Does it seem like people don’t respect you? Perhaps they don’t listen to you. Maybe they brush your emotions aside or never pick your ideas. You might feel that you just don’t matter to others.
In this guide, you’ll learn how to get people to respect you even if you don’t have a high social status.
- What does respect mean?
- How to gain respect by building trust
- How to gain respect by communicating more effectively
- How to gain respect by showing respect to others
- How to gain respect by showing self-respect
- How to gain respect by setting boundaries
- Other ways to gain respect
What does respect mean?
To respect someone is to acknowledge and appreciate their positive qualities, skills, or talents. When we treat someone with respect, we also honor their rights as a human being. For example, if you respect someone, you appreciate their right to have preferences, to be treated with kindness, or to change their mind about something.
Most of us want to be respected by other people. It feels good when someone values your personality, thoughts, achievements, and feelings. Plus if you can earn someone’s respect, they will probably become more likely to ask for your opinions, take your advice, and enjoy spending time with you.
How to gain respect by building trust
As a general rule, trustworthiness is a highly-valued trait. If you can prove to other people that they can rely on you, they are likely to respect you.
1. Keep your promises
Show that you are reliable by keeping your word. Don’t make promises if you can’t follow through. If you can’t meet your commitments, apologize without making excuses and try to make amends.
2. Be consistent
It’s normal to change your opinions, preferences, and lifestyle from time to time. But if your words and actions clash, other people might think that you’re flaky or a liar, which won’t win you any respect. For example, if you say that you don’t drink alcohol but usually have a beer when you’re out with other people, you’ll come across as indecisive or dishonest.
3. Avoid gossiping
Gossiping is a bad habit that won’t earn you respect. If you share personal information about someone without their consent, they probably won’t trust you in the future. And if people hear you gossiping about someone else, they might assume that you’d be happy to gossip about them as well.
How to gain respect by communicating more effectively
Good communicators often command respect because they know how (and when) to share their thoughts and feelings in a constructive way without causing unnecessary offense or conflict.
Here are some tips for gaining respect by communicating more effectively:
1. Speak so that people listen to you
Many people who struggle with getting respect feel like they have no voice and that nobody listens to them.
Making yourself heard will help you develop more of a presence. That presence may earn you respect from the people close to you, both family, friends, and work colleagues.
Here’s how to speak so that people will listen to you:
- Use people’s names when you’re talking to them.
- Avoid overly complex language. (People will resent you if they can’t understand the words you use.)
- Ask more questions about the other person.
- Use hand gestures to make your message clearer.
- Keep more eye contact. (Make sure you give everyone in the group equal amounts of eye contact to keep everyone’s interest.)
- Improve your articulation and vocal projection so that other people find it easier to hear you.
- Use pauses effectively. (Silence has a big impact on speech.)
- Vary your tempo and tone when speaking. This makes you more interesting to listen to. (Practice at home by recording yourself speaking.)
2. Use confident body language
Our body language can tell people how we feel about ourselves. For example, if you walk around with your shoulders hunched, arms crossed, and your eyes on the ground, you will seem shy, afraid, or insecure. None of that commands respect.
However, if you have confident body language, people might look up to you. They may believe that there must be a good reason for your confidence and, therefore, you must be worthy of their respect.
These are the characteristics of confident body language:
- Good eye contact when speaking and listening
- Good posture (no slouching or crossing your arms)
- Walking with a purpose (not wandering around aimlessly)
- Keeping your chin up and eyes forward (instead of down)
- Use hand gestures when speaking (instead of keeping your hands shoved in your pockets)
3. Don’t let people keep interrupting you
As a general rule, well-respected people aren’t interrupted because others are interested in the things they say. If you learn how to deal with interruptions, you might come across as more assertive and socially skilled.
When you are interrupted, try one of these phrases:
- “Just a second, I’d like to finish my thought.”
- “Excuse me, we got off track. What I was saying was that ___________.”
- “Like I was saying before, ___________.”
- “Please, let me speak.”
Here are two more techniques that will help you stop others from interrupting you:
- Use people’s motion-detecting abilities to your advantage
Before you start to make a point, briefly raise your hand or your index finger. This triggers people’s motion-detecting ability and makes them focus on you.
If you don’t get an opportunity to say something immediately, that’s OK. People will often remember that you got something to say, so they will give you a chance to speak later in the conversation.
