How do you know if a guy likes you? He may be acting friendly and flirty towards you, but how can you know if that’s just his personality? You want to know if he has a crush on you rather than just being someone who hits on every other woman he meets.
It can be pretty hard to figure out if the attention a guy is giving you is genuine. Hopefully, this guide can give you some clarity.
Sections
- Signs a guy likes you
- How can you tell if a coworker likes you?
- Does your best friend like you?
- How to be sure whether or not a guy friend likes you
38 signs a guy likes you
When a guy has a crush on you, his behavior towards you will usually change. However, it can be difficult to figure out. He may be acting nervous because he’s shy or flirty because he’s friendly and outgoing.
Here are the best signs to help you tell if a guy has a crush on you or not.
1. He stares at you
You probably know how hard it is not to look at someone you like. Prolonged eye contact without talking is a big tell that a guy likes you.
But to be fair, it’s common for guys to stare at any girl they find attractive. And it’s an easy way for him to show his interest without having to approach you. But who knows, he might even have a secret crush on you.
2. He mirrors you
Mirroring means that his body language, posture, or even what he’s saying reflects what you said or did.
Examples of mirroring:
- When you take a sip of your glass, he also takes a sip of his glass
- When you cross your legs, he crosses his legs
- When you get very animated/passionate in a conversation, he also gets animated
- When you lean in, he also leans in
- When you laugh, he laughs
Note that mirroring is done subconsciously when he has a good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if he wants to impress or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.
3. He added you on social media
Adding you on social media means he wants to keep in contact with you and might be interested in you. This is also good because now you can more easily start a conversation with him online.
4. His texts are longer than yours
If his texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.
If he usually gives short answers compared to you, that’s a bad sign. When you’re giving him long replies but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager.
In that case, it’s good to step back a bit and try to match him better. Keep in mind that some people are naturally better at others at texting.
5. He teases you
Most forms of teasing (even mean teasing) are usually a sign he’s interested in you. It means he’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that he wants a reaction from you.
Have fun with it, and don’t be afraid to tease him back! 😉
6. He’s leaning in
If he’s leaning in toward you, that shows he wants to get closer to you (or he’s really passionate about what he’s saying). When a guy has a crush on you, it can feel like he’s magnetically drawn to you.
7. He’s getting physically close to you
If you’re in a conversation and you feel like he’s edging closer to you, or as if he’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. He may be attracted to you and wants to feel physically and mentally closer to you.
Note that different cultures have different “personal spaces.” So, if he’s from a different culture than you, see how close he gets to others to see if it’s just you.
8. He offers you a massage
This is one of the most obvious tells that a guy likes you. Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a guy to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer him one back if you like him!)
9. He smiles at you
If he’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach him. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home.)
If he’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign he likes you. Especially if he has a light smile while you’re not even joking.
10. He’s giving you mixed signals
Mixed signals are really tricky to interpret and can make anyone confused. But in most cases, they do mean he’s interested in you. Here are the most common reasons why he’s giving you mixed and confusing signals.
Nine reasons why he’s giving you mixed signals:
- He doesn’t want to come off as too eager
- He’s shy
- He’s nervous and insecure
- He’s afraid of seeming desperate
- He’s afraid you’ll reject him
- He’s inexperienced in flirting
- He’s following some weird rules or pick-up tips he’s read
- He’s just flirting with you (because flirting is all about giving mixed signals)
- He likes the attention or validation he gets from you but isn’t really interested in you
Giving mixed signals may mean a guy likes you, but it doesn’t mean he’d make a good partner. If someone sometimes ignores you or is mean to you, you should avoid dating even if you have a mutual crush on each other. You deserve a partner who won’t have you second-guessing yourself.
11. He compliments you
Getting a compliment from a guy your age is a good sign. If he’s giving you compliments about how pretty you are, it’s an even better sign.
It can be hard to tell a friendly compliment from a romantic one because they can sound exactly the same. To know for sure, look for other signs he’s also giving you or describe your situation in the comments below.
12. His pupils are large
If his pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.
13. He makes eye contact with you
When a guy has a crush on you, it can be so hard for him to keep his eyes off of you. You can notice this if he’s holding eye contact with you for slightly too long.
It can almost feel a little weird or intense when it happens. And that’s great (if you like him).
14. He looks at you with open body language
This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example, at a bar or a club.
If he’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that’s a sign he’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you he wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.
15. He straightens his posture
Is he straightening his back and standing up more straight? It means he’s a bit self-conscious when hanging out near you and wants to make a good impression.
It’s not a strong sign because most single guys want to make a good impression on attractive girls. But if you see it together with many other signs, it means more.
16. He faces you in group situations
If he’s facing you more often than he’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign he’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not the one talking the most in the group.
17. His feet are pointing towards you
If his feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if his body is facing you. He’s subconsciously focused on you, which makes his feet point toward you.
18. He fiddles with his clothes or accessories
This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because he wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.
19. His palms face you
If the palms of his hands are pointed in your direction, he might be interested in you. It’s a small sign, but it’s still positive because it’s part of his open and welcoming body language toward you.
20. He touches you when you touch him
For example, if you touch his arm, does he touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If he does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign.
If he’s shy or inexperienced, he might not feel comfortable touching you back, even if he has a crush on you.
21. He is extra touchy with you
A good tell he likes you is if he’s touching you unusually much compared to others.
Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if he touches those.
22. You have “peripheral physical contact”
Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.
A good example is when you’re both sitting down, and your thighs barely touch each other.
This kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of suspense and attraction. It’s the best feeling being close to someone you got a crush on.
23. He gives you more of his attention than others
The more attention he gives you, the more interested he usually is in you. Compare this to how much attention he gives to other girls also hanging out with him or in the same group as you.
For example, If you’re in a group and he seems to direct most of his attention toward you. It could be that he’s asking you lots of questions or that he’s laughing more than others at your jokes. Or just listening more intently to you.
24. He blushes when you talk or make eye-contact
He might just be shy, but he’s probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because he likes you. This makes him blush around you.
Social anxiety can also cause blushing. But it’s still a great sign.
25. He seems to look in your direction from far away
Guys can be a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. And if he has sunglasses, it’s even harder to know if he’s checking you out.
So if he’s looking in your direction, especially if he does it several times, he’s probably checking you out.
26. He keeps the conversation going
What happens when there’s a pause in the conversation or if you stop talking? If he seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If he lets the conversation die out or excuses himself, he may not be that interested (unless he’s just shy).
If you have problems with the conversation dying out, check out this guide on keeping the conversation going with a guy.
27. He quickly replies when you text or message him
A quick reply is a good sign he likes you. Also, if he replies with several texts to your one text, that’s even better.
However, if he likes you, he may also delay his replies to avoid seeming needy or desperate. But as long as he replies, it’s all good. If he’s slow to reply, it could just mean he’s busy, or he doesn’t like texting, so don’t read too much into it.
28. He texts or calls first
Is he the one initiating contact, or are you? If he is, that probably means he’s interested in you.
But if he never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if he will take initiative. If you’re always so quick to take initiative, he might never even have a chance to do it first.
29. He texts you often
Compare this to how often you text him. He’s eager if he’s texting more often than you, and you’re more eager if you’re the one texting more often. If he’s sending you several texts in a row without a reply, it’s a stronger sign.
30. He becomes awkward in a conversation with you
Does he stammer, stutter, or otherwise become awkward with you? This could mean that he feels shy or self-conscious around you. When a guy likes you, it’s common that he gets a bit extra flustered when talking to you. That’s because he gets uncomfortable and doesn’t want to mess up in front of you. It’s kind of cute, isn’t it?
31. He doesn’t back off if you get a bit too close
If he doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to his personal space, that’s a sign he wants you close to him.
If you take a step closer, and he backs off by a step, that’s a sign he’s a bit more reserved toward you.
32. He talks about things he wants to do with you
Planning or mentioning things he wants to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.
Example: If you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!”
33. He’s happy to discover you have something in common
If he’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, such as you living in the same part of town, being the same age, or you both like pizza. For more tips, check out this guide on how to talk to a guy you like.
Example: You discover that you both grew up in the same city, and he gets really excited about it even if it’s no big deal.
34. He asks you personal questions
Personal questions are telling you that he wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more he asks, the better.
Example: Asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or your favorite food.
35. He asks you about your plans
Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be him trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if he brings it up near the end of the conversation.
36. He tries to make you jealous
This is a strong sign he’s interested in you. But it’s also a sign he’s emotionally immature and manipulative. I would avoid someone acting like that. You deserve to be treated with respect.
37. He’s told his family about you
This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I think it’s worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if he’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.
If he’s told his family, it means he is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!
38. He stays to talk with you even though his friends have left
This is a big tell. If you’re in some sort of group conversation with him and his friends, and all his friends leave, but he stays – he’s probably into you. It still might not be a romantic interest if you just have a great conversation and have lots in common.
An example could be when you’re at a party, and all his friends leave to get a bite to eat, but he stays with you.
How can you tell if a coworker likes you?
At work, It can be hard to tell if a coworker is flirting with you or just being friendly. Usually, guys play it safer at work because he doesn’t want to create any awkward situations if he would be rejected. So, he might be probing to see if you like him before he gives you any clear signs of interest.
Six ways to tell if a coworker likes you:
- He comes over to talk with you as often as possible
- He often teases you
- It seems like he’s flirting, but you’re not really sure
- He tries to hang out near you when possible
- He tries to be funny when he’s near you
- He’s eager to do any work tasks where you work together
- He goes above and beyond to help you out at work
- He gets weird or stiff when he’s near you, but he’s normal with everyone else
How do you know if your best friend likes you?
Here are seven signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend:
- He’s acting differently from how he usually behaves
- He seems jealous or dismissive of other guys you might like
- He’s suddenly extra touchy-feely
- He seems unusually interested in your interests
- He seems extra needy
- He’s told you he has feelings for you
If you’re still unsure, let me know about your situation in the comments below, and I’ll do my best to help.
How do you know for sure if a guy friend is interested?
You can’t know for sure if a cute guy is interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few questions you can ask yourself:
- Is he regularly showing you signs of interest?
- Does he act differently to others than to you? (So he’s not just flirty with everyone.)
- Has he shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
- Can you see any patterns in his behavior toward you?
Are you still unsure if he likes you?
Write down your situation in the comments below in as much detail as possible. That way, others can help you out by giving their opinion. I also expect you to help someone else by replying to their comment. We need to all pitch in and help each other.
So, to the author of this helpful article, when you see this please read it and help me if you can!!! 😀
I appreciate your work in this field. I know it is complicated and takes a lot of patience. Thank you! We all are glad that you posted this!
