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  1. This is new news to me I’ll try it in my next encounter with new people.
    But what if the person isn’t talking much and is expecting me to bring up a conversation, I usually black our at this point wondering whether what I’m about to say is interesting

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  2. Thank you I’ve learned a lot in this video I. Was the one who doesn’t make an eye contact and I doesn’t feel like it’s a mistake and sometimes I feel nervous at all right now this time I’m gonna. Change my strategy

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  3. ohh really this was very good way to make us more confident I appreciate it and after watching this it gives positive vibes and a good energy instead of negative thoughts

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  4. Wow! I’ve never heard such great advice before. I always get stuck in my head while the other person is talking. Shifting my focus on what the person is saying, wearing or focusing on his face is something I will apply right away. Thank you!

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  5. This is interesting. I often look away when having any conversation at all with whoever. People I’m comfortable with or strangers.
    Focusing on what the person is saying rather what is thought of me, is refreshing and I can’t wait to try it.

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  6. This is interesting. I often looks away when having any conversation at all with whoever. People I’m comfortable with or strangers.
    Focusing on what the person is saying rather what is thought of me, is refreshing and I can’t wait to try it.

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  7. So I need to try and focus on the person I’m talking to and listen to what they are saying. I will give this a try at my next social function.

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  8. That is a great idea. Concentrate on what they are talking about. I will definitely try that. Thank you very much.

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  9. I am the same way i struggle around a group of people even if im familiar or somewhat familiar with them. I have never enjoyed being the center of attention in any kind of group.

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  10. Very interesting. I’m going to have to practice keeping my focus on other people instead of myself, or my mind just wandering off to unrelated things.

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  11. I have trouble with all the small talk. I have a problem staying focused on things that are frivolous. What can I do to focus more?

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  12. Thank you
    But I tried this , its didn’t work
    None of them talk to me for long
    Because I am not talkative but I am talkative in my house

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  13. Very clear. Internalizing can go too far. Thinking of others always gets you out of the rut of focusing on yourself. It also helps you recognize people who are self-centered and gives you the confidence to choose who you befriend.

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  14. Come to think of it, I always felt much at ease when I cared less about others’ perception of me, and focused more on external things (what they were talking about, how they feel about that thing, etc..). Basically, concentrate on their perception of anything but me.

    This is solid advice, thanks for reminding me of it.

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  15. I agree this would give a socially nervous person more confidence, but only if speaking to a socially confident person. How do you feel part of a conversation if it is only focused on them?

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