47 Signs a Girl Likes You (How to Know if She Has a Crush)

How do you know if a girl likes you or even has a crush on you? These days, it can be quite difficult to know. She may be acting friendly, but what if she’s friendly towards everyone? Is she flirting, or are you imagining it?

Some women are more outgoing than others, so they may seem like they’re flirting even when they’re not. And some are shy, so they may seem withdrawn and uninterested even if they have a huge crush! It can be pretty hard to figure out, which is why we wrote this guide.

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  1. Signs she likes you
  2. Does your best friend have a crush on you?
  3. How can you know for sure if a girl likes you?

47 signs she likes you

Unless a girl tells you outright that she likes you, you will have to try to understand by her context clues. When we have a crush on someone, there are usually changes in behavior around that person. Some changes are intentional (if they’re trying to show you that they are interested), while others are unintentional (due to nervousness).

The more of these signs she shows, the more likely it is that she has a crush on you, rather than just being a flirty or friendly person overall. Here are 47 signs to help tell if a girl likes you.

1. She laughs at your jokes

Laughing at your jokes can be a huge sign of interest (especially if you are not a particularly funny person…) If she smiles and laughs a lot around you, she may have a crush.

If you want to make a girl you like to laugh more, you may like to read this article on how to be funny (for un-funny people).

2. She mirrors you

Mirroring means that her body language, posture, or even what she’s saying reflects what you said or did. So if you take a sip of your glass, if she’s mirroring that, she’ll also take a sip of her glass. Or if you cross your legs and she does the same, that’s also mirroring.

Remember that mirroring is done subconsciously when she has a very good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if she wants to impress or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.

3. She adds you on social media

This one means she wants to stay in touch and is at least a little bit interested in you. It also makes it much easier for you to take initiative by messaging or commenting on her posts.

4. She writes you long texts

Is she always giving you short answers, or is she giving you a small novel as a reply?

If her texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.

If you’re usually giving her long replies but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager. In that case, it’s often good to step back a bit and try to match her better. Give her some space, so she wants to come back to you again.

5. She teases you

Is it mean teasing or more flirty and light-hearted?

Most forms of teasing (even mean) are usually a sign she’s interested in you. I LOVE it when a girl I like tries to tease me. It means she’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that she wants a reaction from you. Just don’t take it too seriously and try to have fun with her!

6. She leans in toward you

If she’s leaning in toward you, that’s a sign she’s eager to get your attention or get her message across. And in the best case, it also means she’s eager to get closer to you.

7. She moves closer to you

If you’re in a conversation and you feel like she’s edging closer to you, or as if she’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. It could mean she’s attracted to you and wants to feel closer to you both physically and mentally.

Take note that different cultures have different “personal spaces.” So, if she’s from a different culture than you, it might just be because of that.

8. She bites her lips

Biting herself lightly on the lip is a flirty and cute (or sexy) signal. If she’s biting herself in the lip while you’re talking, that’s great. She’s probably into you.

9. She smiles at you

If she’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach her. Or she’s flirting with you. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home).

If she’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign she likes you. Especially if she has a light smile while you’re not even joking.

10. She licks her lips or teeth

Is she licking her lips or teeth? This is similar to biting her lips, but a bit more subtle and less flirty. Still a good sign she might like you.

11. She’s blinking more than normal

According to Blake Eastman, a body language expert, an increased blink rate can signify attraction[1], so it may be a good sign if you notice that she seems to be blinking more around you.

12. Her pupils are larger than normal

If her pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.

13. She’s keeping eye contact for longer

If you notice that she’s holding eye contact slightly longer than normal, she’s probably trying to get your attention or make a connection with you. It’s a good sign that she’s interested in you. That kind of eye contact often feels more intense and can even be a bit weird or uncomfortable.

14. She’s gives you a light smile

Say that you’re all standing in a circle, and you two make eye contact when someone else is talking. Does she give you a slight smile? She probably likes you (or is a very kind person, which is also a good sign!)

Same thing if you make eye contact at a distance, in a park, or at a bar. A smile is like an invitation to start talking.

15. She looks at you with open body language

This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, such as a bar or a club.

If she’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that can be a sign she’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you she wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.

16. She corrects her posture

Does she straighten her posture when she gets your attention or is close to you? That means she’s trying to make a good impression on you.

On the other hand, a more relaxed posture can mean that she feels comfortable around you, which can also be a good sign.

