How do you know if a guy likes you? He may be acting friendly and flirty towards you, but how can you know if that’s just his personality? You want to know if he has a crush on you rather than just being someone who hits on every other woman he meets.
It can be pretty hard to figure out if the attention a guy is giving you is genuine. Hopefully, this guide can give you some clarity.
Sections
- Signs a guy likes you
- How can you tell if a coworker likes you?
- Does your best friend like you?
- How to be sure whether or not a guy friend likes you
38 signs a guy likes you
When a guy has a crush on you, his behavior towards you will usually change. However, it can be difficult to figure out. He may be acting nervous because he’s shy or flirty because he’s friendly and outgoing.
Here are the best signs to help you tell if a guy has a crush on you or not.
1. He stares at you
You probably know how hard it is not to look at someone you like. Prolonged eye contact without talking is a big tell that a guy likes you.
But to be fair, it’s common for guys to stare at any girl they find attractive. And it’s an easy way for him to show his interest without having to approach you. But who knows, he might even have a secret crush on you.
2. He mirrors you
Mirroring means that his body language, posture, or even what he’s saying reflects what you said or did.
Examples of mirroring:
- When you take a sip of your glass, he also takes a sip of his glass
- When you cross your legs, he crosses his legs
- When you get very animated/passionate in a conversation, he also gets animated
- When you lean in, he also leans in
- When you laugh, he laughs
Note that mirroring is done subconsciously when he has a good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if he wants to impress or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.
3. He added you on social media
Adding you on social media means he wants to keep in contact with you and might be interested in you. This is also good because now you can more easily start a conversation with him online.
4. His texts are longer than yours
If his texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.
If he usually gives short answers compared to you, that’s a bad sign. When you’re giving him long replies but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager.
In that case, it’s good to step back a bit and try to match him better. Keep in mind that some people are naturally better at others at texting.
5. He teases you
Most forms of teasing (even mean teasing) are usually a sign he’s interested in you. It means he’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that he wants a reaction from you.
Have fun with it, and don’t be afraid to tease him back! 😉
6. He’s leaning in
If he’s leaning in toward you, that shows he wants to get closer to you (or he’s really passionate about what he’s saying). When a guy has a crush on you, it can feel like he’s magnetically drawn to you.
7. He’s getting physically close to you
If you’re in a conversation and you feel like he’s edging closer to you, or as if he’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. He may be attracted to you and wants to feel physically and mentally closer to you.
Note that different cultures have different “personal spaces.” So, if he’s from a different culture than you, see how close he gets to others to see if it’s just you.
8. He offers you a massage
This is one of the most obvious tells that a guy likes you. Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a guy to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer him one back if you like him!)
9. He smiles at you
If he’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach him. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home.)
If he’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign he likes you. Especially if he has a light smile while you’re not even joking.
10. He’s giving you mixed signals
Mixed signals are really tricky to interpret and can make anyone confused. But in most cases, they do mean he’s interested in you. Here are the most common reasons why he’s giving you mixed and confusing signals.
Nine reasons why he’s giving you mixed signals:
- He doesn’t want to come off as too eager
- He’s shy
- He’s nervous and insecure
- He’s afraid of seeming desperate
- He’s afraid you’ll reject him
- He’s inexperienced in flirting
- He’s following some weird rules or pick-up tips he’s read
- He’s just flirting with you (because flirting is all about giving mixed signals)
- He likes the attention or validation he gets from you but isn’t really interested in you
Giving mixed signals may mean a guy likes you, but it doesn’t mean he’d make a good partner. If someone sometimes ignores you or is mean to you, you should avoid dating even if you have a mutual crush on each other. You deserve a partner who won’t have you second-guessing yourself.
11. He compliments you
Getting a compliment from a guy your age is a good sign. If he’s giving you compliments about how pretty you are, it’s an even better sign.
It can be hard to tell a friendly compliment from a romantic one because they can sound exactly the same. To know for sure, look for other signs he’s also giving you or describe your situation in the comments below.
12. His pupils are large
If his pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.
13. He makes eye contact with you
When a guy has a crush on you, it can be so hard for him to keep his eyes off of you. You can notice this if he’s holding eye contact with you for slightly too long.
It can almost feel a little weird or intense when it happens. And that’s great (if you like him).
14. He looks at you with open body language
This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example, at a bar or a club.
If he’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that’s a sign he’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you he wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.
15. He straightens his posture
Is he straightening his back and standing up more straight? It means he’s a bit self-conscious when hanging out near you and wants to make a good impression.
It’s not a strong sign because most single guys want to make a good impression on attractive girls. But if you see it together with many other signs, it means more.
16. He faces you in group situations
If he’s facing you more often than he’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign he’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not the one talking the most in the group.
