How do you know if a guy likes you? He may be acting friendly and flirty towards you, but how can you know if thatās just his personality? You want to know if he has a crush on you rather than just being someone who hits on every other woman he meets.
It can be pretty hard to figure out if the attention a guy is giving you is genuine. Hopefully, this guide can give you some clarity.
Sections
- Signs a guy likes you
- How can you tell if a coworker likes you?
- Does your best friend like you?
- How to be sure whether or not a guy friend likes you
38 signs a guy likes you
When a guy has a crush on you, his behavior towards you will usually change. However, it can be difficult to figure out. He may be acting nervous because heās shy or flirty because heās friendly and outgoing.
Here are the best signs to help you tell if a guy has a crush on you or not.
1. He stares at you
You probably know how hard it is not to look at someone you like. Prolonged eye contact without talking is a big tell that a guy likes you.
But to be fair, itās common for guys to stare at any girl they find attractive. And itās an easy way for him to show his interest without having to approach you. But who knows, he might even have a secret crush on you.
2. He mirrors you
Mirroring means that his body language, posture, or even what heās saying reflects what you said or did.
Examples of mirroring:
- When you take a sip of your glass, he also takes a sip of his glass
- When you cross your legs, he crosses his legs
- When you get very animated/passionate in a conversation, he also gets animated
- When you lean in, he also leans in
- When you laugh, he laughs
Note that mirroring is done subconsciously when he has a good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if he wants to impress or bond with you. Itās a great sign either way.
3. He added you on social media
Adding you on social media means he wants to keep in contact with you and might be interested in you. This is also good because now you can more easily start a conversation with him online.
4. His texts are longer than yours
If his texts are about the same length or longer than yours, thatās great. Itās especially good if theyāre longer than yours.
If he usually gives short answers compared to you, thatās a bad sign. When youāre giving him long replies but not getting the same in return, it means youāre probably too eager.
In that case, itās good to step back a bit and try to match him better. Keep in mind that some people are naturally better at others at texting.
5. He teases you
Most forms of teasing (even mean teasing) are usually a sign heās interested in you. It means heās trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that he wants a reaction from you.
Have fun with it, and donāt be afraid to tease him back! š
6. Heās leaning in
If heās leaning in toward you, that shows he wants to get closer to you (or heās really passionate about what heās saying). When a guy has a crush on you, it can feel like heās magnetically drawn to you.
7. Heās getting physically close to you
If youāre in a conversation and you feel like heās edging closer to you, or as if heās almost uncomfortably too close to you, thatās a good sign. He may be attracted to you and wants to feel physically and mentally closer to you.
Note that different cultures have different āpersonal spaces.ā So, if heās from a different culture than you, see how close he gets to others to see if itās just you.
8. He offers you a massage
This is one of the most obvious tells that a guy likes you. Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but itās also a smooth way for a guy to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer him one back if you like him!)
9. He smiles at you
If heās smiling toward you from afar, thatās an invitation to approach him. (Iām assuming you didnāt just forget to put your pants on when leaving home.)
If heās smiling toward you when youāre in a conversation, thatās a sign he likes you. Especially if he has a light smile while youāre not even joking.
10. Heās giving you mixed signals
Mixed signals are really tricky to interpret and can make anyone confused. But in most cases, they do mean heās interested in you. Here are the most common reasons why heās giving you mixed and confusing signals.
Nine reasons why heās giving you mixed signals:
- He doesnāt want to come off as too eager
- Heās shy
- Heās nervous and insecure
- Heās afraid of seeming desperate
- Heās afraid youāll reject him
- Heās inexperienced in flirting
- Heās following some weird rules or pick-up tips heās read
- Heās just flirting with you (because flirting is all about giving mixed signals)
- He likes the attention or validation he gets from you but isnāt really interested in you
Giving mixed signals may mean a guy likes you, but it doesnāt mean heād make a good partner. If someone sometimes ignores you or is mean to you, you should avoid dating even if you have a mutual crush on each other. You deserve a partner who wonāt have you second-guessing yourself.
11. He compliments you
Getting a compliment from a guy your age is a good sign. If heās giving you compliments about how pretty you are, itās an even better sign.
It can be hard to tell a friendly compliment from a romantic one because they can sound exactly the same. To know for sure, look for other signs heās also giving you or describe your situation in the comments below.
12. His pupils are large
If his pupils get large when youāre in a conversation, youāre doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.
13. He makes eye contact with you
When a guy has a crush on you, it can be so hard for him to keep his eyes off of you. You can notice this if heās holding eye contact with you for slightly too long.
It can almost feel a little weird or intense when it happens. And thatās great (if you like him).