17. She faces you

If she’s facing you more often than she’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign she’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not even the one talking the most in the group.

18. Her feet point towards you

If her feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if her body is facing you. She’s subconsciously focused on you, which makes her feet point toward you. It’s a sign of open body language.

19. She fiddles with or straightens her clothes, jewelry, or accessories

This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because she wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.

20. Her palms are faced in your direction

If the palms of their hands are pointed in your direction, she might be interested in you. It’s a weak signal, but it’s still positive because it’s part of an open and welcoming body language she has toward you.

21. She touches you back

For example, if you touch her arm, does she touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If she does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign, but it also depends on if she’s touchy with most people or just you.

Keep in mind that shy girls usually don’t touch back because they’re so afraid of messing up.

22. She touches you when you talk

Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if she touches those. Some girls aren’t so comfortable with touch, and it takes them a while to warm up. So if she doesn’t touch you, it isn’t necessarily a sign that she doesn’t like you if she shows many other signs on the list.

23. You have “peripheral physical contact”

Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.

For example, if you’re both sitting down and your thighs are barely touching each other. Or if you’re walking side by side and she grabs hold of your arm. That kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of tension and attraction.

24. She’s giving you more of her attention

For example, if she directs most of her attention when you’re in a group. Or if she’s only asking you questions or if she’s laughing more than others at your jokes.

The more attention she gives you, the more interested she usually is in you.

25. She blushes

Does she blush when you talk or make eye contact? She might be shy, but she’s probably a bit self-conscious around you because she likes you.

26. She looks at you from afar

Girls are often a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. I’ve even seen girls using window reflections to check out a guy (and to check if he’s looking at them). Sunglasses are even sneakier.

So if she’s looking in your direction, especially if she does it several times, she’s probably checking you out.

27. She keeps the conversation going

What happens when you stop talking or can’t come up with anything to say? If she seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If she excuses herself, she may not be that interested.

Click here to read my full guide on how to talk to girls.

28. She always replies

Does she always reply when you call or text?

Quicker responses are often a sign of interest. But many girls are so afraid of appearing needy that they delay their response even if they like you.

29. She texts or calls you first

If she’s often the one initiating, that’s a very strong sign she’s into you.

But if she never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if she will take initiative when you don’t do it before she even has the chance.

30. She texts you often

Compare this to how often you text her. It’s the same principle as matching the length of her texts. She’s eager if she’s texting more often than you, and you’re eager if you’re the one texting more often.

31. She stammers, stutters, or forgets what she was about to say

Does she seem nervous when you guys are having a conversation? This could mean she’s a bit extra shy or self-conscious around you, which tells you that she might also be a bit extra interested in you.

32. She doesn’t back off when you get closer

If she doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to her personal space, that’s a sign she wants you close to her.

If you take a step closer, and she backs off by a step, that’s a sign she’s a bit more reserved toward you.

33. She talks about future plans

Planning or mentioning things they want to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.

For example, if you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say, “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!” If you’re talking about art and she wants to share her work, that’s a good sign too.

34. She’s pleased with your commonalities

How does she react when she finds out that you have something in common? If she’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, like that you live in the same part of town, you’re the same age, or you both like pizza.

35. She asks you personal questions

If she is, that’s telling you that she wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more she asks, the better.

For example, asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or just about your favorite food. Asking you questions is literally showing interest in you.

36. She asks about your plans

Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be her trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if she brings it up near the end of the conversation.

37. She seems embarrassed if you two are the only two people left in a situation

If she does but doesn’t do anything to leave the situation, that means she’s just a bit shy but still interested.

A classic example is if you meet her with her girlfriends at a bar, and then all her friends leave, but she stays. That’s perfect because it also means her friends approve of you.

38. She tells her friends or family about you

This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I thought it was worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if she’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.

If she’s told her family, it means she is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!

If she just told her friends, that’s also great, but not as big as her family.

39. She offers you a massage

Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a girl to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer her one back if you like her!)

40. She reschedules when she can’t make a date

Say you were meant to meet up with her, but she cancels. How can you know if she truly couldn’t make it or if she just isn’t interested?

Life happens, and everyone has to change or cancel plans sometimes. If she tries to reschedule when she cancels, it’s a good sign she is interested in you and had to cancel for legitimate reasons.

