How do you know if a guy likes you? He may be acting friendly and flirty towards you, but how can you know if that’s just his personality? You want to know if he has a crush on you rather than just being someone who hits on every other woman he meets.
It can be pretty hard to figure out if the attention a guy is giving you is genuine. Hopefully, this guide can give you some clarity.
Sections
- Signs a guy likes you
- How can you tell if a coworker likes you?
- Does your best friend like you?
- How to be sure whether or not a guy friend likes you
38 signs a guy likes you
When a guy has a crush on you, his behavior towards you will usually change. However, it can be difficult to figure out. He may be acting nervous because he’s shy or flirty because he’s friendly and outgoing.
Here are the best signs to help you tell if a guy has a crush on you or not.
1. He stares at you
You probably know how hard it is not to look at someone you like. Prolonged eye contact without talking is a big tell that a guy likes you.
But to be fair, it’s common for guys to stare at any girl they find attractive. And it’s an easy way for him to show his interest without having to approach you. But who knows, he might even have a secret crush on you.
2. He mirrors you
Mirroring means that his body language, posture, or even what he’s saying reflects what you said or did.
Examples of mirroring:
- When you take a sip of your glass, he also takes a sip of his glass
- When you cross your legs, he crosses his legs
- When you get very animated/passionate in a conversation, he also gets animated
- When you lean in, he also leans in
- When you laugh, he laughs
Note that mirroring is done subconsciously when he has a good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if he wants to impress or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.
3. He added you on social media
Adding you on social media means he wants to keep in contact with you and might be interested in you. This is also good because now you can more easily start a conversation with him online.
4. His texts are longer than yours
If his texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.
If he usually gives short answers compared to you, that’s a bad sign. When you’re giving him long replies but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager.
In that case, it’s good to step back a bit and try to match him better. Keep in mind that some people are naturally better at others at texting.
5. He teases you
Most forms of teasing (even mean teasing) are usually a sign he’s interested in you. It means he’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that he wants a reaction from you.
Have fun with it, and don’t be afraid to tease him back! 😉
6. He’s leaning in
If he’s leaning in toward you, that shows he wants to get closer to you (or he’s really passionate about what he’s saying). When a guy has a crush on you, it can feel like he’s magnetically drawn to you.
7. He’s getting physically close to you
If you’re in a conversation and you feel like he’s edging closer to you, or as if he’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. He may be attracted to you and wants to feel physically and mentally closer to you.
Note that different cultures have different “personal spaces.” So, if he’s from a different culture than you, see how close he gets to others to see if it’s just you.
8. He offers you a massage
This is one of the most obvious tells that a guy likes you. Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a guy to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer him one back if you like him!)
9. He smiles at you
If he’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach him. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home.)
If he’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign he likes you. Especially if he has a light smile while you’re not even joking.
10. He’s giving you mixed signals
Mixed signals are really tricky to interpret and can make anyone confused. But in most cases, they do mean he’s interested in you. Here are the most common reasons why he’s giving you mixed and confusing signals.
Nine reasons why he’s giving you mixed signals:
- He doesn’t want to come off as too eager
- He’s shy
- He’s nervous and insecure
- He’s afraid of seeming desperate
- He’s afraid you’ll reject him
- He’s inexperienced in flirting
- He’s following some weird rules or pick-up tips he’s read
- He’s just flirting with you (because flirting is all about giving mixed signals)
- He likes the attention or validation he gets from you but isn’t really interested in you
Giving mixed signals may mean a guy likes you, but it doesn’t mean he’d make a good partner. If someone sometimes ignores you or is mean to you, you should avoid dating even if you have a mutual crush on each other. You deserve a partner who won’t have you second-guessing yourself.
11. He compliments you
Getting a compliment from a guy your age is a good sign. If he’s giving you compliments about how pretty you are, it’s an even better sign.
It can be hard to tell a friendly compliment from a romantic one because they can sound exactly the same. To know for sure, look for other signs he’s also giving you or describe your situation in the comments below.
12. His pupils are large
If his pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.
13. He makes eye contact with you
When a guy has a crush on you, it can be so hard for him to keep his eyes off of you. You can notice this if he’s holding eye contact with you for slightly too long.
It can almost feel a little weird or intense when it happens. And that’s great (if you like him).
14. He looks at you with open body language
This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, for example, at a bar or a club.
If he’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that’s a sign he’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you he wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.
15. He straightens his posture
Is he straightening his back and standing up more straight? It means he’s a bit self-conscious when hanging out near you and wants to make a good impression.
It’s not a strong sign because most single guys want to make a good impression on attractive girls. But if you see it together with many other signs, it means more.
16. He faces you in group situations
If he’s facing you more often than he’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign he’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not the one talking the most in the group.
17. His feet are pointing towards you
If his feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if his body is facing you. He’s subconsciously focused on you, which makes his feet point toward you.
18. He fiddles with his clothes or accessories
This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because he wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.
19. His palms face you
If the palms of his hands are pointed in your direction, he might be interested in you. It’s a small sign, but it’s still positive because it’s part of his open and welcoming body language toward you.
20. He touches you when you touch him
For example, if you touch his arm, does he touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If he does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign.
If he’s shy or inexperienced, he might not feel comfortable touching you back, even if he has a crush on you.
21. He is extra touchy with you
A good tell he likes you is if he’s touching you unusually much compared to others.
Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if he touches those.
22. You have “peripheral physical contact”
Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.
A good example is when you’re both sitting down, and your thighs barely touch each other.
This kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of suspense and attraction. It’s the best feeling being close to someone you got a crush on.
23. He gives you more of his attention than others
The more attention he gives you, the more interested he usually is in you. Compare this to how much attention he gives to other girls also hanging out with him or in the same group as you.
For example, If you’re in a group and he seems to direct most of his attention toward you. It could be that he’s asking you lots of questions or that he’s laughing more than others at your jokes. Or just listening more intently to you.