14. He looks at you with open body language
This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example, at a bar or a club.
If heās moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, thatās a sign heās attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you he wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.
15. He straightens his posture
Is he straightening his back and standing up more straight? It means heās a bit self-conscious when hanging out near you and wants to make a good impression.
Itās not a strong sign because most single guys want to make a good impression on attractive girls. But if you see it together with many other signs, it means more.
16. He faces you in group situations
If heās facing you more often than heās facing others in a group, thatās a sign heās into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if youāre not the one talking the most in the group.
17. His feet are pointing towards you
If his feet are pointing toward you, thatās a sign in the same line as if his body is facing you. Heās subconsciously focused on you, which makes his feet point toward you.
18. He fiddles with his clothes or accessories
This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because he wants to look good in front of you. Itās a classic sign of attraction.
19. His palms face you
If the palms of his hands are pointed in your direction, he might be interested in you. Itās a small sign, but itās still positive because itās part of his open and welcoming body language toward you.
20. He touches you when you touch him
For example, if you touch his arm, does he touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If he does reciprocate your touch, thatās a great sign.
If heās shy or inexperienced, he might not feel comfortable touching you back, even if he has a crush on you.
21. He is extra touchy with you
A good tell he likes you is if heās touching you unusually much compared to others.
Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if he touches those.
22. You have āperipheral physical contactā
Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.
A good example is when youāre both sitting down, and your thighs barely touch each other.
This kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of suspense and attraction. Itās the best feeling being close to someone you got a crush on.
23. He gives you more of his attention than others
The more attention he gives you, the more interested he usually is in you. Compare this to how much attention he gives to other girls also hanging out with him or in the same group as you.
For example, If youāre in a group and he seems to direct most of his attention toward you. It could be that heās asking you lots of questions or that heās laughing more than others at your jokes. Or just listening more intently to you.
24. He blushes when you talk or make eye-contact
He might just be shy, but heās probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because he likes you. This makes him blush around you.
Social anxiety can also cause blushing. But itās still a great sign.
25. He seems to look in your direction from far away
Guys can be a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like theyāre only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. And if he has sunglasses, itās even harder to know if heās checking you out.
So if heās looking in your direction, especially if he does it several times, heās probably checking you out.
26. He keeps the conversation going
What happens when thereās a pause in the conversation or if you stop talking? If he seems eager to get the conversation going again, thatās good. If he lets the conversation die out or excuses himself, he may not be that interested (unless heās just shy).
If you have problems with the conversation dying out, check out this guide on keeping the conversation going with a guy.
27. He quickly replies when you text or message him
A quick reply is a good sign he likes you. Also, if he replies with several texts to your one text, thatās even better.
However, if he likes you, he may also delay his replies to avoid seeming needy or desperate. But as long as he replies, itās all good. If heās slow to reply, it could just mean heās busy, or he doesnāt like texting, so donāt read too much into it.
28. He texts or calls first
Is he the one initiating contact, or are you? If he is, that probably means heās interested in you.
But if he never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if he will take initiative. If youāre always so quick to take initiative, he might never even have a chance to do it first.
29. He texts you often
Compare this to how often you text him. Heās eager if heās texting more often than you, and youāre more eager if youāre the one texting more often. If heās sending you several texts in a row without a reply, itās a stronger sign.
30. He becomes awkward in a conversation with you
Does he stammer, stutter, or otherwise become awkward with you? This could mean that he feels shy or self-conscious around you. When a guy likes you, itās common that he gets a bit extra flustered when talking to you. Thatās because he gets uncomfortable and doesnāt want to mess up in front of you. Itās kind of cute, isnāt it?
31. He doesnāt back off if you get a bit too close
If he doesnāt even flinch when you get a bit too close to his personal space, thatās a sign he wants you close to him.
If you take a step closer, and he backs off by a step, thatās a sign heās a bit more reserved toward you.
32. He talks about things he wants to do with you
Planning or mentioning things he wants to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.
Example: If youāre talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say āWe should go there someday!ā or āIāll show you how amazing that place is!ā
33. Heās happy to discover you have something in common
If heās happy, thatās good. This sign is extra strong if itās something very trivial, such as you living in the same part of town, being the same age, or you both like pizza. For more tips, check out this guide on how to talk to a guy you like.
Example: You discover that you both grew up in the same city, and he gets really excited about it even if itās no big deal.
34. He asks you personal questions
Personal questions are telling you that he wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more he asks, the better.
Example: Asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or your favorite food.
35. He asks you about your plans
Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be him trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. Itās more likely itās a sign of interest if he brings it up near the end of the conversation.
