How do you know if a girl likes you or even has a crush on you? These days, it can be quite difficult to know. She may be acting friendly, but what if she’s friendly towards everyone? Is she flirting, or are you imagining it?
Some women are more outgoing than others, so they may seem like they’re flirting even when they’re not. And some are shy, so they may seem withdrawn and uninterested even if they have a huge crush! It can be pretty hard to figure out, which is why we wrote this guide.
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- Signs she likes you
- Does your best friend have a crush on you?
- How can you know for sure if a girl likes you?
47 signs she likes you
Unless a girl tells you outright that she likes you, you will have to try to understand by her context clues. When we have a crush on someone, there are usually changes in behavior around that person. Some changes are intentional (if they’re trying to show you that they are interested), while others are unintentional (due to nervousness).
The more of these signs she shows, the more likely it is that she has a crush on you, rather than just being a flirty or friendly person overall. Here are 47 signs to help tell if a girl likes you.
1. She laughs at your jokes
Laughing at your jokes can be a huge sign of interest (especially if you are not a particularly funny person…) If she smiles and laughs a lot around you, she may have a crush.
If you want to make a girl you like to laugh more, you may like to read this article on how to be funny (for un-funny people).
2. She mirrors you
Mirroring means that her body language, posture, or even what she’s saying reflects what you said or did. So if you take a sip of your glass, if she’s mirroring that, she’ll also take a sip of her glass. Or if you cross your legs and she does the same, that’s also mirroring.
Remember that mirroring is done subconsciously when she has a very good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if she wants to impress or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.
3. She adds you on social media
This one means she wants to stay in touch and is at least a little bit interested in you. It also makes it much easier for you to take initiative by messaging or commenting on her posts.
4. She writes you long texts
Is she always giving you short answers, or is she giving you a small novel as a reply?
If her texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.
If you’re usually giving her long replies but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager. In that case, it’s often good to step back a bit and try to match her better. Give her some space, so she wants to come back to you again.
5. She teases you
Is it mean teasing or more flirty and light-hearted?
Most forms of teasing (even mean) are usually a sign she’s interested in you. I LOVE it when a girl I like tries to tease me. It means she’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that she wants a reaction from you. Just don’t take it too seriously and try to have fun with her!
6. She leans in toward you
If she’s leaning in toward you, that’s a sign she’s eager to get your attention or get her message across. And in the best case, it also means she’s eager to get closer to you.
7. She moves closer to you
If you’re in a conversation and you feel like she’s edging closer to you, or as if she’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. It could mean she’s attracted to you and wants to feel closer to you both physically and mentally.
Take note that different cultures have different “personal spaces.” So, if she’s from a different culture than you, it might just be because of that.
8. She bites her lips
Biting herself lightly on the lip is a flirty and cute (or sexy) signal. If she’s biting herself in the lip while you’re talking, that’s great. She’s probably into you.
9. She smiles at you
If she’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach her. Or she’s flirting with you. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home).
If she’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign she likes you. Especially if she has a light smile while you’re not even joking.
10. She licks her lips or teeth
Is she licking her lips or teeth? This is similar to biting her lips, but a bit more subtle and less flirty. Still a good sign she might like you.
11. She’s blinking more than normal
According to Blake Eastman, a body language expert, an increased blink rate can signify attraction[1], so it may be a good sign if you notice that she seems to be blinking more around you.
12. Her pupils are larger than normal
If her pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.
13. She’s keeping eye contact for longer
If you notice that she’s holding eye contact slightly longer than normal, she’s probably trying to get your attention or make a connection with you. It’s a good sign that she’s interested in you. That kind of eye contact often feels more intense and can even be a bit weird or uncomfortable.
14. She’s gives you a light smile
Say that you’re all standing in a circle, and you two make eye contact when someone else is talking. Does she give you a slight smile? She probably likes you (or is a very kind person, which is also a good sign!)
Same thing if you make eye contact at a distance, in a park, or at a bar. A smile is like an invitation to start talking.
15. She looks at you with open body language
This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, such as a bar or a club.
If she’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that can be a sign she’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you she wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.
16. She corrects her posture
Does she straighten her posture when she gets your attention or is close to you? That means she’s trying to make a good impression on you.
On the other hand, a more relaxed posture can mean that she feels comfortable around you, which can also be a good sign.
17. She faces you
If she’s facing you more often than she’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign she’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not even the one talking the most in the group.
18. Her feet point towards you
If her feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if her body is facing you. She’s subconsciously focused on you, which makes her feet point toward you. It’s a sign of open body language.
19. She fiddles with or straightens her clothes, jewelry, or accessories
This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because she wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.
20. Her palms are faced in your direction
If the palms of their hands are pointed in your direction, she might be interested in you. It’s a weak signal, but it’s still positive because it’s part of an open and welcoming body language she has toward you.
21. She touches you back
For example, if you touch her arm, does she touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If she does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign, but it also depends on if she’s touchy with most people or just you.
Keep in mind that shy girls usually don’t touch back because they’re so afraid of messing up.
22. She touches you when you talk
Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if she touches those. Some girls aren’t so comfortable with touch, and it takes them a while to warm up. So if she doesn’t touch you, it isn’t necessarily a sign that she doesn’t like you if she shows many other signs on the list.
23. You have “peripheral physical contact”
Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.
For example, if you’re both sitting down and your thighs are barely touching each other. Or if you’re walking side by side and she grabs hold of your arm. That kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of tension and attraction.
24. She’s giving you more of her attention
For example, if she directs most of her attention when you’re in a group. Or if she’s only asking you questions or if she’s laughing more than others at your jokes.
The more attention she gives you, the more interested she usually is in you.
25. She blushes
Does she blush when you talk or make eye contact? She might be shy, but she’s probably a bit self-conscious around you because she likes you.