24. He blushes when you talk or make eye-contact
He might just be shy, but he’s probably a bit extra self-conscious around you because he likes you. This makes him blush around you.
Social anxiety can also cause blushing. But it’s still a great sign.
25. He seems to look in your direction from far away
Guys can be a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. And if he has sunglasses, it’s even harder to know if he’s checking you out.
So if he’s looking in your direction, especially if he does it several times, he’s probably checking you out.
26. He keeps the conversation going
What happens when there’s a pause in the conversation or if you stop talking? If he seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If he lets the conversation die out or excuses himself, he may not be that interested (unless he’s just shy).
If you have problems with the conversation dying out, check out this guide on keeping the conversation going with a guy.
27. He quickly replies when you text or message him
A quick reply is a good sign he likes you. Also, if he replies with several texts to your one text, that’s even better.
However, if he likes you, he may also delay his replies to avoid seeming needy or desperate. But as long as he replies, it’s all good. If he’s slow to reply, it could just mean he’s busy, or he doesn’t like texting, so don’t read too much into it.
28. He texts or calls first
Is he the one initiating contact, or are you? If he is, that probably means he’s interested in you.
But if he never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if he will take initiative. If you’re always so quick to take initiative, he might never even have a chance to do it first.
29. He texts you often
Compare this to how often you text him. He’s eager if he’s texting more often than you, and you’re more eager if you’re the one texting more often. If he’s sending you several texts in a row without a reply, it’s a stronger sign.
30. He becomes awkward in a conversation with you
Does he stammer, stutter, or otherwise become awkward with you? This could mean that he feels shy or self-conscious around you. When a guy likes you, it’s common that he gets a bit extra flustered when talking to you. That’s because he gets uncomfortable and doesn’t want to mess up in front of you. It’s kind of cute, isn’t it?
31. He doesn’t back off if you get a bit too close
If he doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to his personal space, that’s a sign he wants you close to him.
If you take a step closer, and he backs off by a step, that’s a sign he’s a bit more reserved toward you.
32. He talks about things he wants to do with you
Planning or mentioning things he wants to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.
Example: If you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!”
33. He’s happy to discover you have something in common
If he’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, such as you living in the same part of town, being the same age, or you both like pizza. For more tips, check out this guide on how to talk to a guy you like.
Example: You discover that you both grew up in the same city, and he gets really excited about it even if it’s no big deal.
34. He asks you personal questions
Personal questions are telling you that he wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more he asks, the better.
Example: Asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or your favorite food.
35. He asks you about your plans
Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be him trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if he brings it up near the end of the conversation.
36. He tries to make you jealous
This is a strong sign he’s interested in you. But it’s also a sign he’s emotionally immature and manipulative. I would avoid someone acting like that. You deserve to be treated with respect.
37. He’s told his family about you
This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I think it’s worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if he’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.
If he’s told his family, it means he is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!
38. He stays to talk with you even though his friends have left
This is a big tell. If you’re in some sort of group conversation with him and his friends, and all his friends leave, but he stays – he’s probably into you. It still might not be a romantic interest if you just have a great conversation and have lots in common.
An example could be when you’re at a party, and all his friends leave to get a bite to eat, but he stays with you.
How can you tell if a coworker likes you?
At work, It can be hard to tell if a coworker is flirting with you or just being friendly. Usually, guys play it safer at work because he doesn’t want to create any awkward situations if he would be rejected. So, he might be probing to see if you like him before he gives you any clear signs of interest.
Six ways to tell if a coworker likes you:
- He comes over to talk with you as often as possible
- He often teases you
- It seems like he’s flirting, but you’re not really sure
- He tries to hang out near you when possible
- He tries to be funny when he’s near you
- He’s eager to do any work tasks where you work together
- He goes above and beyond to help you out at work
- He gets weird or stiff when he’s near you, but he’s normal with everyone else
How do you know if your best friend likes you?
Here are seven signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend:
- He’s acting differently from how he usually behaves
- He seems jealous or dismissive of other guys you might like
- He’s suddenly extra touchy-feely
- He seems unusually interested in your interests
- He seems extra needy
- He’s told you he has feelings for you
If you’re still unsure, let me know about your situation in the comments below, and I’ll do my best to help.
How do you know for sure if a guy friend is interested?
You can’t know for sure if a cute guy is interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few questions you can ask yourself:
- Is he regularly showing you signs of interest?
- Does he act differently to others than to you? (So he’s not just flirty with everyone.)
- Has he shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
- Can you see any patterns in his behavior toward you?
Are you still unsure if he likes you?
Write down your situation in the comments below in as much detail as possible. That way, others can help you out by giving their opinion. I also expect you to help someone else by replying to their comment. We need to all pitch in and help each other.
Suzanne, i think he has some interest especially if he’s showing you through his little efforts. Maybe feel it out and see how it goes. Also i think people see things between two people that they have yet to see in each other 😉
Hi, I have a crush on my coworker. He has shown mixed signs.
1) Stands so close to me our bodies touch
2)Puts his arm on my shoulders
3) Rubbed my arms
4)asks about things happening in my life
5)sometimes withdraws and goes into his cave
6)doesnt text or call me though we meet everyday
7)stares at me
8)teases me
9)sometimes if it is just the 2 of us he becomes serious, and quiet..looking intently at me
10) other coworkers have noticed the attraction between us
Does he like me? What is going on as ge doesnt call or text
Hi, I have a crush on my coworker. He has shown mixed signs.
1) Stands so close to me our bodies touch
2)Puts his arm on my shoulders
3) Rubbed my arms and sighed so deeply after looking into my eyes..like he was fighting something within him
4)asks about things happening in my life
5)sometimes withdraws and goes into his cave
6)doesnt text or call me though we meet everyday
7)he listens intently when i talk and he is curious if i am dating anyone
8)we have strong eye contact and when we meet we dont need to say each others names..like there is a connection already
9)stares at me
10)teases me
11)sometimes if it is just the 2 of us he becomes serious, and quiet..looking intently at me
12) other coworkers have noticed the attraction between us
Does he like me? What is going on as ge doesnt call or text?