17. His feet are pointing towards you
If his feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if his body is facing you. He’s subconsciously focused on you, which makes his feet point toward you.
18. He fiddles with his clothes or accessories
This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because he wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.
19. His palms face you
If the palms of his hands are pointed in your direction, he might be interested in you. It’s a small sign, but it’s still positive because it’s part of his open and welcoming body language toward you.
20. He touches you when you touch him
For example, if you touch his arm, does he touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If he does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign.
If he’s shy or inexperienced, he might not feel comfortable touching you back, even if he has a crush on you.
21. He is extra touchy with you
A good tell he likes you is if he’s touching you unusually much compared to others.
Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if he touches those.
22. You have “peripheral physical contact”
Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.
A good example is when you’re both sitting down, and your thighs barely touch each other.
This kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of suspense and attraction. It’s the best feeling being close to someone you got a crush on.
23. He gives you more of his attention than others
The more attention he gives you, the more interested he usually is in you. Compare this to how much attention he gives to other girls also hanging out with him or in the same group as you.
For example, If you’re in a group and he seems to direct most of his attention toward you. It could be that he’s asking you lots of questions or that he’s laughing more than others at your jokes. Or just listening more intently to you.
24. He blushes when you talk or make eye-contact
He might just be shy, but he’s probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because he likes you. This makes him blush around you.
Social anxiety can also cause blushing. But it’s still a great sign.
25. He seems to look in your direction from far away
Guys can be a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. And if he has sunglasses, it’s even harder to know if he’s checking you out.
So if he’s looking in your direction, especially if he does it several times, he’s probably checking you out.
26. He keeps the conversation going
What happens when there’s a pause in the conversation or if you stop talking? If he seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If he lets the conversation die out or excuses himself, he may not be that interested (unless he’s just shy).
If you have problems with the conversation dying out, check out this guide on keeping the conversation going with a guy.
27. He quickly replies when you text or message him
A quick reply is a good sign he likes you. Also, if he replies with several texts to your one text, that’s even better.
However, if he likes you, he may also delay his replies to avoid seeming needy or desperate. But as long as he replies, it’s all good. If he’s slow to reply, it could just mean he’s busy, or he doesn’t like texting, so don’t read too much into it.
28. He texts or calls first
Is he the one initiating contact, or are you? If he is, that probably means he’s interested in you.
But if he never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if he will take initiative. If you’re always so quick to take initiative, he might never even have a chance to do it first.
29. He texts you often
Compare this to how often you text him. He’s eager if he’s texting more often than you, and you’re more eager if you’re the one texting more often. If he’s sending you several texts in a row without a reply, it’s a stronger sign.
30. He becomes awkward in a conversation with you
Does he stammer, stutter, or otherwise become awkward with you? This could mean that he feels shy or self-conscious around you. When a guy likes you, it’s common that he gets a bit extra flustered when talking to you. That’s because he gets uncomfortable and doesn’t want to mess up in front of you. It’s kind of cute, isn’t it?
31. He doesn’t back off if you get a bit too close
If he doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to his personal space, that’s a sign he wants you close to him.
If you take a step closer, and he backs off by a step, that’s a sign he’s a bit more reserved toward you.
32. He talks about things he wants to do with you
Planning or mentioning things he wants to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.
Example: If you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!”
33. He’s happy to discover you have something in common
If he’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, such as you living in the same part of town, being the same age, or you both like pizza. For more tips, check out this guide on how to talk to a guy you like.
Example: You discover that you both grew up in the same city, and he gets really excited about it even if it’s no big deal.
34. He asks you personal questions
Personal questions are telling you that he wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more he asks, the better.
Example: Asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or your favorite food.
35. He asks you about your plans
Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be him trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if he brings it up near the end of the conversation.
36. He tries to make you jealous
This is a strong sign he’s interested in you. But it’s also a sign he’s emotionally immature and manipulative. I would avoid someone acting like that. You deserve to be treated with respect.
37. He’s told his family about you
This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I think it’s worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if he’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.
If he’s told his family, it means he is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!
38. He stays to talk with you even though his friends have left
This is a big tell. If you’re in some sort of group conversation with him and his friends, and all his friends leave, but he stays – he’s probably into you. It still might not be a romantic interest if you just have a great conversation and have lots in common.
An example could be when you’re at a party, and all his friends leave to get a bite to eat, but he stays with you.
How can you tell if a coworker likes you?
At work, It can be hard to tell if a coworker is flirting with you or just being friendly. Usually, guys play it safer at work because he doesn’t want to create any awkward situations if he would be rejected. So, he might be probing to see if you like him before he gives you any clear signs of interest.
