Here are the most frequently asked questions about Self-Conscious to Confident. If you don’t get your question answered below, just reply to any of the emails I’ve sent you! I read all the emails personally and will come back to you as soon as I can.
The best way to find out if this program is right for you is to try it yourself. Remember: With this program, you get a 60 day 100% full money back guarantee. That means you get a full refund up to 60 days after you registered for the program if it turns out it wasn’t right for you.
Will this work for me?
- Will this program help me with my dating?
- Will this work in my country?
- What age is this for?
- Will this work for my very specific situation?
- Who’s this program for?
- What if I don’t have the looks/ money/ career/ lifestyle/ experience/ height/ facial bone structure needed to succeed?
- Is this only for people who want to improve their already decent confidence, or will it work for those with more severe anxiousness, nervousness or shyness too?
- Why not just deal with this by myself?
- Why not just buy a book or search for free advice online instead?
- What if I lose my motivation halfway through?
- What if I fall behind?
- What if it turns out Self-Conscious to Confident is not right for me?
- What if now is not a good time for me?
About the program
- What’s the difference between this program and Awkward to Awesome?
- Do I need to change who I am for this program?
- How does the program work?
- How much time will this program take?
- Is this a live program?
- Do I need to force myself to talk to strangers?
- What happens after I register?
Will this program help me with my dating and relationships?
This is a program on becoming more confident in life. A big part of confidence for many people is dating and relationships. Therefore, we’ve dedicated an entire week of this program to those topics.
Because Viktor has worked for over 7 years as a dating and relationship coach and even trained dating coaches, you’ll find powerful material here to help you with your dating and relationships. However, there will be no “pick up openers” or similar techniques. Those are counter-effective when you’re trying to develop a permanent and internalized confidence.
That week, we’ll also talk about platonic relationships, conflicts, assertiveness, dealing with toxic or dominating people and approaching strangers.
As you become more authentic, confident, and able to connect with people, you’ll become a more attractive person – both among friends and partners.
Here’s what one of our beta testers wrote me not too long ago:
I just walked up to the girl I like for soooo long. It was a huge step, but I had the confidence and knowledge of what to talk about. If I hadn’t had this course, I would never dare to talk to her.
– Justin in Maastricht, Netherlands
Will this work in my country?
There are many differences between cultures. Generally speaking, Americans are more extroverted than people from Asia. South American cultures are often more expressive than West Europeans.
We’ve made sure to take this into account designing this program, and I think that we’ve succeeded:
I’ve personally used our methods in the US, Thailand, China, France, Spain, the UK, and here in Sweden. More importantly, our 118 beta testers from all over the world report great success.
The reason is the same for why Self-Conscious to Confident works for different ages and genders: The fundamental psychology behind how humans work is the same for all of us.
Am I too young/old for this?
The majority of our beta testers have been between 18 and 50 years old. The youngest is 16 years old and the oldest 55. Human psychology is very much the same no matter your age. We’ve had beta testers and participants of older programs of all ages reporting great results.
Will this work for my very specific situation?
Self-Conscious to Confident has been tested with great results on people from all walks of life. Our beta testers are men and women aged 18-55. They are people from all over the world with all kinds of careers and lifestyles. Some of them would mainly like to be more confident in social settings. Others would like to be better at bonding with people they come across. Some of them would like to have a better career, live in a larger house, have a bigger paycheck or a better physique. Still, they’ve had great results with Self-Conscious to Confident.
These people all have one thing in common. They’re quite thoughtful and tend to overthink in social settings. If you can relate to this, I am confident that this program will work for you, no matter your specific situation.
And if it turns out the program wasn’t right for you, you can use our 60 days 100% money-back guarantee. You get a full refund up to 60 days after you bought the program.
Who’s this program for?
- You restrict yourself around new people because you worry about what they might think of you.
- Sometimes you don’t believe in yourself or your abilities.
- You often worry about embarrassing or humiliating yourself.
- You often feel shy around those you’re not yet comfortable with.
- You’re afraid others will notice when you’re either anxious, sweating, blushing, trembling, or stuttering.
- Maybe you think that “If I only looked more fit or attractive things would change” (Even though you know about all those people who are confident DESPITE their looks.)
- After a social situation, you often analyze everything you said and did and beat yourself up for any mistakes.
- Your social anxiety is hurting your relationships and your daily life because you avoid social events, parties, and maybe even small things like talking on the phone.
- You want to be more confident in group conversations and especially around people who intimidate you.
