How do you know if a girl likes you or even has a crush on you? These days, it can be quite difficult to know. She may be acting friendly, but what if she’s friendly towards everyone? Is she flirting, or are you imagining it?
Some women are more outgoing than others, so they may seem like they’re flirting even when they’re not. And some are shy, so they may seem withdrawn and uninterested even if they have a huge crush! It can be pretty hard to figure out, which is why we wrote this guide.
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- Signs she likes you
- Does your best friend have a crush on you?
- How can you know for sure if a girl likes you?
47 signs she likes you
Unless a girl tells you outright that she likes you, you will have to try to understand by her context clues. When we have a crush on someone, there are usually changes in behavior around that person. Some changes are intentional (if they’re trying to show you that they are interested), while others are unintentional (due to nervousness).
The more of these signs she shows, the more likely it is that she has a crush on you, rather than just being a flirty or friendly person overall. Here are 47 signs to help tell if a girl likes you.
1. She laughs at your jokes
Laughing at your jokes can be a huge sign of interest (especially if you are not a particularly funny person…) If she smiles and laughs a lot around you, she may have a crush.
If you want to make a girl you like to laugh more, you may like to read this article on how to be funny (for un-funny people).
2. She mirrors you
Mirroring means that her body language, posture, or even what she’s saying reflects what you said or did. So if you take a sip of your glass, if she’s mirroring that, she’ll also take a sip of her glass. Or if you cross your legs and she does the same, that’s also mirroring.
Remember that mirroring is done subconsciously when she has a very good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if she wants to impress or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.
3. She adds you on social media
This one means she wants to stay in touch and is at least a little bit interested in you. It also makes it much easier for you to take initiative by messaging or commenting on her posts.
4. She writes you long texts
Is she always giving you short answers, or is she giving you a small novel as a reply?
If her texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.
If you’re usually giving her long replies but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager. In that case, it’s often good to step back a bit and try to match her better. Give her some space, so she wants to come back to you again.
5. She teases you
Is it mean teasing or more flirty and light-hearted?
Most forms of teasing (even mean) are usually a sign she’s interested in you. I LOVE it when a girl I like tries to tease me. It means she’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that she wants a reaction from you. Just don’t take it too seriously and try to have fun with her!
6. She leans in toward you
If she’s leaning in toward you, that’s a sign she’s eager to get your attention or get her message across. And in the best case, it also means she’s eager to get closer to you.
7. She moves closer to you
If you’re in a conversation and you feel like she’s edging closer to you, or as if she’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. It could mean she’s attracted to you and wants to feel closer to you both physically and mentally.
Take note that different cultures have different “personal spaces.” So, if she’s from a different culture than you, it might just be because of that.
8. She bites her lips
Biting herself lightly on the lip is a flirty and cute (or sexy) signal. If she’s biting herself in the lip while you’re talking, that’s great. She’s probably into you.
9. She smiles at you
If she’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach her. Or she’s flirting with you. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home).
If she’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign she likes you. Especially if she has a light smile while you’re not even joking.
10. She licks her lips or teeth
Is she licking her lips or teeth? This is similar to biting her lips, but a bit more subtle and less flirty. Still a good sign she might like you.
11. She’s blinking more than normal
According to Blake Eastman, a body language expert, an increased blink rate can signify attraction[1], so it may be a good sign if you notice that she seems to be blinking more around you.
12. Her pupils are larger than normal
If her pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.
13. She’s keeping eye contact for longer
If you notice that she’s holding eye contact slightly longer than normal, she’s probably trying to get your attention or make a connection with you. It’s a good sign that she’s interested in you. That kind of eye contact often feels more intense and can even be a bit weird or uncomfortable.
14. She’s gives you a light smile
Say that you’re all standing in a circle, and you two make eye contact when someone else is talking. Does she give you a slight smile? She probably likes you (or is a very kind person, which is also a good sign!)
Same thing if you make eye contact at a distance, in a park, or at a bar. A smile is like an invitation to start talking.
15. She looks at you with open body language
This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, such as a bar or a club.
If she’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that can be a sign she’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you she wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.