36. He tries to make you jealous
This is a strong sign heās interested in you. But itās also a sign heās emotionally immature and manipulative. I would avoid someone acting like that. You deserve to be treated with respect.
37. Heās told his family about you
This one is most relevant once youāve already started dating. But itās such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I think itās worth mentioning. Itās even bigger if heās from a culture where approval from the family is important.
If heās told his family, it means he is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!
38. He stays to talk with you even though his friends have left
This is a big tell. If youāre in some sort of group conversation with him and his friends, and all his friends leave, but he stays ā heās probably into you. It still might not be a romantic interest if you just have a great conversation and have lots in common.
An example could be when youāre at a party, and all his friends leave to get a bite to eat, but he stays with you.
How can you tell if a coworker likes you?
At work, It can be hard to tell if a coworker is flirting with you or just being friendly. Usually, guys play it safer at work because he doesnāt want to create any awkward situations if he would be rejected. So, he might be probing to see if you like him before he gives you any clear signs of interest.
Six ways to tell if a coworker likes you:
- He comes over to talk with you as often as possible
- He often teases you
- It seems like heās flirting, but youāre not really sure
- He tries to hang out near you when possible
- He tries to be funny when heās near you
- Heās eager to do any work tasks where you work together
- He goes above and beyond to help you out at work
- He gets weird or stiff when heās near you, but heās normal with everyone else
How do you know if your best friend likes you?
Here are seven signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend:
- Heās acting differently from how he usually behaves
- He seems jealous or dismissive of other guys you might like
- Heās suddenly extra touchy-feely
- He seems unusually interested in your interests
- He seems extra needy
- Heās told you he has feelings for you
If youāre still unsure, let me know about your situation in the comments below, and Iāll do my best to help.
How do you know for sure if a guy friend is interested?
You canāt know for sure if a cute guy is interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few questions you can ask yourself:
- Is he regularly showing you signs of interest?
- Does he act differently to others than to you? (So heās not just flirty with everyone.)
- Has he shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
- Can you see any patterns in his behavior toward you?
Are you still unsure if he likes you?
Write down your situation in the comments below in as much detail as possible. That way, others can help you out by giving their opinion. I also expect you to help someone else by replying to their comment. We need to all pitch in and help each other.
I want the answer??
One boy is with me we both like each other ā¦ We have come close also bt he never tells me. I like u ā¦ N I also not told him I like u ā¦ N one time we have come closely also ā¦ exactly whatās is thisā¦ N our vibes also match properly..
Hi, so I have an at-work/ friend situation. There have definitely been a couple of times when weāve had āmomentsā when weāre alone we feel like weāre drawn together. We will stand a little too close but just soak it in instead of backing off, Iāve had moments when Iām super awkward and finally get the courage to look in his eyes and heāll gaze back at me with the look of someone looking at an adorable puppy lol. I feel like thereās definitely chemistry. Heās always putting himself in my ābubbleā and teasing me. Both of us have made jokes about us being together. Itās a little complicated because heās my boss in a family-owned business. His mom is the owner and is close to me too. Like she offered to let me do my laundry at her place if I needed. And invites me to bring my kids to our meetings. (Iām a divorced single mom) he was there one time and met my kids and made a point to play with them and help them. He also had his dog there and made comments like āmy dog is really good with kidsā he repeated this sorta awkwardly a couple of times haha. We got talking about renting an office and he was like āwe should get one with a playroom for the kidsāā¦ anyway I invited him out with friends and he immediately accepted. And sounds really excited! But the man is ridiculously busy and works 70 hours a week. So Iāll text him and he will always reply but it never turns into a conversation. Granted he receives like 100-200 texts a day and emails on top of that every day. And we see each other a few times a week for work.
I just donāt wanna read into things. Iām trying to figure out if he likes me. And also figure out what I should and shouldnāt worry about.
I first met him through my friend on the bus as we were coming back from school I felt nothing and the same goes for him too, but after a few months I developed a huge crush on him and this is the 8 month of my crush that keeps going on but since 2 or half months back I saw him taking glances at me from far whenever we are near we never talk nor I look into his eyes but I noticed that he always keep staring at me and I think he has little tiny Miny crush on me but Iām not sure but whenever Iām near him he makes sure to see me without me noticing although he thinks I donāt notice but I do. We rarely talk I donāt know if he feels the same but he kept giving me hopes that he likes me
I have a guy friend that asked me out a really long time ago. Itās been 11 years. I turned him down because I was nervous, but I did like him. We would chat on Facebook every once in a while after graduation but that was about it. I thought he was over it when he told me to date his friend. Then in 2016, he sent a picture that said I love you, but he probably also sent it to 11 other girls. But Iām 2018, he started messaging me and asking me questions, my answer was you have a girlfriend, that took care of it. In 2020, I started messaging him to see what he had been up to, completely forgetting about what had happened. So now weāve been messaging and texting since December of 2020. He started calling me beautiful and all kinds of nicknames. In the summer of 2021, he asked how Iād react if he kissed me. Iāve never had my first kiss. He hasnāt done that yet. But I recently moved back to almost where he lives. The problem is he makes plans to hang out and then gets busy I guess. He hasnāt been texting me as much but he tells me sweet dreams and things like that. What should I do? Itās like I canāt forget about this guy.