So, this person and I are in an intense and very formal setting. I am a client, and his job comes with certain socialization laws. Not rules, laws. He could lose his job getting too close to me. The first time I noticed a potential interest, out of a room of clients, he only said hello to me. When in a private space, he said I “certainly looked presentable,” took some plant life that had gotten caught in my hair out, and we had shared more than a few glances in the other’s direction. He usually looks at me often.
One time though, he got really mad at me, and reminded me of our places in this situation that we are in. I of course backed off completely. To seeing him this week, I was still trying to not be a bother. He was back to his old self, greeting only me out of the roomful of his clients (and we are talking 50+ people), looking at me often, and me trying not to look back because of him reminding me of our places, making extra time for me, when he had assistants deal with other clients. The first time we went aside that day, he and I were talking, the topic of sex had come up without us bringing it up, but it had been mentioned, and I said something to the effect of “well I don’t know anyone who wants to have it with my fat butt.” He started in with “well I wouldn’t…” and then began stuttering and stammering. I had given him some space during this convo, moving a little farther away because of him putting me in my place prior.
The next time he and I went aside, he made sure there was no way to move farther, and that we had to be close. We were discussing business, and I noticed his face moving closer to mine, while we were already physically close from him closing the gap. Soon our faces were so close, all I could see were his eyes and eyebrows. His eyes looked from one of my eyes to the other, but he looked slightly scared and did not smile. He eventually broke the deep eye contact, and it was kind of in a goofy and bashful manner, but it felt like it had been a minute or two of the intense eye connection. He does not seem to mind our physical closeness, but when it’s not work time, he almost runs past me.
Last time, it was end of the business day. I was having a smoke, and he was catching a shuttle with very tinted windows. Due to the time of day, the sun was shining through them enough to notice he was on the side of the shuttle facing me.
After my smoke, I went to the spot I usually do to catch my car home. He was staring at me out of the shuttle, for a noticeable amount of time, and I was pretending not to notice. When I looked over again, he was looking in his lap, in what seemed almost nervous, like he didn’t want to get caught, so tried to look busy. At the same time, he also gets annoyed with me, and doesn’t smile when we talk, even when he was looking deeply into my eyes. The near running past me, I know we can’t socialize, but it makes me feel awkward. He was calling me by my first name, but I put an end to that after he got mean. We went back to Mr. and Ms. because he made me feel so bad. He made a fumble by email once with my name, and of course I teased him about it, and he said it made him laugh.
Now though, he doesn’t call me by any name at all. He just says “come on” when we need to talk, or something of the sort. He did change his greeting after the extended eye contact from the hello we always have used, to good morning, but did not address me by a name. Any name.
I am so confused. I admit, I am very attracted to him, and I’m sure many women are. I know it could be all in my head, but my roommate also saw some of these behaviors. I think he might be flirting with me, but the mixed signals are confusing me so badly. Help!
I have a crush on a coworker. I told him. We have gone out 3 times, he says he had a bad experience dating a coworker and doesn’t want to do that again. He knows how I feel and we still go out together. I asked him if he would at least acknowledge the fact that he liked me back. He said he would let me know. Once again we just went out a couple of nights ago. The day of our outing, he was constantly around me more than usual. I don’t want to scare him away. We always find ways to be near each other. I don’t know what to do!
Hi Suzanne. He seems to be such sweet a gentleman. Who is trying to subtly let you know He likes you. Or who is scared to tell you because you are coworkers. He is definitely attracted to you. I’m sure soon He will let you know. I can imagine how crazy it can make you feel not knowing if you are imagining it or not. Or you start wondering why you are listening to coworkers making yourself think you are crazy. I would have never have picked a man like him before. I’m not a blonde haired blue eyed kind of person. I have always liked dark completed, dark hair, dark eyed men. More of the bad boy type. But something about him just makes my heart melt. I don’t know if it his amazing and contagious smile or dreamy eyes, or how everyone thinks he is an ass but around me he is so soft and tender. I see a big ole teddy bear I.nside of him. Maybe we should quit over thinking it and let it be.
Hi Viktor 🙂
Just read your post and found it very helpful. Ive been friends with this guys for years, never thought of him as anything but a friend until maybe the last year.Im just confused and overthinking too much. He initiates random conversion on social media DM but conversion never goes anywhere. I dont know if hes shy or just playing games. I feel like i get mixed signals online. In person, he definitely stares and faces my direction but never says too much unless its a group convo or if i ask him a question. Our friends always tease us about each other, but maybe were both not wanting to make the first move?.. we recently went to a good friends wedding and i was entertaining another guy all night. He came in to join the convo and put his arms around me then slowly walked off. Then later that night with more drinks in me i noticed he was at the bar behind the guy i was talking to, just staring and listening to the convo. Long story short i got drunk, was crying and somehow ended up on my friend. Our friends say he was sober but was enjoying the hug we had. The next day i got a message from him, asking how i was and what happened. I said i dont know(even though i did) and he said “drunken tears are our secrets”.I tried to ask questions by asking why he didnt save me from that guy, just to test how he would respond. He says it was a bad situation,it looked like i was hypnotized by the convo and that it was too serious. Then he said that i should get tinder. Hearing that made me think so he does care otherwise why would he ask me that and why was he listening to the convo in the first place. But at the same thing if he liked me he wouldnt be telling me to get tinder. So theres a mixed message there. The week after we bumped into each other at a restaurant and he was with two other girls. He later said in the group chat its not what it looks like and their just his coworkers.. im not gonna lie i was a bit a jealous. But honestly i want to tell him that i care, but im scared and i just want some confirmation or a little sign to give myself courage to make that move. There are more examples but i think this post is long enough…lol Thanks for reading viktor!!