- Using a quick inhale as a signal you got something to say
By making a quick and audible inhale, people will notice you got something to say and focus on you.
When you start asserting yourself more, people will become more aware of your presence and give you more space in conversations.
Note that an interruption isn’t always a sign of disrespect. For example, in a lively group conversation, people interrupt each other all the time. That’s normal. It doesn’t mean they are being disrespectful.
4. Keep your temper and anger in check
If you lose your temper, people won’t take you seriously because they’ll think you’re too emotional and irrational.
Here’s how to address a conflict or have a difficult conversation in a way that makes people respect you more:
- Prepare some suggestions for improving the situation before you have a talk.
- Have the conversation in private instead of making a scene in public.
- Do it after you’ve cooled down instead of confronting someone in the heat of the moment.
- Use i-statements such as “I think…” and “I feel…” instead of making accusations such as “You always…”
- Keep yourself calm; make an effort not to get defensive or upset.
- Be understanding of the other person’s circumstances. Tell them you understand and want to work with them to find a solution that works for both of you.
- Be honest with yourself about mistakes you’ve made and things you could do differently moving forward.
- Admit when you’re wrong and apologize.
5. Improve your listening skills
If you can listen to people and respond meaningfully to the things they say, you’ll probably earn their respect. Good listeners often come across as empathetic and caring, which are admirable qualities. Because a skilled listener can make others feel valued and appreciated, they may be respected in return.
To improve your listening skills, start by paying more attention to people during conversations. Put your phone and other distractions away, make eye contact, and focus on what they are saying rather than what you want to say in response. Give them plenty of time to speak; there’s no need to fill every silence.
6. Avoid oversharing
It’s common to talk too much and start rambling when you get nervous or want to make a good impression.
But to gain others’ respect, you can’t ramble and talk about yourself. You need to slow down and find some common ground first. That way, people will start valuing your input and what you say.
Here are 6 tips to avoid oversharing if you tend to talk too much or ramble about yourself:
- Think about what you want to say before you start speaking.
- Avoid using “uh” and “um” when you speak. Filler words weaken your message.
- Start asking more questions and follow-up questions. This will slow down your pace and make sure you don’t babble without any input from the other person.
- Avoid telling someone your whole life story unless they do the same.
- Share as much about yourself as they share about themselves.
- To make the conversation engaging for everyone involved, try to find common ground and talk about shared interests or hobbies.
7. Ask for help when you need it
Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. People who acknowledge their own limits don’t pretend that they are capable of doing anything and everything. When you can admit that you need a hand, other people might respect your self-awareness.
Don’t let your pride get in the way. Most of us need help at times. For example, if you feel overwhelmed at work, it’s OK to ask a colleague for help or to delegate some of your tasks if you’re a manager.
8. Own up to your own mistakes
People who stand their ground even after they realize they’ve messed up are acting from a place of pride. Prideful people quickly lose the respect of their peers.
Be careful not to mistake “pride” for the idea of being proud of who you are. Being proud of who you are is a type of self-respect. Being prideful is believing you’re better than others.
Admitting when you’re wrong is always humbling. No one enjoys making mistakes. But the reality is that we all make mistakes, and each one of us is going to be wrong at some point.
Here are some things you can say when you realize you’re in the wrong:
- “I’ve thought about what you said, and you’re right.”
- “I know I disagreed with you before, but what you said makes a lot of sense. You’re right.”
- “I’m sorry for what I said earlier. I was wrong about that.”
Not only does admitting a mistake prevent you from looking foolish, but it also shows the other person that you value them and their opinions. This will strengthen your relationship. But refusing to admit that you’re wrong will push you away from each other.
How to gain respect by showing respect to others
Treating people well will go a long way toward earning respect from others (even when they don’t deserve it). Your respectful behavior will show many characteristics worthy of respect, including self-control, acceptance of other people’s faults, and an ability to think on your feet.
Here’s how to earn respect by showing respect to other people:
1. Follow the Golden Rule
Remember the “Golden Rule:” Treat others how you want to be treated. Give other people the benefit of the doubt when they’re behaving poorly. They may be going through something that you don’t know about. Choose to treat them with respect anyway. It says a lot when you refuse to treat someone poorly, even when you could have done so.