- You want to be better at hitting up conversations with others and know what to say, especially around someone you’re attracted to.
- Your mind goes blank because you overthink and worry too much in social settings.
- You avoid many opportunities in life because you’re afraid to fail.
- This makes you feel like you’re missing out on life.
If you can relate to several of these points, this program is for you.
It’s NOT for those who…
- … are looking for techniques to manipulate people or act in an insincere way
- … are looking for a magic pill to instantly fix everything
- … can’t dedicate 1-2 hours a week
What if I don’t have any looks, career, success or lifestyle to be confident about?
I often hear how people say:
“This won’t work for me because I don’t have the right looks.”
“In my city/country, people are too self-absorbed/busy/shallow/any negative word.”
“Money/career/status is what’s needed to get accepted in this society.”
“People look down on me because I’m too short/work as a postman/have a car from 1998.”
This is called “letting yourself off the hook”: Deciding that your life is a product of circumstances you can’t control. Some people take little responsibility for their life situation and can’t see how they can control it. This program is not for them.
Here’s a realization most, unfortunately, make way too late in life:
Your confidence isn’t connected to your looks or what you’ve achieved in life. I’m sure you’ve met people who seem to have it all and still aren’t confident.
Then there are those who seem to have nothing going for them, who seem to be the most confident persons in the world.
Whenever you feel like you won’t be able to achieve true confidence because there’s something you don’t have going for you, don’t forget to first take a look around: Is there anyone else you know who’s truly confident despite lacking in looks, career or lifestyle? Perhaps they’re even worse off than you are? The answer is probably yes. If they can succeed, so can you.
This is sooo good! And don’t forget – your often simple, but brilliant advice can also be used by us, who have left the youth! I really wish I had been given so much good advice 20-30 years ago.”
– Anne Mary, 47.
Is this only for people who want to improve their already decent confidence, or will it work for those with more severe anxiousness, nervousness or shyness too?
We’ve made sure to use exercises and mindsets that are powerful if you have severe social anxiety. Our recommendation is that you put more focus on the first weeks of the program.
You can also go through the entire program, and then redo it with your newfound perspectives. Most of our exercises give increasing benefits the more you do them (up to the point that you integrate the mindsets automatically and no longer need to think about it consciously).
There are also some exercises that are shown to be MORE effective the more self-conscious or nervous someone is. (Because these exercises specifically target the mindsets associated with severe social anxiety). Most of these exercises are in week 2 of the program.
If you are already quite high up on the ladder, we have several advanced sections that benefit you the most once you’ve already integrated all the fundamentals in the program. So there’s a LOT of value in re-doing the program a couple of months or a year after you’ve completed it for the first time.
Why not just deal with this by myself?
You can deal with this on your own. I did. However, it took 8 years for me to get to a level I was satisfied with.
This program is a bit like pressing the fast-forward button.
There are so many obvious mistakes and so much needless pain and rejection going through this alone. Those who participate in my program have decided to learn from my mistakes instead of treading water on their own.
Even for people who are several years behind, this program gives the opportunity to make a giant leap to close the gap. Many of our participants even decide to go further. They use their motivation to excel above what most people only dream about.
Why not just buy a book or search for free advice online instead?
Our system isn’t just “more information” or “more tips”. Anyone can find tips for free and it doesn’t create permanent change.
(After all, with all free information online, why isn’t everyone super confident right now?)
What we need is a system that we can follow every day without effort. That’s the key to become confident and unlock our true potential in life. And that’s what you’ll get with our program, we guarantee it, or you get your money back. No explanation needed.
What if I lose my motivation halfway through?
We realized that when people get demotivated, for example when taking a course, it’s because the course is either too hard, too basic or doesn’t feel meaningful.
They thought they didn’t have motivation enough, but in reality, the course just sucked.
We decided to design the program in a way that will maximize follow-through, even if you feel like you easily lose your motivation.
Our program makes you more motivated, instead of intimidated or overwhelmed.
That’s why our participants and beta testers stay motivated throughout the program.
If it still turns out you won’t be able to follow through, you can use our 60 days 100% money-back guarantee. (After all, sometimes life gets in the way of what we plan to do). This means that you get a full refund up to 60 days after you registered for the program.
What if I fall behind?
You can take the program at whatever pace that fits you. If you are unable to attend for a period of time, you can just start off where you left. The only one setting the pace is you. We give you the tools and the support you need to achieve the goals you set for yourself.
