How do you know if a girl likes you or even has a crush on you? These days, it can be quite difficult to know. She may be acting friendly, but what if she’s friendly towards everyone? Is she flirting, or are you imagining it?
Some women are more outgoing than others, so they may seem like they’re flirting even when they’re not. And some are shy, so they may seem withdrawn and uninterested even if they have a huge crush! It can be pretty hard to figure out, which is why we wrote this guide.
Sections
- Signs she likes you
- Does your best friend have a crush on you?
- How can you know for sure if a girl likes you?
47 signs she likes you
Unless a girl tells you outright that she likes you, you will have to try to understand by her context clues. When we have a crush on someone, there are usually changes in behavior around that person. Some changes are intentional (if they’re trying to show you that they are interested), while others are unintentional (due to nervousness).
The more of these signs she shows, the more likely it is that she has a crush on you, rather than just being a flirty or friendly person overall. Here are 47 signs to help tell if a girl likes you.
1. She laughs at your jokes
Laughing at your jokes can be a huge sign of interest (especially if you are not a particularly funny person…) If she smiles and laughs a lot around you, she may have a crush.
If you want to make a girl you like to laugh more, you may like to read this article on how to be funny (for un-funny people).
2. She mirrors you
Mirroring means that her body language, posture, or even what she’s saying reflects what you said or did. So if you take a sip of your glass, if she’s mirroring that, she’ll also take a sip of her glass. Or if you cross your legs and she does the same, that’s also mirroring.
Remember that mirroring is done subconsciously when she has a very good rapport with you. But it can also be done consciously if she wants to impress or bond with you. It’s a great sign either way.
3. She adds you on social media
This one means she wants to stay in touch and is at least a little bit interested in you. It also makes it much easier for you to take initiative by messaging or commenting on her posts.
4. She writes you long texts
Is she always giving you short answers, or is she giving you a small novel as a reply?
If her texts are about the same length or longer than yours, that’s great. It’s especially good if they’re longer than yours.
If you’re usually giving her long replies but not getting the same in return, it means you’re probably too eager. In that case, it’s often good to step back a bit and try to match her better. Give her some space, so she wants to come back to you again.
5. She teases you
Is it mean teasing or more flirty and light-hearted?
Most forms of teasing (even mean) are usually a sign she’s interested in you. I LOVE it when a girl I like tries to tease me. It means she’s trying to create a flirty vibe between you and that she wants a reaction from you. Just don’t take it too seriously and try to have fun with her!
6. She leans in toward you
If she’s leaning in toward you, that’s a sign she’s eager to get your attention or get her message across. And in the best case, it also means she’s eager to get closer to you.
7. She moves closer to you
If you’re in a conversation and you feel like she’s edging closer to you, or as if she’s almost uncomfortably too close to you, that’s a good sign. It could mean she’s attracted to you and wants to feel closer to you both physically and mentally.
Take note that different cultures have different “personal spaces.” So, if she’s from a different culture than you, it might just be because of that.
8. She bites her lips
Biting herself lightly on the lip is a flirty and cute (or sexy) signal. If she’s biting herself in the lip while you’re talking, that’s great. She’s probably into you.
9. She smiles at you
If she’s smiling toward you from afar, that’s an invitation to approach her. Or she’s flirting with you. (I’m assuming you didn’t just forget to put your pants on when leaving home).
If she’s smiling toward you when you’re in a conversation, that’s a sign she likes you. Especially if she has a light smile while you’re not even joking.
10. She licks her lips or teeth
Is she licking her lips or teeth? This is similar to biting her lips, but a bit more subtle and less flirty. Still a good sign she might like you.
11. She’s blinking more than normal
According to Blake Eastman, a body language expert, an increased blink rate can signify attraction[1], so it may be a good sign if you notice that she seems to be blinking more around you.
12. Her pupils are larger than normal
If her pupils get large when you’re in a conversation, you’re doing something right. This one is quite subtle because pupil size is primarily determined by light levels, but secondarily attraction can also increase pupil size.
13. She’s keeping eye contact for longer
If you notice that she’s holding eye contact slightly longer than normal, she’s probably trying to get your attention or make a connection with you. It’s a good sign that she’s interested in you. That kind of eye contact often feels more intense and can even be a bit weird or uncomfortable.