26. She looks at you from afar
Girls are often a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. I’ve even seen girls using window reflections to check out a guy (and to check if he’s looking at them). Sunglasses are even sneakier.
So if she’s looking in your direction, especially if she does it several times, she’s probably checking you out.
27. She keeps the conversation going
What happens when you stop talking or can’t come up with anything to say? If she seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If she excuses herself, she may not be that interested.
Click here to read my full guide on how to talk to girls.
28. She always replies
Does she always reply when you call or text?
Quicker responses are often a sign of interest. But many girls are so afraid of appearing needy that they delay their response even if they like you.
29. She texts or calls you first
If she’s often the one initiating, that’s a very strong sign she’s into you.
But if she never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if she will take initiative when you don’t do it before she even has the chance.
30. She texts you often
Compare this to how often you text her. It’s the same principle as matching the length of her texts. She’s eager if she’s texting more often than you, and you’re eager if you’re the one texting more often.
31. She stammers, stutters, or forgets what she was about to say
Does she seem nervous when you guys are having a conversation? This could mean she’s a bit extra shy or self-conscious around you, which tells you that she might also be a bit extra interested in you.
32. She doesn’t back off when you get closer
If she doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to her personal space, that’s a sign she wants you close to her.
If you take a step closer, and she backs off by a step, that’s a sign she’s a bit more reserved toward you.
33. She talks about future plans
Planning or mentioning things they want to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.
For example, if you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say, “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!” If you’re talking about art and she wants to share her work, that’s a good sign too.
34. She’s pleased with your commonalities
How does she react when she finds out that you have something in common? If she’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, like that you live in the same part of town, you’re the same age, or you both like pizza.
35. She asks you personal questions
If she is, that’s telling you that she wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more she asks, the better.
For example, asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or just about your favorite food. Asking you questions is literally showing interest in you.
36. She asks about your plans
Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be her trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if she brings it up near the end of the conversation.
37. She seems embarrassed if you two are the only two people left in a situation
If she does but doesn’t do anything to leave the situation, that means she’s just a bit shy but still interested.
A classic example is if you meet her with her girlfriends at a bar, and then all her friends leave, but she stays. That’s perfect because it also means her friends approve of you.
38. She tells her friends or family about you
This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I thought it was worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if she’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.
If she’s told her family, it means she is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!
If she just told her friends, that’s also great, but not as big as her family.
39. She offers you a massage
Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a girl to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer her one back if you like her!)
40. She reschedules when she can’t make a date
Say you were meant to meet up with her, but she cancels. How can you know if she truly couldn’t make it or if she just isn’t interested?
Life happens, and everyone has to change or cancel plans sometimes. If she tries to reschedule when she cancels, it’s a good sign she is interested in you and had to cancel for legitimate reasons.
41. She compliments you
If she gives you positive feedback, it’s a good sign she likes you. While teasing can also be a sign she likes you, some women are more prone to compliment a guy they like, and many do both.
42. She gives you small gifts
Does she pick up things for you or give you gifts or trinkets? That’s a sign that she’s thinking about you and wants to make you feel good. For example, if you’ve mentioned that you have a weakness for pastries, and she shows up with a croissant the next time you meet up, that’s a really good sign that she likes you.
43. She follows up on things you tell her
Remembering that you said you have a test coming up and asking how it went is a sign that she takes you seriously and also that she wants you to know that she listens to you and cares.
44. She lets you know she’s single
Bringing up the fact that she’s single could be a way for her to let you know that she’s available and interested.
45. She asks for your help
Asking for your help can be a way to spend more time with you and establish a connection. It can also be a way for her to check how responsive and helpful you are to get an idea of how you would behave as a romantic partner.
46. She opens up to you
Asking you questions about yourself shows that she’s interested and wants to learn more about you. Sharing things about herself is a sign that she trusts you and wants to get closer to you.
47. She has a nickname for you
Giving you a nickname can be a flirty way to show that she likes you.
Does your best friend have a crush on you?
It can be more difficult to figure out these signs if you’re already friends with someone. If you’re close friends, she probably already texts you, tells you about her life, teases you, spends time with you, and so on. How can you know if it’s just friendship or if there’s more going on?
Is she acting differently from how she usually behaves? If there’s a sudden change in her behavior towards you, it may be a sign that her feelings have changed. On the other hand, if her behavior has changed in all aspects of life, it may have nothing to do with you.
Does she seem jealous or dismissive of other girls you might like? Is she suddenly extra touchy-feely? Is she unusually interested in your interests? These changes may indicate that her feelings towards you are shifting or that she’s trying to work out what she feels.
Those are all signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend.
How do you know for sure if she’s interested?
You can’t know for sure if she’s interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few rules you can use to help you know:
- Is she regularly showing you different signs of interest?
- Does she act differently to others than to you? (So she’s not just flirty with everyone.)
- Has she shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
The only one to know for sure is to check with her. Let her know you are interested and see if the feeling is mutual.
Are you still unsure if she likes you?
Write it down in the comments below in as much detail as possible for other commenters to help you out. I’ll also respond to a few of the most interesting comments. But I can’t keep up with all the comments alone, so try to help others by answering them too. Poorly written comments with bad grammar will be deleted.
Hi Viktor,
So here’s the situation. Almost every Saturday I go to a local pizza shop. There’s always there’s always these two women working the front desk. I’m really shy so at this time I don’t even know their names. One I will call Annie the other I will call Brandi. The one I think has interest in me is Brandi. So several months back I went into to pick up the pizza I ordered online. Annie says to me, “She’ll get your pizza for you like she always does” as she pointed at Brandi. Annie could have easily gotten it for me as she wasn’t doing anything and Brandi was finishing up taking an order over the phone. This type of thing has been going on for months now. Every single time I go in there Brandi gives me my food and I have seen Annie give people their food before. It’s almost as if they have something worked out between them that Brandi will give me my food. Last week Brandi and I locked eyes for a few seconds and I I recollect that her pupils were dilated. However,I was unable to see whether or not she was smiling due to her having to wear a mask due to the coronavirus pandemic. We really haven’t spoken much, but with the apparent arrangement between Annie and Brandi, I just can’t imagine that there is not some level of interest there. This Saturday I’m going to go in and finally learn her name and ask her out for coffee sometime. If you get time please let me know what you think. I’m really scared of rejection and don’t know if this is real interest on her part or if I’m just wanting her to be interested that much that I’m imagining it to be true
It has come to my surprise when I was sitting under the shade of a tree just few meters away from our New Lecture Theater waiting for a class test when she stared at me for a long from the other side of a lawn.