Vanessa, I definitely thinks he is into you.all the signs are there.i would say He is a little shy. If you really like him take it slow.
Thank you Trinity! Will try to take your advice 🙂
Hi, I really like this guy at my workplace. He constantly keeps noticing me as well. He is kind, sweet, and affectionate. He is a mutual with my friend. She introduced us. They are good friends and more than me he’s close to her. Even if we bump into each other at workplace, the only thing he asks about is her. I really like him. What should I do?
It seems like he might have a crush on her, but it’s hard to tell with so limited information. But the fact that he’s asking you so much about her is a strong sign his main interest is her.
Hello :),
so, I like this guy and he’s been acting very strange around me lately… I’m pretty sure one of his friends likes me, and my crush may also know that his friend likes me, but anytime he sees me talking only to that friend, he tries to..separate us. One time, I was drawing something in English Class, and his friend got there earlier than him. So his friend and I were talking and his friend was making me laugh because he kept making weird suggestions as to what I should add to the drawing. My crush walked in, (there are two sides of desks in the room facing each other, with a small aisle in the middle of those two) saw me laughing with his friend, slid his backpack over to his seat, and rushed over from his desk also in front but 2 desks away from mine, SLAMMED his hands on my table and said kind of loudly “HEY, what are we drawing here?”. When the two of them went back to their seats, my crush started acting kind of awkward, and his friend asked if he had any coffee..and he said no. It was so uncharacteristically odd that even his good friend was confused with his behavior. The other day, I was sitting down and listening to my music while dancing to it, and i had brought a tennis ball to play with my friends. I took the tennis ball out, and his friend came over to me and said “Ooh can I see that?” so I gave him a friendly smile and said sure, then handed him the ball. He inspected it, then said “hmmmm its really dusty..” and I smiled to be polite and said “Yeah, its kind of an old ball..”, then I noticed from afar my crush saw this and he kind of had a dark expression. THEN, he walked over to where we were, stopped facing me where I was sitting, turned around to face his friend and walked two steps forward towards him. It was as if he was…protecting me from his friend??? Idk this is all strange behavior for the guy he’s usually so calm, but he always seems so energetic around me… can someone lmk what’s going on? Thank you,
~Anonymous
Normally I never post anything, like ever, but I really felt the need here. I think this guy is certainly interested in you, and probably likes you a lot. He is super jealous of the attention his friend is getting from you, and he is mad at the friend for flirting with you. And who knows, it honestly seems with his behavior with his friends that he is trying to claim you as his own, and that he doesn’t approve of his friends moves towards you. I’ve got the feeling, maybe he hasn’t told his friends how he feels yet, and he hasn’t because he doesn’t want to ruin his friendship with that person. But yes he is jealous and may not be sure how to control it. He doesn’t seem to be confident in how to catch your eye, and seems like he is embarrassed and nervous around you. I know this was quite a while ago, but have things progressed at all with him? Have you told him how you feel?
If it has ended up that he didn’t like you, (which is highly unlikely in my opinion), how does his friend behave around other girls? If his friend is very flirty and is constantly breaking some hearts, your crush might have been trying to protect you from him. And even that shows that he likes you, because he doesn’t want you to get your heart broken.
So to sum it up, talk to him, show him that you like him. And because it’s been quite a while, have his actions continued? Have things gotten a bit better between the two of you?
Just wanted to say good luck in any case, it seems that he is interested and that he really cares. ????
I’m honestly shipping it.????????
Hello 🙂
I have a crush on a co worker who is 46 and I’m 27. He’s generally known to everyone as abit of a joker and makes alot of people laugh but IV noticed he’s alot more physically jokey with me then alot of other people in the work place. He’s generally quite flirty but on a few occasions he’s gave me compliments on my new haircut and he will say things like I’m looking very pretty today. I’m not sure if he generally fancys me or if it’s nothing more then abit of a flirt. He has also opened up to me about his struggles with depression a few times. But I’m just unsure if he really does like me or not because of the age gap maybe.
I am still unsure if he likes me. Like, he would get all touchy with me and weird, but he also is kinda giving me mixed signals, like his feet wouldn’t be towards me. But I also feel like he likes my other friend, but he has never acted the way he has with me to her, so what’s going on?
Hi there,
So I’ve worked with this guy for over two years. Over the past couple months I feel like there’s something more going on.
He always compliments the tops I wear, and any small changes in my appearance. He’s commented on how breathtaking my hair is and that I should never cut it. If I’m sick, he’ll joke that I can give it to him any day. He’s even joked that I should never leave the company unless if he leaves first. He pretends to get really upset if I leave early or if I’m working less days than usual. So he’s never been reserved on how much he appreciates my being there.
My coworker’s always been a laid-back, joking guy. But it seems like it’s more excessive lately, especially with me. Even some of my other coworkers have pointed it out. I guess I’m closer to him than 90% of my other coworkers, but I never considered the possibility of him crushing on me. Until now.
Plus, it’s a bit unusual since he’s just gotten out of a previous relationship.
Maybe I’m too self-absorbed or just overthinking this whole thing. Even if he is interested, there’s no way we could get into a relationship. After all, he’s my supervisor.
I don’t think his interest could be much more clear without saying it out loud. He’s very interested in you.
Although, it’s a precarious situation since he’s your supervisor and he has power over you. What happens if he ever feels rejected by you? It’s quite unprofessional of him to put you in this situation.
Make sure you’re not dependant on this job if you want to make a move, so you’re not stuck there if it ever gets weird.
This guy at work I’m pretty sure has a crush on me. He touches me on accident a lot and we have a lot in common. Also one day he and I were talking and he stopped talking and we just both stared into each other’s eyes. Also he comforts me or try’s to make me laugh if I look sad or upset. Help? Also he seems to always bump into me at work or walks passed me.