14. She’s gives you a light smile
Say that you’re all standing in a circle, and you two make eye contact when someone else is talking. Does she give you a slight smile? She probably likes you (or is a very kind person, which is also a good sign!)
Same thing if you make eye contact at a distance, in a park, or at a bar. A smile is like an invitation to start talking.
15. She looks at you with open body language
This sign is most useful at a place with some background music, such as a bar or a club.
If she’s moving in rhythm with the background music and at the same time looking at you, that can be a sign she’s attracted to you. Dancing like that and looking at you is an inviting form of body language. That tells you she wants your attention and is trying to get you to make a move.
16. She corrects her posture
Does she straighten her posture when she gets your attention or is close to you? That means she’s trying to make a good impression on you.
On the other hand, a more relaxed posture can mean that she feels comfortable around you, which can also be a good sign.
17. She faces you
If she’s facing you more often than she’s facing others in a group, that’s a sign she’s into you and values you more than others in the group. This is especially telling if you’re not even the one talking the most in the group.
18. Her feet point towards you
If her feet are pointing toward you, that’s a sign in the same line as if her body is facing you. She’s subconsciously focused on you, which makes her feet point toward you. It’s a sign of open body language.
19. She fiddles with or straightens her clothes, jewelry, or accessories
This could be because of nervosity, but it can also be because she wants to look good in front of you. It’s a classic sign of attraction.
20. Her palms are faced in your direction
If the palms of their hands are pointed in your direction, she might be interested in you. It’s a weak signal, but it’s still positive because it’s part of an open and welcoming body language she has toward you.
21. She touches you back
For example, if you touch her arm, does she touch you in a similar area later on in the conversation? If she does reciprocate your touch, that’s a great sign, but it also depends on if she’s touchy with most people or just you.
Keep in mind that shy girls usually don’t touch back because they’re so afraid of messing up.
22. She touches you when you talk
Common areas to touch are arms, shoulders, back, hands, or thighs. Hands or thighs are usually more intimate if she touches those. Some girls aren’t so comfortable with touch, and it takes them a while to warm up. So if she doesn’t touch you, it isn’t necessarily a sign that she doesn’t like you if she shows many other signs on the list.
23. You have “peripheral physical contact”
Peripheral physical contact is when some parts of your body are in contact with each other when you are doing something else.
For example, if you’re both sitting down and your thighs are barely touching each other. Or if you’re walking side by side and she grabs hold of your arm. That kind of passive physical contact means a lot and can build a lot of tension and attraction.
24. She’s giving you more of her attention
For example, if she directs most of her attention when you’re in a group. Or if she’s only asking you questions or if she’s laughing more than others at your jokes.
The more attention she gives you, the more interested she usually is in you.
25. She blushes
Does she blush when you talk or make eye contact? She might be shy, but she’s probably a bit self-conscious around you because she likes you.
26. She looks at you from afar
Girls are often a bit sneaky when they want to check you out. They can make it seem like they’re only looking in your direction or just grazing you with their eyes. I’ve even seen girls using window reflections to check out a guy (and to check if he’s looking at them). Sunglasses are even sneakier.
So if she’s looking in your direction, especially if she does it several times, she’s probably checking you out.
27. She keeps the conversation going
What happens when you stop talking or can’t come up with anything to say? If she seems eager to get the conversation going again, that’s good. If she excuses herself, she may not be that interested.
Click here to read my full guide on how to talk to girls.
28. She always replies
Does she always reply when you call or text?
Quicker responses are often a sign of interest. But many girls are so afraid of appearing needy that they delay their response even if they like you.
29. She texts or calls you first
If she’s often the one initiating, that’s a very strong sign she’s into you.
But if she never calls or texts first, that shows a lack of interest. In that case, it can be good to take a step back to see if she will take initiative when you don’t do it before she even has the chance.
30. She texts you often
Compare this to how often you text her. It’s the same principle as matching the length of her texts. She’s eager if she’s texting more often than you, and you’re eager if you’re the one texting more often.
31. She stammers, stutters, or forgets what she was about to say
Does she seem nervous when you guys are having a conversation? This could mean she’s a bit extra shy or self-conscious around you, which tells you that she might also be a bit extra interested in you.
32. She doesn’t back off when you get closer
If she doesn’t even flinch when you get a bit too close to her personal space, that’s a sign she wants you close to her.