Now, for my problem. It’s about this guy that I go to school with. We have known each other for about 2 years, but it feels like a lot longer, to be honest. We are in a small community where all the families are close, and our younger siblings are besties :). I’m friends with his older sister, too, and my mom and his mom are pretty good friends. So I just wanted to include that in case it’s helpful! Anyway we have one class per grade (see, pretty tiny!) And our class is real close with each other, so as you can imagine, word spreads super quickly. I’m the popular girl and they all love me 🙂 which makes me super happy! I love my friends, they’re like family to me, and I love people! I’m also outgoing and confident and love, love, love laughing, just to put that out there. And this guy… Well…. He is much quieter than me. And he can be grumpy and bossy. But he’s a good person! So, yes, I do like him. As in, a LOTTTT! And here’s where I need some reassurance….
Well last year was easy- I talked to him ofc because well, our entire class hangs out together, but I didn’t pay a TONNN of attention to him. Around last January we were in class and I did something stupid, and – Well ok, he is not a very smiley person. But when I did that, he smiled at me! And it wasnt just a laughing smile, it was actually sweet :)))) . So that got me thinking that he likes me, and I realized that I had always liked him. When I told my friends they were all for it and loved us together! We totally thought he loved me!
THen… Well, a couple of weeks ago he told some people that he doesn’t DISlike me… It’s just that he doesn’t like that I like him, that it’s annoying. Then I texted him about it and told him I knew what he said and kinda laughed about it… He didn’t respond so I finally texted him (saying “I don’t actually like you that was a misunderstanding, my friends were just making stuff up XD” not because I care if her knows or thinks it’s annoying but I’m doing it to see if he really likes me- I’ve also realized that I’ve been too easy to get so I’m intending to fix that!) DAYS LATER! so I think he might have felt bad, my friends agree.
The weird thing is, I have looked up every possible hint out there about whether a guy likes you or not and practically every one applies to him! He pays attention to me, when we text he asks me these… RANDOM questions that are just really obvious… He stared /smiles at me 24/7… My friend saw him (when they were talking about me) smile at me, like an EXTREMELY sweet smile… And when the other girls are talking and giggling in class he tells them to shut up and pay attention, but when it’s me he will usually kind of laugh and smile and just not say a thing!also when my friend asked him if he liked me he said “goodbye” , then walked away, smiling and blushing! Stuff like that!
And— AND!- HE EVEN told his older sister that he likes me and he said “don’t tell her yet” ( would you mind telling me what THAT’S supposed to mean?? Don’t tell her… YET? uhh) to be fair that was a few months ago, but I fail to see how his feelings could have changed so quickly.
His best friend is also close with my best friend (they like each other – isn’t it just perfect??!!) And he said that the guy who I like wants to talk to me but he’s worried I’ll be judgemental of him (December 2020), wants to text me but is worried he will sound sarcastic (January 2021), is “kinda” sad that I “don’t talk to him anymore” ( but that was quite a while ago). Yes, so there is a ton of evidence! And yet he literally said he thinks it’s annoying that I like him! I haven’t actually seen him since before then because his family has been sick for like a month, so I’m kinda lost now. It’s hard to tell how he feels this way!
For anyone who sees this- not just the author of this article but anyone who maybe has advice or wants to help me- please let me know what your input is! Does he like me or does he not?? Furthermore what should I do?I’ll keep y’all posted! 🙂
Thanks and have a great day! =^._.^=
I’ve known this guy for only about 4 weeks, we have so much in common and I like him he’s aware that I like him and I feel as he drops hints that he likes me but also says things that make me question it, like he calls me nicknames like bam bam and honey bun but just the other day he started calling me princess, I was surprised and asked someone who knows him if he’s ever called someone that before and they said no, he can be flirtatious and really tries to get to know me, he’s also always there for me and can somehow sense when something isn’t right with me, however he says things like, he’s not a good guy and I deserve better, he says that he doesn’t like anyone, and says he wants to find me someone better then him, when I said if you don’t like me just come out and say it and asked if I was right about him not like me he said no but the convo ended there as we both went to bed, I’ve told him before I wouldn’t give up on him unless he can tell me he doesn’t like me in that way but he responded with, i wouldn’t be telling the truth. I’m confused as to if he really likes me and is trying to push me away out of fear or if he’s just worried he’ll lose me and ruin things between us
Awww!!! Girl he does like you! What I think is that he seriously loves you but doesn’t think he is good enough – THAT’S why he wants you to be with someone who he thinks might be more worthy of you, because he thinks you’re amazing! Firstly, embrace that! Be happy that you’ve found a guy who truly likes you in that way.if you go into a serious relationship, then you should have no dedication problems ;). I believe what you need to do is determine just how you feel. Maybe you have spent a lot of time wondering how he feels, but why about you? I know that you LIKE him, but how much? If you want to be with him then come out and say it! Because both of you clearly like each other!
And yet, and yet… What will he do? Well. If you tell him that he is the only one who will make you happy (which is why I’m saying, think a lot about how you feel so you can be sure this is truthful) then he will probably then want to be in a relationship with you because it looks as if he JUST wants you to be happy! 🙂
If you want my input on the two of you, it’s so cute!!!I think you are a good match from what you’ve said. If he can detect your feelings so easily, you are definitely compatible and will be able to work well together. And I love how he calls you all these nicknames!! aww! I love it when it’s obvious that one guy sees you as someone special! And another thing. You haven’t known each other for long at all, and yet you have made so much progress! Not only is that impressive, but I would also like to point out that it’s a major sign! You guys should get married XD no joke!!! It sounds like you are an instant match!
