Frequently Asked Questions For Awkward to Awesome

Here are the most frequently asked questions about Awkward to Awesome: The Art of Making Conversation. If you don’t get your question answered below, just reply to any of the emails I’ve sent you! I read all the emails personally and will come back to you as soon as I can.

The best way to find out if this program is right for you is to try it yourself. You’ll get a 60 day 100% money-back guarantee. That means you get a full refund up to 60 days after you registered for the program if it turns out it wasn’t right for you.

Will this work for me?

Will this help me with…

What if…

What can I expect?

About the program

Why pay for a course like this when there’s an ocean of free advice out there?

With all the free advice out there, how come everyone isn’t walking around as a social genius?

Because more advice doesn’t make us better. Awkward to Awesome isn’t another “advice-bomb”. Here’s what we do differently to give you results:

  1. Instead of just “more information” we help you set up a system for how to improve in real life. We don’t try to give you “all the advice you might possibly need”. Instead, we hand-pick and streamline the information and methods that are important to YOUR social success.
  2. With our recordings and analysis of actual social interaction, you get real-world experience that no blog post or book can give you.
  3. Signing up for our program means becoming part of our big community with hundreds of members. Whenever you feel stuck or want to discuss something, you get help from me, Viktor, and all our participants who are sharing your journey.
  4. Our material is scientifically based, optimized for results, based on thousands of surveys, created together with a behavioral scientist and finally tested by a team of beta testers.

Advice can be good sometimes. We give a lot of advice in our free material so you can decide if our way of doing things works for you before you spend a penny. But when you’re ready to create a big change in your life, you don’t want more advice, but a proven system that slingshots you to where you want to be.

 

 

More advice just makes me confused or overwhelmed, is this different?

If you’re tired of “more advice”, you’re just like me. Click here to read the difference between free advice and our course.

 

 

Will this program help me with my dating?

This is a program on how to bond with people and make friends by becoming better at making conversation. There will be no “pick up-openers” or similar techniques. However, what you WILL learn is a natural way to make conversation with people including those you are attracted by. You will be more at ease and more confident in conversations and know what to talk about. This will make you more self-confident and more attractive. This is why our participants have such great results when it comes to dating and romantic partners.

Here’s what Justin from the Netherlands writes:

I just walked up to the girl I like for soooo long. It was a huge step, but I had the confidence and knowledge of what to talk about. If I hadn’t had this course, I would never dare to talk to her.

– Justin in Maastricht, Netherlands

 

 

Will this work in my country/culture?

There are many differences between cultures. Generally speaking, Americans are more extroverted than Asians. South American cultures are often more expressive than West Europeans.(ref)

We’ve made sure to take this into account designing this program, and the results from all over the world show that we’ve succeeded:

I’ve personally used the methods I teach here with great success in the US, Thailand, China, France, Spain, UK, and Sweden. More importantly, our 118 beta testers from all over the world report amazing results.

The reason is the same for why Awkward to Awesome works for different ages and genders: The psychology behind why humans bond is universal.

Here’s what some of our participants from different corners of the world have to say:

I was thrilled to see that I could have fun in just a few minutes with a complete stranger, and exchange on our experiences, lives, passions and so on.

Hugo, Bordeaux, France.

…for probably the first time that I remember I stopped feeling insanely awkward around someone I didn’t really know at all…

Sven, Germany

Group projects are now fun instead of dreadful and the relationships I’m building are growing outside of school as well.

Riley, Calgary, Canada

[…] I can honestly say that it is truly changing my life for the better

John Claveria, Philippines

I was free. In year 2 and during that summer I had people commenting on how outgoing and confident I was (even how much I talk). I was in my element, I was embodying it

Joshua, London, UK

[…] one thing it has done is completely eliminated awkward moments. And because I’m not putting on a mask, it’s not at all tiring.

Rakesh, India

Now I’m outgoing, social and generally easy to talk to. What I learned is that change is possible!

William, Irvine, California, USA

I have been implementing your ideas, and it has changed my life in such a positive way.

Rachel, Australia

Now I know that I can make a difference in people’s lives just by connecting with them and sharing what I am.

Estuardo Paz, Guatemala

[…] that’s so much more profound than I thought when I dreamed of a silver bullet to solve my conversation dead ends.

Bianca Gelli, Brazil

I do really like the fact that I am (now) able to hold a conversation.

Theodor, Norway

I have to congratulate you and Viktor. Some of the things you teach give what I call “aha moments” or “make me see the matrix”.

Richard, Portugal

References: Triandis, Harry C. (1994) Culture and Social Behavior. McGraw-Hill College.

 

 

Am I too young/old for this?

The majority of our beta testers have been between 20 and 50 years old. The youngest is 18 years old and the oldest 75. Human psychology is very much the same no matter your age. We’ve had beta testers and participants of older programs of all ages reporting great results.

Below, I picked out a few testimonials from participants of varying age. Notice how the youngest one is 18 years old and the oldest one is 75 years old. That’s a 57-year difference! This proves that our program works no matter what your age is.

I am an older woman who was born in England & migrated to Australia in 1963 with my husband & 3 small children. My husband was a very outgoing character who had no fears or worries about relating to anyone or anything. I was ultra-reserved & well accustomed to keeping to myself, totally scared of people & relationships. I could hide behind that outgoing partner, & did, all the time, for 25 years. Once our children left home there was very little of a relationship between those 2 disparate people & the marriage ended.