If you take a step closer, and she backs off by a step, that’s a sign she’s a bit more reserved toward you.
33. She talks about future plans
Planning or mentioning things they want to do with you in the future strongly indicates some sort of interest, romantic or platonic.
For example, if you’re talking about a newly opened restaurant, they say, “We should go there someday!” or “I’ll show you how amazing that place is!” If you’re talking about art and she wants to share her work, that’s a good sign too.
34. She’s pleased with your commonalities
How does she react when she finds out that you have something in common? If she’s happy, that’s good. This sign is extra strong if it’s something very trivial, like that you live in the same part of town, you’re the same age, or you both like pizza.
35. She asks you personal questions
If she is, that’s telling you that she wants to know more about you and is interested in you. The more she asks, the better.
For example, asking about your plans for the future, your childhood, or just about your favorite food. Asking you questions is literally showing interest in you.
36. She asks about your plans
Asking about your plans for the day or weekend might just be empty small talk, but it could also be her trying to open a window where you can meet again and hang out. It’s more likely it’s a sign of interest if she brings it up near the end of the conversation.
37. She seems embarrassed if you two are the only two people left in a situation
If she does but doesn’t do anything to leave the situation, that means she’s just a bit shy but still interested.
A classic example is if you meet her with her girlfriends at a bar, and then all her friends leave, but she stays. That’s perfect because it also means her friends approve of you.
38. She tells her friends or family about you
This one is most relevant once you’ve already started dating. But it’s such a huge sign of interest (and approval) that I thought it was worth mentioning. It’s even bigger if she’s from a culture where approval from the family is important.
If she’s told her family, it means she is visualizing and planning a future with you. Congrats!
If she just told her friends, that’s also great, but not as big as her family.
39. She offers you a massage
Offering a massage is a nice thing to do, but it’s also a smooth way for a girl to get you both touching each other. (Remember to offer her one back if you like her!)
40. She reschedules when she can’t make a date
Say you were meant to meet up with her, but she cancels. How can you know if she truly couldn’t make it or if she just isn’t interested?
Life happens, and everyone has to change or cancel plans sometimes. If she tries to reschedule when she cancels, it’s a good sign she is interested in you and had to cancel for legitimate reasons.
41. She compliments you
If she gives you positive feedback, it’s a good sign she likes you. While teasing can also be a sign she likes you, some women are more prone to compliment a guy they like, and many do both.
42. She gives you small gifts
Does she pick up things for you or give you gifts or trinkets? That’s a sign that she’s thinking about you and wants to make you feel good. For example, if you’ve mentioned that you have a weakness for pastries, and she shows up with a croissant the next time you meet up, that’s a really good sign that she likes you.
43. She follows up on things you tell her
Remembering that you said you have a test coming up and asking how it went is a sign that she takes you seriously and also that she wants you to know that she listens to you and cares.
44. She lets you know she’s single
Bringing up the fact that she’s single could be a way for her to let you know that she’s available and interested.
45. She asks for your help
Asking for your help can be a way to spend more time with you and establish a connection. It can also be a way for her to check how responsive and helpful you are to get an idea of how you would behave as a romantic partner.
46. She opens up to you
Asking you questions about yourself shows that she’s interested and wants to learn more about you. Sharing things about herself is a sign that she trusts you and wants to get closer to you.
47. She has a nickname for you
Giving you a nickname can be a flirty way to show that she likes you.
Does your best friend have a crush on you?
It can be more difficult to figure out these signs if you’re already friends with someone. If you’re close friends, she probably already texts you, tells you about her life, teases you, spends time with you, and so on. How can you know if it’s just friendship or if there’s more going on?
Is she acting differently from how she usually behaves? If there’s a sudden change in her behavior towards you, it may be a sign that her feelings have changed. On the other hand, if her behavior has changed in all aspects of life, it may have nothing to do with you.
Does she seem jealous or dismissive of other girls you might like? Is she suddenly extra touchy-feely? Is she unusually interested in your interests? These changes may indicate that her feelings towards you are shifting or that she’s trying to work out what she feels.
Those are all signs your best friend might have started liking you as more than a friend.
How do you know for sure if she’s interested?
You can’t know for sure if she’s interested based on a sign on this list. But there are a few rules you can use to help you know:
- Is she regularly showing you different signs of interest?