At first I couldn’t realized that she was looking at me but having a feeling that someone was looking at me so I quickly turned to see who was actually noticing me. As I turned over my shoulder my eyes caught hers but she pretend turned and look away into another direction. This reaction from her gave me a sensational feeling of approaching her.
I stood from my sitting and walked across the lawn and reached her with a smile on my face. She also gave a smile when threw my hands for handshake. After shook hands I ask her if she mind I could sit close to her for chat. She agreed to my proposal of siting next to her but actually I was feeling little bit shy because it was my first time in my life time. The chatting was so fantastic.
In fact, she do most of the talking while I was a good listener to all her sweet talks. At few times she tried to look directly into my eyes as if something important got lost in my eyes but I didn’t want that to happen and looked away. She also tried to touch me on my fore-arms while talking and off course I didn’t want to give in that easily as she expected.
It was not long that every one arrived for the class test and I left her say good bye to her as she looked at me for the last the glance on my face as I walked off to joint my friends for test.
When looking back to the 42 explanations on ” how to tell if a girl likes you” gives a insight on what has happened to me on that very day…thank you!
So… I like this girl and we are in middle school together, we only had one class together this year and I make a lot of jokes at the table and she always laughs at them even if they’re kinda bad and don’t make any sense. I am not sure if she is just shy and wants to make a friend but she always seems to be really happy when talking to me and it’s always kinda awkward. About halfway throughout the year she decides to ask me to this summer camp thing for two people at a college since her mom had a pass or something. Around this time I didn’t know I liked her and I thought the feeling was just me wanting to be better friends with her. -_- Stupid me, so I said no since I don’t know about any plans my family had. She looked kinda said when I said no. I didn’t say “no” I just said probably not after she asked me. She looked down and quietly said okay. Kinda felt bad. One time when she was talking to me about something school related(it was about a canceled band trip since I didn’t know about it yet). While she was talking to me she was leaning in really close. I don’t know why, she had no good reason to go in so close. I was crossing my arms on the desk to rest my head on, since I was really tired in the morning. I looked up and said really? that sucks and looked back down because looking at her from that angle would have been ya know… kinda… weird? after a couple of seconds of looking at me, while fidgeting with her fingers she went back to her desk. I think she was being kinda awkward though, it was in the morning. I am not sure if she likes me or not since she is really friendly towards other people But she is also a shy person. Any ideas?
Personally, I think she likes u man. If u like her it sounds like your clear to ask her out ! U never know until you try though ;).
i have a girl whos my best friend im 29 shes 23 but man is she pretth she has a boyfriend n i am married but she started callin me boo she texts me good morning boo every morning and her bf dont like me and i dont like him he feels like a competiton when she hang with me im bi and she says she aint but she even tells me she feels like im her side nigga cuz i would pick her up when her bf is at work an have her back before he gets back me n her cruise and we drink n talk so much and when we do she holds my hand and ive even took uer hand and kissed it she looked at me and smiled she always wants to hang out we have a song together that my boo song from usher lol oh and when i hang out with female friends she tells me she dont like them or shes a bad influence she says she aint jealous but i can tell because she would ask how long was i out and what time i.got home lol but do you think she is into me she sending me all these signals man and idk i hope she does because i like her alot
Hey, how’s it going?
So pretty much I’ve been really confused on whether this girl I’m friends with likes me. I’ve known her for 3 years or so but have recently actually been getting friendly with her. She lives in another state close to mine, she’s related to my best friend (he knows I have feelings for her) and she’s never had a boyfriend. The only time I actually have contact with her is through gaming, she seems to laugh at most of my jokes (even the dumb ones) she doesn’t like me joking poorly of myself though. When I’m with her I catch her looking at me and doesn’t break eye contact, she’s usually smiling at me, but as I said idk she may just be friendly? Any advice would be appreciated because I really do wanna be with her..
i think a girl (who i personally know) likes me, even though we can only talk over whatsapp… i mean, she actually chatted with me at 11PM… when i asked what she was doing so late, she replied chatting with u… also, when i closed off.. she said sweet dreams… im not even 18, so i have no idea whats going on… the whole whatsapp chat had a slightly romantic air to it… i wanna know what might be happening, or if im overreacting.
So I’m bi and not long been single. I really like this girl, we do martial arts together but she is also my instructor and we are on the same instructor course. She is 22, never had a bf but she has experimented with guys also she says she is straight but I don’t think she is. We seem to have chemistry. So one day we were sat next to each other at lunch and she looks at me and says I love your eyeliner. Then I was eating cake and she said is it good so I said yeah do you want some so she picked up my fork and had some. She also said I love your necklace. I also touched her on the arm cz when I went to pack my stuff up we bumped into each other by accident and she said oh sorry but it happened again so I made a joke and said do you mind and laughed then put my hand on top of her arm. We did zumba together and her sister said wow J seems to have the moves so she then looks up and smiles. Also we were talking me her and her sister and one of us said something then she winked at me. In class she just keeps looking at me every so often. Then she was using me to demonstrate what we were doing… there were 4 other higher grades and another instructor to do it on. Then we did self defense. I was going to go with the other instructor but then the girl said actually you come with me we we worked on that doing demonstrations again. So she got to put me in arm locks etc. Then one point she had hold of me and she said it’s like we are holding hands isn’t that cute.
she was showing me how to do something but she had me in arm lock and held me against her.