I’ve learned that guys do struggle with self worth feelings and all that, which must be what yours is going through. You need to help him through that, and the best way to do that is to show him that he is appreciated and loved. Give him compliments, too! They mean a LOT more to guys than we can imagine.And also, give him chances to help you out in several ways. Men love being the “providers” , so by allowing him to “provide” for you he will feel needed and worthy of being loved by you! Just encourage him! You know, it sounds like you guys have a lot of potential and he seems super sweet and adoring toward you! Let me know what you think and keep me updated! 😀
So I’ve known this guys for the better half of a year, we’re only about 4 years apart in age, he’s really busy and seems like he gets overwhelmed easy. He got distant a bit ago and it was confusing as I’ve stayed the night multiple times, nothing sexual happened, we haven’t even kissed, but we cuddle and he holds me close and tight and plays with my hair and does cute little caresses. He calls me hun and babe, and he never goes more than 2 days without responding. I’m so confused by the difference of in-person interaction and over text, when he said he knew he’d been distant recently he apologized a lot and I know he’s trying because before he’d just leave me on read for days but watch my Snapchat story. I definitely like him, like a lot but I’m confused. I can’t tell if he’s shy and busy or if he’s just being a friend???
I really like this guy. We have never talked. But, I always catch him staring at me. He doesn’t even look away when we make direct eye contact. He always talks to my (ex best friend) because he doesn’t know we aren’t friends anymore, because her and I talk and are on friendly terms. Anytime I move somewhere he does to, or he and his group will always stand near me, or he will walk back and forth past me. There have been a few times where I’ve caught he and his group of friends staring at me. Anytime we walk past each other, I get a weird feeling(not a bad one though). We both have mutual friends on social media, but we don’t follow each other. I’m more quiet and introverted and a have about 60 something followers, he is more outgoing and has lot’s of people following him. I see signs that he make like me, like the following me around, or continuously passing by, and, talking to my ex best friend. My ex best friend is always trying to get me to talk to him to. Even for little things. Or if we are all talking in a group, so it’s us, my ex bestie and her friend, occasionally another girl, he’ll talk to all of them, but me. So maybe that’s nervousness? But then I see the types of girls he follows and the types of girls who follow him, and they are WAY different from me… maybe I’m different ??????? But maybe I’m just reading to much into it, maybe he doesn’t like me. I overthink in both sides(he does he doesn’t he does he doesn’t). It’s a constant debate with myself, I have reasons why he may, and reasons why he won’t. Help please?!
So I have a guy friend that I’m close to and usually in the past it’s chill when we hang out but for the past few times we went drinking with other friends I noticed that he kept trying to hug me for no reason often. Often brushed it off as nothing or maybe he had a hard day and wanted some hugs from a friend but a few days ago when we drank and watched movies at my place he kept trying to hold my hand and was continuously hugging me, massaging my shoulders, poking the fat rolls on my stomach and my face. This sounds stupid but do guy friends usually do this to be friendly or am I going crazy??
Well theres definitely something going on there it feels like hes wants to be more than friends but afraid the friends will change and he doesn’t want to lose you as a friend
Guy at work constantly stares at me when we talk, is always near when im on lunchbreak, gets jealous when guys talk to me and he comes over, doesn’t like it when others help me. Asks what tv shows I like, aaked where I live.asked what my plans were for the night.( Watching tv cause of lockdown.) Starts random conversations about anything. Told me his single.sais he likes me.but I don’t know if it’s true ds or more. Never offered me a lift home or added me on Facebook. Is he interested or just a creep?
Ima guy on here looking for what signals to give off lol. But i dont think he is a creep he is just interested in you and shy or has low self esteem.
Well it sounds like he just wants to get your pants that’s what I feel and watch out he might be a stacker
I like a guy he likes me but hasn’t approached yet but something happened he is in his brothers place do u think he is going to fall for someone else
Well u didnt say alot of what he does at his brothers house and who he might be with so if u can give more detail it would help alot more
So I have an coworker I’m interested in and i have a gut feeling he likes but I’m still unsure. I catch him glancing at me every few minutes and I kept my glance a little longer and he looked back at me cuz he was walking away to hang parts. When we talk he seems to be comfortable with me. He always is facing towards me and looking into my eyes. He was trying to show off to me. When we text he gives me emojis like the heart ❤️ and the happy blush????. He would ask questions about my pets and why I couldn’t eat pizza. He offers to buy me food everytime he orders something to be delivered. When I’m talking to my coworkers he will stand next to me and but into the conversation. So I don’t know what to think I’m scared to ask help me figure this out TIA!
ok marie after reading ur comment ur problem does seem interesting… its quite obvious he likes u. as a boy i have a lot of friends who r girls and boys…sometimes the friends that r boys will get jelous if other woman or girls r talking to me and will try to one-up me. all u gatta do is keep watching for the signs and u should be great. Good Luck!!
He likes, run with it
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So I work with this guy and we’ve spoken a few times he’s always friendly, asks questions about me and my life smiles and looks at me all the time but recently he stopped saying hi. I said good morning after his colleague said hi and he just looked straight through me and later that day he walked straight passed even though he looked at me and my attitude is why should I say hi when he’s giving mixed signals. Sometimes I think he’s lovely and now I feel upset and confused. What’s going on? Am I wrong to not make an effort after being ignored? He always looks over but now he won’t make any effort. I know I shouldn’t feel bothered but I was enjoying our chats.