Six ways to tell if a coworker likes you:
- He comes over to talk with you as often as possible
- He often teases you
- It seems like he’s flirting, but you’re not really sure
- He tries to hang out near you when possible
- He tries to be funny when he’s near you
- He’s eager to do any work tasks where you work together
- He goes above and beyond to help you out at work
- He gets weird or stiff when he’s near you, but he’s normal with everyone else
How do you know if your best friend likes you?
Here are seven signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend:
- He’s acting differently from how he usually behaves
- He seems jealous or dismissive of other guys you might like
- He’s suddenly extra touchy-feely
- He seems unusually interested in your interests
- He seems extra needy
- He’s told you he has feelings for you
If you’re still unsure, let me know about your situation in the comments below, and I’ll do my best to help.
How do you know for sure if a guy friend is interested?
You can’t know for sure if a cute guy is interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few questions you can ask yourself:
- Is he regularly showing you signs of interest?
- Does he act differently to others than to you? (So he’s not just flirty with everyone.)
- Has he shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
- Can you see any patterns in his behavior toward you?
Are you still unsure if he likes you?
Write down your situation in the comments below in as much detail as possible. That way, others can help you out by giving their opinion. I also expect you to help someone else by replying to their comment. We need to all pitch in and help each other.
I am maybe much older than some who comment, but there’s something that’s been happening with this guy who works in a nearby grocery store. One time he smiled and I said hi. Another time he was talking to some men, and he very strongly and loudly he said hi. The next time I saw him and waved, he acted like I wasn’t there, and I walked away. This last time he saw me and deliberately looked away. I’ve never seen a man act that way. What the heck is going on? Anyone have a clue?
So idk if I’m getting friend-zoned, if he likes me, or if he’s using me? So me and this guy were flirting a lot for a couple days. We met up had a great time, and hugged a couple times 🙂 I was on cloud 9 right… then the next day he asks if we could be friends first. My heart literrally stopped. We continued to talk through it, and from what I understand is he wants to get to know me first, or that’s what he says. I’m afraid that he’s using this as an excuse to use me possibly, by not making it official (because he still acts like he likes me), or if he just wants to slowly slide into a friendship and keep it there. I don’t know. I want to trust him, but I’ve had my bad run of luck with guys, and I’m scared because my heart is already out there, and I don’t know really what to do, or what’s exactly going on… Plz does anyone know what’s going on?
I don’t think he’s trying to use you. It’s fairly common for guys to want to build a friendship first before going into a relationship. It just means he wants to take it slow and see if you’re someone he would enjoy dating. Give it time and be patient with him. Hopefully, he’ll eventually ask you out.
Hi there is a guy at work In a much higher position than me my colleagues have said they think he has a bit of a crush on me but im really useless at reading these things. Hes lovely,kind, and intelligent but because of how different our positions are in the workplace I can’t see how he would be Interested in me? He always gets close when hes talking to me and has made a couple of flirty jokes (well I think they were) I really like him but have no idea how to read this?
Hi I just met a guy he parks his car were I smoke and always says hi then the one day he came up and chat with me but not sure if he likes me
I caught a guy gazing at me and actually I too have crush on him then I saw him in class when I was looking away I could see he was admiring me. Even one of my friend told he that he admires me.i got his num he is actually good in studies so to guide me I took his num from him and the 1st chat was just about subject. Next time was the same then later we chatted out of the box for 3 hrs and we felt connected the next day I wished him gm and he replied gm later then I gave one day gap and next day was his festival I wished him he replied n then I asked are u going to ur home town because he told me earlier in the chats. Then no respond. the day I came to know by one of my friend that he approached him and had a conversation wit him and asked about me where I am going for training to which I hay already told him in privious chats abt my training but still he asked him.i just don’t understand wats going in his head.
And ya actually it was two days before we chatted for 3 hrs he kinda had a eye contact with me with an eyebrow up and a big smile and that just gave my heart a skip beat.
And ya actually it was two days before we chatted for 3 hrs he kinda had a eye contact with me with an eyebrow up and a big smile and that just gave my heart a skip beat.
I just started a new sport and we are both in the same skill (throwing track n field) and he will also try and be by me and listen in on my conversation when i’m talking with someone else. He also stares at me and says bye to me when he leaves. i like him but we are two years apart and idk if he likes me.
When I flirted with him one day, telling him he looks handsome now, but clean shaven looks a lot better on him. He shaved the next day. When I asked him to stop by at my work station more often, and he wasnt able to the next day, he said, “I was busy but I will put more effort in, okay?”, and he did the next day. But then he also said this, “cindy (another female coworker who everyone in the factory are used to seeing him with , even I am. She follows him around like a dog and they’re very close, and she sits with him and his brother on break) likes me and you do too. But in general, I dont care about what she thinks of me. But you make me anxious because I care about what you think about me?. Its confusing. Anxiety is a negative feeling, so I dont know what to think about it. I must also add, he does have a long term girlfriend but from what i hear, even from his own brother when they talk at the break room, he is unhappy in his relationship..