16. She corrects her posture
Does she straighten her posture when she gets your attention or is close to you? That means she’s trying to make a good impression on you.
On the other hand, a more relaxed posture can mean that she feels comfortable around you, which can also be a good sign.
17. She faces you
If she’s facing you more often than she’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign she’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not even the one talking the most in the group.
18. Her feet point towards you
If her feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if her body is facing you. She’s subconsciously focused on you, which makes her feet point toward you. It’s a sign of open body language.
19. She fiddles with or straightens her clothes, jewelry, or accessories
This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because she wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.
20. Her palms are faced in your direction
If the palms of their hands are pointed in your direction, she might be interested in you. It’s a weak signal, but it’s still positive because it’s part of an open and welcoming body language she has toward you.
21. She touches you back
For example, if you touch her arm, does she touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If she does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign, but it also depends on if she’s touchy with most people or just you.
Keep in mind that shy girls usually don’t touch back because they’re so afraid of messing up.
22. She touches you when you talk
Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if she touches those. Some girls aren’t so comfortable with touch, and it takes them a while to warm up. So if she doesn’t touch you, it isn’t necessarily a sign that she doesn’t like you if she shows many other signs on the list.
23. You have “peripheral physical contact”
Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.
For example, if you’re both sitting down and your thighs are barely touching each other. Or if you’re walking side by side and she grabs hold of your arm. That kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of tension and attraction.
24. She’s giving you more of her attention
For example, if she directs most of her attention when you’re in a group. Or if she’s only asking you questions or if she’s laughing more than others at your jokes.
The more attention she gives you, the more interested she usually is in you.
25. She blushes
Does she blush when you talk or make eye contact? She might be shy, but she’s probably a bit self-conscious around you because she likes you.
26. She looks at you from afar
Girls are often a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. I’ve even seen girls using window reflections to check out a guy (and to check if he’s looking at them). Sunglasses are even sneakier.
So if she’s looking in your direction, especially if she does it several times, she’s probably checking you out.
27. She keeps the conversation going
What happens when you stop talking or can’t come up with anything to say? If she seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If she excuses herself, she may not be that interested.
Click here to read my full guide on how to talk to girls.
28. She always replies
Does she always reply when you call or text?
Quicker responses are often a sign of interest. But many girls are so afraid of appearing needy that they delay their response even if they like you.
29. She texts or calls you first
If she’s often the one initiating, that’s a very strong sign she’s into you.
But if she never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if she will take initiative when you don’t do it before she even has the chance.
30. She texts you often
Compare this to how often you text her. It’s the same principle as matching the length of her texts. She’s eager if she’s texting more often than you, and you’re eager if you’re the one texting more often.
31. She stammers, stutters, or forgets what she was about to say
Does she seem nervous when you guys are having a conversation? This could mean she’s a bit extra shy or self-conscious around you, which tells you that she might also be a bit extra interested in you.
32. She doesn’t back off when you get closer
If she doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to her personal space, that’s a sign she wants you close to her.
If you take a step closer, and she backs off by a step, that’s a sign she’s a bit more reserved toward you.
33. She talks about future plans
Planning or mentioning things they want to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.
For example, if you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say, “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!” If you’re talking about art and she wants to share her work, that’s a good sign too.
34. She’s pleased with your commonalities
How does she react when she finds out that you have something in common? If she’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, like that you live in the same part of town, you’re the same age, or you both like pizza.
35. She asks you personal questions
If she is, that’s telling you that she wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more she asks, the better.
For example, asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or just about your favorite food. Asking you questions is literally showing interest in you.
36. She asks about your plans
Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be her trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if she brings it up near the end of the conversation.
37. She seems embarrassed if you two are the only two people left in a situation
If she does but doesn’t do anything to leave the situation, that means she’s just a bit shy but still interested.
A classic example is if you meet her with her girlfriends at a bar, and then all her friends leave, but she stays. That’s perfect because it also means her friends approve of you.
38. She tells her friends or family about you
This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I thought it was worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if she’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.
If she’s told her family, it means she is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!
If she just told her friends, that’s also great, but not as big as her family.
39. She offers you a massage
Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a girl to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer her one back if you like her!)
