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47 Signs a Girl Likes You (How to Know if She Has a Crush)

How do you know if a girl likes you or even has a crush on you? These days, it can be quite difficult to know. She may be acting friendly, but what if she’s friendly towards everyone? Is she flirting, or are you imagining it?

Some women are more outgoing than others, so they may seem like they’re flirting even when they’re not. And some are shy, so they may seem withdrawn and uninterested even if they have a huge crush! It can be pretty hard to figure out, which is why we wrote this guide.

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  1. Signs she likes you
  2. Does your best friend have a crush on you?
  3. How can you know for sure if a girl likes you?

47 signs she likes you

Unless a girl tells you outright that she likes you, you will have to try to understand by her context clues. When we have a crush on someone, there are usually changes in behavior around that person. Some changes are intentional (if they’re trying to show you that they are interested), while others are unintentional (due to nervousness).

The more of these signs she shows, the more likely it is that she has a crush on you, rather than just being a flirty or friendly person overall. Here are 47 signs to help tell if a girl likes you.

1. She laughs at your jokes

Laughing at your jokes can be a huge sign of interest (especially if you are not a particularly funny person…) If she smiles and laughs a lot around you, she may have a crush.

If you want to make a girl you like to laugh more, you may like to read this article on how to be funny (for un-funny people).

2. She mirrors you

Mirroring means that her body language, posture, or even what she’s saying reflects what you said or did. So if you take a sip of your glass, if she’s mirroring that, she’ll also take a sip of her glass. Or if you cross your legs and she does the same, that’s also mirroring.

Remember that mirroring is done subconsciously when she has a very good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if she wants to impress or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.

3. She adds you on social media

This one means she wants to stay in touch and is at least a little bit interested in you. It also makes it much easier for you to take initiative by messaging or commenting on her posts.

4. She writes you long texts

Is she always giving you short answers, or is she giving you a small novel as a reply?

If her texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.

If you’re usually giving her long replies but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager. In that case, it’s often good to step back a bit and try to match her better. Give her some space, so she wants to come back to you again.

5. She teases you

Is it mean teasing or more flirty and light-hearted?

Most forms of teasing (even mean) are usually a sign she’s interested in you. I LOVE it when a girl I like tries to tease me. It means she’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that she wants a reaction from you. Just don’t take it too seriously and try to have fun with her!

6. She leans in toward you

If she’s leaning in toward you, that’s a sign she’s eager to get your attention or get her message across. And in the best case, it also means she’s eager to get closer to you.

7. She moves closer to you

If you’re in a conversation and you feel like she’s edging closer to you, or as if she’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. It could mean she’s attracted to you and wants to feel closer to you both physically and mentally.

Take note that different cultures have different “personal spaces.” So, if she’s from a different culture than you, it might just be because of that.

8. She bites her lips

Biting herself lightly on the lip is a flirty and cute (or sexy) signal. If she’s biting herself in the lip while you’re talking, that’s great. She’s probably into you.

9. She smiles at you

If she’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach her. Or she’s flirting with you. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home).

If she’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign she likes you. Especially if she has a light smile while you’re not even joking.

10. She licks her lips or teeth

Is she licking her lips or teeth? This is similar to biting her lips, but a bit more subtle and less flirty. Still a good sign she might like you.

11. She’s blinking more than normal

According to Blake Eastman, a body language expert, an increased blink rate can signify attraction[1], so it may be a good sign if you notice that she seems to be blinking more around you.

12. Her pupils are larger than normal

If her pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.

13. She’s keeping eye contact for longer

If you notice that she’s holding eye contact slightly longer than normal, she’s probably trying to get your attention or make a connection with you. It’s a good sign that she’s interested in you. That kind of eye contact often feels more intense and can even be a bit weird or uncomfortable.

14. She’s gives you a light smile

Say that you’re all standing in a circle, and you two make eye contact when someone else is talking. Does she give you a slight smile? She probably likes you (or is a very kind person, which is also a good sign!)

Same thing if you make eye contact at a distance, in a park, or at a bar. A smile is like an invitation to start talking.

15. She looks at you with open body language

This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, such as a bar or a club.

If she’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that can be a sign she’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you she wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.

16. She corrects her posture

Does she straighten her posture when she gets your attention or is close to you? That means she’s trying to make a good impression on you.

On the other hand, a more relaxed posture can mean that she feels comfortable around you, which can also be a good sign.

17. She faces you

If she’s facing you more often than she’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign she’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not even the one talking the most in the group.

18. Her feet point towards you

If her feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if her body is facing you. She’s subconsciously focused on you, which makes her feet point toward you. It’s a sign of open body language.

19. She fiddles with or straightens her clothes, jewelry, or accessories

This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because she wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.