- Does she act differently to others than to you? (So she’s not just flirty with everyone.)
- Has she shown any particularly strong signs of interest?
The only one to know for sure is to check with her. Let her know you are interested and see if the feeling is mutual.
Are you still unsure if she likes you?
Write it down in the comments below in as much detail as possible for other commenters to help you out. I’ll also respond to a few of the most interesting comments. But I can’t keep up with all the comments alone, so try to help others by answering them too. Poorly written comments with bad grammar will be deleted.
Mr.Viktor when a girl does not pass by you in university and doesn’t want your attention means that she is not interested?
The girl and I don’t know each other.
I’m not sure you’ll get this, but I’m just gonna take my chance.
So, she’s:
1 openly talking about romance anI me and stuff (she’s an otaku, I just like anime.)
2 facing me FULLY with her body when we talk. No problem with that.
3 not texting me first at all, but the one time we texted, she was overly excited to chat
4 giggling at my jokes.not laughing her life away, but she’s chuckling/giggling
5 she genuinely smiles when we talk
6 her pupils dilate… (I think so)
7 she’s really interested in my talent (art)
8 she’s always excited to help me with math and stuff (not sure that’s a sign)
9 she plays with her hair,but not while we’re talking, when she’s NEAR me.
10 she dosent start conversations when we’re close to each other, but when I start one,shes fully engaged in it, and at times, excited
11 she gets close to me, no prob
12 she dosent go out of her way to touch my shoulder and whatnot, but she let’s our feet and arms touch when we sit together
13 she has no problem walking beside me/ intentionally trying to catch up to me or slow down so I can catch up to her
14 eye contact? No problem.
15 she asks me stuff like “what are you doing this weekend?” OR “what are you doing?” Like it’s normal
I’m asking these because I’m going to ask her out (not on a date, for REAL) because we have UNUSUAL chemistry. We really… have a connection. But, I’m scared I’m just mistaking it for friendship. Your see, I have problems with overthinking stuff, and I’ve been weighing myself down by thinking about this all through my free time. I just want to ask her to be my girlfriend, she says yes, and I rest. Because I feel like my FRIGGING HEAD IS GOING TO BLOW UP. Whats your take..?
Sounds like she really likes you. But ask her out on a date instead. Or even better, ask her out on some fun activity without even calling it a date first. Don’t set too much pressure up from the beginning.
I highly advise against asking her to be your girlfriend just like that, unless you’re 15 years old or younger.
well then! i AM 15, so i’m gonna do it soon… i guessed since we’re both not very popular (oof) she’s probably just like me: she’s really nervous but she’s trying to hide it… makes sense… but anyway, thank you SO MUCH for the help!
There is this girl who will make eye contact with me, she will hug me a lot and sometimes I see her face flare up red with blush when I’m around. Should I ask her if she likes me?
yes
So I have a crush on a girl but we do not know each other. We see each other in university. We have never been in a conversation. But I saw some signs and I felt that she like me but I am not sure. One of the signs is that when I stare at her, she looks at me. That actually happened quite often. Another sign is that we had an eye contact that maybe lasted 1.5 seconds until I finally looked away. Another sign is that when I was at class, I looked at the class window and I saw her looking at me from outside of the class. So to sum things up,I caught her looking at me more than once at least.
I saw actually another sign, but I am not sure if it is a positive one. The sign is that she is avoiding me. Today I saw her on the bus stop, but when she saw me she decided not to go with the same bus me. She took the bus that comes after.
I would really be glad if you would help me know if she like me or not so I can approach her.
It seems she’s at least a little bit interested in you. But it’s weird that she avoided you at the bus stop. Was it that it was the wrong bus for her? Maybe she just felt ugly that day and got self-conscious. Or she’s weirded out by you staring at her so much. It’s impossible to know without talking to her.
I think you’ll know better if you manage to start a conversation with her. There’s no harm in trying anyway, if she isn’t interested you can focus on other girls instead, and if she’s positive, that’s amazing. You’ll be glad you tried either way.
But why would she feel weirded out by me if I caught her glancing at me and darting her eyes eyes away when I look at her?
I thought that is she is weirded by me she won’t even make eye contact wit me at any costs.
What do you think about that Mr.Viktor?
I mean that I caught her glancing at me before the day of the bus incident when she avoided me.