Hi. My situation is at work. I’ve just started my job not long, and there’s this guy coworker, we’re not in the same department and our desks are not very near. We will still interact but mainy due to work matters. It started out just last month (i think, or for me to notice) when i went over to ask him about some work stuff. He was looking at my face at first but then he looked/scanned me from top to bottom, which i felt uncomfortable and puzzled. Anyway, after that he asked for my mobile number via office chat and a few days later, out of the sudden, asked me out for lunch, just the two of us. I agreed without thinking as i thought he wanted to dicuss something work related. He insisted of letting me choose the date, time and the food i’d like to eat, which makes me wonder is he being friendly or is this a date?? I did asked him on that day, he claimed that he does invite newbie out for lunch. He paid for the meal btw.
I’m just confused at his action and behaviour sometimes. Since we worked in the same company, at points where we meet, most of the times he will call out my name/greet me and smile.
He does text me but not frequently, it’s usually once in a week and he’ll always be the one who initiate the conversation first. When I’ve accomplished something at work, instead of congratulating me at the work group chat which most ppl did, he will congrats me via our personal chat. Just recently, he compliments on my clothes and necklace and said it’s pretty via text (honestly I wore that outfit before and wore the same necklace every day). He replied ??? after i thank him for his compliment.
But then, some times, he will referred me as’sis’ on text, and I heard from my two of my colleagues that they heard he has a girlfriend. So what does his actions actually mean? Is he just being really nice to me because he’s superior and older than me? Am i thinking too much?
He’s definitely flirting with you and testing the waters. But I’d avoid him if I were you if it’s true that he has a girlfriend. If that is the case, he seems like a player or someone who just flirts for attention. It does not reflect well on his character. I hope you’re not in a dependant position to him.
Hi. I have an issue at work. I started as an intern. Then that coworker frequently kept staring at me and would often come by to places at work i frequently visit. After i became an employee we were in the same unit. We never spoke once but i would catch him staring at me. He would never dismiss the staring nor smile at me while doing so. I have no idea if he really likes me. He knows me but acts like he doesn’t (I tried texting him as an anonymous person). He still stares at me but never tries to talk. Neither does he smile when he stares at me like that. I have unknowingly fallen for him. What should i do? What does this behaviour of his mean? Does he like me at all?
It sounds a bit weird. I guess he at least thinks you look good if he stares so much. But you really need to start talking with him in some way to get a better feel for his intentions. It’s also weird of you to message him anonymously.
Do you have any opportunities where you can interact with him more? What happens if you smile at him when he stares at you?
You really think he thinks i look good? Thanks though. Not just weird i think it was absolutely stupid of me to have texted him and i really regret it a lot.
There is no way i can talk to him. My heart thumps like crazy if he’s around me. So duh! No way i can open my mouth. He doesn’t smile even if i smile at him. He just keeps staring non stop. What am i to do? I fallen hard for him.
Hmm, it’s weird that he never smiles. But either he likes your looks or he’s trying to intimidate you.
Hello! So, I have a crush on this guy at school, he’s sweet, has a great sense of humor, and he’s very handsome (i mostly care about his character traits though). So, if you don’t mind, I’d like to explain some of the odd scenarios that have occurred with him, and maybe you can tell me where I stand in his heart. Okay, so back last year, we would talk an awful lot more, and I realized at some point one of my friends mentioned my ethnicity and he seemed to say it to himself as if he was taking a mental note… this year, we’ve hardly spoken, but he’s been acting quite strange. Every time he sees me standing by my friends just casually listening to music, he comes over with one of his friends (which I unfortunately think may like me himself, although I do not reciprocate it)and he talks to his friend while standing in super close proximity to me. The strange thing is it seems like he wants to talk to me but doesn’t know what to say, but I’m super shy and don’t typically enjoy starting conversations myself…so he usually comes over to me and whichever one of my friends I may be hanging out with, and directs a question or a few words at both of us, but kind of ignores me… I’ve read on many different sites that this is because its possible he gets excessively nervous in my company, but I’m not entirely sure. Another SUPER odd thing that has happened was in our PE class (this happened last week) I was upset that I would have to run on our school’s dusty track with my brand new day-old shoes, so I kind of separated myself from everyone else, put my earbuds in, and stared dissatisfied at the track. My crush had been talking to his normal friend group, but I noticed out of the corner of my eye that he saw me and took a few steps toward me, turned back to look at his friends, then continued walking in my direction. When he got a few feet in front of me, he kind of casually (but also kind of awkwardly) said “I’m gonna…stand here in the shade because its too hot in the sun..”, and I nodded to him with a small smile. I’m not too close to him, and I don’t usually see him randomly walk over to people he doesn’t know well while they are completely alone, and he doesn’t seem to stand that close to anyone else unless they are in his personal friend group. He then stood next to me and remained there for about 5-10 seconds, then walked back over to his friends. Another story from last week or the week before; I have a pretty commonly misread name unless the one reading it is either Italian or has had another student with my name in the same spelling. My crush is in my English class, and he always sits on the opposite side of the room, facing me (actually, yesterday he even sat in the seat directly in front of me). The day that the English teacher first pronounced my name correctly, a few of my friends decided to joke around and tell the teacher that she was pronouncing it the wrong way, and that the wrong pronunciation was right. This launched the class into a mini-debate about my name, where some kind-hearted people were telling the confused teacher the correct pronunciation, while other foolish people were messing around and trying to get her to pronounce it incorrectly. It was so embarrassing, but I noticed my crush in the back by the teacher getting annoyed with people and telling the teacher louder than anyone else the proper pronunciation. I felt pretty grateful that he had stood up for me, so I mustered up all my courage and went to thank him at lunchtime. As I walked over to him (he had just sat down, his friends off to the side doing their own thing), I noticed that as soon as I got within 8 feet of where he was sitting, he saw me and gave me a warm smile. I then stumbled through my words but he stared up at me with a smile the entire time. Speaking of which, I’ve noticed he tends to stare and smile a lot, and its hard for me to look people i don’t know particularly well in the eyes for more than a second, but I actually locked eyes with him today, and we were both smiling. Anytime I’m talking to a friend or turned around, and turn back around, I notice he’s been staring at me and smiling with this adorable gentle smile. Anyways, based off of this info (sorry for the literal essay lol), what would u think that he thinks of me?