ok so if anyone can help me out that would b great cause he makes it obvious but I dont know if its that he likes me or doesnt like me .So he does stare at me alot but from afar so I cant tell if hes smiling or blushing but my mom noticed him staring and he was pointing at me when he was talking to his brother I havent seen him in like 3 or 4 month and I feel like he doesnt like me anymore but he still gets in my head I cant stop thinking of him .And Im sure most people have seen does tiktoks that said that if you think of someone like they just randomly pop up in your head its because they wheir thinking of you first .And the one that says if you cant sleep and your thinking of that one person its because your awake in their dream or the one that says if you dream of that one person your in love .Its weird to me that those things actually happend to me towards him .Well its not weird its just like have yall heard that tiktok sound that goes “No me vuelvo a enamorar!..Ya ni les cuento ya seben lo que paso” lmao that one .That was litterally what I said to my bsf lmao.BUT LOOK WHAT HAPPEND I FELL IN LOVE AND I HAVE GOT ALOT OF SIGNS HE DID TOO .But hes shy tho hehe.So am I ????.My friends keep telling me to ask him to be friends but I cant cause first of all Im pretty from a distense ????,Second of all I know Im not the only one who is like this but when you first try to talk to some1 your shy and then after you get to know them your so wild lmao,Third of all Im scared/nervous/shy so like ehm help plz????????????
Ok so usually its not polite to ask how old a woman is. i read what u posted so how old r u? i think i can help u out
Ok. first things first. i am a boy and i feel like it dosent matter wether the guy likes u or not. and im ganna say this. if us boys do stupid things for girls then we like u…….at least i think. also another way to tell is if it gets akward witch will happen alot. also us boys may change our personalities/the way we look etc. just for girls. so just saying that coming straight from a boy who happens to be single. lmao
Okay commenting on a public website is a first for me but I’m too embarrassed to ask anybody I know what they think about my situation.
About 2 months ago I started a new part-time job in a grocery store. I am in my mid-40s, single mom, very friendly and outgoing like to make people laugh talk to any and everybody
I work in the front of the store. There’s a guy that kind of caught my eye that works in another department of the store (a part of the store where he’s kind of closed off from everybody except for one female co-worker friend of his). He seemed kind of shy at first but several times when coming to me to pay for something He was buying for a snack or lunch He engaged in casual small talk, I just assumed being friendly because I was the new girl.
Because of bad past relationships and some pretty bad situations I swore off all men about 3 years ago so I’m way out of practice and out of of touch with my intuition. God convinced myself that I could live the rest of my life without a man and be just fine. However I must admit that about two weeks after starting work there he kind of caught my eye in a different way? Can’t say why other than he just seems like a really genuine and kind person, not just to me but everybody.
Last weekend I was at work right after the store opened up and there weren’t any customers. He came up to the front of the store in my line to pay for something and we started a conversation and ended up talking about different hobbies we had and found out we had a common interest in reading and a few other things. We joked back and forth a little bit and I found out we actually have a lot in common even though he’s a good bit younger than me.
Later that day I walked to the back of the store and the female coworker that he’s friends with outside of work came up and was talking to me. There was something particular that I wanted to purchase and she said that he would probably be willing to go to the trouble of making it for me. I told her I didn’t want to bother him or ask a favor since I didn’t know him on a personal level. She said “I’m sure he’ll gladly do it because he found you on Instagram earlier today, started following you, and has been looking at your pictures and videos ever since” ???? My initial thought was maybe he’s interested? But I decided to play it cool lol When I got home that day I went on Instagram and started following him too but didn’t like any posts or anything like that.
A couple of days later on my day off I went up to get my paycheck and the female coworker was sitting down eating lunch and called me over to sit down with her. He was sitting a couple of tables over with some of the guys we work with and after a few minutes got up and walked over to our table and just kind of stood there but didn’t say anything for a few minutes until I brought him into the conversation. He’s an artist and he heard me telling her about my daughter taking art classes and he asked to see some of my daughter’s work. He was very complimentary of her art and told me to be sure and tell her he said so.
Fast forward to yesterday. When I told my daughter that a new friend at work was also an artist and complimented her work She asked me to show him a new piece she had done and get his thoughts. I sent him a direct message on Instagram explaining what she wanted me to ask him and sent him the picture. He answered her question and again complimented her art but then he gave me his phone number and said for me to message him that way instead because he preferred to talk and he doesn’t always notice when he gets direct messages in a timely manner on social media to be able to respond to them. Again I thought that was a good sign
So instead of replying to him on social media I used his phone number and sent him a text saying that was my number and I wasn’t good at checking my social media messages either so I understood.
Anywho I say all of that in great detail because I’m curious to know what y’all think. Do you think he could be interested in me or do you think he’s just being nice and maybe just wants a new friend?…. He has liked two or three of the pictures I’ve posted since we started following each other But that could just be being polite also.
When I texted him to let him know I got his number, and really to give him mine also, We chatted back and forth about really basic things But he wasn’t overly talkative. I did find out later that just my luck he was on a blind date that the female coworker had set him up on when I messaged him. He responded to it several hours later but did apologize for the late response because he said he was out with a couple of friends.
I know I’m overthinking this because I overthink everything but he does genuinely seem like a nice guy and if he is a little bit interested I just want to be sure and reciprocate the right way and not run him off or seem uninterested. However the worst thing I could do is make the wrong assumption and then things could be awkward at work.
FYI,…Not sure if age would make a difference in your advice or not but I’m a young looking and acting 47-year-old and he’s only 32 but very mature emotionally and calls himself in the old soul
Honestly, I think he is considering you in a more than friend way. What I would do is act to him like he acts to you and hang out with him a lot, but not too clingy, so he thinks about you a lot. Sometimes relationships go slow to I would give it some time and not force anything to happen too quickly.