2. Give credit to other people
If you take credit for someone else’s ideas or work, it’s unlikely that other people will respect you. Give others the acknowledgment they deserve. You want people to trust that when they help you, they’ll get credit. For example, if your sister has helped you redesign your garden and your friends compliment the results, say, “Thanks! It was hard work, but luckily, I had some help from my sister.”
3. Stand up for other people
It takes courage to step in when someone is being bullied. If you stand up for someone who is being harassed or treated badly, you might win respect. It can take a lot of self-confidence to defend someone else, especially if everyone else is ganging up on the victim.
You don’t have to start a big argument when you’re defending someone. For example, a simple “Hey, that’s not fair, stop being unkind” or “That’s a mean thing to say, can we move on?” could work.
You can also stand up for people in their absence. For example, if you are in a group and someone starts gossiping, you could say, “Hey, I don’t think we should talk about people when they aren’t here to speak for themselves.”
4. Help out when you can
Research suggests that lending a helping hand could increase your status in a group. For example, the results of a 2006 study published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin showed that in group settings, people who help others tend to gain higher status than those who aren’t so altruistic.
How to gain respect by showing self-respect
In general, we find it easier to respect people when they seem confident, assertive, and at ease with themselves. If it’s clear that you respect yourself, others may assume that they should respect you, too.
Here are some ways you can show self-respect:
1. Acknowledge your good points
You shouldn’t brag. But you also shouldn’t be afraid to acknowledge your good qualities and achievements.
Here are some examples of things most respected and high-value people stand by:
- “I work hard.”
- “I’m a great friend.”
- “I care a lot about other people.”
- “I’m trustworthy and responsible.”
- “I’ve overcome a lot of obstacles in my life.”
- “I’m proud of who I am.”
This doesn’t mean you need to tell people these things directly. Bragging won’t earn you respect. According to 2015 research published in the journal Psychological Science, people who brag tend to come off as unlikeable. But don’t be afraid to let your talents and accomplishments show. For example, if someone asks you how things are going at work, it’s fine to say that you’ve been working hard and earned a promotion.
2. Stop apologizing for yourself
Over-apologizing is a sign that you’re more submissive than dominant. Submissive and dominant behavior can both be bad things in extremes; getting the right balance will win you respect.
Imagine that someone accidentally spills their drink on you. Then, out of pure habit, you say “I’m sorry,” even though it was the other person’s fault.
If you want to gain respect, you’ll need to save your apologies for the times that you’re actually sorry.
One way to stop saying “I’m sorry” too often is by replacing the phrase with a simple “Thank you” when you can.
For example, if someone helps you out by giving you directions, say “Thanks so much for your time” instead of “Sorry to bother you.” “Thank you” shows appreciation to the other person for their time. It switches your mindset from an apologetic one to one of gratitude. The other person will also appreciate not needing to reassure you that you’ve done nothing wrong.
Another thing to say instead of “Sorry” is “Excuse me.” For example, if you bump into someone or need to get past them, “excuse me” is polite but not apologetic.
Finally, you don’t need to apologize for saying “No” to someone if they ask you to do something that doesn’t work for you. For example, if your friend asks you for a lift to the airport in the middle of the night and you need to get up for work the next day, it’s fine to say, “No, I can’t manage that.”
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3. Stand up for your opinions and beliefs
When we compromise our beliefs to fit in, we disrespect ourselves. When someone questions your beliefs, you can be assertive while still being respectful and polite. Try to be comfortable both with your own beliefs and with the fact that some people will disagree with you.
For example, let’s say that you are religious, and the rest of your friendship group are atheists. You don’t need to downplay your beliefs, even if you’re in the minority, because you have the right to choose which religion (if any) to follow. If a conversation gets awkward or heated, you can say, “Let’s agree to disagree” or “Maybe we should change the subject?” and switch to another topic.
4. Avoid too much self-deprecating humor
Often, people respect those who have a good sense of humor. This may be because, according to a 2011 study published in the journal Intelligence, we tend to link humor with intelligence.
But not all forms of humor will win you respect. In particular, self-deprecating humor can work against you.
Here are some examples of what type of messages self-deprecating humor can send:
- “I’m no good.”
- “I’m terrible at everything.”
- “I don’t like myself.”
- “You’re better than me.”
- “I’m not worth your time.”
Self-deprecating humor can be great, but it should be obvious that there’s no truth to it. For example, when Obama joked that he couldn’t turn down the AC in the oval office, that was funny because no one doubted his power.