We were sparring together and I accidentally fell into her twice I just misjudged my footing. We flirt alot when we are sparring together and laughing getting up close.
I went to a new class and I got lost so she came out to find me. We were jogging round the room but she kept trying to race me and kept overtaking me so I would catch up and overtake but it was only me. Then we were sparring I touched her chest I didn’t mean too though but she was like you just my tits… so I laughed and said my bad but then she got me back and touched my ass and said I got your ass and laughed then she said something like I just keep touching you… I couldn’t hear properly cz I had my head guard on. She kept playing with her hair when was standing next to her. The other night I took a pad off her and like ran my hand along hers.
One class we were playing a game and we had to have our arms round the person’s shoulders in a circle… I wasn’t next to her I was next to her sister but then she came in between us and put her arm round me and I put my arm round her but then she said actually I won’t join in but then she did. She laughs at me all the time and teases me usually cz I’m short or cz I’m clumsy. When we did the instructor course we were sat together in class and like we were touching alot not hands but our arms, if I moved away for a bit then moved my arm back to touch hers again… she didn’t move. Like if someone was like in my space like that I would move my arm or whatever unless I liked them. Then the afternoon we partnered up for a little bit then worked in a group with her. I put my hands on her waist and again she didn’t flinch. She also helped me with my top cz it goes past my knees.
I was doing a kick and she said omg I’m so jealous can you teach me. She was telling us what we needed to do and looking at me so I started to subtly flirting like biting my bottom lip. Then after class I was putting my socks on and she started to walk over but didn’t so I went to get changed when I came back she said oh here she is. So I was putting my stuff away and she came over and I’m pretty sure she looked at my chest or she was reading what was on it. I had a jumper on but it wasn’t a baggy one like I usually wear. She said you did great tonight I like your kicks. Then she said thanks for coming tonight I need that cz you know I needed even number. Which there wasn’t until someone came in like 15 minutes late. I got the feeling that she was a bit flustered when I was biting my lip.
One evening I left the hall for a bit and when I came back she was outside just us talking as I went back in I turned back to look and we just stared at each other so I smiled and gave her the up and down look and she smiled.
We went out for food the other night with some of the team. If I touched her back or had my arm on the back of her chair she would lean back into my arm… occasionally. We were sharing a glass of wine and when I took the glass back I put my hand on top of hers and she kept trying to take my jumper off. She was looking after me cz I was a bit drunk but we were talking bout something and she said as an instructor I need to be professional. I was talking bout my ex bf wanting to get back together she was listening then I said that she turned away to talk to someone else. All the signs are there but she says she is straight. I’m so confused cz she keeps going hot and cold but I like her so much.
What a mouthful!!! But the signs are there. I’m 24 and bi and I think you two should just go out already lol
So i have had a crush on this girl for a while now. We usually hang out in our friends truck where we are always cuddled up with each other and she occasionally tickles me or takes my hat of I have one. The only problem is we are both girls so would your signs still apply or would their be differences.
It’s all the same girlfriend. Chemistry is chemistry.
This girl I have only known for month. Has been giving strong mix signals. She says she in a relationship but she never talks about the relationship she’s in. I don’t know if she’s making it up to see if I’d get jealous or what. She flirts with me 24/7 and always smiles and she hangs out with me a lot. She always try’s to be around me. And she really trying to get to know me like in general. But I don’t want ruin the friendship. Cause her friend is way more important than my feelings for her. I think she does have a feelings for me though.
I got this girl at my new job she gives flirty vibes. Is always staring at me and smiling. She is always trying to talk to me every second she can. But we’ve only hung out twice outside of work. I don’t know she says she straight but I can’t tell. I mean acts like she has a thing for me.
Help needed in understanding this girl !
Long story short : So I started using an online dating app and matched with this girl . We talked and had nice conversations not just small talk but long ones too . Than after one week she was like : we should go try this place out . And I said I was down . But than we saw each other randomly at the same gym I never knew she was going to my same gym . So after two/ three times seeing her and recognize her I approach her and break the ice. In the meantime our conversations on the app died and never went out as she suggested maybe and I am assuming cause she felt a little bit unsecured after randomly seeing me . Nevertheless I keep seeing her at the gym and was able to talk with her a total of three times each time she took off her headphones and she was eager to talk to me , giving me some smiles and not just giving me short answers . Unfortunately I was never able to get her phone number or go out with her yet and now my only chance is the gym . I know she is kinda interested in me cause she previously suggested to go out with me and the few times I talked to her in person she was comfortable . I pretty much see her 2/3 times a week but it’s not easy to approach her cause of the environment and setting . Sometimes she walks by me or works out by me other times she makes eye contact from far away without me noticing her , but also sometimes she avoids me like for example I work out at a certain area and she moves to a different area , also twice she was doing her cardio workout behind me . Also I know she went out with someone else this past weekend ( saw an Instagram story not from her profile but from someone else ) which is cool with me cause we never went out yet so I don’t expect her to just wait on me . Overall what should I do ? Just try to approach her and ask her out now ?? I don’t want to waste more time as her interest may die if I am not able to talk to her , just need to find a good moment
So I like this girl, but I’m not sure if she likes me.
We got into a conversation recently, and she said I’m nice to talk to and paid me a few compliments. After that she started smiling at me everytime we made eye contact, and sometimes waving when I’m directly opposite her.
I’ve caught her looking at me from afar a few times too, and when I look back at her for about 4-5 seconds she smiles and breaks eye contact
Does she like me?