20. Her palms are faced in your direction

If the palms of their hands are pointed in your direction, she might be interested in you. It’s a weak signal, but it’s still positive because it’s part of an open and welcoming body language she has toward you.

21. She touches you back

For example, if you touch her arm, does she touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If she does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign, but it also depends on if she’s touchy with most people or just you.

Keep in mind that shy girls usually don’t touch back because they’re so afraid of messing up.

22. She touches you when you talk

Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if she touches those. Some girls aren’t so comfortable with touch, and it takes them a while to warm up. So if she doesn’t touch you, it isn’t necessarily a sign that she doesn’t like you if she shows many other signs on the list.

23. You have “peripheral physical contact”

Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.

For example, if you’re both sitting down and your thighs are barely touching each other. Or if you’re walking side by side and she grabs hold of your arm. That kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of tension and attraction.

24. She’s giving you more of her attention

For example, if she directs most of her attention when you’re in a group. Or if she’s only asking you questions or if she’s laughing more than others at your jokes.

The more attention she gives you, the more interested she usually is in you.

25. She blushes

Does she blush when you talk or make eye contact? She might be shy, but she’s probably a bit self-conscious around you because she likes you.

26. She looks at you from afar

Girls are often a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. I’ve even seen girls using window reflections to check out a guy (and to check if he’s looking at them). Sunglasses are even sneakier.

So if she’s looking in your direction, especially if she does it several times, she’s probably checking you out.

27. She keeps the conversation going

What happens when you stop talking or can’t come up with anything to say? If she seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If she excuses herself, she may not be that interested.

Click here to read my full guide on how to talk to girls.

28. She always replies

Does she always reply when you call or text?

Quicker responses are often a sign of interest. But many girls are so afraid of appearing needy that they delay their response even if they like you.

29. She texts or calls you first

If she’s often the one initiating, that’s a very strong sign she’s into you.

But if she never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if she will take initiative when you don’t do it before she even has the chance.

30. She texts you often

Compare this to how often you text her. It’s the same principle as matching the length of her texts. She’s eager if she’s texting more often than you, and you’re eager if you’re the one texting more often.

31. She stammers, stutters, or forgets what she was about to say

Does she seem nervous when you guys are having a conversation? This could mean she’s a bit extra shy or self-conscious around you, which tells you that she might also be a bit extra interested in you.

32. She doesn’t back off when you get closer

If she doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to her personal space, that’s a sign she wants you close to her.

If you take a step closer, and she backs off by a step, that’s a sign she’s a bit more reserved toward you.

33. She talks about future plans

Planning or mentioning things they want to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.

For example, if you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say, “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!” If you’re talking about art and she wants to share her work, that’s a good sign too.

34. She’s pleased with your commonalities

How does she react when she finds out that you have something in common? If she’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, like that you live in the same part of town, you’re the same age, or you both like pizza.

35. She asks you personal questions

If she is, that’s telling you that she wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more she asks, the better.

For example, asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or just about your favorite food. Asking you questions is literally showing interest in you.

36. She asks about your plans

Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be her trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if she brings it up near the end of the conversation.

37. She seems embarrassed if you two are the only two people left in a situation

If she does but doesn’t do anything to leave the situation, that means she’s just a bit shy but still interested.

A classic example is if you meet her with her girlfriends at a bar, and then all her friends leave, but she stays. That’s perfect because it also means her friends approve of you.

38. She tells her friends or family about you

This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I thought it was worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if she’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.

If she’s told her family, it means she is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!

If she just told her friends, that’s also great, but not as big as her family.

39. She offers you a massage

Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a girl to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer her one back if you like her!)

40. She reschedules when she can’t make a date

Say you were meant to meet up with her, but she cancels. How can you know if she truly couldn’t make it or if she just isn’t interested?

Life happens, and everyone has to change or cancel plans sometimes. If she tries to reschedule when she cancels, it’s a good sign she is interested in you and had to cancel for legitimate reasons.

41. She compliments you

If she gives you positive feedback, it’s a good sign she likes you. While teasing can also be a sign she likes you, some women are more prone to compliment a guy they like, and many do both.

42. She gives you small gifts

Does she pick up things for you or give you gifts or trinkets? That’s a sign that she’s thinking about you and wants to make you feel good. For example, if you’ve mentioned that you have a weakness for pastries, and she shows up with a croissant the next time you meet up, that’s a really good sign that she likes you.

43. She follows up on things you tell her

Remembering that you said you have a test coming up and asking how it went is a sign that she takes you seriously and also that she wants you to know that she listens to you and cares.

44. She lets you know she’s single

Bringing up the fact that she’s single could be a way for her to let you know that she’s available and interested.