What if it turns out Self-Conscious to Confident is not right for me?
Self-Conscious to Confident is the result of over 40 000 surveys (20 000 new survey + lessons from 20 000 surveys from over the years), hundreds of deep interviews and months of beta testing. Our beta participants are between 17-55 years old and from all over the world.
That’s why we’re confident that this program is effective. It will help you get more confidence in conversations and better at bonding.
If it turns out the program wasn’t right for you, you can use our 60 days 100% money-back guarantee. You get a full refund up to 60 days after you bought the program.
What if now is not a good time for me?
A “theme” I recognized whenever I was thinking about committing to a book or a program was a voice in my head telling me things like:
“But I should try that technique I read about last week first”
“I should get X handled first”
“I should get Y finished first”
“I need to come to terms with my mental baggage first”
“I should free up more time first”
Truth is, the time will never be perfect. If you wait for things to be perfect, life is what happens while you make up plans. You want to prioritize a great social life sooner rather than later because when you do, everything in life gets both easier and more fun.
You want to ask yourself: I’ve been walking this planet for X years, and I’m still not where I want to be. Should I continue like I’ve done before and hope to one day figure this all out on my own, or is now the time to start following a proven system to get this handled?
How does the program work?
This is an online program that takes 60 days to complete. You can access the Self-Conscious to Confident through your computer, your tablet or smartphone.
The program is divided into 8 weekly modules and you get one new module every week. I explain all the concepts in clear and easy to understand videos.
Together with the videos, you’ll get exercises that’ll help you turn this into actual change in your life. For each module, there is a comment area where you’ll be able to discuss the material with both us and others.
What’s the difference between Self-conscious to Confident and Awkward to Awesome?
Awkward to Awesome is focused mostly on social interactions and conversation.
Self-Conscious to Confident is much more comprehensive with about 4 times as much content. Social skills are just one part of this program. Here, we focus on building up your mind and reprogramming your brain to get more confident in life as a whole.
If you get self-conscious in social settings or have any degree of social anxiety, freezing up in conversations, distorted thinking about yourself, or low self-esteem – this will fit you well.
Do I need to change who I am for this program?
We often get questions about if this is about changing who you are as a person, or if this is just about ACTING confident.
The short and concise answer is NO.
A reader shared this worry with us which I think illustrates a common misconception about this program:
“I simply worry that the course will force me to ACT confident, rather than BE confident. I have tried in the past to put on a persona of a confident person, with very little success for building my intrinsic confidence.”
Everything in this program is designed for bringing forward and improving the awesome person you already are deep inside. This is about BEING, not acting.
Here is another worry a reader shared with us:
“I am under the impression that whilst this program has great intentions (and I am sure it would not have done me any harm) I worry that it will not be helpful as it is generic, and there is no opportunity for you to get to know me personally. Therefore I worry that this program would encourage me simply to take on the persona of a confident person, instead of building on my own personality.”
I can see how it can be hard to understand how an online program can be tailored towards you specifically. The thing is every exercise, the whole system in this program is made with the basic assumption that everyone is unique. Our system would not be effective if we didn’t account for the infinite combinations of human personality.
Also, Viktor and I will always be there to help you along. If you have any thoughts or questions, just write them down below any of the videos and we will be there to help you get going. We also got an amazing community that is always positive and supportive of each other. I can almost guarantee you can find someone with similar goals to you inside.
How much time will this program take?
Our beta testers spent roughly 2 hours per week of studying the material. Then, they used their everyday social interactions to think about what they’d learned. A social interaction can be anything from the cashier to family or friends. The duration of the program is 60 days. (But you can definitely do it over a longer time if you want to be extra thorough.)
Is this a live program?
No, this is not a live program. You take the program through our website. You’ll be taking the program together with hundreds of others and can get inspired and motivated by them. But if you want to do the program at your own pace and without the involvement of others, that works great too!
Do I need to force myself to talk to strangers?
No. We don’t believe that is an effective method of improving. We’ve tried it, but our experience confirmed what other studies have shown:
Most people can’t push way out of their comfort zone day after day.
Our exercises are designed to be fun and motivating. We all have daily social interactions in life, anything from the cashier to family or friends. In these interactions, we can pay attention to our behavior and improve.
What happens after I register?
After registration, you get instant access to the first week of the program.
You get clear instructions on what to do in the first video that gets presented to you. You also get direct access to our community that you can take part in for support.
If you prefer to instead do the course on your own without being part of the community, you can do that instead.