It’s hard to know why she looked at you, she could also look at you to see if you’re staring at her again.
But it’s more likely she’s a bit interested, but since she avoided you, she must be very shy or self-conscious around you. So that means you need to take the initiative since she’d never dare to do it. Let me know how it goes 🙂
Mr. Viktor, next tuesday will be the last day I see her in university because we have a 2 months vacation. Do you think that she will forget about me and that she won’t have the same interest as before when we see each other back again in university after these 2 months?
The problem is that we don’t know each other and I don’t have her on social media.
Do you think she will lose interest in me when we see each other again after 2 months or that is not necessarily?
Not necessarily, but she might see someone else in that time. You will be kicking yourself if you don’t try at least talking to her. And what if you think about her for all summer, but then in the fall, it turns out she was never interested in you? Better to know now.
I think she does
Hey the girl I think is interested in me she tends to do thes things play with her hair, tuck her hair behind the ear, laughing, hold eye contact, she even talks about her family and how many kids she would like to have. I feel like she is interested but she don’t text me I have to text her, but i all get a reply with the same amount of word as mine, and do you think if she was interested she would attempt touches?
Doesn’t sound like she’s super interested from what you said, she might just view you as a good friend. It’s hard to tell without more info.
Even if she’s interested, she might not dare to try touching you.
So she often looks at me I look at her she does the mirroring thing and I do it back but we are both shy and rarley talk but if I’m having a conversation with someone else she will normally join in
Too little information to tell. She could just like you as a friend.
I’m the same age as her but there hot boys in her school and I’m normal British boy but she’s Scottish like really Scottish and she only likes me 23% and I love so much and now I’m stuck so if you could help me that would very nice of youXD.and live nexst to her but boys don’t
Pleas help me
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And what does it mean when a girl is all ways punching you and then 1day she stops but then the next day she is punching you again when you did nothing to prothoc her what doe that mean
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Does she punch you when you’re joking?
How does the other 77% of her feel about you?
Hen we first meet she said that she would never go out with me.But I tell her that I like her she still respond to my texts not as fast as I would like but do respond. She say that I should not text or call her but she call and text from time to time.To I texted her told her dam girl you are fine in the last hour but at least she didn’t curse me out on the phone or text.
Alote out those apply but she talks to all boys in my class but me, what does that mean?
if u like her too of course! but if ur to nervous just txt her if u have her number or get it from her friends or on social media. u can start there then once u think u can do it. go ahead start talking in person.
She just looks at me. And her friends tease her indirectly when im around. She notices every time i look at her. But unfortunately we never had any conversation. so i don’t know if she likes me or not. What should i do first?
Try talking to her! Confidence goes a long way!
She looks at me and I look at her and she smiles sometimes but we never talked so what should I do
Talk to her.
🙂
she probably likes you try talking to her
Don’t know if she likes me, she always find ways to meet me but hardly starts the conversation. She talks to other boys more but still keeps her attention to me whenever I show interest. Can u help me find out
Help!
So this is kind of long winded but I have to get this off my chest, I have a friend, we are best friends. So here it goes.