I think she does just ask her out
Before we talk normally, but now when only the two of us are left alone there’s this awkward tension that you’d feel. And I don’t know but we can’t look each other that much in the eye anymore. I’m so confused
Well, I’m friends with her and I like her. But I don’t know if she likes me back, I flirt with her a lot and one time it made her really speechless. But it didn’t end there, until she told be to stop, so I asked her if she felt uncomfortable and she told me she does not. But I felt as if I made her uncomfortable and well it’s like being busted. Although what makes me confused is she flirted with me afterwards. So basically we jokingly flirt with each other although for me when I flirt with her everything is real. Can you help me out, I don’t know what to do.
Hey there chief, how are you?
I’m in my forty’s, but I’ve been quite shy all my life. I’m interested in your opinion. There was a girl that once worked at my other job, whose in her mid-twenties. She once bought me chocolates during this Christmas/New Year’s holiday. This has never happened to me before and is usually the other way around. It kind of caught me by surprise. She is cute, but sometimes I think that she may be too young for me–although we do converse well. On her last day, I asked her out. She says, for what–for coffee? So, I went with it, and said, yes. She then says, “You have my number at the desk.” I’ve found out that this was a custom in Japan for a woman to give men chocolate for Valentines Day. She is Hispanic, so I did not know if it was a custom of hers or if she was just being a friend. I did not want to totally ignore her gesture. Please advise.
So I work with this girl I’m 19 she’s 21 we work on seperate boats (there’s like 20 staff on each) but due to her boat having work done to it the staff were put on the other two and she was put onto the boat I’m on. So at first she was really shy and didn’t talk to me much which I found out later to be because she was scared of me and I was a bit nervous of her too. We’d justalk here and there in work as you do for the most part but the last 3 weeks have been different. She was fretting stressed one day and so I told her to go upstairs I got her a drink and just said to her to relax here for a bit (she was having a panic attack) and when she came back down I’d done everything for her. For the whole week after that we talked more often at work and she’d messaged me a couple of times just for different bits and bobs. In the last week she’s got very talkative jokes around with me. I’m not a very adventurous eater shall we say and so she’s made a list of stuff I haven’t had and is making it her mission to get me try things. She wants me to go to a restaurant with her and try things. She’s been getting very cuddly and often grabs my hand. Yesterday we were in break together I laid down on the sofa and she laid behind me there wasnt any touching but we were there for about half hour I slept for 20 mins. I found out she’d asked my friends if I seem confident and comfortable around her and she’s just recently started texting me asking me how I am and just having a general conversation I am very interested in her everyone at work says we’d be really good together but me being me overthink everything and just worry that she’s just messing around and doesn’t feel the same way probably being stupid here but yeah ????
Met a girl a couple of months ago. Ask her out she never responded. Met her again last weekend. She came up to me & we danced a lot – We went to breakfast. She went to a party with me. I drove her home several nights. She left her friends to spend time with me. She kissed me lightly on the lips several times but no passionate kiss. When I moved in for a deep kiss & she said no. I kissed her lightly on the lips and backed off. She met me the next day for breakfast before we hit the road home. She picked up the check. She lives 4 hours from me. She laughed at me & we spent a lot of time together. At breakfast she showed me childhood pics and we talked. She seemed very interested. She gave me her phone number. She lost her husband 2 years ago. He was the love of her life. She is 62 and so am I. She was dating someone until March of this year that she said hurt her because they are no longer friends. Since we have both been home I have reached out several times. Her responses have been very short. I seem to be getting a lot of mixed signals. At first I thought she was interested but now I don’t know.
She prolly feels the same way (Mixed signals I mean
When two people fear the exact same things, one has to come clean first. If this is the case. Piggybacking off your reply.
So..I’m actually female and wondering if this girl likes me and isn t just being friendly. I met her at work over a year ago, and we got along right away. She knew shortly after we became friends that I am a lesbian, and she was completely supportive of it. There were a few things that stood out to me as possibly being more than friendly, but I could be wrong.
1: She made it a habit of buying me little things, mainly snacks and drinks for work, and she even learned all my favorites so she could surprise me with them. When we would go out to eat, we would always fight over paying because we both wanted to buy the other person’s food. When it came to Christmas, she got me something to replace an item similar to it since the original had broken and I was very sad about it. Not only that, but the replacement one was much nicer and showed that she knew my interests rather well. She mentioned buying me a ring once as a joke (or so I thought), and a week later she shyly handed me a ring pop.
2: She would take me out on little excursions, sometimes because she simply wanted a traveling buddy. She would go out of her way to take me to places I liked to go to (such as the mall) and would get overjoyed at the amount of enthusiasm I would show. We would go to the bookstore together despite her not being much of a reader, but she would always listen (and I mean actively listen, completely paying attention) to me go on about different books I loved or wanted to read to her or about the different stories I wanted to write. And whenever we would do something that was more towards her interests, she would still make sure I was enjoying myself.
3: She would drive the half hour to see me just to hug me or bring me lunch. She always managed to find time in her busy schedule to fit me and did so without making me feel like she was squeezing me in. She would push other stuff out of her day to be with me. If she couldn’t actually be with me because she had to do something, she would text me or call me.
4: We actually started texting each other a lot and started to have really deep, personal conversations. We would support each other during hard times and do our best to lift each other up and be encouraging. And during the good times, we were always each other’s number one fan. She was always so proud of me for things and would tell me. She would always be there if I needed a shoulder to cry on. Eventually, she started sending me selfies that I would gush over, and I returned the favor (nothing weird, just goofy faces or smiles). She would tell me how pretty she thought I was. One day, I gave her an actual photo of me from when I was in college, and she was RIDICULOUSLY excited.
5: She started to compliment me a lot and even admitted that she tried to restrain herself in the beginning but eventually gave up on that and just let the love pour out. But they weren’t usually vague compliments. She would habitually compliment my mind and how I think. She would tell me (and others) that I was really smart, even calling me the “brains of this two person operation.” She told me I had natural beauty, something no one else has ever told me, and she was very specific in complimenting my physical features, specifically my eyes and my hair. She would always tell me how much she loved my smirk or my giggle. I would send her pictures of me smirking, and she would get excited. I would often compliment her with the same gusto because I honestly think she’s the most beautiful girl, inside and out. But compliments can be platonic.