It is obvious he is into you, especially that as you describe, there is some mystique around you, your name, etc. I believe you have to take a step forward, to speak to him, to find out more about his interests, what books does he read, what kind of music he listens… If he is really into you, he will ask more and more, wanting to get closer to you and actually fall in love with the person who you are 🙂
Hello!
My situation is also work. Idk if you will still reply but I am curious.
A guy at work, so my friend/co worker saw him out and about and was joking about seeing him talking to a girl and he felt the need to say he’s known her for years. Why would he feel the need to explain? Friend is married and I was standing behind her.
If you like someone more than 10 years older, how can you tell if their interested back?
That situation about him explaining really doesn’t tell me anything without any more context. I wouldn’t read anything into it.
About the age difference, most signs are the same regardless of age. Love has no age. <3
I have a situation with a guy I work with. We have known each other for over a year but recently things have shifted. We stare too long and spend a lot of our day together. After work we text or talk on the phone every night with equally initiated by each of us. Our entire department has noticed and asked me questions about the two of us. We spend a lot of time together outside of work. He smiles at me often especially if I catch him looking at me. We always sit next to each at staff meetings or across from each other to keep eye contact. He is always checking up on me during the day and texting if he is at a conference to see how my day is. He asks about my son without prompting and has hung out with my friends…who think he is great and question what the two of us are doing. He is 10 years younger than me and I am petrified that I want him more than he wants me
Based on how much he’s investing in your relationship, I’d say chances are good he wants you pretty badly. You can try being a bit more flirty with him and see how he responds.
His behavior has shifted a bit in the last few days and it appears he is kind of pulling away. A co-worker of ours asked him what was going on with the two of us because she has noticed a shift with us. He stated to her he had not noticed himself being any different. Not sure what this means and I am freaking out that I did something wrong.HELP!
It might not be something you did wrong.
If others started noticing and commenting on it, he might have got cold feet. Maybe he’s afraid of seeming unprofessional, maybe afraid of losing his job, maybe unsure if you’re interested in him, maybe afraid of seeming desperate/needy. It could be a million things.
So this guy I work with I just came back to this job so I didn’t really know him talk here and there , I found out he was going on vacation to France while we talking about the long weekend and I told that’s cool my sister went and bought me a hat that does not fit and he was like u want one I bring u back one and want colour so I told him I wanted a royal blue. I told my co worker that I was sitting what he going to get me and she said he never asked if she want anything and she worked with for a year. And I was told he a saver when it comes to money and couple of jobs. I was told not mention the hat before left to see if he would bring it. When he came he was busy with work so I add on Facebook and message him how was ur trip he respond somebody getting a hat. Next day he brought over early in the morning when nobody was there and we talk for a bit then my coworker came to the desk and he ran back to his. We have been talk back and forth on messages. For the last for 5months and he went away for another in another province for two months but we could message reach one a day or more and there is a time difference. Of three hours, any problem s I was having he would give solutions. But we we first messseging him and ask too many question he was I have a girlfriend but kept on texting me back. He just came back when he show face to he lik wow because I just putting on makeup to attractive him and then I had move desk because my computer was not working so I moved near him and he came sliding down with his chair in my personal bubble and he has never done that and was trying to help fix my desk. And today I had a work validation done I was telling that I think I did bad and he stated that when he was listening he said I did a good job. I didn’t know he was listen to me and when we are talking in person we make eye contact all the time. One of the 1st messages I got from him when asked what are u doing he said thinking about, asked what music he liked he sent a music video that was sexual, and when I told I had a anniversary party he asked who’s and I need outs for a wedding he asking who’s . I sent him a pic of a outfit that I was getting and top was short asked him do think that’s to slutty and responded saying ur mom does not want u to be attractive. And when we were leaving the office it seems like he want to keep talking. He is moving to another floor so I won’t be able to see at all. I asked if he want to see a movie this weekend no response yet….. do I tell him that I like him and his bday is soon and I bought him a bday card and was going to get a gift for him . Is it too much …. I never dated anyone or have this attention from some before
It is not too much! Go ahead girl@ Do be yourself and reassure him, that you are really attracted to him. Keep the conversation authentic and warm. 🙂
Hi,
I have a work situation – We have known each other just over a year, he has a girlfriend, I am single and I really like him.
We usually have lunch together just the 2 of us once a week, we are really close friends and talk about v personal stuff. He has social anxiety and says he might read expressions wrongly, it also means he can sometimes come across moody and distant when he is anxious and he can often feel uncomfortable, this makes him hard to read.
We also chat online a lot during work time, we have a great time together and laugh a lot too, he often giggles when i’m around which he doesn’t do with everyone – but then he isn’t really friends with anyone else at work. I call him things like Boo and Bubs.
He often looks at my mouth – probably every conversation and occasionally stares at it, even when I’ve stopped looking at him and I can see it out of the corner of my eye. At one of our lunches he was looking at me, I caught his eye and we smiled and looked away, then I could see him looking again so I looked him in the eye and we just started laughing.
He isn’t great at responding to messages when he isn’t at work, however if I am unwell he will text me to check if I am ok, he also texts me if he’s ill just to tell me how ill he is.
He doesn’t really like hugging but once we had a very long tight hug where I let go first.
When we pass each other things or are both pointing to something our hands will touch for 3 or 4 seconds.