41. She compliments you

If she gives you positive feedback, it’s a good sign she likes you. While teasing can also be a sign she likes you, some women are more prone to compliment a guy they like, and many do both.

42. She gives you small gifts

Does she pick up things for you or give you gifts or trinkets? That’s a sign that she’s thinking about you and wants to make you feel good. For example, if you’ve mentioned that you have a weakness for pastries, and she shows up with a croissant the next time you meet up, that’s a really good sign that she likes you.

43. She follows up on things you tell her

Remembering that you said you have a test coming up and asking how it went is a sign that she takes you seriously and also that she wants you to know that she listens to you and cares.

44. She lets you know she’s single

Bringing up the fact that she’s single could be a way for her to let you know that she’s available and interested.

45. She asks for your help

Asking for your help can be a way to spend more time with you and establish a connection. It can also be a way for her to check how responsive and helpful you are to get an idea of how you would behave as a romantic partner.

46. She opens up to you

Asking you questions about yourself shows that she’s interested and wants to learn more about you. Sharing things about herself is a sign that she trusts you and wants to get closer to you.

47. She has a nickname for you

Giving you a nickname can be a flirty way to show that she likes you.

Does your best friend have a crush on you?

It can be more difficult to figure out these signs if you’re already friends with someone. If you’re close friends, she probably already texts you, tells you about her life, teases you, spends time with you, and so on. How can you know if it’s just friendship or if there’s more going on?

Is she acting differently from how she usually behaves? If there’s a sudden change in her behavior towards you, it may be a sign that her feelings have changed. On the other hand, if her behavior has changed in all aspects of life, it may have nothing to do with you.

Does she seem jealous or dismissive of other girls you might like? Is she suddenly extra touchy-feely? Is she unusually interested in your interests? These changes may indicate that her feelings towards you are shifting or that she’s trying to work out what she feels.

Those are all signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend.

How do you know for sure if she’s interested?

You can’t know for sure if she’s interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few rules you can use to help you know:

  1. Is she regularly showing you different signs of interest?
  2. Does she act differently to others than to you? (So she’s not just flirty with everyone.)
  3. Has she shown any particularly strong signs of interest?

The only one to know for sure is to check with her. Let her know you are interested and see if the feeling is mutual.

Are you still unsure if she likes you?

Write it down in the comments below in as much detail as possible for other commenters to help you out. I’ll also respond to a few of the most interesting comments. But I can’t keep up with all the comments alone, so try to help others by answering them too. Poorly written comments with bad grammar will be deleted.

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Viktor is a Counselor specialized in interpersonal communication and relationships. He manages SocialSelf’s scientific review board. Follow on Twitter or read more.

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  1. I’m still quite unsure and that is definitely disturbing because i started developing feelings for her and this girl is no joke.

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    • You can do this!! Girls like it when they’re told that someone likes them!! (Usually?!) YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    • I feel ya dude. It can be confusing. Sometimes ya jus gotta roll with it and hope for the best 🙂 Girls can be confuzzling, and so can emotions… however if u like her, then just go for it 🙂 U got this 🙂

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  2. I’m still quite unsure and that is definitely disturbing because i started developing feelings for her and this girl is no joke.

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  3. i started going to a new school after moving and i was hanging with my new Friends but since i have acute paranoia i noticed she was staring at me with another girl which was most likely her friend , a few minutes she started to ask me ” do you like nirvana” i said yes, she nodded her head while looking away and looked back she said “cool” this was the first time i noticed so i don’t know does she like me or is she just trying to make a small conversations?

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      • It sounds like she at least wants to get to know you, because girls normally don’t talk to people, especially guys they don’t wanna at least get to know. Good luck dude 🙂 Sorry, there wasn’t a whole lot of detail, so i jus went off of what u said, I wishya the bestest of luck tho

    • Awww, she or her friend definitely wants to get to know you, especially with them looking back at each other. It’s girl code

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  4. So I met this girl at my school, and she has been acting weirdly. And yeah I do have a crush on her. But I’m still pretty unsure if she likes me back. There was this one time when everyone was going to go and eat lunch, but I was still sitting at my school desk, and so did my crush. She was also still sitting at her school desk. But then when I was about to go and get lunch, she followed me. And then when I was about to get lunch, there was only me and my crush and then a bunch of other people. I took my own lunch table and sat there alone, my crush also took her own lunch table that was right behind me. And yes she did stare at me maybe 2 or 3 times. She also sat with her iPhone a bunch of times. When I was about to leave, she also left right when I was about to leave. And that felt pretty uncomfortable. I also remembered when I was just wearing shirts, like just normal clothes. And so did my crush. But now when I started to wear black hoodies, she also started wearing black hoodies. And yeah we do maybe 2 times a week and she usually smiles a lot when she sees me. So? Do you think she likes me?