40. She reschedules when she can’t make a date
Say you were meant to meet up with her, but she cancels. How can you know if she truly couldn’t make it or if she just isn’t interested?
Life happens, and everyone has to change or cancel plans sometimes. If she tries to reschedule when she cancels, it’s a good sign she is interested in you and had to cancel for legitimate reasons.
41. She compliments you
If she gives you positive feedback, it’s a good sign she likes you. While teasing can also be a sign she likes you, some women are more prone to compliment a guy they like, and many do both.
42. She gives you small gifts
Does she pick up things for you or give you gifts or trinkets? That’s a sign that she’s thinking about you and wants to make you feel good. For example, if you’ve mentioned that you have a weakness for pastries, and she shows up with a croissant the next time you meet up, that’s a really good sign that she likes you.
43. She follows up on things you tell her
Remembering that you said you have a test coming up and asking how it went is a sign that she takes you seriously and also that she wants you to know that she listens to you and cares.
44. She lets you know she’s single
Bringing up the fact that she’s single could be a way for her to let you know that she’s available and interested.
45. She asks for your help
Asking for your help can be a way to spend more time with you and establish a connection. It can also be a way for her to check how responsive and helpful you are to get an idea of how you would behave as a romantic partner.
46. She opens up to you
Asking you questions about yourself shows that she’s interested and wants to learn more about you. Sharing things about herself is a sign that she trusts you and wants to get closer to you.
47. She has a nickname for you
Giving you a nickname can be a flirty way to show that she likes you.
Does your best friend have a crush on you?
It can be more difficult to figure out these signs if you’re already friends with someone. If you’re close friends, she probably already texts you, tells you about her life, teases you, spends time with you, and so on. How can you know if it’s just friendship or if there’s more going on?
Is she acting differently from how she usually behaves? If there’s a sudden change in her behavior towards you, it may be a sign that her feelings have changed. On the other hand, if her behavior has changed in all aspects of life, it may have nothing to do with you.
Does she seem jealous or dismissive of other girls you might like? Is she suddenly extra touchy-feely? Is she unusually interested in your interests? These changes may indicate that her feelings towards you are shifting or that she’s trying to work out what she feels.
Those are all signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend.
How do you know for sure if she’s interested?
You can’t know for sure if she’s interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few rules you can use to help you know:
- Is she regularly showing you different signs of interest?
- Does she act differently to others than to you? (So she’s not just flirty with everyone.)
- Has she shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
The only one to know for sure is to check with her. Let her know you are interested and see if the feeling is mutual.
Are you still unsure if she likes you?
Write it down in the comments below in as much detail as possible for other commenters to help you out. I’ll also respond to a few of the most interesting comments. But I can’t keep up with all the comments alone, so try to help others by answering them too. Poorly written comments with bad grammar will be deleted.
When you look at her she looks away
She probably likes you
I honestly don’t know if she likes me, but I have had a huge crush on her for a while in school. I am afraid that she is not showing any particular signs, and I’m just pretending she is more interested than she actually is because I like her. We are definitely friends, and we talk often but idk.
Hi Tom, I understand this is a challenging time to deal with emotionally. My best suggestion would be to take a risk. You will never know until you ask. If she says no, then you deal with it and move on and be respectful about it. Other opportunities will arise. Tom I am here for you and I wish you the best luck in your endeavours. Send me a personal message if you want to discuss my experiences further.
you are totally right and i agree with you 100%. its almost like you read my mind exactly !!! that is so insane. it is very rewarding when the person you like likes you back Tom and i reccomend asking her out.
I’ve known a lady a while now and the other day she asked if I could take her home as her lift had to be somewhere else, I couldn’t due to working but then her lift could take her, I said in a message it would be a pleasure to have taken her home but bloody covid but I would when not at work she sent me a picture of her rota and said well there’s my rota ???? am I reading to much into this
It’s this girl I work with the right and I got her number and we started texting and she said she needed somebody to talk to and she said I’m a good person. And we still do text but not like that. She does be smiling at me.
she stares at me in the lessons when I catch her staring at me she looks away she bites her lip around me and feels comfortable being around me in body features.