It sounds like he cares what you say, and listens carefully to your input. I have a guy friend who does the exact same thing. However it’s hard sometimes to tell if he is taking in your input (because he trusts you/values your opinion) to impress another girl, or you. If he is in a relationship still, even if he doesn’t seem happy, jus be careful 🙂 I wish ya luck, and it seems like he cares about you and pays close attention to what you say, which is a great sign!!!
I have a tricky situation. It’s with a doctor I work with. We’ve been flirting for years. I was so sure he liked me that I told him and he said he didn’t want ‘that’ kind of relationship so I got the gist and backed off. Months later now, he’s giving me all the signs again if not more. Practically all of the signs on here. He’s constantly saying nice things about me to people in front of me. I can’t approach him again, and potentially be rejected again. He is very shy so it’s all subtle. I really have strong feelings for him though. I don’t know what to do. I know he stalks my social media. I did date someone else for a while and he started acting really strange with me. So confused!!! Helllppppp
So I really really really really like this guy! He is such a gentleman and very considerate. However I am having trouble detecting the difference from if he sees me as a friend or something more? So the couple signs that threw me off a bit, making me think he might like like me also is: he winked at me in the middle of a conversation, after his guy friends left to play his favorite sport he stayed behind with me and a couple other people to play a way less fun game, he has doubled the amount he used to message/snap me, he has beginning to call and sending me videos more frequently, and there are a few others, but I can’t tell if he sees me as a friend or a potential crush as well? I would love to hear any advice on this! I am soooo confused, lol
Whenever I talk about his brother coz that is who I like he just changes the topic he told me he LOVES me one very day to jokingly but I turned him down jokingly too he asked me if I like him a little bit though coz the first time he asked me I was like NO so the second time I said yes as a friend then I forced him to like my best friend he told me liked her a little bit after some days he told me they’re dating now I was happy nd sad to coz I felt like I liked him now nd his brother, yesterday he held my hand when his girlfriend was sitting in the middle of the both of us when she looked we stopped holding hands now I don’t think I can date someone like him for him to hold my hand at my bestfriends back she has been rude to me ever since they started dating his still showing signals of interest but I want to accept coz his brother is dating someone else. So what do u think I should do like him back or ignore the signals it feels so good to get this of my mind I haven’t told anyone yet until now ????
It sounds like he’s always liked you. I’m sorry ur friend is not being super nice to you, but I’m glad you could get this off your chest. If you still really like him, either wait until they break up (if that happens), or just straight up tell him. I don’t think hinting behind your friend’s back is the best way to go. Dang that does seem like a bit of a complicated situation! Hope it all works out! 🙂
He has a flirty personality. But, I can’t tell if he likes me or not. When he’s with his friends he’s really goofy & sometimes playfully kicks me which I don’t know why & then he laughs afterwards. When were together, he sometimes gets quiet & kinda awkward. One time, when he was about to kick me playfully his friend started to laugh & I overheard his friend saying to him “If you actually kicked her, I would make you regret it.” I have no clue why he said that.
So he knows I like him because my sister emailed him and he said he wasnt into that stuff right now. And now a month later, when i say things in our class chat or ask a specific person something he responds and he knows I wasn’t talking to him. And today he actually did his hair for once and i notice he looks at me when i speak or when i make sudden movements his gaze shifts.
There’s this place i work I like this guy, but I don’t know if he likes me back, but everytime he keeps staring at me, sometimes our eyes constantly meet each other, and my friend told me that when am eating he’s looking at me and smiling, but we aren’t that close of friend ,one day he said he likes me but I too short, I add him on Instagram I send him a message by greeting him he view the message but he didn’t reply,
He definitely likes you…
So I just started working out at this new gym and I have the biggest crush on one of the guys who works there. Ever since day 1 he’s been very friendly and helpful, but there’s been times when certain people are around where he will almost avoid me aside from slight eye contact from across the gym. Whenever these people aren’t around he makes it a point to come up and talk to me and he always yells goodbye to me whenever I leave no matter where he is in the gym. Today was my first day back to the gym after taking a week off and he got SO excited to hear that i’d be coming back regularly. He also made it a point to be in my area while I was working out today and as soon as I got off the machine, he came right up to me to chat. HOWEVER, this girl that works there obviously likes this guy too because SHE makes it a point to interrupt our convo’s or at the very least, jump in… I don’t wanna start any gym drama, but this guy is REALLY cute.