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  5. Plenty of sites say things like, “A guy who is shy might not make a direct move, but if he’s really interested in a woman, he will make some moves.” This is a complete – and false – generalization. There are many men, who like myself, are intensely shy. Although we know our feelings and desires are normal and legitimate from a ‘textbook’ perspective, we have a strong sense that expressing them to any woman would be offensive because we simply don’t have what it takes to attract a woman on those levels. So we literally never do or say anything to express our sexual / romantic feelings for a woman. None of this has to do with bodily / physical condition, employment, dwelling status, wealth, lifestyle or other ‘checklist’ item for men who want to attract women.

    I am 43 and have many great [platonic] women friends who seek out / enjoy my company. When the subject of relationships arises, they ask me why I have never approached or asked any woman out. Many self-described ‘dating experts’, as well as others, say that women often give ‘clear signals’ to men they like and want to approach them – I have never gotten any such signal from a woman that has been clear enough for me to take it as an invitation approach, so I haven’t. One or more of my women friends has sometimes been with me when [they say] I get a signal – but I do not see it, so to me it is not there.

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  6. So I met this girl ten months ago. We chat regularly if not daily. I like her so much but she seems to be a reserved person. She’s also shy and she acts like a good girl every time I’m with her. We spend nearly every weekend together. There was a time when she didn’t have a phone and she’d use the landline at her place to call. She would call anytime asking if I was doing fine. And there are times when I just wanna see her. If I ask her to come to my place she comes. Every time we meet it’s at my place. What bothers me is both of us are too reserved so my challenge is to break that ice. If I try to initiate a romantic conversation she becomes elusive and a bit shy. She responds to every text I send her. A month ago her family moved in to my complex. But things happened my family moved out two weeks ago. This is the first time we’ve been apart with this girl. She asked how she would get in touch with me now that we might not see each other every weekend. I just replied there’s a way. I promised to visit her one weekend when I’m free to which replied, ‘Take your time.’
    So what I wanna understand is if there’s any hope. Both of us are single. It’s been ten months now. Her family knows me too well. The sisters all talk to me. Her aunties (father’s sisters talk to me). But they don’t mention anything in our conversations.
    What should I do? Should I ask her out or just say it directly? My fear is that of her being too reserved. I’m also too reserved myself.

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  7. I kinda have a feeling my supervisor likes me. Like she will always find ways to include me into conversation. She always catches eye gazing contact with me. She also messes around with her body a lot when I’m around. Like she will get in sex poses around me like I know I’m not that stupid. I’m not sure if it’s safe to make a move considering work.

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  8. She has also got pushed into me and touched my shoulder. So can you tell me what that means. But now she does none of that except looking at me. When she knew that I liked her. So can u also tell me where to go next.

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  9. I have got a crush who I will only see for 7 weeks and maybe not see her again. But she does stare at me and has also got pushed into me before. And her friend noticed that I had a haircut. But we have never talked. And she and her friends have made fun of my feelings for her. Can you tell me where I should go next. And what it means.

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  10. Me and my crush cut open a fetal pig today in groups and we were less than an inch from each other or even touching. At one point our heads were almost two inches apart, yet she never pulled away. She giggled at almost everything I said. I caught her looking at me and it took her a second to realize and look away. She’s super shy and cute help does she like me

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  11. Can you help me. I like this girl and she looks at me a lot and also has tapped me on the shoulder before. But we have never talk. Can anyone help me on where to go next.

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    • try making a conversation like if u find a chance where its just u and her go ahead and talk. this is wht i usually do

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    • I know that girl just wanted to get your attention, or maybe ask you a little favor if you sort.of do that favor don’t do it to much than she want like you plus than if you do that favor for her that means she trusts in you..