Dump him please girlā¦
Hmmmā¦in reading your situation (and Iām just being 100% honest with you here), he doesnāt seem all that serious about where he wants things to go. When a man loves(or even just really likes a woman), he is going to MAKE TIME for her(even if heās ābusy.ā). In your description of him here, this all just seems like a game between the two of you in my opinion. Too many years of hiding, ignoring, reappearing, contacting, ghosting, guessing, hoping, etcā¦If he(and you)is/are playing the hot/cold game and arenāt making things clear of where you both stand with your feelings(esp. after this many YEARS of knowing each other), then he may just be enjoying āthe gameā and the attention he gets from it. You say at one point that he had a girlfriend when you two were talking, so he may have just wanted to know if you still liked him and would wait around for him. For some guys itās an ego booster, nothing more. And I donāt know the type of questions heās asking you(hopefully, itās not a bunch of sexual stuff or things that focus solely on your looks or body rather than who you are as a person. If so, this would be a HUGE RED FLAG! When a man GENUINELY is romantically interested or in love with a woman, heās going to truly CARE about her and her feelings. He wonāt treat her as an object or rush her into sex. If he is asking you about this subject without being nervous at all or without at least a little bit of hesitancy, then thatās NOT a good sign! It sounds to me like heās just fishing for your response to see how much BS youāll take from him and will still wait around for him despite it.
I could be wrong here, but just based on what you tell us about his behavior, heās more than likely keeping you as an option. He may like you and find you physically attractive, but he isnāt interested ENOUGH to keep from losing you. The reason I say this is that he seems to be ok with having only a little bit of contact with you every couple of years(guys will NOT do this when they really like you because they know they can risk losing you to someone else!). You also say that he asks you questions or says things to you (that according to you), he also āsays to 11 other women/girlsā too. Thatās not a good sign either. Why? Because he isnāt making you special or separating you from the rest of them(meaning, he treats you ALL the SAME way!). Youāre not āthe one,ā but rather just one of many. Given the behavior you describe here though, I would say leave him alone. Pursuing someone who isnāt sure about you only leads to more heartbreak down the road.
If you can be ok with just being friends, then Iād keep it at that and nothing more(though I donāt know if Iād even want to be friends with a guy that treats me the way youāre describing him here.). Still, there is a lot of missing information here and you know him better than we do. But if it were me? I donāt think I could invest any more of my precious time on this guy. Lifeās way too short for head games. Trust me, when someone is interested in you, youāll KNOW IT! You wonāt need to guess or look for hidden āsignsā(which letās face it, the majority of the time, we tend to misinterpret and read into what isnāt really there anyway.). You deserve much better than to be treated like an option. Get out there, meet new people and live your life. Show him that you, yourself to have other options!
All the Best!
Hello! So, I really like this guy at school. Somedays he ignores me, but other days he talks to me a lot. In the hallways, he says hi to me or does this little handshake thing (though he does that with almost everyone). Heās complimented me before, though it might have just been friendly (he told me that I have many hidden talents). Around him, I get really nervous and Iām worried he thinks I donāt like him because I instantly close down our conversations.
But the other day in advisory, he told me (in front of everyone else) that he feels we have a special connection. Again, Iām not sure if that was flirty, though it sounded more on the serious side. I donāt know what to make of that.
Butā¦ā¦ Iāve heard that he wrote a secret admirer note to a girl in my grade for Valentineās Day and Iāve also heard that he likes another girl (who is actually IN MY ADVISORY so she heard what he said) soā¦
I definitely feel like Iām reading way too much into the little things, but he sat next to me once and our legs brushed AND I SWEAR HE DID NOT MOVE AWAY (I was the one who did actually move away though I placed my legs back where it previously wasā¦)
And then all this might actually be me misreading the situation because heās such a friendly guy. And also, I know Iām such an idiot for not reciprocating, but I get super nervous and awkward around himā¦
Nothing could ever come out of this because he HAPPENS to be Muslim and my mom is borderline prejudiced. Like, really prejudiced. And that really bothers me because my mom would ADORE him otherwise. But I guess knowing would help.
So yeah, help me out here. Does he?