I don’t talk to no one In my school(I am a senior). I have no friends, I am a introvert and only talk when spoken to. This one guy i notice caught my attention because he kind of smiled at me once( caught me off guard, boys never give me that type of attention); he did something goofy I guessed and I noticed it. I never look his way but every time I talk around him he stares. I can see him at the corner of my eye but I still don’t look his way because of how nervous I am. Or if I stand up to talk to the teacher at her desk and him and his friends are near the teacher desk they just stare. I am 5’8 (not that tall right?) so I wonder like if there is something wrong with me…makes me feel like a freak!
Hi there! So there is this guy that I have been friends with for around 6 to 7 months. We were introduced by a mutual friend and clicked right away. We used to only spend time with a group but he had a falling out with our mutual friend so he left that group. I stayed in contact with him and we spend almost every day together. We have since found a whole new group of friends. But still spend alone time together. He is out going and kind of flirty with everyone so I never really thought it was anything. Last night he confessed that he only stuck around the other group for me. Which leaves me confused because I dont know if it’s a friendship thing or a I like you thing. When we hang out he always asks if I want to join up with our friends or make it a just the two of us day. Does he like me?
I think he does. It also depends on how he told u that he stayed for you. If it was very serious then its a strong yes. If it was very serious and light hearted then It may be a friend thing. Do you like him is the question.
Hello!
So there is this coworker of mine who often helps people with their physical fitness and so he recently started helping me workout also! So one day when we went to a gym our passed didn’t allow us at that location so he payed for both of our day passes without thinking about it. I told him I would Venmo him and he said he won’t accept it. Then after our workout he said he was going to get food and I said I wanted to go but I had a doc appt. So he offered to wait for me until after my doc appt so I could go with him. And he waited for like 2 hours for me! Then I tried laying for my food and he wouldn’t let me when I said separate. He is super shy but respectful so I can’t tell if he is just being nice! Also, he did ask me when we were leaving what I was doing tomorrow.I told him going to a friends and he said oh, well if you want to workout let me know.
He likes you.
Not sure about that tbh. This is the most confused I’ve ever been. Since then only once did he ask me if I could have a hug when we hung out. And he never texts me first, hardly looks at my instagram posts, barely says anything that is flirty. Only like a couple small compliments. Inly thing he has done so far that is certain is bought me a shirt once cause I said I like those kinds of shirts. Then bought me a beanie because he seen that I wear a lot of beanies. Besides that I get nothing to show he likes me! He hasn’t asked me to go out besides working out. Only once we went to eat after working out. And he told me he buys me this stuff because I work hard and I deserve it. Please let me know what you think now.
I have a crush in who stares at me and when i catch him looking he quickly turns around and pretends to do something else. he also leans in and gets closer but when i try talking to him he acts like he doesn’t like me but i am pretty sure he does because i was talking to another guy and as soon as he saw me he started talking to me so that he would show the guy i was talking to that i was his girlfriend or something. but he also likes this other person but he doesn’t talk to her much anymore
I have a guy he says he like me, it’s been a year but he still says he likes me. We chat on social media but when we cross path, we say ‘hello’ ‘how are you’ and that’s it. Everyone in my class knows he likes me because he, would always make it known that I’m his crush. I do feel insecure becos there are many girls around him and I don’t want to get hurt and also he is a year younger than I am. Pls what do I do, he wants to talk this weekend and I don’t know whether to accept him or not, but I kinda like him. I’m just scared and insecure.
so i have this guy mate we are pretty colse like we always are in the same group at college, and just recently he been closer to me than he was before lockdown happened and he went online, but these last two days that i seen him he been with me more, like yesterday (when im writing this) he was next to me and i noticed he was staring a lot at me and he does like talking to me but today he told me about his situation with his mum and i was listening but he was showing me more emotions than he does show to some of our other mates in the groups, and this morning i was stood leanign against the wall and i looked over and saw him and i looked down because i wasnt sure if it was him but he saw me and went straight over and just gave me a soft smile. when we was waiting for his lesson to start since i didnt have lesson till later that day he was just having a little laugh, and when i was waiting for my other mates, i went and wait for him and he said why dont we just hang about for a bit and while we was waiting i stood near the wall but he leaned against it and he was so close like at least 15cm away from me, and i did look at him a few times but he did look at me a lot, and when we got bored waiting for my other mate we went out and we just laughed and he wanted to show me something he did but couldnt find it, and he passed me something but he placed his hand on mine. and all day today he was always stood or walking next to me, and when i met him and my mates in the park i thought i saw my ex best mate and he said he would go over and like protect me, and i pulled away but i think i did see him smile. but i do feel like its difficult as he just broken up with his ex a couple weeks back but it was like this before they got together like we was always next to eachother or he would always look at me, i dont know what to do show i try and find more clues he does like me, that is if he does.