I like GF Vivian,of the 42 you mentioned she has 8.Does she really like me??
Hopefully, this will tag on to the previous comment but forgot to add, she also complimented me when discovering my age, saying wow, you look for XX. And when I said yeah but I have grey hair, she said something like that’s meant to be in fashion isn’t it, to have a partner with grey hair.
Ask her out she seems interested. U won’t regret it.
This is going to sound desperate and a little pathetic.
Plucked up the courage to chat to a girl who works in the gym. Incredibly good-looking.
Seen her down at my kid’s school a few times and the first time she definitely blushed when seeing me. Did smile tho.
So I ask her about her daughter as they moved schools, to start off the conversation. It was a very easy chat and I was stunned when she started asking me about me; my kids, what I think of the pandemic and, I know this is small talk, ‘what about you, are you ok, are you looking forward to Christmas’. I ended the chat by saying it was good to talk to you, to which she says yes you too.
Wanted to speak to her again on another day and again another really easy chat and again she asks me about me, responding to me asking her about her training by asking me about mine and she knew I’d competed recently. Really showed an interest. Then she asked me what my plans were for the rest of the day. I’m not used to someone being interested in me so could be reading this all wrong. I’ve been told she’s with someone but she never mentioned that instead taking about her ex-partner in relation to her child. I really do like her and want to ask her out for coffee or something. Should I? I could make a total fool of myself.
So, there is this girl I like, and we were just talking and sitting beside me and our legs touching so I bumped my leg against Her’s to try to say your legs touching me she looked at me weird and moved it I moved mine beside again and she cheered up later her whole leg was on mine. I asked her if she liked me, and she said she might also my best friend likes her too and tries to steal her what do I do.
So I and this super beautiful girl met in a bar the other night. We kissed quite a few times (yes, an obvious sign, I know. But she was drunk and so was I). It actually isn’t something I would normally do. I’m typically quite reserved around girls because I’m very reluctant to come across as ‘that’s the guy’, or to come on too strong as sometimes it can be perceived as creepy. I can’t remember this happening, but during the night she took my phone from me and added her number, and also set a reminder on my phone to text her. I went for a cigarette with my friend at some point towards the end of the night, then felt a tap on my shoulder, and it was her. She reminded me to, ‘remember to text me tomorrow’.
I was very drunk and forgot about the whole thing.
I awoke to a phone call, which was from my best friend, effectively bragging about how he had awoken in the girl in question’s best friend’s bed, after them having spent the night together. At this point, I couldn’t remember what had happened the night before but did remember hitting it off with this really beautiful girl.
We ended our phone conversation, I gave him my contact gratulations for managing to pull her hot friend, but I was very sorry and regretful that I hadn’t even managed to get the girl I was speaking to’s number. Then all of a sudden, an alert goes off on my phone. ‘Ring CO (her initials). So I immediately ring her… but no answer. I reside back to sleep, content that I’d spent the night talking to and kissing a very beautiful girl.
But here’s the thing – two minutes later I receive a phone call. It’s her. I answer and we’re both very hungover/still a bit drunk from the night before, and we speak for about half an hour. We’re getting along very well and I ask her whether she would still like to go on a date. She says yes, so I take her for coffee and a meal, WHICH SHE DECIDES SHE WANTS TO PAY FOR!
I’m having such a nice time so ask her if she wants me to drive her home or if she’d like to go for a walk – she agrees. So we go for a walk, have a nice time, and then still aren’t ready to part ways by the evening. So to end the night we go for a walk along the beach before I take her home. I’m very polite the whole time and (even though I’m infatuated with her personality and physical beauty), decide to give her a casual ‘peck’ on the lips as I drop her off.
We’ve been texting somewhat frequently over the past few days, but I know she has a very busy job, as do I, so contact has been somewhat limited.
I’m seeing her tomorrow but am so nervous about it! Mainly because in my mind, we’re no longer riding the ‘high’ of the night before, where/when we really got along.
I’m just wondering whether it’s possible for someone so beautiful, so caring, so cool!!!, to like someone like me. I guess tomorrow will tell. But I am absolutely terrified for now.