We met acouple years ago, I work for her on the side even though I’ve done work for her in the past. As we moved forward on her project I kept a wall up. We have a lot in common our background and life story, but around last October we were hanging out with one of her employees at a bar talking about the design, I noticed she she sat beside me the kinda snuggled up to me. I thought that’s kinda strange. Then me her employee start playing a friendly game of foosball, she’s standing there with us yelling my name, saying come on you can beat him, really cheering me on but I was getting killed by this guy. We sat back down. Finished our drinks and so on. As we depart she gives me a big hug and a kiss on the cheek. Now keep in mind she’s always taking me out to lunch, buying me stuff and so on. Makes a big deal out of my birthday. So here comes thanksgiving, she tells me that she’s really thankful for me. She’s always giving me these looks. Well Christmas comes around and she sends me pictures of her in her pjs then of her and her husband, were both married, all in fun I’m thinking at this point. New Year’s Eve we hang out together because her husbands at work, lawyer. We are at another bar and a lady there assumes we are a couple and she doesn’t skip a beat. Goes with it. She calls me her frusband, bff, brother and so on, so we leave there go to another bar, very dark and quiet, we’re looking at videos on my phone of the days events and she snuggles up to me again. We end up back at her place, husbands home, seems alittle upset but we are all friends, as I’m leaving she begs me to go to a party with them, I told her I couldn’t and left, few days later she called me to meet her downtown because it was her birthday and her husband had to leave, on call, we hung out and shopped some. Acting like a couple. I giver her a card and acouple small gifts. Then they go on vacation, she calls me upset that her passport expired and that her husband and step kids were already there without her. She does call me to vent often and so on. Then she calls me one day to go to her rental property with her, saying she needed my help. I agree to go. Then next day her husband texts me saying he’s on call and ask if I could go help her. And I said yes even Though I already told her yes, so we go to her vacation rental property and go to town for supplies while a few other people are working and so on. Have a lot of fun just hanging out and shopping, later on that Night she tells me it’s her sisters birthday and that we are going to her birthday party, I agreed. Now keep in mind she made it a point to put me in the room beside hers, only thing separating our rooms is a door, we had started drinking some, I was already ready to go, I’m in her room and she says she needs to change, before I can leave she changes right front of me. The gentleman that I am I just turned my back towards her. We go to the party, I get out of her van and realized I left my jacket back at her place, she said she has just the thing, she hands me a poncho, as I’m tucking my shirt in she grabs me and starts running her hand down the front of my pants, I said what are you doing, with a big smile on her face she says I’m helping you tuck your shirt in…. then we go into the party’, I see her sister whom I’ve only met once, hand her her present from me, tell her happy birthday and so on, then I go outside, meet her sisters boyfriend for the first time and he says your chris? The chris? I’m like ya I guess, he’s says dude Lisa really loves you, looking at me dead in the eye, then I look at her sister and she says ya chris, Lisa really loves, she is so happy she has a big strong man like you in her life, I was floored at this point. We go on about the party, leave and go back to her place, alittle tipsy from the party, I’m laying in the bed and hear my door open, she comes in and says I’m gonna tuck you in….I’m like ok, she fluffs my pillows, blankets and so on and gets me a teddy bear out of her room and says sleep with this. At this point I still have my wall up. Being careful. Next day we work more.as I’m getting ready to leave she tells me to come back into my room, turns off all the lights and we sit together in dark, she’s going on about how much stuff she has to get done, I pat her on the back then ask me to give her a massage. I give her a back massage then get ready to go. As I’m leaving she looks at me and says I love you. I tell her I love her also and leave, she looked really sad I had to go. Next day she sends me pictures of the weekend events and so on. Saying how cute… so we back to business as usual since but since then she’s gotten real touchy feely, doesn’t mind being in my bubble, she will also tell me how good I am, that I’m the best, and will tell her husband to let me do stuff because I’m better at it or that I know what I’m doing, even though he’s a great guy and very hands on do it yourselfer kinda guy, I catch her singing songs when we are alone together like wicked game by Chris issac.shes used the term soulmate and so on. Says I remind her of a movie star she had a crush on when she was younger, all of her friends know about me as well as her family like she talks about me. She will take videos and pics of me working and send them to people, friends and so on. She invites me out to eat with her and her husband and always sits beside me, he will leave us there together like he doesn’t mind or don’t care, nothing sexual has happened between us, I care for her deeply, she’s like my best friend , well it’s made me fall in love with her! And I wrote her a poem, gave it to her last week and she cried, leaned into me and said you know were both married right and that the universe was messing with us. I said yes but I just had to tell you how I feel. She always looks at me like she’s looking into my soul, whenever she’s going out of town she makes a excuse to see me before she leaves, and if I don’t see her for acouple days like weekend she always wants to meet up for lunch. I thought the poem would seal the deal or run her off but it did neither, she didn’t skip a beat. Still goes on like nothing but since when she looks at me it’s like she gives me this save me look. We do have a lot of fun together working or not. I can tell she doesn’t get that from her hubby, there’s more to the story but I figured it’s long enough. I know we are both married but I have never felt this way about anybody, not even my wife. I’m just waiting now to see what she wants to do. All the signs are there. I see it in her eyes smile and body language.im willing to wait…. here’s the poem I wrote
In every song I hear you should hear her sing
In amazement at what she does can do and has done
Wonder Woman super woman or just human
I’ve never met anyone like her bet I never will
I consider her perfect expressed it before
In the beginning I put up a wall but a sea of emotions washed it away
In short time or long time the wait
This feeling what is it
Maybe in another life or maybe in a future her
The look in her eyes the feeling in mine
Just friends why
The lucky one to have this friendship or the pain knowing it can’t or can it
The stories the times the connections
She’s got the perfect life, she’ll say different me too or do we
I don’t want it to end cause I know it will then be in short passing
It’s not lust is it love
What is it
I’ve dreamt of her, I did again last nite.
