Do you want to be good at talking to people and connecting with them?
We’ve had a massive interest in a course that helps take you all the way — step by step — from “Hi” to hanging out with someone as a close friend. Therefore, we created “How to Talk to People & Make Friends With Them”.
The course helps you connect with anyone and with the system, the community, and the course format, you’ll get better results than we could ever achieve in our emails.
This course is for you who…
- Feel like it takes forever to make friends (or it never happens)
- Feel like people won’t be interested in what you have to say (or that you aren’t interesting enough)
- Get stuck in your head because of self-consciousness or social anxiety
- End up beating yourself up for stupid things you’ve said
- Feel uncomfortable about being judged if you open up
- Feel like people will think you’re weird if you talk to them
- Don’t know what to say
- Get stuck in small talk
Why get a course when there’s an ocean of free advice out there?
With all the advice out there, why isn’t everyone a social genius? The answer: More advice doesn’t automatically make us better.
That’s why Talk to People & Make Friends With Them isn’t another “advice-bomb”. Here’s what we do differently to give you results:
- Instead of trying to remember 100 different things, you can just follow our system.
- We focus on one core concept at a time and help you internalize it.
- With my practical video examples, you get experience that no blog post or book can give you.
- Signing up for our program means you become a part of our SocialSelf Inner Circle: Whenever you get stuck or want to discuss something, you get help from Viktor, me, and all our members who share your journey.
- Our material is scientifically based, optimized for results, based on countless video calls with beta testers, and created together with counselors and therapists.
Advice can be good sometimes. We give a lot of advice in our free material so you can decide if our way of doing things works for you before you spend a penny.
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I want to learn to be more open about myself and not be afraid of what the other person thinks about it and not be afraid of making mistakes.
I also want to learn to be more interested in what the other person has to say. usually when someone tells me something, I only respond with ‘ok’, because I don’t really care.
I am also extremely shy, I say almost nothing. I am sometimes too scared to say hello. It gets very busy in my head and I can’t think logically anymore.
I’m not shy with my family, I’m just myself there
hello guys, as for me im not that good at socializing to such an extent that many people especially at my school really take me to be antisocial person and some are even afraid to approach me because they say im always quiet and serious. It really sucks guys coz i m interested in talking but the problem is im choosy of the people i would like to talk to.
i really want to improve on being antisocial into being social and less serious coz its giving a hard time at school
hello guys, as for me im not that good at socializing to such an extent that many people especially at my school really take me to be antisocial person and some are even afraid to approach me because they say im always quiet and serious. It really sucks guys coz i m interested in talking but the problem is im choosy of the people i would like to talk to.
i really want to improve on being antisocial into being social and less serious coz its giving a hard time at school
I would like to not over think during a conversation. Saying what is on my mind without saying something embarrassing or that will cause me to replay what I said over and over after the encounter is over. I would like to be more in the moment and be able to really hear what the others are saying. I have a way of either not saying anything or going overboard saying too much.
I do this as well and i need to stop.
Hello David.
Thank you so much for your time and consideration.
Great video. I like the point about sharing too much too fast can repel. I think a lot of people can be on guard. However, this video is for when you want to be friends with a person, not just an acquaintance. That takes vulnerability. I like how you gave the person the opening to share about his personal feelings, too. I agree that the more you share together, the closer you can become.
I feel like in person is alot more likely to create a bond than over the internet though
Going to explain the one problem I ga e that holds me back and that is the result of being around nefative people! One thing I’ve learned is not all of us are blesssed with being in the best situation to really make friends
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Is it bad to say what I truly need to improve when it comes to a conversation with others is moving the conversation itself
I dont’ want to get repelled all the time and get ignored,it makes me lower in the already low confidence I have.people keep ignoring me when I ask something as though I said something totally unrelated(at times I do ask something totally no related!).
Want to get past small talk LOL 🙂
When it comes to conversations i just want to be more like myself. When im more like myself socailly with other people it make me more confident when im talking to people.
Sometimes I fade away during a conversation, I’d like to improve on asking the right questions which I believe will help me with becoming a better listener. I’d also like to know how to show others that I’m interested in what they’re saying and that I am an interesting person. I need to improve on finding the things that I’m interested in to help the conversation move along more smoothly. Also, I usually respond with ‘okay’ or just ‘yep’ and I nod alot, I want to know how to respond better and how to focus more instead of being stuck in my own head. Thanks 🙂
I’d like to be better at reading the other person before I start the conversation, knowing which type of questions he will respond to better. Also I would love to be better at asking the right questions. I understand conversational threading but sometimes it feels like I can’t think about all the relevant questions when I’m right in front of the person.