But if you feel lonely and joke about having no-one to hang out with on the weekends, you’ll paint a picture of yourself as a lonely person, which won’t encourage other people to respect you.
You don’t have to be a natural comedian to be funny and use humor to your advantage. Often, simple and humorous observations about the absurd side of life are enough to make people laugh.
How to gain respect by setting boundaries
Boundary-setting shows people they can’t take you for granted and that you expect them to treat you with respect. Boundaries are useful if you tend to help others all the time without getting anything back.
Let’s say that you feel like your friend is taking advantage of you. They come over to your house any time they want, eat your food, and sleep on your couch. They never ask for permission or contribute money for groceries.
In this case, you can set a boundary that no one can come to your house between 9 pm and 9 am without your permission or invitation.
Once you’ve decided what boundaries you need to set, you need to tell the person you’re having a problem with. For example, you might say to your friend, “From now on, I’m not going to have uninvited guests between 9 pm and 9 am.”
There is almost always a reason why people do the things they do. It helps to consider the other person’s situation. What could have made them act this way? Have they always taken you for granted?
You can suggest ways that their needs can still be met without taking advantage of you. For example, ask your friends to call first if they need a place to sleep or contribute money if they frequently eat at your house.
Even if you’ve set a boundary with someone, there is a chance that they will cross the line. If this happens, your next step should be to have another conversation with them about it.
- Why the things they’re doing are problematic for you
- Your boundaries
- Why you’ve set those boundaries
If they still don’t respect your boundaries after that, you may need to make more drastic changes. Unfortunately, it might be necessary to cut contact with certain friends.
Other ways to gain respect
If you can treat other people well, stand up for yourself, and act with integrity, you’ll be well on your way to earning respect. In this section, we’ll look at a few more things you can do to create a good impression and encourage others to take you seriously.
Here are some other strategies to try if you want people to respect you:
1. Present yourself well
You don’t have to be naturally beautiful, athletic, or handsome to gain respect. But making the most of your appearance and presenting yourself well may encourage other people to respect you.
Good self-presentation includes:
- Dressing appropriately based on the situation
- Wearing well-fitting, clean clothes
- Grooming (e.g., showering, shaving, skincare)
- Getting regular haircuts
- Staying in shape
Things like clothes and looks might seem shallow, but they are important because they shape how other people see you.
For example, a 2013 study found that a tailored, well-fitting suit creates a more positive impression compared with regular, off-the-peg suits. This doesn’t mean you need to invest in high-end tailoring, but it suggests that flattering outfits create a better impression.
You don’t have to spend lots of time or money. All it takes is going to your hairdresser, taking a shower, shaving, or buying some new clothes. It’s just a few hours of work each month (and some of your hard-earned money) to enjoy more respect for the rest of your life.
Staying in shape is a bit more tricky and time-consuming, but the mental and physical health benefits make it worth the effort.
2. Keep up with current affairs
If you can talk about recent news, trends, and pop culture, you’ll come across as well-informed and open-minded. These qualities can help you gain respect. In general, people who show an interest in lots of different things come across as good conversationalists. Stay up to date by skimming the news headlines every morning and looking at the topics that are trending on social media.
3. Make friends with respectable people
If your friends are irresponsible or disrespectful, other people might assume that you are similar or that you approve of your friends’ behavior. To earn respect, choose your friends carefully. Spend time with people you genuinely admire, not people you feel embarrassed to know.
4. Improve your leadership skills
Leadership skills can earn you respect, especially at work. Being a leader means being a person who helps the group achieve its goals.
Strong leaders also stand up for what they believe is right, even if it goes against what others want or believe.
Here are some practical ways to earn respect by being a leader:
- Take the initiative in situations where you are knowledgeable or skilled.
- Set short-term and long-term goals and come up with plans for achieving them. (Find goal-setting worksheets here).
- Make sure people hear you by speaking clearly and loudly.
- Keep your word. Do what you say you’re going to do.
- Lead by example. Work hard if you want others to do the same.
- Do what you believe is right, even if it means going against the majority.
- Treat others with respect at all times.
- Don’t lose your temper or blame others. Focus on problem-solving instead of blaming.
5. Develop a signature skill
Skilled people often command respect. If you don’t have a special skill, consider finding one. You could try learning a professional skill, such as coding or public speaking, a sport, a craft, or a musical instrument. There are lots of free tutorials online, or you could invest in an online course from Udemy or Coursera.