I like this guy at my school and several people have told me that he stares at me all the time but I never notice, he usually doesnāt hang out around me either but when he is talking to me he stutters a bit, I donāt know whether he likes me or not.
theres this guy i found him attractive so i went and got his snap so we talked on snapchat for a while and he asked why i asked for his snap and i didnt know what to say so he asked if he made me nervous or something and i said yea and he smiled the next few weeks we just looked at eachother in the hallways and i snapped him and he snapped back so i left him on opened and then he starts typing and goesāso the one time i snap you.you leave me on openedā he asked and i told him im kinda giving up on him cuz he already knew i liked him it was obvious and then he responded ālol you couldnt even handle me thoā and i asked why is that and he said āim a toxic lightskin ill really f***k up your life you dont need these problemsā and i responded with the same energy and then he ended the conversation with an LOL and the next day we just kept staring at each other sometimes he tries to impress me in sports and sees if im looking but we never talk irl just on social media, we talk in groups tho but not alone idk if he likes me or not
I have a crush on my tution mate.we used to talk through chats.we never talk in real life.sometimes he texted me first and sometimes I Texted him first.well I texted him ābrotherā to see his reaction but he didnāt react.whenever I see him he always set his hair some time our eyes mate not a longer one.sometime I feel like he have a crush on me and sometimes not.in real we pretend like we donāt know each other.but he is a shy person when I said to him sorry for some reason he replied me that āDonāt say sorry I donāt like itā.
I like this guy in my society but we donāt talk too much. When we play football we are sometimes in the same team but mostly I play better against him I donāt know why but yeah. I really like him and sometimes get the vibe that he likes me too but then I feel like he doesnāt like me so I donāt really know what to think of it. Itās just that we donāt talk much and so I feel like maybe itās just a coincidence that we have eye contact or that I play better when Iām against him and can beat him.
What is the difference between flirtatious teasing and bullying? Thereās this kid who always calls me by my full name as opposed to my nickname which everyone knows I prefer my nickname. He also always makes jokes about what Iām doing if Iām drawing itās the name Iāve given my drawing or how I drew it that he jokes about but the minute I seem upset he doesnāt say a word about it and drops it to change the subject. maybe he doesnāt like being confronted?
This guy I have seen in this coffee shop for quite a while now & I have quite a thing for him. In the last month I sat quite close to him & his friend, I felt him looking at me & he was trying to get my attention. We did make small talk about a dog in the cafe. I said bye to him & he replied & I felt good. Then the next time I was in there I caught him looking at me quite a bit, he called me over to join him & his friend. We chatted for some time, his friend left & he carried on chatting to me. He asked me if I had a partner, I told him, he told me he was single & we carried on finding out about each other. A couple of times since Iāve been in there heās been with other friends & gone out of his way to say Hi & heās not ignoring me & maybe we can catch up another time. He asked when I would be in next time, I told him & kind of made a time but unfortunately, I was late, I was upset to not see him in there but he did come in & say to me he was here at the time I said but he needed to shoot off now but went out of his way to do this because he didnāt want me to think he wasnāt letting me down. The next time I saw him he got my attention & waved so I joined him for a chat for an hour. We seem to be quite relaxed in each otherās company & I am attracted to him, Iām not quite sure if heās interested that way or just being polite. My gut is telling me heās interested. We havenāt exchanged numbers but I would like to but I donāt want to make the first move as itās only been a month. Any advice?
If you donāt wanna seem too eager or something because itās been a month then just try to think of a good excuse and then just ask him while chatting like yeah yeah so you can just gimme your no. and Iāll text you or something
thereās a guy in my school, heās two years older than me and weāve never talked before but we have friends in common, he always looks at me, like always, and he stares, I think he likes to mock me, the other day he was staring at me while he was going up the stairs, he never stopped looking at me, he knows that it makes me nervous, he was talking with his friends and they all started looking at me and then he laughed and then I left, itās like every time Iām near him I feel this tension between us, plus heās single, I think he has a crush on me, but Iām not sure since weāve never talked.
I think that he definitely likes you. His friends were probably teasing him about his crush on you and he definitely seems interested.
Thereās a guy in the gym, heās been staring at me constantly for weeks now, I ask what his name was, he told me he asked where did I live. He follows me around the gym, we seem to start at the same times even though there different every day. He makes me smile, heās also starting to follow me in the car, which I find funny. Do I ask him out he said he had to pick heās girls up, oh I said are you with someone he stutted and said yes, then he ask me fo I have a boyfriend I said no, he was like you willā¦.have I read the signs so wrong over the past 10 weeks
My coworker is honestly just an amazing person. Iām not drawn to anyone and havenāt been for well over 6 years. We bonded immediately, and I adore him so much. Heās honest and open but rarely with anyone other than me. Heās my literal twin, and I see so much trepidation in him because heās the younger version of myself.