Sorry, my story and question got a bit out of hand. And whilst typing this I’ve realised that she must have a little bit of an attraction to want to see me for a second time. I’m just so nervous about it is all.
But anyway, I’ll try to keep my cool. And my advice to you guys is that you stay cool also 🙂 I’ll try to remember to provide an update to it afterward.
Cheers guys
So um when are you going to update us it’s the 21st of December. I really want to know how it went.
my girl loves my jokes, we talk a lot. Whenever we make eye contact with each other she smiles at me. but I’m still not sure. I like her, But i don’t know if she just like trying to be friends or if she likes me
My case is a little complicated, I would be really glad if somebody could help me out, so I like this girl who has already confessed that she likes me too but her behavior lately has got me questioning if she really meant what she said, she sometimes acts as if she wants to indirectly tell me she likes me and sometimes just acts as if we just met, even today if I talk or flirt with her she blushes and flirts back and sometimes makes me feel like I’m her priority, this has confused me a lot so I would really appreciate if somebody can help me out
A girl I’m kind of seeing one day told me she “loved me” and then the next day says “I want nothing to do with you or go with me” or what not, and then says “I still like you and we can be friends” and I’m confused on what I should do please help
There’s this girl that I like. She avoids looking at me when I try to have eye contact. But she sees me and talks to me very well. We talk on the phone for long hours but she keeps talking about herself and her crush. Her ex is possessive and the crush is like just one-time meet. When the crush calls while we are talking, she just spends like 30 seconds talking to him and gets back to me saying he can wait. To me personally, she thinks she’s very beautiful and she thinks everybody likes her. She’s nice to me. She decides very fast if she wants or doesn’t want someone. What do I do now?
I am 9th Grade and from India…. I have a crush on a girl who is also same age as me. I don’t have the courage to go up and speak to her. We’ve never met or talked before but I want to be her friend and convey it to her, but I am scared of messing up and embarrassment. Can you help me?
Act natural, as her friend before actually going for it.
Thanks so much!
I am in sixth grade and my friend Ella is a!ways hugging me and holding me, I just don ‘t know.
if she is hugging you and holding you that is a sign because not a lot of friends just hug and hold each other for no reason
So I have been going out with this girl 5 times now (3 times alone and 2 times with her female friend from high school) over the last two weeks and before meeting up the first time two weeks ago, we had great conversations almost every day for two months because Auckland was in lockdown. However, on the third date, I tried to hold her hands but she looked shocked and awkward but didn’t pull her hand away aggressively. Later on before when I dropped her off at her house, she said it was just too early that she was only getting to know me. When I texted her after getting home and apologized about it in a playful way, and she said “you didn’t scare me I’m just awkward????????????”. A week later she invited me to play tennis with her friends and we went shopping together a day after tennis. When we were leaving, she said she would let me know when she is available this week because she has got two birthdays to go to in the weekend. I take this as a positive sign as she actually tried to explain and showed that she is interested in going out again but possibly may be too busy and will let me know her availability.
On a whole, everything looks pretty positive to me in terms of her interest in me. I made it explicit that I liked her several times now and she still exchanges texts with me frequently and replies quickly, and is willing to go out with me one on one. However, I am just worried and not sure if things will progress further as she didn’t seem to be too keen on getting physically intimate at the moment, but she does show her interest I feel. What do I do?
My female friend has always joked how much she’s in love with me (whilst still with her now ex) we talk probably way too much as friends, go out for dinner/lunch. Talk all night until we fall asleep etc. I don’t want to push her away by trying or being forward. We have an amazing friendship yet it seems a romantic one isn’t too far off. She calls me whenever anything happens to her during the day. I never thought I would catch feelings but it happened over time. We insult each other more than compliment but in a nice way of course (but I’m sure that’s a sign from her showing that she likes me but doesn’t want to say it), everything tells me and shows me that she more than loves me but I don’t want to potentially ruin something by thinking with my D……It’s starting to drive me mad but I can wait…Not sure for how long but I can wait…
There is this girl who works in a shop not far from me, and every time i go in her boss says that she keeps asking about me and misses me, But when he ask her in front of me she say that he is winding me up, so is he just winding me up or is it the truth.