6. Work on your weaknesses
You can earn respect by figuring out what skills you need to improve and working hard to develop them.
For example, let’s say that you’re not very comfortable speaking to crowds, but you have to give presentations as part of your job. If you ask for tips or an opportunity to take a public speaking course, your manager and colleagues will probably respect you for trying to improve your skills.
7. Come up with solutions to problems
Don’t just point out problems. Try to suggest ways to improve the situation. You’ll gain a reputation as a problem-solver rather than someone who just complains all of the time.
For example, instead of saying, “These weekly meetings are a waste of everyone’s time,” you could say, “Sometimes, I wonder whether there’s a more efficient way of keeping everyone up to date with our projects. Would anyone else be interested in setting up a Slack channel for weekly updates? That way, we wouldn’t need to commit to a meeting every Thursday.”
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Finally the site i was looking for is looking at me right in thd eyes
This is great. Thanks alot
Thanks for this.. I diminish myself because I want to look humble and people do take advantage of this..
I love making people laugh too but I guess I make a depreciating joke about myself because I wanna crack a joke. I am also an overthinker, I feel everyone talks about me, although most time I find it true. And I think I talk and joke a lot too, sometimes for attention.
Thanks so much for what you’ve shared.. I’ll make sure I practice them. But are you sure those who have been disrespecting me can still respect me?
How do I tell my new employer that paying once a month does not work for me? Also, the parents of the client I am providing a service to have non-verbally implied that they prefer someone that looks like them. Although, they told the company how much they like me.
What if you do (or don’t do as the case may be) all of these things and people still don’t respect/listen to you?
my little brother is very violent and always mean. He plays Fortnite a lot. when he doesn’t get his way he might throw the Xbox controller because he died.
I am 22 and recently appointed acting manager in a family business. The other employees are obviously older than I am. How can I earn their respect without being rude or appearing afraid?
Be assertive, firm, and fair. Command respect, don’t demand it. A 22-year-old manager is just that: the manager, sir.
You just shared an amazing tips that can help improve the life of individuals on the daily basis,Watch your jokes before cracking it,very inspirefull among them.
I definitely agree with the last one – made a rude comment on reddit once, and someone pointed it out to me. Even though at first I felt extremely justified in what I did, I took a look at it, realised it was wrong, and gave a sincere apology. Person’s respect for me shot up, he said it was the cutest, maturest, and most clear-headed response he’d ever seen, and after that we managed to meet in the middle with our opinions and empathise with eachother.
I love the advice, it will help me a lot, its been a while I’ve been searching for sites like this. Thank You.
I am a person who always thinks what others will think if I do this or that, and I always am nice to people, but my friends and colleagues often started disrespecting me, and they took my actions for granted.
And since I wanted respects from them, I always end up not contacting them. I used to always blame them, but I know that the problem is in me because they don’t disrespect me when I met them for the first few times, it was because i always made self-disrespecting humors about myself and I always tried to gain their attention by talking useless things or should I say I always talk useless things trying to make them know that I was there.
So, goodbye to my old life!!!
Thanks, I’ve been watching some other sites about earning respects like this too, and with yours, I believe I will be a change man!!!
Thanks Victor, xD
I think that I think to much I know that I talk to much and have trouble listening because of my own ideas I have about things.
I feel like we all have some common ground here, any one else feel like they struggle to bring their know logic to social respect circle? Or maybe bring it but it doesn’t seem to apply?
Does anyone ever feel like they are just different and when opening up to others notice that they don’t get it?
Or feel like maybe not opening up at all but yet still want that respect?
I feel like some or most of us lack the understanding of the whole social deal. Moreover some of us may only care about it for what we want? And others are in it just for the name and popularity but really don’t give a flying French fry about the other people? Or like it says golden rule are we not treating people with the confidence respect and commitment that we desire? One thing I think we all have in common well many things but in short here we are really good at providing self insight! We are also very critical of our selfs. Be easy guys your awesome even if it’s buried in there it’s there somewhere.