We talk āon the side,ā involved in our own conversation as mutual coworkers speak as a group as if no one else existed in the world, and I crave his conversation ā to the point of being unhealthy.
Iāve invited him out āaloneā as my plus one to my friendsā relentless parties three times. The first, awkward silence and refusal paired with a lame excuse. The second, was a quick acceptance with a moment of clarity when he realized we would ādouble bookā something planned with his own mother. I took this as a willingness to hang out and momentary āderp.ā
Now, the third invite and an acceptance to hang out with my friends that he has NO knowledge of. My friends, who are all couples. Him, knowing we are ācoupledā by default. Commence my own freakout.
I donāt know whatās coming, or why he accepted my casual invite to an unfamiliar place with unfamiliar people (who donāt speak English wellā¦), but Iām out of breath with anticipation. Because, well, who would be willing to tag along for this?
Backstory: We started the job within one week of each other, him a week later. We created an instant bond by following each other everywhere we could, learning from each other and closing physical proximity that we both admitted (later) was not typical. Heās shared an elevator step with me, which is typically āverboten.ā He leaned in, he stared, and we always sit in proximity at lunch. High school crap at middle-age, basically. Long stares and quick jabs. Competition and equality.
I donāt like people. At all. But, him? Heās allowed. Heās allowed the proximity. Heās allowed the blank stares and the āderpā statements that we both seem to exude when tired. Not sure where this will lead, but he agreed to hang out with my 99% Spanish-speaking friends. AFTER I WARNED HIM THAT THEY WILL NOT UNDERSTAND HIM.
And, I meanā¦ his acceptance is everything. I donāt care where it leads. Heās already established that he views me āmore thanā the other (male) coworkers ā Iām female, by the way, in a male-dominated trade. Traditionally āhandsome?ā No. But with the small bit of connection that we have, heās a 10/10. A truly beautiful person with zero knowledge of how spectacular he really is. And it makes me a little sad that he doesnāt know his worth. Iāll see how this outing with him goes. Not expecting a whole lot, but I hope he can shine.
Wow, that was a truly riveting tale. Any updates??? I am quite invested in your tale Baba Yaga
Unfortunately, he backed out of the hangout, and I am really bummed. His excuse was valid, but it still stung. At least he agreed, right?
I guess I will just have to have patience and see if he reschedules. I wonāt be asking again, though. Itās too bad!
Iāve known this guy for YEARS like Iām talking Kindergarten and we used to despise each other but still got along and I started having a crush on him since then. We donāt talk a lot now but weāre still friends and go to the same school. Almost every morning on the bus I see him look at me even just briefly and he does little kind gestures like when weāre sitting in the same row he lets me out first. Sometimes he also starts a conversation when he sees me doing something like studying for a test or when Iām talking to someone he joins the convo or straight up starts his own convo with me. We donāt text a lot tbh we barely do and the last text I sent him was happy birthday with a pink heart to try and hint that I like him and he responded with āThank youā and a thumbs up. I honestly have no idea if he likes me or not
I have a neighbourā¦ we havent talked to each other yet. Neither i know any of his personal details.. not even his name.. .. i can see him only if I go to terraceā¦ he looks at me for a long time, if he sees meā¦ he comes and stands in the balcony just to look at meā¦ he does all this in a noticeable wayā¦ as if he wants my attentionā¦
I want to know if he likes meā¦ because after all he does, i started liking him
So one of my coworkers always waves at me and talkes with me when its just us two. He smiles at me and teases me a little bit. I want to ask him for his number but i dont want it to be awkward if he doesnāt like me. So should I ask him or should i just play it safe and wait for him to ask me?
Hi!
So I (25) met this guy (30) online a little over a month ago and things have been going well. He takes me on dates, Iāve already met some of his friends, he wants to meet mine, and I even met some of his family (grandma and cousin). He makes me feel special, but iām a little hesitant because of past relationships of being led on and manipulated. Should I be concerned that I met some of his family so early? I know itās usually a good sign when he wants you to meet the important people in his life, but Iām not sure what to think about that. We also donāt talk as much during the week as we do over the weekend, but when we do hangout itās like that doesnāt even matter and we hangout all night and day. I guess Iām just conflicted and possibly second guessing this and also donāt want my feelings to be played with again. Iām also used to dating guys my age or a couple years older so maybe heās actually more mature. I would like to know your thoughts.