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  12. So here is the story, the girl i like is totally a stranger i always see her from my balcony she also looks back and we maintain small amount of eye contact and whenever she passes by my home she always looks towards my balcony and i am not sure she is interested in me or not and i am scare to approach her and i am scare that if she thinks that i am a creep who always stalk her. Whenever she passes by she looks towards balcony and it happened most of the time and i am not sure is she interested and she doesn’t even have any social media account and i don’t know how to approach her and talk to her. I am sure that she knows my name. She is not completely stranger but we never talked to each other. So any suggestions.

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    • Best tip: just ask her name and start a conversation. The longer you wait the more akward/ creepy it will become

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    • ok i hate to say this but she might just be a normal passerby. there are a ton of girls in my neighborhood and just look from wherever they are and happen to look at u or ur house. especially if she dosent make contact alot you most likley dont have a chance of her even knowing you exsist. You also said she was a complete stranger to u and vise versa ur problably a stranger to her

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  13. Well its been a while since ive had a love problem and ive chatted on this site before and yet here i am, still needing help. So theres this girl in a game i play and i am still dating the same girl from before. anyways, she says she likes me and i dont like her so i dont want to say anything without hurting her feelings. any ideas??

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    • Since you gave me some support, I’d like to return the favour.
      Maybe just casually mention you’re with someone in a subtle way possibly?
      If that might hurt her feelings, maybe just keep playing and not say anything and she may lose her feelings so to speak.
      You could also just be honest with her, but also tell her you don’t want to upset her.
      Just some options, but no need to do any of them if there’s a better way. 🙂

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  14. So here is my story:

    I’m in college and I met a girl there who I am working with for school. From the start we had a good connection and we started hanging out, both at my place and hers. We go for long walks, watch movies and talk A LOT about ourselves and our interests. She dropped out of college and went to another one so we started seeing each other less but still we meet once a week. We have been doing that for a couple months now but nothing has really happened on a romantic kind of base. Like we hug and lean against each other during movies but nothing more. She’s pretty shy and always dresses nice when we meet. I think they chance is higher that she likes me then the chance that she does not but I can’t tell.

    I don’t have the courage/find the right time to just say that I like her more then just a friend and that I have some serious feelings for her for a while now.
    Also something about her: she has never had a boyfriend or has never kissed before and is really not experienced (or maybe not even interested) in relationships. We both are 19 btw.

    So what should I do? Tell her about my feelings? Just wait and give it time, maybe she isnt ready yet? Or should I just give up and continue as good friends? Any tips or advice is much appreciated!

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    • Her dressing up for you, leaning on you, going out, ect. is definitely a good sign. With her being shy and less experienced she’s being subtle but still dropping hints. I vote go for it, I really do think she’s interested. Don’t make a huge deal out of it, be casual but still interested in asking her. That’ll let her know that you really do mean it while putting less pressure on her. Like while out at a movie or something, just lean over and quietly ask her so it’s less stressful for her but still intimate and sweet enough.

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  15. So I became relatively close friends with a girl about 4-5 months ago and I’ve slowly developed feelings for her. Today we both arrived at school early – weirdly coincidental – and we were talking about our “love lives”. She told me she likes this one guy quite a lot and then two “mini crushes” and then she asked me the same question and I told her I liked someone, but I didn’t think they liked me. So then she spent the day trying to figure out who it was with the minimal clues I gave her and eventually asked me if it was her at lunch. I then asked her “before I answer what would you do in the situation of either answer?” and she said “I would say ‘nice’, give you a hug and continue being friends”. Now I’m assuming she doesn’t like me, but I don’t know if I’m one of the “mini crushes” and she still acts like she’s attracted to me, including hugging me as she said she would, but I can’t tell if that’s just her personality. Should I just give up and move on, should I keep chipping away or something else?

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    • I forgot to add that she’s also been quite flirty in some ways over this period of time amongst other things that would take a while to explain, but I’m not sure if that’s how she acts around people because she’s done similar things to others but seems to do it more to me? Just wanted to add this :/

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    • I was in a problem a little similar just the fact that she later told me she liked me. If i were u i would keep being friends with her and just be nice and polite. this worked for me. after a while she might start liking u. good luck

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      • Update: I did give an update before but I guess it didn’t save – Unfortunately I’ve been friend zoned :/
        I’m glad I finally have some closure though and she did say anything can happen in the future, but really I’m just happy we’re still friends because she’s great. Didn’t go the way I’d hoped but the present path is still a relatively bright one.