She’s a dream come true but a nightmare because
I know I’m sane, is it a higher power
She’s in my thoughts and she’s on my mind
I want to climb the highest peek and screem her name because god knows I’ve yelled it in my soul many times
She tells me her secrets I tell her mine
Could I go on but of course
Like a book that never ends but a poem that does.
It’s just so crazy she made me fall in love with her but at this point I know she feels the same way but don’t want to mess things up between us. She treats me so different than anybody else, special attention. She’s always wanting my feedback on things even though she has it in her mind what and how she wants things. I feel like she puts me way up high on a pedistool, gifts, lunches, dinners and so on. I’m just a average joe. He’s a lawyer but tells me how smart and funny I am. She’s always hugging me, having me massage her or hold her. I can go on and on but that’s the jist of it. Help!
Wow!
Usually when I’m hanging out with friends i notice her at the corner of my eye staring at me.
She had a Instagram story saying “send a x if you don’t hate me” I sent it and she said that she would give a honest statement if I sent a pic of me I did and she said she misses talking to me and wished she had the same classes as me.
Does she like me?
Yes! Not sure yet if romantically or not though.
Okay… There is this girl that I like but I can’t figure out if she likes me back or she’s just being herself. She is sometimes taking my stuff like my hat, and she full on Sat on my desk… Weird because I have never seen her do any of these things. I don’t know if I’m being stupid or if I’m right and she does like me.
Seems like playful teasing/flirting (unless it feels like bullying?). She at least has some interest in you.
Boii she likes u
Im in college and there is this guy I’ve been talking to all semester. We have a lot in common and we vibe really well. We had a few classes together and we tease each other all the time. People say we are flirty but he hasn’t made a move, and hasn’t asked me out. We also text frequently but i can’t tell if he is just being a good friend or likes me more than that
He’s most likely interested in you, but too insecure to make a move. Ask if he wants to go do some activity or something fun with you and see how it goes.
I have a friend and she seems to talk a lot about guys and her ex-boyfriend. But she is pretty touchy and gets really close to my face as a joke. When we talk we somehow end up holding hands kinda. And idk the overall vibe is pretty flirty the only off thing is that her friends say she is straight and she talks about guys. But idk, doesn’t body language say more than words do?
You could try asking her if she’s ever been attracted to a girl. It’s a harmless question if she’s straight. And if she’s not or if she’s interested in you, you’ll notice on her reaction.
Her actions definitely seem flirty. Worst case I think she might want to see if you are attracted to her to get a self-esteem boost. But I think it’s more likely she’s interested in you. But maybe she feels ambiguous about it also.
My best friend and me have been friends forever and recently she has been really flirty with me and even saying that she likes me but I kindly brush it off because ik she is joking well I think cause she’s been really confusing lately like she kissed me on the cheek the other day and she’s liked never done that and and we were texting the other day and she said she wants me all to herself and I really feel like she is just maybe joking with me but idk I tried to ask her about it but I chickened out ?
Wow. Seems as obvious as it can get. Unless she’s really mean and making fun of you or leading you on. But if she’s never been mean before + since you are best friends that seems unlikely. Don’t brush it off next time and go for it!
I’m in the exact situation
I’ve seen her looking at me but then she darts her head away the seconed I see her. And when she is around her friends she dosent really talk to me. But when she’s not with her friends she talks to me. And when she is talking she makes eye contact for a long time. I want to ask her out but i just want yo be sure she likes me
Trying to find a crush
A girl and I recently told each other we liked one another. Day after, she stops talking to me ?
Maybe she got nervous or afraid she’ll mess it up somehow? You never know what kind of issues someone else might have.
My best friend and me have been friends forever and recently she has been really flirty with me and even saying that she likes me but I kindly brush it off because ik she is joking well I think cause she’s been really confusing lately like she kissed me on the cheek the other day and she’s liked never done that and and we were texting the other day and she said she wants me all to herself and I really feel like she is just maybe joking with me but idk I tried to ask her about it but I chickened out ?