When we sit near each other we sit very close, usually touching, our legs or arms. He sits next to me rather than opposite if there is a choice. I have rested my head on his shoulder. Once we were sitting with my leg rubbing his for about an hour under the desk, and when the meeting finished we just stayed there for an extra 20 mins working and keeping our legs touching.
I usually touch his arm or leg, he has rubbed his arm against mine a couple of times and once he leaned past me which meant his arm rubbed against my hip.
There’s probably more but that is most things I think.
You’re basically dating. He’s very interested.
I’d say congrats if he didn’t have a girlfriend. Unfortunately, that fact makes me question his integrity and motives.
Hi Viktor:) Thank you for being so inviting as far as commenting goes.
I have a work-related situation. I’m in the medical field. It’s a no-no because we’re both married, but I can’t stop feeling the way I feel. I will never act on anything and I highly doubt anything will happen. I don’t think he would ever act on anything either.
I have this huge crush on a coworker. It came out of nowhere. We’ve been working together about 4 years. I work 3 days a week and he has on and off weeks, so our interactions are not super frequent, and then we only really have to interact if we have a patient together, which makes the interactions even less frequent. He has patients on 3 different floors. I’m just on my one floor.
Let’s see if I can get to the point here….
I think he likes me too, for a few silly subtle reasons and others more blatant.
He seems to spend more time on my floor even if he has more patients on other floors than he does on mine.
He looks at me a lot. He comes around me a lot. He chooses the hall I’m in or the door that I’m next to when he leaves the floor.
One time my badge was pulling my collar open a little too much (unintentional!) and his eyes got stuck on my breast bone a little too long while we were in a patient’s room. It was hilarious because he was talking to the patient and his head kinda turned away but his eyes were stuck! I could not believe it.
He has bumped into me/ sought or made physical contact too many times to think it was just accidental. Twice he has bumped right into my ass, on the pretext of reaching for something beyond me and another time in a tight area, where he bumped into me really hard. I said something about “tight space” (I had to say something!) and could barely stand to look at him- I was (pleasantly) shocked at his boldness- and he had this mischievous grin on his face.
He’s a cool, collected dude. Sometimes very serious. He’s very professional (except when it comes to my derriere, apparently). You could say he’s hot n cold, but when we’re alone I feel a deep connection (could be just me).
He’s super smart. So am I (or so I’m told). I feel like he is the male version of me. I feel like we have some serious intellectual intercourse. We are very similar in the way that we talk to and treat our patients (empathy).
We make a lot of eye contact when we talk (could be just me). Once when we were done with a patient we were walking away from each other but kept looking at each other, smiling. I melted, and I also felt like I gave too much away. He gets closer to me physically than I would ever get to him when we’re talking. He often rounds on our mutual patients twice, even though he only needs to round once. He has come to find me about something maybe unimportant when he probably could have just texted.
Most of the time I avoid him like the plague. I will only sit next to him at a computer if I absolutely have to.
Sometimes I feel like he’s avoiding me, too.
He makes me nervous and I lose my breath when he’s around.
Once he asked me something out of the blue, if I participate in a certain thing (outside of work) because he saw a person who looked like me, he said. I won’t go into detail, but it was very flattering.
There’s a couple more details but I’ll leave it at that for now.
I just want to slam him up against a wall and have my way with him, or run my fingers through his hair at the very least.
Of course I never will. Besides, how do I know that my fantasies are so strong that I’m actually just making myself believe he feels the same way, but he really doesn’t? I’m in love with the idea of him. In love with what I imagine. I know that it feels better to want than to have. In my mind he/it is perfect.
I’ve tried to will this stupid crush away but I just can’t.
I just wish I could know if he is as tormented as I am.
He definitely has similar feelings as you. But can’t know if he’s as tormented or if he’s just enjoying the flirting.
It sounds like you’re idealizing him. It happens to all of us when we have a crush on someone and it’s perfectly normal. Just remember that your brain and your hormones are fooling you by giving you rose-tinted glasses. The crush will go away eventually, but it can a long time if you’re unlucky. If you want it to go away faster, maybe you can look into changing your working situation so you don’t see him anymore?
Thank you!
The heat really got turned up this past week because I worked 4 days, and he was on too. A pretty rare occurrence. It will cool off again. These “off” cycles definitely help. We can go 2 or 3 weeks without seeing each other.
Other than that I can’t change my work situation. I love my job and the people on my floor.
I’ll just continue to avoid him, and like you said, if I’m lucky the crush will just go away quickly. I hope. I’ve never had feelings like this since I’ve been married- 15 yrs. And my husband and I were together for 8 years before we got married!
This feels like more than a crush. It’s been about 23 yrs since I fell in love with my husband. And now this… it feels like love 🙁
My marriage is pretty strong (except he’s pretty bad with communication) and I would never jeopardize it.
Hi. This guy and I have known each other for about a year now and last January things began getting flirty. We were both in the same grad program and i was set to graduate in May. Things did not escalate until school was over and I think that was a mutual respect thing for academics. We hung out a lot over the summer in groups and one on one and the sexual tension started. He did all of the texting, touching, eye contact etc. finally we started getting physical and we eventually had sex. And it was amazing. After the sex I wasn’t as vocal as I could have been about it and he accused me of acting weird. I gave him some time and he began changing…
We kept hanging out I stayed over one night at his apt. He took me on a proper date… and now he is back in grad school and dealing with three jobs so I am trying to give him some space. What is your opinion on the situation?
3 jobs+school seems really stressful for him. Have you ever talked about what you both want long-term out of your relationship? Has he given you any signs he wants to commit? And what do you want?
We started texting the next day after we met and coz he was usually busy he suggested we find a way to talk often then it all got flirty. I usually find it hard keeping up with conversations though normally. Though smetimes it’s on and off and then itgets really sexual yet we only started talking. How do I handle this
He’s definitely interested in you in some way, but since it got so sexual so fast, it tells me he might just be interested in sex so far. But it’s hard to tell without more info. The question is what you would like to get out of this budding relationship?