6: She started to get a lot more physical with me. It started with hugs that turned more into holding rather than a quick, friendly hug. We stopped doing the “tent” hug, and it always seemed like our bodies could never be close enough. She would wrap her arms around me when we’d go out places. Seeing us in the store, one might think we were dating the way her arm was draped across my shoulders and mine was around her waist, but again, that could just be a sign of really close friends. She started holding my hand at times; one time, she had my hand pressed against her mouth like she was going to kiss it, but her lips just rested on the back of my hand. Our texts habitually talked about wanting to hug each other and cuddle with each other. We would go to her apartment to watch movies and cuddle or to nap and cuddle. We would lie on her couch together with my head on her chest, and she would run her fingers through my hair or rub my back, sides, neck, and arms. Personal space was never a thing with her. She always felt like home to me. She told me she loves when I hold her in public, and the time I was holding her in front of my friends, she told me that meant a lot to her. I thought maybe it was because her knee was hurting and she needed the support, but maybe I’m wrong.
7: She would stare at me a lot. She looked at me like I was the most precious person in the whole world. The love in her eyes was palpable. And eventually, I started to stare back, and we would just lock eyes for a while. I would completely get lost in her eyes, but I have no idea if she’s even on the same page. One time, she was staring at me, and I had to use my lip balm (because I always need to use it when I’m super nervous), and she was like “are you putting on lip balm??” I was kind of curious if she was staring at my mouth or not, but I suppose you don’t necessarily need to be staring at someone’s mouth to notice they are using lip balm.
8: She called me her darling and referred to herself as my damsel in distress. She would say things about me needing to rescue her and other cheesy stuff, but I assume it was just a joke and she didn’t really mean it as anything more than that. I had my own little names for her, one specifically coming from a Metallica song, and she always seemed to like that. Sometimes, she would just outright call me “beautiful.” Like at work, she was yelling across the way “good morning, beautiful!” and my gay heart exploded into a million tiny pieces.
9: She was always willing to help me with stuff even stuff that I felt was a bit awkward. For example, I pulled a muscle in my back and needed help putting some KT tape on it. She was more than willing to help even though I refused to completely take off my shirt despite her saying I should multiple times. (I thought it would be a little weird standing completely topless in front of the girl I like.) Her hands felt unusually warm during this, and she was very flustered and giggly about it. She always is down for helping me put my hair up if I need it; she seems to have a thing for running her fingers through her hair. With my wrist injury, I was unable to tie my shoes. She would always get down on one knee and have me plop my foot on her leg so she could tie them for me. Little things like that, she was always more than ready to be there for me.
10: She started telling me she loved rather frequently, and I did the same. She told me she cared deeply for me. She would tell me things she loved about me, too. I know friends tell each other they love each other which is why I’m not sure if she means it as something more. Her actions definitely demonstrated that she cared about me.
11: She talked about us moving away together and having pets together. She was even going to let me have a cat despite her being more of a dog person. She figured we could just live out our lives together if we didn’t find someone. To be honest, I stopped looking for someone else when she started getting so close to me. She was always telling me I could come stay at her apartment and sleep there if I needed to. She really wanted me to stay the night.
And eventually, I did stay the night. We had something we were doing together in the morning so we figured it made logical sense for me to stay over. She went on one of her random cleaning sprees while I got comfy on her couch, watching funny videos as I did. She made it a point to let me know she was going to go brush her teeth, and she was in the bathroom for quite some time with no toilet flushing so not sure what that was about. She came out and immediately laid herself on top of me, her head on my chest. She eventually looked up and was staring at me again with the same heart eyes look as I laid there giggling away at some video. She told me she loved my giggle, and she kept staring at me rather than watching whatever I was watching. And then, she said it was time to sleep, and we both ended up in her bed. Now, she NEVER sleeps in her bed- always on the couch or the floor. But she and I were all cuddled up in the bed, my head on her chest and her rubbing my back and such like always. I got the feeling she was hoping for more than just cuddles, but I being the respectful lesbian that I am did nothing but cuddle the night away with my dream girl. I wanted to make a move, to at least kiss her, but I didn’t want to ruin things.
After that night, she started to distance herself. I thought it was because she figured out that I like her, despite me not acting any differently than I had. So I confessed that, yes, I like her, and I apologized dozens of times. She told me not to be sorry, and she took it rather well. She is still rather distant, but it doesn’t seem like she is angry about that. I’ve told her that I wish I had made a move and that I want to ask her out but don’t know if I should. She said something along the lines about me always having all the words to say, but that actions speak louder than words. And she keeps mentioning the actions speak louder than words thing, but I’m not sure if that is directed at me or if she is saying that about people in general.
All in all, I am hopelessly smitten with the girl, but I have no idea if she even feels the same. My anxiety is so terrible that my attempt at asking her out ending with me throwing up. I need to know if she feels the same before I try making a move. My friends say she does like me but wants me to do something about my feelings and not just say something. They say she is distancing herself because I didn’t get her hints to make a move that night. I think she just might be really friendly and I’ve possibly misinterpreted the whole thing; however, I am still slightly hopeful she feels the same because she is honestly my other half. This distance has been unbearable because we were each other’s support system, and now, we both are really struggling with our mental health. So, any help, thoughts, or advice would be greatly appreciated. I’m sure I sound like a lunatic, but we all do crazy things when we’re in love.