Thanks!
he has followed me on instagram and then unfollowed,,,he did this twice,,,,,,,,we never talked,,but get to see each other daily,,what this follow and unfollow means
I donāt know if this guy likes me but everyone keeps saying he does because of everything he has been doing. Like he would stare at me from a distance when Iām not looking and when I am we. keep the contact for like 10-20 seconds before we look away at the same time.
He would smile at me randomly even if were not talking
He brings me up to one of my friends out of now were. What do you think PLEASE HELP ME
I have a coworker thatās new and he starts a lot of convos in person and all, but he barely texts back on snap. He gives me compliments and all but he keeps denying us to hang out. At first, he was the one who asked if I was free but the next day he said he was busy. I then asked him out a couple of days later, but then he blew me off today and said his mom got mad at him with gas prices. I mean Iām 18 so it sounds dumb but I canāt tell if he likes me or not. Am I getting the wrong cues? Please help me out lol
So there is this guy at church that I like but havenāt got chatting to yet but I have wanted to for about the past month and it just hasnāt worked out, due to unfortunate events.
I would tend to look at him now and again and I have seen him looking back at me and I donāt know if that is just because Iām looking at him. I would just love to get to know him as friends first and see what happens but my issue is that Iām kind of quiet and he is really shy, but itās just how to start a conversation and about what is my problem, to be honest.
Thanks
Rachel
So I have grown up with this guy we have known each other and our familyās somewhat close but we rarely talk to each other but recently heās been talking to me here and there and we often look at each other in the eyes but I get too shy and look away first. But the other day we were at a group party with people we know and when we went to sit down and have a group chat there were plenty of open seats open but he pick the one next to me which I thought was weird because he has never sat be me before. And who knows I could be overthinking things.
your overthinking things
Hey! Iām Emma so there is this guy that I have a big crush on but I hate him at the same time he can be mean to me like this one time he call me a pig so I called him a rat but he might like too I canāt tell some times I catch he starting at me and we will just look at each other for a good 3 seconds then look away. And he talks to me after school and he acts nice for once and I feel like myself with him but his friends are always there so idk if he is trying to be nice or Idk he likes me oh one more thing my best friend is really Close to him they are neighbors and their parents are friends and she uses to have a crush on him but she said she doesnāt anymore but I donāt believe her but she said that he is like a twin brother. So do you think he has a church on me or not?
There is this guy at running club & Iām not sure if he likes me. Heās hot & cold & this is confusing. We havenāt conversed much but I just have a feeling he likes/is attracted to me. Signs I think he likes me are: he stares at me, I can tell heās listening when Iām talking to other runners, he seems annoyed if I ignore him (this is a terrible habit I have when I fancy someone), heās added me on Strava ā heās an elite runner so I donāt know why he would add me as Iām new to running & he doesnāt follow many people & the people he follows are mainly men. When heās spoken to me he asks me questions about me but the odd thing is when I compliment him on his running or ask him something about him he shuts down. That is 1 of the signs I donāt think he likes me & these are the others: when I try & talk to him he looks uncomfortable & avoids eye contact & doesnāt smile much. The other issue is heās a little bit older than me (about 10 years), he has kids & I think he might be married! Iām probably over reading the situation but any advice would be greatly appreciated. Feel free to tell me to get over this stupid crush! š
There is a guy at work and Iām not sure if he likes me. Heās texts me everyday and even though we are remote will go to the office on days Iām there. We have hung out outside of work but only with other work people as well. I feel Iāve given him opportunities to ask me out and he hasnāt. Iām also not sure if heās single, Iāve tried to causally find out by asking things like if he had Valentineās Day plans but his reply was vague. He does help me out at work a lot but heās also the nicest person Iāve met so heās hard to read.
When I touch him he kicks me lighting on the butt
Okay, so I met this guy at a party I went to. He had looked at me a couple of times from across the room while he was standing and talking to some friends. After a few minutes he and his 2 friends come over and one of his friends says hi to me because I had met her before. She then says āso, have you met my friend X?ā She then steps aside and letās the guy jump in and introduce himself. And like that she and the other friend just leave. It felt like a āhave you met Tedā moment. So they leave and this guys starts talking me to and asking me questions about myself. He got really excited anytime we had things in common like āoh, youāre a middle child? No way, me too!ā We talked for a little bit before he was like āokay, I have to go. But are you going to the basketball game?ā And I was like āoh, I havenāt been to one of the games yet, but I was thinking about it.ā Then he was like āyeah, I never go, but if youāre going to be there then Iāll be there so we can hang out.ā So to me I was like oh this guy is into me, and that never happens for me! Guys hardly ever show interest in me, so I was pretty excited about it. I went to the game, he was late so I just took a seat. When he showed up he didnāt come to sit with me so we could talk and hang out like he said, he went and sat with his friends on the other side of the room. After about 15 minutes he finally comes over and talks to me for about a minute, I made him laugh so I thought he would stay and talk, but then he left to go sit with his friends again and didnāt talk to me the rest of the night. He sounded a little hesitant and maybe nervous when he was talking to me both times, so Iām trying to decide if he was just nervous and chickened out. Iāve been told that I can come off as intimidating, so Iām wondering if he just got nervous or if he really wasnāt interested. Ha ha! What does everyone think?