I just want to say thank you for listening and giving me great advices. Very much appreciated. Anyways I want you to analyzed our conversation other day. He told me there was a better position in another department for him. I told him he should take it better pay. He says, he doesn’t know if he will. I told he should it a better opportunity for him to moved up. If he take that position I will no longer work with him or see him around. If it benefit him in the future then I’m happy.
Hi
I have developed feeling for this guy(co-worker). I want to know for sure without asking him if he also interested in me. Sometimes I feel like he interested and sometimes I feel like he isn’t. Like he sending me mixed signals and I don’t know what to do. 2 weekend ago I hosted something and I invited him to come. He did and he also brought a friend. It wasn’t a work related thing so I felt like he came for me. Maybe he just being nice. He has never asked for #. He always tell me how smart I am at work. He told his friend I’m a sweet girl. Whenever we run into each at work he would just make eye contact with me and then look away quickly. I’m really confused to what to do. I really like him but I don’t want to make thing awkward at work. I don’t want to let him know unless I sure how he feels.
From what you’ve described, I’m not quite sure either if he’s interested romantically or not. Do you have any more examples of his behavior toward you? How does he behave when you two are talking?
Well there one time I saw him do something for another co-worker and I came up to him to asked him why he never did that for me. I said I expect the same thing next time. He said anything for you Tram. I’m very shy and quiet girl. I have a hard time talking him
That’s an okay sign, but it could still just be him being friendly and polite. I would not read anything into that either. You should try interacting with him a bit more and I think you’ll get more clear signs soon. Does he use any social media where you can interact if you’re too shy to talk?
Does he ever blush or seem shy around you?
Okay so something weird happen today, he was working in another department but he came over to talk to me toward the end of the day. He has already made eye contact with me from across the room. I was surprised he actually came. He has never ever done that before. We talk for at least 15 mins. Our shift ended and everyone was gone. We didn’t even realized it. It was actually nice we had a conversation going.
Awesome! That is great!
He definitely seems to want some form of relationship with you. I’m leaning toward a romantic interest, but there’s also a chance it could just be friendly or attention-seeking.
I think it’s good to make a move now if you want to. It doesn’t have to be something obvious, you could ask him if he wants to join you for some event in town or similar without directly expressing your romantic interest.
Hi. I’m really confused about whether this one guy at work likes me. We work in different areas of the building so it’s tough to find a reason to talk to him but for the most part he glances my way or sometimes leaves his station as soon as he spots me leaving work. Once I was walking out and he was right beside me and I got startled but then I apologized and he said it was okay and even chuckled. Sometimes when I walk by him with another male friend, he tends to stare at us. I’m not sure what to make of him. Please help.
Hey, Why don’t you try to make him realize you actually want to talk and get more of this eyes-locking communication. Next time he looks at you, look back at him and smile, you can even nod your head. This will make him understand that it’s ok. to come to you. I think that this is even better that you work in different departments, so you get the chance to talk about other stuff than work. 🙂
Hi
I actually have a question that concerns me. I sometimes get bullied by my friends at university. It is not physical bullying. It is actually verbal bullying.
The problem is that I got bullied in front of my crush, but I try my best to answer and argue with what they are saying. Do you think that she is not interested in me anymore because of that?
Thanks.
She had to act out and defend you, if really into you. Please, please speak with someone older than you, best – a teacher or your parents, older sibling and describe your feeling, what happens at school and make a move to stop the bullying. Pretty sure you are very wonderful young person, no one deserves bad attitude. And, to your question, I would never change my feelings towards anyone, just because other people behave silly with him/her.
P.S. I am studying at University and he is not a prof but a student who helps our prof with classes.
Hey, so I have noticed that one of my teachers stares at me secretly, sometimes even flushes when I talk to him, he is laughing each time I laugh and does give compliments on my work. And when I enter the room or he does and sees me he gets a very bright and happy expression. Even when we are alone.
BUT as soon I get closer by accident because I was behaving very passionate about a topic we discussed (my natural way) he backs off as if he is trying to avoid to touch me. He never greats me or says goodbye. Even though we might be alone in a room and I said already twice goodbye to make sure that he heard me. Sometimes he is super helpful in his free time but the next time he behaves very distant.
So I am confused. I don’t get it.
It sounds like he’s very interested in you. But he might be worried he’d destroy his career or his reputation if he slips up, so he tries to hold back. That’s the most likely reason why you’re getting so mixed signals from him. It could also be that he’s really shy or insecure.
OK so we’re friends but lately I noticed that he calls more often, finds a reason to touch me and has introduced me to his brothers and always asking if am free.
From that brief description, it sounds like he has a crush on you. But I’d be able to tell more surely if you gave more info about your relationship and age.
Ok so I keep catching him looking at me and his friends keep wanting him to talk to me and he gets embarrassed he’s also been touching my arm from time to time and moves at my speed when I’m walking to our common classes
That sounds very promising. It sounds like he has a crush on you and that his friends are trying to encourage him to go for it, but he’s too shy.
Unless you want to wait, I’d suggest taking an initiative yourself. Start chatting with him on Snapchat/Facebook/Insta, or even ask him if he wants to go to some event with you or do some fun activity.
There’s this guy who’s younger than me. After a while being acquainted I’ve realized that his personality is the one I’m looking for for a guy. I didn’t want to look desperate so I didn’t add him in social media. After several months, he add me. I thought that the thing that triggered him to do that was I didn’t talked to him the last time we had a group gathering though I’m the one mostly initiated a conversation whenever we met. After I accepted him in social media I immediately ask him for some suggestions to my questions. He replied me accompany with this emoji ????. I don’t know what to do with my emotions cause I’ve been single all my life. It will be a great help for me for anyone who can have a solution to my emotion. Thanks