When I first saw this girl that was speaking loud with my mum and has I arrivied she becomes silent and started staring at me,so we both make eye contact but she was looking At me normally and later she looked away.then when I greeted her,and she nod her head and becomes silent does she like me?
you go dude
Hi Viktor,
So there’s this one friend who’s actually my friends sister that I started liking in the summer. The whole summer I would see a lot of her and we would even go to the beach together. We would be very touchy but not in a bad way, she would jump on top of me, rub lotion on my back and more. I would talk to her whenever we’re all together and make her laugh a lot. As soon as I found out she was talking to another guy by the time summer was coming to an end we both stopped keep in touch.
We started talking again after we went out with a few friends and the days after we would message each other back and forth and even send each other messages/pictures of ourselves . I would compliment her pictures and say how good she looked despite her insecurities she had. I’m pretty sure I made it quite clear she’s attractive. I would ask her about her day and what not. I may have pushed it a bit when she was going out late and I had said just “message me when you get home safe” . All the signs for me was she liked me and even some friends that had been around us thought so too.
There was also a time at my house where we were all watching a movie and she put her leg/foot on my lap. She would remove it once in a while but then put it right back on top, I even put it on my lap one time just to show she can make herself comfortable and I didn’t mind.
I recently asked a friend to ask the persons sister if by chance they talked about me or if they actually like me. I would under the impression that maybe she was just being friendly and I read it wrong like every other girl I liked. He had told me maybe to cool my jets a bit and stop flirting for now and I don’t think she feels that way about you.
At the same time I’m trying to focus on establishing my life. There’s a few things I don’t have which are crucial for everyday life. I have to think that this plays a important factor too. A girl doesn’t want to date a guy that’s not up to date with his life, especially at the age I’m at. I like to add she also a few years younger.
Maybe it’s not in the cards yet or maybe she wanted me to be more aggressive, it’s really hard to tell.
I’m trying to forget my feelings for her but don’t think that will ever happen because she’s always around. I will always like/care for her but I can say one good thing has come out of this. I’m a lot more determined to get the things I’m missing and I’m also trying new things that I should have tried before like cooking and what not. I’m not a model male but I think I will soon and maybe just maybe I’ll try for her when the time is right.
This girl would always talk sexual in conversation with me. She always stands within my point of view. She gives me alot of eye contact. She gets angry if I dont acknowledge her when I’m talking to someone else (male or female). So I told her I liked her alot. Now she doesn’t talk to me anymore. Why?
There’s this girl I like but I don’t knoe if she likes me. I’m a bit older than her. I see her almost every single day. I’ve liked her for like a year or maybe a year and a half but idk if she likes me back. It’s very hard to say she’s giving like mixed signals. We always make eyecontact tho sometimes she looks away and sometimes she dosent. She also ignored me and then she dosent again but she’s always been really nice to me. She seems really happy around me and her pupils dilate. She is just someone you’d dream of. She has beautiful mixed green and blue eyes and long brown hair. She is very beaufiul and also not to hide she has an amazing body shape you wouldn’t be able to stop staring at it. She also has an amazing personality. She is very similar to me. We have so much in common she probably dosent know. She dosent know much about me but I know loads about her. All of her friends smile everytime I come around they even said her name sometimes and that made me think maybe she likes me. She is very cute. She is like a angel but sometimes she could be a bad girl. My friends tell me that she probably likes me but idk if she does. I just wish she knew how much I like her I mean love. She made me better in so many ways. I’ve acually started to care about myself and other stuff and acualy have something to live for before life didn’t really mean anything to me I didn’t really have an amazing time I’ve experienced lots of bad but since she came that’s all I’ve ever wished for she made me smile once again and in very grateful for her I hope that she will like me back and wel be together one day so do you think she likes me back cause I’m very confused
There’s this girl who shows 90% of the signs and I think likes me but I’m not sure. How do I find out without stalking her?
Ok so there is this woman at work that I’ve noticed in the past few weeks I’ve been working at my new job who continuously stares at me. Just me. She talks to everyone else but just stares at me so I’m sure she’s shy. Just to put it out there, I’m 19, she’s 20. When we did talk she asked my age and I said 19. She said, “well your pretty much 20 anyways.” Secondly, when she walks past and I look at her, she looks me dead in the eyes, but says nothing. When I do go talk to her, if she’s in a group of people her who body language changes and she’s focused on me. But when I’m working and she walks past which I see in my peripheral, she acknowledges anyone I’m by at the moment but not me. I’m sure she’s nervous. But recently we’ve been talking. I gave her my number 2 days ago. We work on different shifts. She works on the 2nd shift and gets off almost midnight sometimes while I’m on first and I get off at like almost 6pm. So the communication at the moment isn’t up to par because of our schedules. When I’m walking with her I may talk now and then but she stays talking and I listen. She shows very little eye contact but when she does, she looks into my eyes and swiftly looks away over and over and smiles regularly. Her body language show’s she’s nervous. When we leave, and I’m sure she knows the time I leave. If she’s ahead of me she walks fast but casually instead of stopping to talk. If I got to break or leave before her I feel her staring and I see her looking my way in my peripheral. From afar she’s always looking and we only engage in conversation when I start it. I like her and I’m sure she likes me but what do I do? Today i asked her if she wanted to talk; I meant as to get to know each other and she replied 15 mins later when her lunch break was 10 mins before with “talk as friends yeah”. She didn’t say no, nor blatantly reject me. I guess I’m just so eager to talk to her and learn her that I might be taking it too fast. So what does all of this mean?
Hi Viktor, I have a serious question that I am hoping you can answer. I have a crush on my female classmate who I have been in a group with since the beginning of the semester(I met her on September). She happens to be an acquaintance (I barely know her, but we still talk). I heard that if I confess my feelings to a female I barely know, it may not be a good idea because she barely knows me and there’s a chance that she may feel awkward and turn me down. Is it a bad idea to confess my feelings to my female acquaintance? Or it would it be best for me to confess my feelings for her when she gets to know me better and we develop a friendship? An answer from you would be highly appreciated.