Wow that’s the same with me i’m new the name’s desmond there’s this girl she like’s me but can’t tell and i’m also shy to tell her the same she often’s stare’s at me from a long distance and she’s always telling her friend’s about me so what do you think i should do
Sometimes she almost shows me almost all signs of interest but sometimes she calls me bro
My girl best friend used to call me bro a lot, but she did confess to liking me when I asked her about it (she liked it for a while but I just didn’t get the hint since she called me bro a lot).
There is this girl who laughs at everything I say. Whenever I’m doing work she looks down and sometimes even puts her head on my hand. I sometimes catch her staring at me and if I point it out, she blushes and occupies herself with something. Do you think she likes me?
Oh yeah, for sure man.
She jokes with me sometimes and laughs at my jokes but I don’t know.
I am talking to this girl and we call every night (she has a bf, but still calls me)
she doesn’t message first a lot because she doesn’t get close to a lot of people and when we call we just chill have some conversations not constantly but when we aren’t talking she is singing the songs I have playing, we make plans to stay after school to play volleyball and so we haven’t done that because of schedule problems. I had a talk with her the other night because I was saying sorry for messaging her a lot, and possibly being annoying, at the point I was messaging a lot I thought something happened to her she said nothing did and she took medicine that made her fall asleep. I feel as though I am doing something wrong because it feels she is drifting away, we got close after like 3 weeks of talking I feel as though that’s a good sign. Is there anything I should work on, or do to help this
When I look at her she smiles and turns away and laughs and asks me what I am looking at.
I would ask her if she likes you straight up. You never know, her reaction would tell you everything.
If I’m being completely honest, she just seems to really trust you. Sees you more like someone she could be a bit more comfortable than people, but don’t interpret that she likes you. She has a boyfriend because she likes him. I wouldn’t want to mess her relationship up. If you really like her, respect her relationship. If she does like you and did leave her boyfriend, then go for it. I’ve been in a situ situation like this and I regret it. It ruined my relationship with the girl.
Can someone help me, please? That girl laughs at my jokes (some of them are like failed, but she still laughs). 2nd thing – she pretty often watches at me and when I look at her she does little lough or smiles. 3rd thing – one time I just sat near her and she didn’t avoid me. And the last things are that – she talks with me about her family, likes to play with me like – last week I threw at her tree leaves, she laughed and like 2min later she threw to me tree leaves and laughed too. But I’m not sure or she likes me because I don’t think I look good and it’s only a few signs. So if someone can help please respond to me.
yes, she does ask her out!
There is a girl at work who I like. 5 years ago I asked for her number. She smiled and gave it to me. We texted but she was a very dry texter. She would stop responding and I would have to wait for a little and try again despite her always staring at me and smiling in person. So I finally texted her one day and asked her to go to dinner and a movie. I got no response. A week later I was walking around the building and she and her sister were standing there and she introduced me to her sister. An hour after that she came up to me and said she would love to go and apologized for not texting back. I made the mistake of telling her to let me know when she could do it never happened. Later that year I tried again and asked her out in person this time. She again agreed happily and I told her I would let her know the day as it was around Christmas. Well, I asked her to go one weekend and she said she was busy because she was moving into a new house which she did. So I said how about next week she said she had a family event. She does have a big family and it was the week before Christmas Eve. I eventually gave up. 2 years after all that I was walking towards the building and she was standing outside staring at me looking down and up. I thought I had my zipper down which I didn’t because my self-confidence lacking. I walked into her office later to give her something work-related and she immediately sat up uncrossed her legs and started straightening her pants out while talking to me. I still didn’t try. Throughout all of this going on she was always nice to me would wave at me start convos and since I gave up now she won’t even talk to me won’t look at me except when I’m not looking and always looks down when I walk by or looks past me. I have no experience with picking up girls or even relationships. I do not know what to think. I really like her and I’m shy. Does anyone know whether she actually liked me or was trying to be nice? If so how do I even go about trying again?