So I have had an inkling that a Dr I work with (I’m a nurse) is attracted to me for a while, but no biggie, then a couple weeks ago the atmosphere totally changed. He went searching the whole department for me to tell me that a patient I scrubbed in the procedure for had done really well post and he was so ecstatic to find me and tell me. The next day I was in 3 more procedures with him and he was very polite and helpful, cracking jokes and teasing me. Other staff also noticed that he was particularly nice towards me. He also commented on what a nice calm day it had been. I should also point out that he isn’t known for being complimentary or even particularly nice. I also noticed alot of blinking in my direction and at the start of the day it felt really awkward. I couldn’t look at him. The following week I attended a work function and in conversation with someone he brought up multiple times how impressed he was with me in the procedure I did with him that was the start of his behavioural change. I also have had him wait for me to walk by when he didn’t need to or would have walked in front of me normally. I walked into a staff meeting and noticeably he turned to look. And another day we worked together again he was really nice, approachable, looking to crack a joke and tease me, jokingly telling me to go away because he was busy when he wasn’t and giggling. I dunno if I am reading too much into this or not. It’s difficult to compare to workplace scenarios given as they’re always office scenarios and we work very closely together. So we do get all up in each other’s business when scrubbed in procedures. But I have this feeling like there’s something going on and it’s really compounded in the past couple of weeks. Help me work it out!
I apologize in advance; this might be a bit lengthy. I’m a student in my junior year of high school. My best friend and I have known each other for three years. We reallllllly care about each other as besties, but recently he’s been giving me a bunch of mixed signals. I know what I’m about to say may sound strange or stupid but please hear me out, I just want to explain everything as it has happened as factually as possible so I can get an accurate response. We text every single day, for hours on end, and it would appear we never run out of topics to converse about. In the very beginning, me and all of my friends thought he liked me because he’d always come and hang out with me even though he didn’t know me too well, but he has denied ever liking me. Since the coronavirus, we haven’t been able to see each other outside of zoom meetings. We’ve gotten a lot closer during the quarantine as well. Since we couldn’t see each other physically, we had turned to roleplay, which (for those who may not know) is writing out an action that is supposedly being performed, between a pair of asterisks; for example: *hugs* or *hugs her/him*.This would signify that someone is hugging someone else. On that note, we had started off by doing just that; hugging each other. We were in the process of getting closer and roleplay (rp for short) actually boosted our connection. I noticed he seemed to rp hug me a LOT. This went on for a while. We would often have late night conversations as well. One of those nights, he asked if we could rp cuddle. I said yes, because why not. We’d look for gifs to describe what position we’d be cuddling in if it were really happening, and whenever a gif included a kiss (very common in cuddling gifs) we’d tell each other to ignore that part of the gif. Fast forward to now. He has rp kissed me a couple times, and these kisses are beginning to occur more and more often (usually a simple forehead or cheek kiss, but sometimes lips too). I asked him how he felt about rp kissing me, and at first, he at first said he had mixed feelings about it, then said he’d be leaning toward it not meaning very much to him because it was “just us screwing around in rp world”. But, he has made comments about “what if” he were to kiss me irl, and has told me that he genuinely thinks there’s a possibility that he might see me in a romantic way in the future. At the same time, he keeps bringing up another female friend of his who he said he liked as a joke, then when I try to give him advice, he kind of dismisses it and says not to worry about it. So I’m kind of confused. Could anyone tell me what’s going on?
So there’s this boy that’s a fellow coursemate of mine. When we were in 100level, he gave me so much attention but then I wasn’t really interested in him that much and I’m also very awkward socially. At some point, I noticed he suddenly stopped talking to me like before and I actually kind of missed him in a way though. We had a kind of deep conversation and I got to understand why he withdrew from me. Apparently he said that it’s because I was too closed off and all but I kind of told him about how scared I get whenever I’m talking to someone (especially a male because I attended an all girls secondary school). Yeah he understood me and yeah he went back to being his old self around me. He did mention a few times that he liked me but I couldn’t completely trust him because I just feel that nobody can ever like me lol. Then the pandemic came in and we both lost contacts for almost a year.
Good thing we resumed for 200 level now but I think I became worse with my social interaction. I know I was getting better interacting with people but everything just went down the drain after the pandemic.
Well, as usual he tries to talk to me and he also kind of tease me a bit and he’s well aware of it. And I think I’m already having a crush on him. When he still tries to talk with me some of his friends mock him a bit for still going for me after a long time. But I’m not completely sure he’s into me because sometimes when we’re sitting with our other coursemates he does like I’m not around and he doesn’t really put in much effort to spend some alone time with me. But he shows most of the signs mentioned above in the post. He always asks me to drink off my water bottle. The one time I gave him to drink off another bottle, he told me that he prefers drinking off my own. But I also feel like he doesn’t really like me and he’s plan is to basically make me like him and then he’ll gloat about it.