So there’s this guy I kind of work with, he’s a delivery driver for the place I work so I only see him once a week. He always makes it a point to get my attention in some way by either talking to me, scaring me, pretending like he’s going to throw stuff at me, sticks his tongue out at me just really playful or teasing. If he’s walking by where I’m at we always make some form of eye contact sometimes with a smile and sometimes even like a grumpy face haha. I feel like he likes me buuut I’ve had a crush on him from the moment I laid eyes on him so I don’t know if I’m just reading too much into it because I’m hoping he likes me too. Would love some insight.
It was my first day of freshman year, and I did not know anybody. Hello my name is Ruby, I am 16 years old. I didn’t had that many friends. But I do have is a family and 1 best friend. In the very first few weeks, my biology teacher made me sit next to a boy. His name was alejandro. He is hispanic & I am hispanic too, I have never seen him before. Anyways, Weeks later Alejandro asked me if I was dating this boy named “orlando”. I did not know who “Orlando” was so I then replied with: “no, I don’t know him”. He then laugh and thought that I was lying. I was then confused cause why would he asked me that? I been single my entire years. I haven’t even got my very first kiss. Back to the story: Weeks later, I realized that this boy named “orlando” was in my math class. He is hispanic also, he talks a lot. I have been keeping an eye on him an it looks like he has a crush on me. But I don’t know yet so let’s not get in conclusions. I also don’t like him that way. Weeks later in my biology class, Alejandro started to firlt with me. He kept his body facing my direction, he kept eye contact with me without looking away, he once took a photo of me. He also said my name in a deeper voice, probably just to get my attention. I then fall for him a little. Weeks later, alejandro touched my hand, bump my shoulder, asked me to let him use my pencil, tries to find any ways to sit next to me, grabbed my paper and looked at it, stares at me even more, makes funny jokes for the class to laugh, and even plays his favorite song on his computer and asked me if that song was good. I started to fall for alejandro even more, I smile at him, had a crush on him, had feelings for him, had dreams of him. And even make fake scenarios of me and him. I don’t even talk to him cause I am really shy, but I am really down to be his friend to know him even more but I don’t know how. That would be awkward of him filrting with me and me having a crush on him and be his friend. Anyways, weeks later I stalked him on social media. I search his name and everything. That thing that hurt me was that he had a GIRLFRIEND. I started to think that he just did all that cause he was bored. I mean he makes the whole class laugh and I always laugh at his silly funny jokes. I smile at him and look away cause I am shy. The teachers even like him, I heard that the teachers said that he was a good kid, a good student, just an innocent person. And that’s my type, no drugs, no smoking, just a great kind person. I mean not gonna lie, he seem very friendly, and a great friend. Anyways back to the storyyy: when I realized that he had a GIRLFRIEND, my heart dropped. I don’t understand when guys firlt while they are on a relationship. If alejandro was a good person then why would he do that? Why would he have a girlfriend and firlt behind her back then me thinking something of else. Anyway, His girlfriend was Melissa. I know her, she is friends with someone I am friends with. So Melissa is kind, she is in my math class with “Orlando”. She once helped me copy her work. But she sometimes jokes around and laugh at her own jokes. She is a good person I guess. So when I realized that Alejandro had a girlfriend I started to have these thoughts and that’s where the CONFUSION starts! That’s why I am here, to see if he likes me or Not! It then got weird cause they both have Instagram and Facebook. But they were NOT following each other, or even commenting something that couples do. And when this corona thing happened, I had no clue if they were still dating or not. But that thing that I do know is that Alejandro had snapchat. I had to create this account acting like I was another person. I then added him but he didn’t added me back. Which I think it means that he wants his stuff private, like he isn’t that type of person who wants follower’s or fame. he wants to keep everything private? Sorry for the long story but please help me out!!
I went to the gym one time and saw this handsome dude and we both locked eyes and we kept giving each other side eyes.So he happened to workout not that far from me and I told him he looked familiar and asked him if he had any siblings in the UK which he said no.He introduced himself as a personal trainer and asked me my name.He went further to ask me how my name is being spelt.And that was the whole conversation.Do you think he’s interested?
So, I want to explain my situation…There’s this guy I like so much and I told some of my friends about it. They told other people and you can guess, they also told him about it.
I kept saying that I don’t like him to others but then I got a text from him. He was asking if it’s true that I like him. I said that it was true (ofcourse with long texts). His awnsers were short and he “just” wanted to know it. Then I asked him the question who told him this and I think that was too much for him or something because he blocked me.
For me it was a sign that he doesn’t like me back but I couldn’t help it to look at these signs.
The problem is he’s staring me alot and the first weeks he couldn’t look me in the eye, but now he’s staring at me like I’m a magnet and he keeps looking for eye contact with me. Deep eye contact. When we have, it gives me a weird feeling. I know it’s logically because I like him.
When he’s with his friends and I’m walking past by, it gets quite and I hear whispers it’s me etc. Really weird.
If I look at these signs, I think he likes me but also I’m still not sure about it.
I hope someone can tell me more about it.
I think he likes me, almost all of the sign i experience with him. But im he confused cause never text me or call me idk why? but in personal he always gives me interest, cause he’s cold to other people but when our just two of us he’s so clingy and noisy. He’s so different when he’s with me. And he knows i had a crush on him, so im confused if he just pretending to show me interest or he’s really interested in me but if he’s interested in me why he don’t text me or call me?