Your situation seems pretty odd. Maybe just be friends (if you guys aren’t already). Get to know each other again. Build a stronger relationship and when you both feel confident with each other, ask her out. If she says yes then yay, if not then, don’t worry about it. As people say, there are more fish in the river, (i don’t remember it exactly). I’m honestly interested in this and if you could keep updating or something that’d be nice. Good Luck brother.
Well, I had a friend who is a girl ask her about her status now, the girl I like said she wasn’t trying to get into a relationship, since it has been forever since I’ve tried. It is hard to know whether she likes me or not, I had thought she did back then because she told everyone about our plans but she got busy(which isn’t a lie) so we didn’t go. Not too long ago though I talked to another co-worker who went on a couple of dates and she ended up playing me. Now the original girl I like is very distant, doesn’t talk to me but stares at me if I walk to her area. She sometimes will, what seems like, rush away from me too. She used to have conversations with me and joke with me and now it’s like she is very cold towards me so I don’t even try talking to her. I tried texting her and she didn’t seem mad at me but she is a very dry texter which even when she was giving me signs back then she still barely texted. The first time I asked her out over text back then she never replied but told me she would love to randomly in person a week after not replying To give you an update I probably won’t even try because I am pretty sure she never liked me and was being nice back then.
I met this girl through biking. We have gone on a couple of rides together (organized by me). She is always either very shy or focusing her attention on me (in the tent at a race and she wouldn’t stop throwing wood chips at me and snapping at me even though a lot of her friends were there). I like her, a lot. The issue is we go to different schools (covid) And I am always the one snapping her and organizing us getting together. Now here is where it gets good. She said she developed an inside joke with her friends (prob lies heh) and basically said that I am bacon, and she likes bacon? it’s different ngl but normal for her persona. She asked me who I liked, and I said eggs. (There is context but that isn’t the point) She then, later on, asked me who I thought She liked (leading me to think she doesn’t like me) and I decided not to say me and decided to say the name of one of her male friends. She said that she did like him, and was surprised at my answer. And so that’s where I’m at, she knows I like her, I am clueless if she likes me, and have no idea where to go from here. She has been quiet towards me lately, which is the extreme opposite to the really deep conversations I have been having with her. She said that she was super upset at herself because she said that if she placed top 5 at our last race, she would tell said male friend how she felt. So I gave her some advice on how to ask him out, mainly to test and see if she really liked me, and since then she has been super short with me. Does anyone know what this could mean? She is often really down and sad when we talk, and I have developed… to be the opposite. I’m often deep and upbeat when we talk, and she is down and short. Idk if that really means anything though. But hey, they say love attracts the opposites right? We have both been super open with each other before recently but idk if that means anything either. Also, mind you, most of these conversations are happening over snap. I need an outside perspective and maybe some guidance on how to move forward. Feel free to ask me more questions.
So my coworker always comes to greet me first in the morning, she always wants me to sit beside her at every meeting if we are not, she finds a way to come closer, even if her son works with us, she always wants me to take every brake and every lunch with her, she gives me parts of her lunch she doesn’t want, I know a lot about her family, she’s always asking about my life outside work…. But here’s the kicker; she has a boyfriend, but tells me it’s not going well….. What should I think about all of this??
I think she is trying to hint at you that she wants you. That last part can be a 50/50. It could also simply be that, she just wants to be near a friend she trusts a lot. Wants someone to hear her out. I would personally tell her, what exactly is going wrong and if she needs help on it and that if she doesn’t really want to tell you, I’d recommend her to leave her boyfriend and perhaps try to find someone who can make her happy (which is you). Good luck man, keep me updated if possible (:!
There’s this girl I like and she’s kind of cute. She always laughs awkwardly when I’m around her and she’s always gazing at me. What does this mean?
SHE LIKES YOU
I was texting this girl, we have been flirty back and forth for a week or 2. we were flirty until I said something a bit too direct and they totally ignored it. from then on, they stopped being flirty at all what should I do? is it too late?
yes
Did you take the time to be her friend? Not just someone to flirt with? I understand that she flirted too, but maybe she wasn’t exactly serious and when she saw that you were catching feelings, she sort of stopped because she didn’t want to continue to make you feel that way. I think it’d be best to just talk to her as a friend and later on you can ask her out. Good luck man and keep me updated if possible (:!