45. She asks for your help

Asking for your help can be a way to spend more time with you and establish a connection. It can also be a way for her to check how responsive and helpful you are to get an idea of how you would behave as a romantic partner.

46. She opens up to you

Asking you questions about yourself shows that she’s interested and wants to learn more about you. Sharing things about herself is a sign that she trusts you and wants to get closer to you.

47. She has a nickname for you

Giving you a nickname can be a flirty way to show that she likes you.

Does your best friend have a crush on you?

It can be more difficult to figure out these signs if you’re already friends with someone. If you’re close friends, she probably already texts you, tells you about her life, teases you, spends time with you, and so on. How can you know if it’s just friendship or if there’s more going on?

Is she acting differently from how she usually behaves? If there’s a sudden change in her behavior towards you, it may be a sign that her feelings have changed. On the other hand, if her behavior has changed in all aspects of life, it may have nothing to do with you.

Does she seem jealous or dismissive of other girls you might like? Is she suddenly extra touchy-feely? Is she unusually interested in your interests? These changes may indicate that her feelings towards you are shifting or that she’s trying to work out what she feels.

Those are all signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend.

How do you know for sure if she’s interested?

You can’t know for sure if she’s interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few rules you can use to help you know:

  1. Is she regularly showing you different signs of interest?
  2. Does she act differently to others than to you? (So she’s not just flirty with everyone.)
  3. Has she shown any particularly strong signs of interest?

The only one to know for sure is to check with her. Let her know you are interested and see if the feeling is mutual.

Are you still unsure if she likes you?

Write it down in the comments below in as much detail as possible for other commenters to help you out. I’ll also respond to a few of the most interesting comments. But I can’t keep up with all the comments alone, so try to help others by answering them too. Poorly written comments with bad grammar will be deleted.

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Viktor is a Counselor specialized in interpersonal communication and relationships. He manages SocialSelf’s scientific review board. Follow on Twitter or read more.

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  1. Well, I’m in middle school, but there’s this girl I really like, and she’s actually my best friend. We joke around a lot and sometimes people even think we’re already together. The weird thing is we look similar, and they also sometimes mistake us for being siblings. I don’t know if this is a bad thing, but it probably is.
    I know one time in the past she said she liked me, and I’m not sure if she meant romantically or not, and I don’t want to seem suspicious by asking. We hang out pretty often because as I previously stated, we’re best friends. We give each other hugs a lot and they last a decently long time, and we’re fine with small touches on the arm or holding hands. Is that just a thing a friend would do though?
    The sad thing is I’m about 90% sure she would reject me if I told her I liked her.
    I sometimes text I love you to her when we end our conversations, and I don’t know if she understands what I mean by that. She has said she loves me like a sibling. I always am disappointed when I see that response. Since I’m in middle school and we’re so close, I’ve joked around about marrying her. She has always responded with “No” or “Why”, and this doesn’t give me any reason to think she would ever even go out with me.
    My friends give me advice and many of them say that I like her, but I always deny it. They have seen our messages and of course believe I do, which is true, but I just won’t admit to it.
    The girl I like has asked me if I have a crush before and she seems determined to find out if I do, and my response is always “No” or “If I ever did, you would never be able to guess”. I personally don’t think she would consider herself when she thinks about who I would like. I have a nickname for her and sometimes call her “love”.
    I really want to tell her I like her, but I’m so scared of being rejected. I’ve tried to tell her but always back out. Mixed signals with her are common because over text or phone calls she focuses more on herself, but in person, it revolves around me, and I get a lot of attention and care. I really need help with this, if anyone could please help I would really appreciate it. If you can’t help, I still appreciate you taking the time to read this.

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  2. I met this girl through a friend we hangout often and she gives me a hug when we used to meet up.

    She’s a really kind person to everyone, she let me know when she was single and she takes my side over anyone. smiles when we talk and laughs at my jokes.

    I really like her, I have a feeling she likes me but also don’t want to get friendzoned

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    • Hey there Anonymous,
      Honestly, (girl here) go for it. You may be surprised. Ask her if she wants to do something with you (don’t go straight for the ‘I really like you’ line)
      Good luck!