When I visited my guy friend, he sat surprisingly far away from me on the couch than he did previously, so I got the impression he might be trying to make sure things stayed platonic. But, when it was time for me to leave, we hugged, but neither one of us let go! Our hug lasted like 3-4 minutes and it was the tightest and longest hug we ever shared.
I don’t understand 1) why he was so far away from me at first but then let our hug continue for so long? & 2) if our hug lasted for so long because he was waiting for me to let go or if because he really just wanted to hold me?
Ok there’s this co-worker at the casino I work at and about 3 years ago he recognized me at our tribes annual pow wow but I didn’t know who he was until he told me he was a blackjack dealer. I since then have became friends with him and confessed to having a slight crush on him and since then he makes it a point to say hello and wave at me everyday no matter if he’s dealing or walking down the hall in the back of house on break. He always sees me and makes sure to say hi and wave across the room. Does it mean he has the same feelings and is just keeping it to himself or what?
So this gent at work, started staring at me and never saying anything. Would stop and and stare as I worked. One day he just comes us to me and ties my gown close. From then he made so much eye contact on every opportunity. Then while in the cafeteria he says, “ I thought you said you were buying me lunch.” I said no,no, no. He then watched me look ???? as I left laughing. From then on he was really mad at me and tried to make me jealous using a coworker. Since then she is engaged, they don’t seem to be as friendly anymore to her. Lately he brushed up against me to make sure I saw him. As a result, he has been so nice lately. Teasing me and speaking.
So.. there is this guy (we are actually 7th graders 13 year old) and we sit next to eachother in swedish class and we always talk but not only him, there are two others my friend and another guy. We talk but not about personal things only about school or something and we have eye contact sometimes but im not really sure. During one p.e lesson we had very much body contact but that was the last lesson. I have him on insta and snap but we NEVER text or call. And in sweden it is normal to have classmates on social media. And during the breaks we rarely talk snd i think it is because he doesnt want his friends to know and i told my friend 2 months earlier that i liked him and she still remembered til now and i said i dont like him anymore and we always teaase eachother about him but she doesnt like him and i dont know if he likes me PLEASE HELP ME!
Hm, well you’re situation has the same basis on my situation.
I think he likes you but he’s too shy or embarrassed to admit. Maybe you got to hangout more with him alone? Just the two of you. Maybe he’s gonna like you more. Also did you text him once? Maybe if you start to text him, he’ll text you back and you two can talk. Sometimes guys need to be activated by girls.
Succes
I don’t have a lot of knowledge on this topic but I’m still trying to help:)
A friend and colleague of mine keeps tapping my shoulder and it scares the bejeebas out of me and he once told me he thinks I’m happy go lucky whereas pretty much everyone else says I’m funny. He also says I talk like a chipmunk
This boy it’s like we’re enemies but whenever we make eye contact it’s quick and he always gives this quick sly smile but I usually think it’s normal we are always fussing but then another day he’s smiling but idk if it’s for me I can be minding my business and he’ll just say something to me it’ll be mean but he’ll have that sly smile on his face and I don’t know if I’m falling for him or not but I’m confused
– he acts bipolar with me
– he’s says mean things and acts mean but he always has a little smile
– when we made eye contact the other day it was like for 0.5 seconds and then we both looked down or to side or away from each other’s face.
He also gives me mixed signals like I said BIPOLAR! And even at once upon a time we had a class together and we would always play around and then we would would have to work together he would smile a lot but at home now that he moved to a higher grade level and left the school were basically enemies we don’t even talk and when we do it’s saying repulsive things but I still see the smile…????
ok so if he smiles but acts like ur enemy thats normal. I myself do it. its just a way of covering up that we like u. its like saying a devil is good. he smiles at u…..but acts as ur enemy. also the ending of ur commenylt entryged me. he may have ghosted u or hes just not doing so well. hope dis helped u. Good Luck!!
Hello everyone I would like to get your opinions on a guy I am starting to like. He lives in another state with my cousin but he just recently started dating a girl but when I was there the other day he slept in the same bed as me and kept touching me and smiling and picking on my accent while also he gave me a foot massage one night. We hung out a lot and seemed to get along really well and we now have been snap chatting and he said when I come back down in a few days he was going to give me a shoulder massage and even sent a heart emoji several times. I am very confused but he is such a sweet guy the only downside is he is a year younger then me so it’s kind of weird for me but being around him makes me feel so different. Please help do you guys think he likes me what should I do???
It’s obvious you’d just be a booty call. Sorry if that sounded disrespectful. He has a girlfriend, girl, he would tell you all what you wanna hear, and when he’s gone, you’d see his true feelings.
Omg ty tmrw in english i will look at his eyes also tricky thing is idk if he has a crush on me or not bz one wednesday we were reading in english and his elbow tapped my elbow. He makes me laugh all the time and at the end of the lesson my cheeks are hot . We do also make eye contact whilst we talk to each other . Sometimes i get butterflies in my stomach idk why . Idk if i have a crush on him or not . And he always makes the same joke when he’s around me cz when we were putting our bags on the racks he made that same joke and he made me laugh so idk if he’s crushing on me or not so yh i will take the advice
So I am a teenager, and this boy I like said he doesn’t like me after his friends being extremely nice to me on Snapchat. My crush is extremely mean to me as well, but he hasn’t blocked me or removed me, and I think he may just be shy. I have never been in a relationship in my entire life. I am just very independent, and now with my depression and anxiety, I have been feeling extremely lonely, so I cuddle with my huge teddy bear at night. But anyway, I think he has some feelings, but of course with the mixed signals, I just don’t know. But I think he talks about me to his friends, bad or good, because a couple of his friends added me on Snapchat, but only one of them talks to me, and when they are together, they pressure my crush to text me things like “Hey bae” or just “Heyyyyy”. It is kind of weird, but I am thinking he likes me so he just wants me around. Sorry for all the long information.