Ok so I am the restaurant manager at a local coffee shop. I have a guy who is actually quite well known. He was on television about 15 years ago and he actually hosted a show on B.E.T for about 5 years. He comes in the shop about twice a week since 2019. He has been very cold to my workers and I but this man is so attractive that we all look past his mean demeanor and cold attitude. Fast forward to December of 2021 he comes in and my co worker is waiting on him.. he looks over at me and starts smiling and he asks me how am I doing. I was so caught off guard as I have been secretly crushing on him since the first time I saw him. I started blushing and I told him I was ok and started smiling. Well my co worker was putting his order together and witnessed this whole thing as she knew this was out of his Character. While she finished bagging him I decided to cash him out. I gave him his change and he began to stare deep in my eyes and smiled at me and nodded his head like in approval then left our shop. Ever since this encounter happened we have been cordial and friendly. Well last week he comes in again the same co worker and I were there together and when he noticed me he turned his head to the side then proceeded to put his hoody on his head really quickly. My co worker said good morning and he didnāt respond back which wasnāt too surprising like I said he is kinda cold. So to break the ice I walk over and I say good morning very cheerfully and again he doesnāt even speak to me he barely glances my way yet he is Constantly pulling at the sides of his hoodyā¦ So I was really kind of hurt as I could not figure out what I did for him to be cold towards me out of no where. So I went to the side to do something else to avoid him and not show my feelings were hurt. Well my co worker caught him staring at me and she told me after he left. I reviewed the camera and sure enough soon as I went to the side he said a swear word under his breath and he stepped up to order and automatically started looking at me. He stood there staring at me for about 10 seconds before he turns around like he was upset and walks back to his original spot. I didnāt see any of this because my back was turned. This man didnāt even pull money out to pay yet and he gets the same thing everyday he has come in my store for the past 3 years so we already know his movements and thatās not like him. I was so confused by all of this because I like him more than I care to admit even though we havenāt made any contact outside of my work place, I have a huge crush on him. Uggghh I feel like a high school girl again and not this 36 year old woman. Help! What does this mean!!?!! By the way he is about 44 years old. Like why are we going through this? Does it seem like heās interested or just being friendly??
Hey guys!
Help me out here.
I like this guy, and I have for quite a long timeā¦years infact. We go to the same school, and he knows me, but not in the way I had hoped.
Last year, my friends and I had been talking about crushes. I had seen this guy before and he left me with quaking knees. I cant even look in his direction without getting butterflies. I tried to contact him on social media, and it worked. We talked for a bit, then I suggested we meet up. He kindly said that was not in his interest, and proceeded to block me. I know, rookie move. I realized afterwards how hard i had messed up, and forgot about him for a while. I was almost over him, but then I saw him in our cafeteria, we maintained eye contact for what seemed like forever. I had seen him do the nicest things, overall seeming like a great guy. Fell back inā¦again. We are now at the point where my brother has been attempting to be friends with him. He thinks Iām āinterestingā which doesnāt seem to be so bad. My friend tried to help me out, but ended up going behind my back to get with him. She is almost 4 years younger, so thatās that. Here we are today. I want him to notice me, to at least be my friend, but i cant go and talk to him. What should I do?
Hi Hannah,
Man, this brings me back! I had a similar situation with a guy I liked when I was 12 and my feelings for him were off and on even until I was 20 years old. I kept finding little reasons here and there to convince myself that he liked me and then I would get obvious signs that he didnāt. I even had friends telling me that he was into me based off a little things that happened. But looking back on everything I know better and can see that all those little signs I thought I saw were nothing. If Iām being completely honest, a guy saying you are interesting isnāt a big enough sign to go off of. I hate saying it because I know how it feels to like someone, think you are over them, and then get sucked right back in when they do something nice. The fact is if there is a chance for you guys then he will be doing a lot more than calling you interesting. I say keep living your life and do your own thing. Donāt be afraid to take other date offers when they come up. If heās into you then heāll be one of the date offers, but donāt waste your time waiting for a guy to start liking you. And ditch the friend, no one who says they are going to help you with a guy and then turns around to start trying to get with them is worth your time! Good luck girl, and I hope life goes well for you!