  16. I just have a question. I like my friend but I don’t know if she likes me back. We are both females and she has said that she isn’t a lesbian, tho when I lean on her she doesn’t resist but she jokingly says that we look like a couple. I don’t know if I’m too early to feel this way because we’re in the 7th grade but I can’t help it! Are there ways for me to know if my friend secretly likes me too?

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  17. I just have a question. I like my friend but I don’t know if she likes me back. We are both females and she has said that she isn’t a lesbian, tho when I lean on her she doesn’t resist but she jokingly says that we look like a couple. I don’t know if I’m too early to feel this way because we’re in the 7th grade but I can’t help it! Are there ways for me to know if my friend secretly likes me too?

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  18. I told this girl my feelings and she just chuckled and said aren’t i a bit tall and offered me help as i was sitting in milk i dropped (long story)
    After that incident she somehow got my number and started texting me A LOT but she goes on about this boy and i don’t know if it’s me or someone else
    She also stare directly into my eyes when we are having ‘interlectual’ conversations about science

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    • Lol okay so I’m a girl, and I have a feeling she likes you. Ik whenever I like a guy, I usually get his number through the grapevine, if he doesn’t give it to me. And yes, okay so girls will do this, we tend to talk about other guys in front of our crushes a lot, or we talk about the guy we like right in front of him, but disguise the guy enough so the guy we like doesn’t normally detect that that guy is him. Sorry that sounds really confusing. But from what you are saying it definitely sounds like she likes you!!! 🙂 sorry you fell/were sitting in milk tho

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  19. Of a girl can’t be with you for you and needs to have you pay for dinner then she doesn’t care about you she might be a gold digger or mail order bride basically a user

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  20. So, there’s this girl I’ve sat next to at work for a year now and had MANY, some pretty personal, conversations with. I recently needed to find an apartment and ended up moving into her complex because I liked the place and the rent was reasonable. Her and I both love to cook and watch movies. On a whim one evening she offered to help me move my 55 inch TV across town and after seeing my apartment offered me a tour of hers. She finished it with telling me to consider myself lucky because I’m only the 4th person who’s ever seen her place. After that I offered to take her to dinner saying “You helped me move the TV.” She wasn’t uncomfortable with me paying. Then a few days later she said she’s glad there’s someone else living in the complex that has food/cooking in common with her. She offered to take me to Cosco (using her membership) to buy the first groceries to my place and told me to let her know when I want to go back. The other day she invited me over to her place to “fix” her DVD player. Knowing her it is believable she thought it needed fixed, although it’s a stretch, and I couldn’t find anything wrong with it. She made me dinner and we watch a movie using the player I “fixed,” lol. I invited her to my place later in the week and she was receptive (as in “let me know when” without saying it directly). Quite a few times she’s mentioned restaurants (usually right out of the blue) and raved about them and asked if I’ve been (a hint to take her to them on a date?). She knows I like pizza and mentioned a place in town and I said I’d check it out that topic dropped suddenly ad we moved onto something else. Was almost like something she expected didn’t happen, maybe? Like I should have said let’s go, are you free _____? She often offers me some of her homemade food she brought for lunch. She’s tells me a lot about herself, like trivial things that most people would find boring. Like the temperature she keeps her place and how she does this and that and about her cat, etc. You know, when it comes up in conversation. It seems like she’s very open about it. I talk A LOT and she never seems annoyed by it and a few times I joked that I never shut up and she said it’s better than not talking at all and joked a few times she joked back “I didn’t say it.” She even took to teasing on occasion. My phone rings at work and I jokingly grumble “shut up” before I answer and she jokingly responds as though I said it to her. We both like music and she let me borrow a thumb drive (her only copy) of most of the music she owns sure I knew which bands she likes best. I’m a CD guy and she asked me to copy Alice in Chains for her so I gave her like 40 other CD-Rs of random music and she’s been listening to them and giving me updates as to where she’s at (discs labeled 1, 2, etc). My car was in the shop and she offered to get up early to drive me to work (before I moved into her complex), although our shifts are half an hour apart but I lived literally across town at the time. She’s told me so much about her family that if I met them I could say “Oh, you’re the one that…” and she has asked me questions about my family. We talk 4 days a week at work (different days off). She does mention her ex a bit…not all the time…but she’s only mentioning things that pissed her off about him (a few times I’ve gotten the hint she was seeing how I’d respond to it like would I do that stupid thing). Since they broke up like 8 months ago I haven’t heard her say anything good about him although she doesn’t mention him that much. So, it really does seem like she’s really focusing on things we have in common (which seems to be movies and music) a lot by mentioning her favorites a lot (too see what we have in common?) and all the trivial stuff she mentions are things that would be things that would be compromises in a relationship like the temperature of an apartment (to see how I’d respond, like those things are important to her so if it’s a big deal to me and we’re incompatible then she can know with out directly asking?) Anyway, Should I ask her out? Does it sound like she might want me to? I want to mentioned that pizza restaurant she mentioned the other day as say like (casually) something to the effect of “…so I googled that place and it looks awesome. We should go sometime.” and if she’s cool with it then I’d follow up with “So, what’re ya doing tomorrow night?”