We are roommates sharing a different bedroom. She used to come see me when I am in the living room or kitchen everytime. We started hanging out, I see the signs mentioned in points 1,2,3,5,6,8,9,10,13,14,16,17,18,21,24,25,26,27,28,31,33,35,37 in her. She is making plans for the future but she is not coming out frequently now when I am in the room and also looking me from far but not approaching me.
What if she grabs my arm to take me to a place instead of just telling me or walking me there without contact
It’s a good sign, but not conclusive on its own. It might just be the way she does with everyone she likes, romantic AND platonic.
There is this girl in my class ( sixth grade) and she always playfully punches me. Also, she ALWAYS asks if I would team with her in four square before she asks her friends. I don’t know if she likes me or not because, like I always say, middle school is confusing.
There’s this girl in my art class that I like (I’m in 7th grade). She is usually sitting next to me or asking me for help and when I see her for the first time in the day she’ll say my name in an excited high voice. She always laughs at what I say even if it’s not funny. Pls help me lol.
So this girl I work with, just told me she wants to be my best friend (I know, I got friend zoned). But I she feel wants to be more than friends. She playfully hits me, is nervous when she’s around me, and it seems like she forgets what she wanted to tell me sometimes. When we’re out, she constantly tells me to feel her hand because it’s cold. I may be looking too much into this, but I want to make sure the signs I’m seeing are somewhat true before I make a move.
This girl in my social studies class is always sitting by me and playing with her hair and glasses, I like her a lot but I don’t know if she likes me.
Thank you sir for your advice and replies.
What if shes alwas laghing gigling or curling/playng with her hair and what if she pulls my hair p.s i am a guy and what if she says i love u or licks/bites hoer lips on a daily baises but alwas or at least just playfully and how do u tell if someone’s just blushing or has realy rosy cheeks p.s again im a thirteen year old boy but i’m still pretty mature enughf. a.k.a (teen)
Today she asked me to feel how soft her hair is at least 4 times. she always asks how She looks. we are coworkers in the food industry and she asked me to check if she had ketchup on her pants.she is always teasing me just making friendly cracks about things I say or do
A few questions:
1) As far as teasing goes…is pretty much all teasing considered flirty, as long as it’s not mean-spirited? Example: making fun of your favorite sports team and poking at you for being quiet?
2) How to interpret a woman staring at you, not breaking eye contact and not smiling?
3) Same woman as the first two: so, there was a work social event for everyone in my department that she organized, and she asked me if I was going/tried to talk me into going. I didn’t go, and the next day she wouldn’t let it go that I didn’t come and kept talking about how I should have come and would have had fun. No one else reacted like this–one person said once that she thinks I would have had fun, but that was it. Everyone else went, so I was the only one who didn’t. This workplace is very big on “team” and relationship building, so…normally, I would definitely think this was a sign of interest, especially combined with some of the other signs, but it also occurs to me that she just could have been bothered that not everyone on the “team” came and that I like to do my own thing instead of acting like everyone else and trying to fit in.
Interesting observations!
1: It really depends on the context, it’s either a) flirting b) trying to be playful and have fun with you or c) bullying. It can also be some combination of those alternatives. What’s interesting with flirting is that it’s so ambiguous, it’s supposed to be hard to interpret.
But considering signs 2 and 3, I think she might be interested in you because she’s giving you so much of her attention. Unless it feels more like bullying/trying to put you down? You should have a good grasp if she’s just mean-spirited or not. If she’s not, all of that attention she’s giving you definitely means something.
Thanks, Viktor. I don’t think it’s mean-spirited or bullying. It’s more like what you wrote, i.e. I’m not sure if she’s just trying to get me to lighten up or if it’s more than that.
How many signs do you think are enough to feel good about approaching a woman?
You don’t really need any signs to go for it if you really like her. But at work, I would be a lot more careful since you don’t want to burn any bridges there. And you don’t have to “make a move”, you can just start talking more to her, maybe try to flirt a little bit to see if she likes it. If you get a positive response to the flirting, I’d consider asking her out on a date (or just a lunch/coffee so there are not so high expectations). And when she’s asking you to come to an event, you should definitely go if you’re actually interested in her.
Best of luck!