I pass judgment all the time. It’s human nature yes but the judgement I pass without intending on it puts a mood on weather or not I can or care to like someone or even try. It’s important if you want the information given on this sight to work that you notice this and try to overcome it. I stopped trying years ago and I imagine some of you after reading the comments stopped too. How’s it working out for ya? Yup I’m right beside you on the self help to self respect forum ????what I’m trying to communicate I am oblivious to the garbage that uncontrollably flows out of my mouth, but what I have learned may help youall too and this webpage and this happy looking fellow ( judgement) in the photo well I think it’s incredibly helpful however what I learned was..
I have to give if your to get
I have to expect no more than expected of myself .
I have to look inside myself and find that in which is wrong with me and admit to myself and most importantly be honestly willing to change before I expect anything to help me.
If I ask advice I should take it.
Talking and listening usually operates two parts of the brain that can not simultaneously operate to both receive and deliver information at once with out a whole shlew of glitching.
It’s critical when you ask yourself how you feel about your self to be honest. Some times I learned even though I thought I was being honest I wasn’t.
I try not to put too much at steak like my life’s story or offering advice even though helpful maybe not appropriate especially being that I have no credentials usually ????.
My body language sucks and I’ve studied this socially you get eaten.
If you are a male with difficulty with ladies I am no professional but I can surely burn out all your insecurities if you hang out around me because I’m not a picture idle female. I feel more common with my male acquaintances and I share more interest with them much more comfortable being me around them. So being that I’m not down for trying to help others while inadvertently avoiding the same problems myself – lonely ladies men I feel you deeply and I have learned from experience that if you find a nice girl that’s more like a boy or a cute confident energetic lesbian to make friends with it can help a lot. Be honest with said friend tho. Tell them off the bat and ask if they want to help. Seriously sooo many will be estatic to help. You’d be surprised.
Thanks for the information you have tried a lot
Well done for this article. I have started practicing some and I know i will succeed in it
Thank you for this great article, my biggest issue with respect at this current time in my life is that I seem to offend people easily. I am not easily offended, I’m very open minded and enjoy deep conversations about life. Somehow when I share my opinions everyone seems offended. They don’t tell me this in person, it’s later on when I find out from someone else that they were offended by what I said so I never even get a chance to deal with it with them. Apparently I’m not good at something regarding conversations. Your articles are very helpful, maybe with some effort I will make some progress. It seems to be the best thing for me to do is do more listening and less talking.
Self control toward ladies
I talk too much an reveal too much about my life
I am not impressed by your money, position or title but I am impressed how you treat others!
I’m so scared of people disregarding me, because I was a big time talkative and surprisingly my siblings don’t know about it yet.
My news friends say I don’t have a trace of talkativeness in me but I’m scared that maybe I’m putting on an act. I just want to be quiet and confident. I want to be admired and I want to know how far I’ve gone
I so happy I came across this article. I was a bully in my final year in high school, I was really mean to my juniors but very talkative around my friends. This made my friends disrespect me but my juniors respected me because I was mean and quiet around them .
I got admission into the University two years later, the people I bullied became my mates and some my senior. I’m literally one of the oldest in my class. I don’t know how to act at all. I resorted to being invisible and low key because no one fits into my age and I didn’t want people to hear about how I was and hate me, but along the line I started becoming close to this clique though they’re way younger and I feel so somehow with them because I don’t want people saying I’m too old to be with them. Now people are getting to know about how stupid and talkative I was and how mean I was and I feel they’re going to lose respect for me or look down on me.
I am highly respected here in Uni or should I say feared because I have a mean face (it’s not intentional at all). I feel like I will lose my respect because of all this and I danced at a party to. I need as much replies as possible I need help.
It seems like you’re way too worried about what people think of you. Just try to be kind to people – everybody has inherent value, lots of stories to tell, lots of interesting thoughts that you can find out by asking questions and being respectful! If they are not kind to you, then who cares what they think, just move on, they are not worth your time!
If however you think that your feeling of being talked about and disliked is debilitating and have a bad effect on your everyday life – e.g. you don’t go to the gym, because you feel like people judge you etc. – you might have what’s called ‘social phobia’ which is a recognised condition, easily treated with cognitive behaviour therapy.
Rmember, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, nothing wrong with your face or the way you ‘dance’ (?) you just need to be kinder to yourself and you’ll be kinder to others as a result.
Great Article! Spoke to me in many ways.
HI David and Viktor- Thank you so much for this thorough article. This will help so many people. A Godsend! Thanks again, please keep up the great work.
I talk way too much.