How to be an interesting person to talk to
How do you become more interesting to talk to? How do you make sure that people think it’s interesting to talk to you? I’m sure you’ve been in the situation … Read more
David A. Morin
How to see if someone wants to talk to you – 12 ways to tell
Scientifically reviewed by Viktor Sander B.Sc., B.A.
How do you know if someone wants to talk to you? In this article, you’ll learn 12 ways to see if someone wants to talk to you, both before you … Read more
Social Skills Training for Adults: 14 Best Guides to Improve Socially
Scientifically reviewed by Viktor Sander B.Sc., B.A.
There are loads of resources on social skills – but few for us grown-ups. Here’s what we go through in this article: How to start a conversation How to stop … Read more
Social Life Struggles of Women in their 20s and 30s
What social life problems can women expect to face in their 20s and 30s? Over 6 months, we asked 249 women to rate how motivated they were to improve 21 … Read more
How to Make Friends in NYC – 15 Ways I Met New People
Scientifically reviewed by Viktor Sander B.Sc., B.A.
When I first arrived in New York City 2 years ago, I didn’t know ANYONE. Boarding the plane to NYC with my one-way ticket from Sweden. Today, I’m blessed with … Read more
31 Best Jobs for People with Social Anxiety (Low-Stress)
Welcome to the Internet’s most comprehensive list of good jobs for people with social anxiety or those who feel socially awkward. As guide covers the 31 best jobs for someone … Read more
My most popular posts about social skills 2018
This year has been amazing and I want to thank you for all the warm and supportive comments I’ve received on the blog. Over the year, SocialSelf has doubled in … Read more
Science reveals: 3 steps to make friends with ANYONE
Did you know that it only takes 3 steps to connect and make friends with anyone? This is something EVERYONE should learn in school. Step 1: Show people clearly that … Read more
How to deal with self-doubt: Confident people’s secret
When I was about to leave everything in Sweden and move to NYC, these doubts popped up in my head: But what if I don’t make any friends? What if … Read more
Were they making fun of me behind my back?
In school, I felt like an outsider. I saw how others connected and had a great time, while I struggled. Take the other guys in my class for example. I … Read more
What To Do When You’re Left Out of a Group Conversation
Roughly 22% of Americans often or always feel lonely or left out.[1] Even if other people don’t mean to make you feel isolated, being excluded can be painful. Fortunately, you … Read more
How to stop fiddling (+ other habits that make us look nervous)
This puzzled me for a long time: I tried not fiddling, having more eye contact, having a better posture, and so on. But it didn’t work! As soon as I … Read more
What makes someone likable?
There’s a cafe in Brooklyn that I always go to. They often mess up my order. I get drip coffee when I order an espresso, and I get ordinary milk … Read more
How to get people to notice you without coming off as needy
A while back we wrote about what to do when friends only talk about themselves and aren’t interested in you. My problem was that I could feel left out in … Read more
“I don’t know who I am!” (How to find your identity)
How do you know who you really are? Like, how do you know what your values are and what you really think and feel about things? Here’s the comment that … Read more
What to do when the topic dies out in a conversation
I spent this Saturday at a friend’s place in Manhattan. My friend’s balcony When a conversation topic dies out he uses a simple, but genius, question to keep the conversation … Read more
How I change my state when I’m not in the mood for socializing
Last weekend I went to a mingle here in NYC. Even if it gets my adrenaline pumping, I still go. I’ve met some amazing people that I’m forever grateful to … Read more
“What should I say when I talk with a stranger?”
There’s one thing most miss when they try to talk to someone they just met… You see, I just came back to NYC after visiting friends and family in Sweden. … Read more
How to connect faster with others (Interview with W. Atterberry)
How come some are SO GOOD at connecting quickly with people? I remember in school when I saw others make friends and meet up after class just a few days … Read more
What I do when socializing just feels boring
My co-living has a pool table and I’ve never used it. Why? Because I hate pool. I feel like a failure when I play because I can’t make the cue … Read more