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  3. Hi, I recently know a club girl which from vietnam. She going to go back to vietnam soon on Feb. I did try to test her whether she was really interested in me or just want me to support her as a customer. First time I ask her out she bring her sister along. Then we had a quarrel and I straight forward to her i interest in her but she bring her sister along. The second time we went out just me and her to eat, she told me not to order too much as we are unable to finish. But I did order much more then expected which I bring her to my working place and eat. After that I send her back to her work place. I did test her show her a text which I send to my another whatapps that I was trying borrow money just because of her. But she reply me that she don’t like me borrow money for her, if I off bring her out to eat instead. And ask me not to buy and gift for her. After that I told her that I never borrow money from my friends anymore and shown her the whatapps which I send to my another account. And ask her out this week, she told me that she had a company event last minutes this coming week and unable to meet up. I told her I will miss her as in unable to meet up this week. I ask her whether her club is busy if not busy I come down find her, but she told me go down waste money and ask me to stay at home and video call me next day when I was on break during my work. The next day she never video call, she claim to be company meeting during that time. I told her maybe the next day then. And the next day she never respond, then I ask her she busy as well. Then she really video call me and we had a fast chat on the video call. She will be going back vietnam soon. She did ask me buy a bracelet which cost around 1000plus sgd for her but I just told her I will try to save money to get for her. I am currently confused hope you can give me a answer whether is she true toward me or not. Currently I just wait until 4 of Feb when she go vietnam still got contact with me mean got chance if not mean she isn’t sincerely at all about the relationship. Pls give me some idea what should I do

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  4. There is this girl at my workplace. she was having a conversation with my guys though I wasn’t there she told them that I have been looking at her continuously whereas
    I have not.
    She even went ahead another day and told me that if I want to talk to her that I should open up
    As my guys, they told me these things

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  5. yo, so there’s this girl I like and I’m in middle school. I’m really confused if she likes me or not. I’ve caught her checking me out like two times, and we’ve had a lot of little conversations, she was blushing and smiling a lot through all of them, but after those, she’s not really eager to talk to me and it takes a long time for her to respond to me. Is she just shy or is it that. she doesn’t like me?

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  6. I confessed to a girl then she replied she is not into relationships.
    Ignored me for a month but now she talks well to me one day, hugs me before leaving, and ignores me the other day.

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  7. No ‘sign’ or set of ambiguous hints would be sufficient for me to think any woman is – or could be – sexually / romantically interested in me. I have never and will never express any kind of non-platonic interest in any woman no matter how strong my feelings are because as a fundamentally unattractive man, no woman could be other than a platonic friend. No matter what the circumstances, no matter what a woman might do, for me to show even the slightest hint that I’m interested in more than friendship would by default be offensive to her.

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  8. The girl I like does most of these things, but all in the office space. Seems hesitant to go out with me. I have asked her out once, what should I think about it?

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  9. There is this girl who out of nowhere has started teasing me about me owning ducks in a fun way that she doesn’t treat anyone else like. Is she into me?

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  10. Woman l I like has a guy I know of but when I asked she said kind of quietly that he’s a friend. She sat next to me and for about four minutes out thighs touched. Have sat side by side turned towards each other Also we have a shared interest in boardgames

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  11. Hey guys so there are two girls who I kinda like. They’re sisters and my parents are close friends with their parents. Also, I’m in high school. One of the girls is a year older than me and one of them is a year younger, they’re both kinda cute. The one who’s older than me is like one of those really fun girls and she’s really nice but she is a hard girl to get if ya know what I mean. The other girl is a bit quieter and not as adventurous as the other sister but she’s much nicer and easier to get. We visit them at least once a month or more. So yeah thanks for reading my comment. Have a nice day?

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  12. I’ve been friends with this girl for six years. We actually dated and lived together 5 years ago and I was dumb and for stupid reasons, I ended it. Ever since then we have become best friends tell each other everything, help each other when needed and are always there for one another. She always calls me when she’s alone and not with her kids. Where the problem lies is she is with her kids’ dad. But almost a year ago we went out just me and her for a night to the casino when we walked back to the truck she kissed me once we got inside. Here recently every time we would all go out together including him the last couple of times at dinner she has chosen to sit right across from me or right beside me. I really do still love her and want her back but I can’t steal her from someone else even if maybe she isn’t happy cuz she’s told me more than once that she isn’t. I feel they stay together for the kids and deep down I really feel she wishes it was me. I do love her and I know she knows I want to be more than friends and every time I make a little advance she never objects.

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  13. she is giving me mixed signals and that is confusing me more. Like she wanted us to be friends but her actions don’t show it

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  14. I used to play soccer with this girl and I was then asked to play with a bigger club and I don’t see her anymore HOW do I find out if she likes me. The other thing is that she is my cousin’s best friend and I don’t want her to find out

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  15. I used to play soccer with her until I was asked to play for a bigger club so I wasn’t playing soccer with her anymore and I really like and I haven’t seen her in ages and I don’t know if she likes me

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  16. Hi there recently when out to my local town for a drink with one of the boys and saw a girl I haven’t seen in a while (blocked her on All social media because I’m with someone else) and she sat down by me and made small talk at first like how are you and stuff then had a cheeky smile and said you are looking good and asked me and my mrs are then asked do I love her still… I don’t want anything with her but just want to know what she is playing at? Is she genuinely asking as a friend or looking further into us as if there is a chance or whatever?

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