Sorry, I posted a comment about the female acquaintance and forgot to ask another question. Is it ok for me to ask my female acquaintance on a date or ask her if she would like to have a drink with me???
Hello
A couple of months ago on the bus from school, a girl a school year older than me (year 9, I’m year 8) struck up a conversation with me on a quiet bus (the buses aren’t normally quiet, but this was a later bus that not as many high school students get on). We had never met before this, but we do go to the same school. She has since spoken to me again. In fact, she says hello virtually every time she sees me and often stops to chat as well.
Fast forward to Monday afternoon, I walked back from school with her because she struck up a conversation with me. We just spoke about this and that really and I enjoyed the conversation with her. Then, on Tuesday afternoon, she was sitting down on the bus and then as soon as she saw me, she moved her bag immediately so that I could sit down next to her and we had a chat then as well. I think she might like me as some of these things I have discussed could be potential signs, but tell me what you think – whether you think she does like me or whether we just like the attention we give each other. Look forward to hearing from you.
Hi, here is some advice, so she probably likes you by the way she is acting. Or she is just trying to be nice. Try to look for more body language or other ways to show she likes you. (:
i’m a female and my very close friend is also female. there have been many situations where i felt like she was flirting with my but idk if that’s because we’re so close or because she likes me. one day us and our friends went out and she kept staring at my lips and was in a really good mood. i’m pretty sure she acts differently with me than she does with others. like she smiles at all of our friends but for some reason i feel like it’s more intimate when she smiles at me or makes jokes with me. i just really want to understand what her actions or her words are implying because we are both straight. we talk about boys with each other and neither one of us gets jealous or at least she’s never shown signs of jealousy when i talked to her about other guys. she usually smiled when i talk to her about this type of stuff, same as my other friends. i haven’t really payed attention to her eyes but if her pupils dilate when she looks at me, does it really mean she likes me though? and does the way she hugs me indicate anything as well? oh lastly she’s the type of person that has many ways of saying i love you to a person when like texting (btw she never writes you in text). for ppl she’s not close with she usually doesn’t say i love you or she says ly or i luv uuu, something like that. she rarely ever sends ppl i love u or love u (they r basically equivalent). for me though, she sends me love u (as do i though) even when i just text ily or ly. and she always sends me a red heart beside this. u think she does this to other ppl because it doesn’t really seem like it. someone send sum help please…
She is usually laughing at my jokes and says hello and by to me and somtimes touches me when i tapp her.
So….I don’t usually do this but…I recently met someone I felt drawn to and her and I clicked because we both like the same things and in someways we mirror one another on terms of mental and emotional side of things. We’re both overthinkers and overanalyze things. We both don’t have a lot of friends….just a few.
She would drop a hint or two on the things she likes such as strawberries and the sound of rain. I personally love the sound of rain. We’ve been asking each other back and forth questions such as,what kind of music you listen to? How do you recover from a broken heart and she would ask me how she looks with her new hairdo and I would compliment her wholeheartedly.
Lately she would give a big smile whenever she sees me and laugh while greeting me and also give me these high fives and I would playfully tease her and she would playfully hit me….of course I’ve decided to ask her out…but I may be slow here but I just need a second opinion here….is this girl interested in me because I am interested in her based on how we mirror one another.
I just got out of a relationship a year ago, and my female workmate gave me advice and we texted/chatted each other a lot during those times I was recovering through the breakup. She’s a very positive person, cheerful and easy to talk to. 4-5 months after my breakup, I started to have this little crush on her, we went out a lot, with all of other mates, but sometimes just the two of us. Just as two friends. I feel very comfortable with her, always would ask her life/love/work advice. I’m femme/bisexual and she’s also had an ex who was butch. Both of out last relationship was with the same gender. She was also one of the reason I recovered from my breakup, when my crush turned into attraction, I stopped constantly talking to her, texting because I don’t want to ruin our friendship, and to also stop myself to fall for her. I also stopped going out with my workmates, but we still remained as close friends, I’m now on a different shift, so there’s not much time to hang out. We would share tv series recommendations/diet/beauty tips, so we still remained in contact but not much like before. I would give her food, and she would also give me some too. She denies were close, but that’s her way of teasing me, but she was concerned for me at times. So, recently we were on a trip for a few days, and during commute time, there were physical contacts, like our arms brushing against each other, and me leaning to her, there was also couple of times my head was falling over due to sleep and she held it and even put it on her own shoulder. We even slept on a same bed for 3 nights, and the AC was too cold so I tucked in closer to her, and I felt she even put her legs closer to mine for warmth. During those commute times, (there were 5-6 hours drive) we were leaning to each other, and she didn’t flinch when I get closer to her, out arms and thighs would touch. There was also a time she would put her arms on my shoulder, when we walked or just while talking, she would also lean in to me as we were checking photos on my phone. She would also laugh at my jokes and even on my dumb moments, and even before she would tease me a lot as well. My instincts tells me she was just being friendly, but I don’t remember that she was also touchy feely With or other workmates, like she was with me for those past few days. There were also times she was looking my way, when I turned my gaze, she looked away. I can feel she was also watching me. Now I am confused, if she also was attracted to me in a way, or should I just continue our friendship and not ruin it. This little crush has now turned into an attraction. Was I just imagining those things or there’s a spark between us?
Last week I sat with my friend and his sister, we were sat around on the floor and she would smile at Me and I would smile at her as on was talking then she would smile more and her feet were pointed in my direction and she kept playing with her clothes and playing with her hair sweeping it back behind her shoulders and I shared my progress workout pictures with my mate which he shared with his sister and all of a sudden she is putting likes on my Facebook pictures but on the other hand she would go to the kitchen with her brother when he would be refilling our drinks, but then also stayed in the room with me once and i started lifting my Weights so she stood up and started lifting weights with me and showing off her muscles, I’m slightly confused and don’t know what to make of it ? Can anyone tell me what the hell is going on here