    Does it seem like there’s something there? Or not?

    I’ve heard when a women you talk to regularly mentioned different restaurants or events out of the blue, especially more than once, it’s a good indicator that she’s hinting that she wants you to take her there. Any truth to that?

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      • You should ask her to the restaurant, not a date, per say, you don’t want to jump to far. Many times when someone has just lost someone they loved, they try to find someone else. Try going to that restaurant, dress casually. give her a complement or two. You can always ask her out another time, but don’t try to do it on an impulse. So is this a date? yes, indirectly. you can “gesture” towards the idea of it being a date, because the worst thing you can do is to leave her hanging with the love she has un-attended, else she will most likely lose interest in you and probably stop taking over time. You’d probably stop seeing her as much. But of course, this all doesn’t happen in the blink of an eye. So, I guess you should just formally go out with her to the restaurant(Don’t forget to ask her in advance so you both look forward to the day). A compliment, a look, but don’t over do it. Good luck my friend!

  21. I like this girl and whenever I’m around her she seems to talk but not to much. When I talked to my cousin to see if she says anything about me when she talked about me to her she said she didn’t say much about me and seemed shy. When I talk to her she seems fine but doesn’t show me much. Pls respond for help!!!

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    • that’s a bit vague… is she specifically more shy towards you than others – if so than this could be a sign, sometimes girls don’t tell family of their crush if they like them, in fear that they would tell you… ummm my advice is keep hanging out with her, and if more of the signs like the ones described in this article pop up, then she prob likes you, if nah she may jus wanna be friends? wish ya luck bro

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  22. I like this girl and whenever I’m around her she seems to talk but not to much. When I talked to my cousin to see if she says anything about me when she talked about me to her she said she didn’t say much about me and seemed shy. When I talk to her she seems fine but doesn’t show me much. Pls respond for help!!!

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  23. im in year 10 and i really like this girl and she kind of does a fair bit of these things but still not sure. i also want to know if it is better to first tell her my feelings or ask her out first. please reply i really want to be in a relationship.

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    • I wish you luck!!! I’d suggest trying to be friends with her first, if u already are, then maybe tell her ur feelings about her. girls really like it when dudes express their feelings rather than just getting to the point (asking her out on a date). But either way gets the point across!!! 🙂 My only pointer is try not to tiptoe around the subject… that can send mixed signals… GOOD LUCK 🙂

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  24. Hi I have a crush and she sometimes flirts with me and laughs at my jokes but I dont know if she likes me. Also I sit next to her for every lesson so i don’t want to make it awkward

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  25. Hi yeah is there any tips to go further with trying to get your crush to like you. Also my crush has tapped me on the shoulder before. And also got pushed into me can you tell me what this means. Because I really like her.

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  26. There is this Romanian girl at my school and I am Romanian too. We both live in Belgium so not many people understand what we are saying. Every time she comes to say hello she smiles. She asks me if everything is ok and stuff. We once made eye contact I blushed a little but I don’t know if she did but she started the eye contact. I once saw her cry because her boyfriend left her; I wanted to hug her to make her feel better but I was like: “What if she gets mad at me?” Anyways, I don’t know if she likes me but I do like her.

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  27. I’ve been dating this lady for 1 month. Seems like I initiate most phone calls and text! Things seem to be going great! I’m met her family and friends she wanted me too! One thing I’m concerned with is I’m always the one initiating text-calls etc.. but when together our talking things seem excellent!!! Both of us haven’t dated for 20yrs.. 1st time for booth!! Your input would be great!!

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    • She might not be the phone type. My crush always texts me but I do not always respond back. But I think that she’s very interested in you. Don’t let her go, buddy! 😉

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