gifts
Does she pick up things for you or give you gifts or trinkets? That’s a sign that she’s thinking about you and wants to make you feel good. For example, if you’ve mentioned that you have a weakness for pastries, and she shows up with a croissant the next time you meet up, that’s a really good sign that she likes you.
43. She follows up on things you tell her
Remembering that you said you have a test coming up and asking how it went is a sign that she takes you seriously and also that she wants you to know that she listens to you and cares.
44. She lets you know she’s single
Bringing up the fact that she’s single could be a way for her to let you know that she’s available and interested.
45. She asks for your help
Asking for your help can be a way to spend more time with you and establish a connection. It can also be a way for her to check how responsive and helpful you are to get an idea of how you would behave as a romantic partner.
46. She opens up to you
Asking you questions about yourself shows that she’s interested and wants to learn more about you. Sharing things about herself is a sign that she trusts you and wants to get closer to you.
47. She has a nickname for you
Giving you a nickname can be a flirty way to show that she likes you.
It can be more difficult to figure out these signs if you’re already friends with someone. If you’re close friends, she probably already texts you, tells you about her life, teases you, spends time with you, and so on. How can you know if it’s just friendship or if there’s more going on?
Is she acting differently from how she usually behaves? If there’s a sudden change in her behavior towards you, it may be a sign that her feelings have changed. On the other hand, if her behavior has changed in all aspects of life, it may have nothing to do with you.
Does she seem jealous or dismissive of other girls you might like? Is she suddenly extra touchy-feely? Is she unusually interested in your interests? These changes may indicate that her feelings towards you are shifting or that she’s trying to work out what she feels.
Those are all signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend.
You can’t know for sure if she’s interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few rules you can use to help you know:
- Is she regularly showing you different signs of interest?
- Does she act differently to others than to you? (So she’s not just flirty with everyone.)
- Has she shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
The only one to know for sure is to check with her. Let her know you are interested and see if the feeling is mutual.
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