I know that if a guy teases u he probably likes u. I hope that’s helpfull info. Good luck.
Yes I have heard of that before. Like I said just the mixed signals that get me. Plus his friends are teasing him about me, and I hope he is bound to be my soulmate. LOL.
I’m like an intern in a restaurant (kitchen) and there’s this guy who always helps me do the tasks and there are times as well where I don’t even ask for help, yet he’s already ready to give me a hand. For example, I walked passed him carrying trays ( he’s also doing something) which I need to put on the top shelf in the room, and then a minute later he’s inside the room as well helping me to lift it. Also, there are kind of physical contact happening like him touching my back when I’m kinda on his way or while teaching me and then asking me to hold a utensil and put his hand over it (happened once). The head chef kinda noticed it as well as he usually goes near me and have conversation. He sometimes talks to him about it, I’m just hearing few words but can’t really hear the whole conversation. He always compliment me the way I do my job and how proud he is (referring to how much I’ve grown since I started working there).
I would say he is extremely nice, at least trying to be, and getting your attention. I’m no expert, but I watch a lot of relationship advice videos, so I would say he probably likes you quite a bit.
I’ve liked this guy from my church for almost a year now. I think I’m in love with him because I can’t stop thinking about him (besides when I’m working or studying), I have dreams about him and I fantasize about possible situations that could occur in the future. I think he likes me back, because I saw him staring at me a couple times (although I stare at him a lot, which I probably should stop doing), and he sometimes fixes his hair or clothes when he’s talking to his friends around me, but I’m not quite sure if he’s interested or not. Also, he handshaked me at the beginning and end of a social event, but I think that was the only time he showed any physical touch to me. I’m kinda scared if I should approach him or not, because I’ve not had the best luck when it comes to confessing to guys in the past. Please help me on what I should do, thank you for reading!
Hey,
Things I would like you to know first is I work in a retail store. So I have a coworker who I recently started picking up signs that he might have a crush on me. I sometimes think I overthink about it because I at a certain point never even thought of him in any sort of way. Or gave much thought into the things he does when he’s around me until recently. Certain things like lingering around me for longer than I expect, both of us always catching each other eye contact and not breaking it for at least a couple of seconds. Asking questions about where items should be placed when he knows where they are placed almost like trying to make a conversation about anything. Things he also does is that once we are at the registers he tends to be very cautious of me in case I need help. He even looks over my shoulder or asks me over my shoulder getting very close to me when I haven’t asked for help to see if I need any help. He always always walks past the stations I’m placed at kinda like spying on what I’m doing or where I’m at.
He is a very relaxed guy and he talks to almost everyone, although he’s also very mysterious, he’s kinda like the class clown but when he’s near me he seems to get shy even if I say hi or make small talk. It’s only in the beginning that he was shy I believe he started to be a little more open because I decided if I did all the approaches it wouldn’t help me get my confirmation. So recently both him and I were placed in the same station and we both kinda shying away from each other only because the store got a bit busy, once it slowed down I was talking to another coworker and he said something so he could get rid or the coworker I was talking to almost as if to get some alone time with me. Once I was alone in my station and he came back from whatever he was doing and slowly approached me and started a conversation something he wouldn’t really do with me before. I think I’m overthinking this but it’s many things that have occurred or I’ve put more attention to that I brushed off before that seem to give me a weird feeling.
How long have you known or worked with this coworker?
When was the most recent occurance?
Are you on the registers for backing up the cashiers or stationed there?
On the help at the registers:
What area of the store does he work?
Is he actually helpful and figuring something out faster than without or just a faster responder with enough experience to help?
If you’re backing up and depending on front-house management, he could just know you don’t cashier every day, and if he can hamdle it, it’s one less thing for management to respond to during busier times.
How does he talk to anyone else?
What do the conversations topics include?
How long have you worked with this coworker?
How long have you known the coworker?
What are the conversations about?
How does he talk to everyone else?
Are you just backing up on the registers?
What area does he work?
On the help:
Is he reading it correctly in needing the help? If it’s busy times, then the point is to move people through the lines faster, and front-house management is called in 8 directions in 3 minutes.
Since it’s work, he could be more cautious in reading if an interest is mutual. It does seem like he’s interested in you
I’ve known of people who are married where one is not on the radar of the other.
Oh honey, yes is very nervous around you, since he plays with his hair. Guys tend to fidget unconsciously when they like someone. Also he shook your hand which was an excuse to try and touch you in any way. Just keep doing you, and go with what he does. Also try smiling at him when you see him.
Omg ahh I knew he likes me too, thank you so much for your advice!!
mariah oster i have to disagree with shaking her hand just to touch her. the guy may have done this out of politeness. i do it also. so he may have been just showing some sort of presentable way of respect or politeness
I know this person for quite long but only get closer recently. We has mutual friends who we drink together and when drinking he seen to be more touchy. Wrap his arm around my shoulder and hold my hand. Without drinks, he will keep a distance but with drinks, he seem to be closer. He is giving some mixed signal which I am not sure what he thinking.
We were playing some drinking game where we need to french each other and he said he cannot and decide not to do it. Its kind of confusing. I am wondering wat is he thinking.
On the side note, he is quite a glib tongue person to few girls so also not sure if he is serious when he asked me if I want to be my nephew’s aunty.