I want to get rid of the awkwardness in a conversation with a stranger or the person I’m seeing for the very first time.I want this to come naturally.But the thing is most of the time when I try to innitiate a convo. eventually I get nervous after a while and couldn’t get anything to say next.
Thanks David for sharing the video with me. I can always have a bit of small talk with someone but it never really goes any further, like a dead-end conversation because I never knew what to say next. I really want to try more personal questions. Thanks x
I need to improve my promptitude. I am slow and borring for others. I Want to be interesting.
I want to improve by focusing on others, being where my community is (I frequently isolate myself because of social anxiety), and learning more about what is going on in our world so I can be better engaged in conversation.
Thank you, for your loving kindness in sharing your wisdom ang truth towards building a better understanding worldview towards humanity. Kind Regards Harriett Freedom
Id like to be better at keeping the conversation going while keeping it still interesting.
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Thank you for your words of wisdom and support to all of us. My biggest issue is not so much the small talk but opening up to people. When people ask me what do like to do or like to eat, I am so caught up in what if I say something that makes me seem boring that I forget who I really am. My confidence isn’t there. I am working on it but any advice?
Hi David,
This is a good start! Thankyou for your advice so far. My issue is that I have a problem keeping a conversation going; my confidence can hold up to progress the conversation but what I really lack is the ability to stimulate the cobnversation with Wit and Humour. Im not sure how to change this. Sometimes my mind goes blank during conversations and my mouth will keep saying words, half of which are odd things to say which makes me feel stupid. I really want to feel secure in what I’m saying and make prople laugh. At the moment I do not trust what I say, and so end up not saying much or engaging with my friends. I need some help on this
What is that those popular guys have ?
Charm? Looks ? I mean is their mind wired differently.Why is it that i have to learn all this by reading and they already have it plus i read about these techniques and tips but it’s different like the people i meet everyday i can’t be from shy to a chilled out person because if you fo that people find you weired. So how do i recreate my image in front of them ?
I am a “popular” person but don’t know how to nurture friends into *good* friends. What’s wrong with learning by reading?
aqidah
I would like to get more confident at starting and holding conversations with new people, at the moment I am too shy and scared to talk as I don’t know how to have a conversation properly. I think I am boring and I find it hard to be interested in other people and usually just stay quiet and not talk
same
I would like to be more confident in my life. I’ve always been that kid who awkwardly sit in class alone when none of my few friends (not close friend, just loners who hangout together) aren’t in class. I won’t really say that my other classmates are strangers, but at most they are just acquaintances. One day, I just suddenly thought that I couldn’t stay like this and I would like to have more connection with people. Its not like I was bothered being a loner. In fact, I enjoyed it but there are sometimes like once or twice a month that I just suddenly felt a crushing loneliness for no reason whatsoever. That’s why, Iwould like to change myself into someone who can form a strong social bonding with strangers that I met. So that I can get more new friends and probably meet that special someone.
I would like to get more confident at starting and holding conversations with new people, at the moment I am too shy and scared to talk as I don’t know how to have a conversation properly. I think I am boring and I find it hard to be interested in other people and usually just stay quiet and not talk
I would like to hold a conversation longer without sticking to one boring topic and be able to deduce if who I am talking to is interested or not and i want to know what are the things interesting for the person I talks to especially if a girl
I would like to hold conversations longer and be comfortable in sharing myself with new people to get them to like me. Also I want to stop worrying about having bad conversation topics
I would like to hold conversations longer and be comfortable in sharing myself with new people to get them to like me. Also I want to stop worrying about having bad conversation topics
Hey David, I really enjoy your emails and I want to talk about some things i’m struggling with socially. So when i’m talking to someone I always run out of things to say, especially with girls. I’ve watched your video on how to get to personal mode with questions asked and that helped, but I feel like I dont know when to ask these kinds of questions. I also dont know what other “good questions” to get someone to like me as a person. I’m naturally very quiet, but I also want to make new friends and be the guy that always knows what to say. I hope you can help me out.
Thanks for everything!
Connor
From watching this I realise that I know many of these conversational tips already. The difficulty for me is having the confidence to use them: my main difficulties lie more in starting conversations or directing my speech towards people and suchlike. It’s difficult to get people to engage with you if you can’t get their attention enough so they’ll realise you want to talk to them.
With my small group of friends I can sometimes be loud and such, but often in lessons in school I can be quite quiet; although I am sometimes confident enough to speak, I find it challenging.