Please what do you guys think about this!!
So there is this guy, we met through friends, about half a year ago. He’s very caring, funny, and has a big heart. We started messaging one another on social media about 4 months ago. And we would message a lot, about random things, and how our day was going. I honestly thought it would stop the next day, but he continued to write good morning almost every day; so the conversations continued. About 1 month into messaging, he messaged me his phone number. So then we started texting, and snapping a descent amount. I go to some of his games, and he comes up and talks to me afterwards each time. If we ever see each other in public, and I apologize thru texts later for not coming up to talk to him (cuz I’m super shy lol)… he switches the entire thing around and he apologizes, making up an excuse on his part to make me feel better. He sends random pictures of animals (which are really cute), or just something cool that happened. He also is always there for me, and wants to help if he figures out anything is wrong; and I’m the same way if the situation is reversed. We are both shy in person. So, I don’t know if it’s just a friendship, which I am totally okay with, or if it’s something more.
So there’s this guy I work with! We started talking a lot at work in the cafe where he usually is in the back of house. We talk about literally anything and everything. A lot of the times he will stay after one of his shifts and talk to me for a good 30 min to sometimes an hour. I catch him looking at me sometimes. I have him on Snapchat and we message here and there. One of my other coworkers told me that she told him that I like him but that was about 4 weeks ago and he never changed the way he is around me. He told my manager he was leaving the country for 2 weeks and he came and told me that he wasn’t quitting but that he was just leaving but he didn’t tell anyone else at work but me. The 2nd day before he was leaving I worked with him and he stayed an hour after his shift and hung out with me and then asked me if was coming to work tomorrow even tho I wasn’t scheduled. So I came in the day before he left and we talked almost the whole night while he was working even tho I wasn’t. Then he left for a different country and has been snapping me pics and messaging me almost the whole time he has been visiting his family. I just don’t know if he likes me or if he’s just being a friendly coworker.
He definitely is into you 🙂 However, there is a chance he could also just be into you as a friend, instead of a crush… but from what you said, it seems like he’s wants to hang out with you a lot, and him showing pictures of his trip is another great sign. Either way, he sounds like a good guy, and I wish you luck! 🙂
So there’s this guy co-worker of mine who is always asking my mom where I am or me where she is and when we talk he forgets his work completely and talks for several minutes with me. He has been sympathizing with me lately when I talk about how short handed my department is ( I work in a casino) he’s a game tech. I clean the machines and he fixes them, anyways he’ll tell me how they are working him more too lately and I think it’s just to make me feel better. When we first met he was the one to approach me and start a conversation complementing me and eventually asking if I was with someone in the conversation. After that he’s been finding me just to ask me how life is going outside work. I offered my phone number the other day but he turned it down by saying ” I don’t know if we can talk on the phone” then looked in my mom’s direction. I think to hint at needing her approvement since he’s 14yrs older than me. What do you think? Does he have a strong attraction and just too shy to admit it being that he’s that much older?
So there is this guy I call Z in my club. I am in Anime/Manga club. First Wednesday: He talks and says hello to me.Seems really friendly. Second Wednesday: Asks me what grade I am in and when I tell him he slaps my back in a friendly way saying “Yeah man!” he is a grade above me. Next I don’t remember what we were talking about but he high fives me but then shakes my hand and holds it just less then a second after finished shaking. Threw out the club time he asked me if I knew certain games and most of them I said yes to. He then speaks to me the most and making eye contact with me the most. Encouraging me to try this game that I know I will fail at ;-;’ even when I told him he still tried to get me to play. Made a lot of joke with me. Know that I think about it. He only asked me question except about two. And those questions mainly were about myself. He was really into our game themed conversations so was I. The following week we would see each other a lot around the school he always smiles and says “Hi man” he doesn’t know my name still. And when we went to RAVE class there were class changes the year I was in didn’t know about. He made eye contact and told me they were having humanities in this class and explained everything to me while maintaining mostly eye contact. This boy though is known for his kindness around the school he is the only boy who doesn’t act rude and not sporty like the others. I can’t tell if he likes me or just is being nice to me trying to make a new friendship. I have been doing research for a bit because he is the first boy to do this to me. Most ignore me and all that. It puts me under stress. I just want to know why he is the only nice guy to me. (Besides two of my friends which one is transgender and the other I have known for a while.)
First I was in a ten year relationship married and so forth I thought I gave him everything but he came out to be an alcoholic and a druggy he cheated on me 3 times that story long and gone now I have this friend we have alote in common and he likes alot of things I like food, movies ect. Were going on 4months he calls me every day to see if I’m k if I have eaten , hes sent me videos of my favorite characters one day out of the blue he said hes told his family about me my family already knows him when he comes over hes so quite and just listens to us which I think is weird and than he starts to get close to me and asks me if I can give him a massage on his back which I’m k with he has no car he dont drive but works he texts me everyday to good morning and good night how I’m I doing did you eat I take him places like to the bank , store and other things he needs to do I dont mind I love to drive we have had you know right and I think hes falling in love with me but I’m not ready to be hurt again I dont know what I feel I know hes there when I need him on anything if hes not working but I’m just not ready but dont want to scare him away because of my trust issues and being hurt oh i forgot when I take him places he always brings something for me and nothing for himself I’m so confused about this but dont want to hurt him because hes been hurt almost the same way he talks about his past hes even cried with me please give a comment about this I really dont feel anything or maybe I do I just confused alot to think about
Sincerely
Dreamchild74
Okay so there’s this guy at the gym, let’s call him Mark. I never really noticed him until one day I worked out with my sister and guy friend and Mark approached us to give our guy friend some tips. From there, we found out we were both from the same country so we started sharing stories and what not.
Mark is very introverted, he doesn’t really talk to a lot of people at the gym, but he does talk to me, whenever he’s done working out, he approaches me and tells me he’s headed home, usually that ends up in a 45min conversation.
A few weeks ago he mentioned that he wanted to workout together but he said “your workouts look hard, you do a lot of things I don’t, so I gotta get in shape first”. To which I replied “haha let’s just do it, it’ll be fun, for me at least” he insisted on me being “stronger than him” (which is definitely not true).
He’s also has said things like “let’s go to my moms house, you should try her food” or “when I meet you dad…”
Most of the time I try to play it cool whenever he says things like that.
My question is…is he interested?!? He hasn’t asked me to workout together again, and he hasn’t asked for my number or anything. I have made it clear that I hate social media and what not, so I don’t know if that’s what’s holding him back, or maybe he’s just shy or he simply doesn’t like me. HELP! What should I do? Should I just try and mention the whole “working out together” thing, or should I wait?!?
This guy and I have been so close for so long and I would consider him my best guy friend at the moment. We met during my freshman, his sophomore year of college. But we didn’t end up getting super close until my junior, his senior year of college. He randomly followed me on Twitter after seeing me at the rec center on campus and I decided to DM him. What I thought was going to be a couple messages back and forth, ended up turning into great convo. I’m talking high energy, double and triple texts and then he gave me HIS number and we continued to text. I couldn’t believe it. From there, our friendship continued to grow. We would hang out in groups or one on one. Four or five hours would pass by and it would seem like 15 minutes. We never ran out of topics to talk about and he was always so worried about finding new convo topics to talk about. But not with me. Over the past 6 months, I especially noticed what I thought was a change in the way we were interacting. It was getting to the point where we were talking just about every other day. We started to FaceTime, snapchat, communicating literally on every form of social media. He was the person I would go to whenever things were going good or bad and he was always there to talk and provide me reassurance. He always went out of his way to do the small things for me too. He would pay for my meals when I wouldn’t even ask. He would open the door for me, remember the smallest details of the dumbest things that I told him, offer to help me with things, send me motivational tweets when I had a bad day, and so many other small things. There were times where I would catch him looking at me out of the corner of my eye but I always convinced myself I was seeing things. When we would hang out in person, we would always hug before parting ways and I swear there were times when I felt some sexual tension between us, even if it was slight. I also felt like there were times when he was flirting with me. Well, cut to the beginning of January, and I finally decided to ask him if he could see us being anything more than friends. He said no and I was confused. I thought that I had read the situation between him and I correctly but apparently, I couldn’t have been any further off. But yet, nothing has changed after he said that. He still reaches out, we still FaceTime, nothing has changed and yet there’s still times that I feel like he’s flirting with me. Maybe my social skills are just so far off it’s not even funny, I have no clue at this point. I just had so many people say that a guy that was just a friend to me wouldn’t have put in as much effort as he has. I thought the same thing but apparently he is just a nice guy and we just vibe so so so well but will never date. It makes me sad because it could work; and it could work sooooo well between us. It makes me wonder what I did wrong and if maybe the only reason he doesn’t want to date me is because he doesn’t think I’m pretty. Because we get along super well and he does enjoy when we hang out and I know he cares about me. It’s just so confusing.
He may also be really really afraid of losing you if he makes a move. I don’t think you’re misinterpreting his signals. Him saying no doesn’t really tell much if he’s afraid of making a move.
The alternative is that he sees you as his best friend. Does seem a bit unlikely though.