I am so happy with what I’ve learned from you, including that I feel a strongly growing sense of belonging to humanity instead of being an outcast! Your personal quick responses are part of this, too. I feel supported by you, thank you. So I’m super keen to continue with the Course

Christina Beaumont, Australia 75

This is sooo good! And don’t forget – your often simple, but brilliant advice can be used by us, who have left the youth! I really wish I had been given so much good advice 20-30 years ago.

Mary Anne, 47

I have more friends in my youth group than I thought I was capable of making. I’m still shy and all of that, but I have definitely changed. Thank you so much! I filled this out so you would know how your blog and guides have really changed my social life. Thank you! (I’m now private schooled and in all honors classes and slowly making friends there as well. 🙂 Once again, thank you!

Kaitlind, Corona, CA, USA, 18

 

 

Will this work for my very specific situation?

Awkward to Awesome has been tested with great results on people from all walks of life. Our participants are in between the ages of 18 to 75. They are people from all over the world from different cultures with different careers and lifestyles.

Some of them would mainly like to be more confident in social settings. Others would like to be better at bonding with people they come across. Some of them would like to have a better career, live in a larger house, have a bigger paycheck or a better physique. Some want to be better in networking and business and career. Still, they’ve had great results with Awkward to Awesome.

These people all have one thing in common. They’re quite thoughtful and tend to overthink in social settings. If you can relate to this, I am confident that this program will work for you, no matter your specific situation.

Related questions:

What if I don’t have the looks/ money/ career/ lifestyle/ experience/ height/ facial bone structure needed to succeed?

Who’s this program for? Will it work for my specific starting point?

Will this program work for both men and women?

What ages does this program work for?

If it turns out the program wasn’t right for you, you can use our 60 days 100% money back guarantee. You get a full refund up to 60 days after you bought the program.

 

 

Who’s this program for? Will it work for my specific starting point?

When we let our beta testers try our program, we saw how some mainly wanted to be more at ease and less nervous in conversations. Others mainly wanted to be better at bonding faster with people and have deeper relationships. Some were already doing most things right but wanted to reach a more advanced level.

We’ve designed the program in a way that works no matter where you are along the axis of social confidence and bonding skills.

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Earlier I talked about taking really small steps and doing what excites you, not what scares you. With our method, you can take small steps in the right direction no matter your starting point.

Depending on where you are in the diagram, here are my recommendations for you:

Starting point A: You want to be better at bonding with people

You’d like to be better at connecting with people. You’re able to make new acquaintances, but those seldom turn into long-term close friends.

Module 4 of the program, “Conversations that Bond” will be especially valuable for you. Perhaps you feel like you’ve been hitting rock bottom, or you’ve made some progress already. In either case, you’ll find exercises that will help you connect more easily, without having to push your limits.

Here are some of our participants who’ve become better at bonding with people:

This has made me feel so much more in synch with the people I’m speaking with & allows me to be able to make connections more easily.

Gupta, India

As time wore on, many of my friends began to leave me, and having very few close friends with whom to interact, i felt lonely and left out, never having the adequate skill and confidence to make new friends and build ties with others. (…) With the many techniques, methods, tips and exercises that i have followed from your program, i can honestly say that it is truly changing my life for the better, strengthening my overall confidence and other skills crucial to a more social life.

John Claveria, Manila, the Philippines

Starting point B: You want to be more confident and at ease and feel less nervous or shy

If this is you, module 1 and 2, “Conversation Confidence” and “Effortless Conversation” will be game changers for you. This module works even for you who feel very nervous, anxious or shy when it comes to socializing. And – for you who’ve already made some progress, it will help you to take the next step.

Perhaps you’ve already made some progress and are much better off now than, say, a year ago. Perhaps you feel that you have a long way to go. In Awkward to Awesome you’ll first learn to identify where you are today. Then, you’ll be able to, at your own pace, improve from that point. We won’t push you to do things you don’t want to. Instead, you’ll do what will make you improve.

Here are some of our participants who’ve become more confident and at ease in social settings:

I am a lot more confident in social situations, i feel I’m a lot less awkward and find making conversation and friends a lot more of a natural process rather than thinking it was like cracking a code. I now approach more people in an attempt to make friends or start a conversation than i previously did and for this i thank you very much!!

Armaan Chana in London, UK

I was free. In year 2 and during that summer I had people commenting on how outgoing and confident I was (even how much I talk). I was in my element, I was embodying it. I had lots of fun and met cool people. One of the best summers ever, and just cause of the little things, nothing grand really happened but I felt happy

Joshua in London, UK

Hi David,

I have always felt nervous around my boss. Today I implemented your advice and instantly felt more self confident around him. He is now much nicer to me and I feel in five years from now my career will have progressed much further as a direct result if this.

Jonnie

Starting point C: You’ve already had some success and want to take the next step

Maybe you’re one of our advanced users, who’s already had some social success. Then, Awkward to Awesome helps you take the next step when socializing. It’s a great feeling to be able to:

  • Take the center stage and keep everyone’s attention
  • Connect with anyone and become close friends really fast
  • Be the one who people look up to and gravitate towards

These are the things most people only dream of doing.

It’s a special feeling when people are magnetically drawn towards you, just by you being yourself.

 

 

What if I don’t have the looks/ money/ career/ lifestyle/ experience/ height/ facial bone structure needed to succeed?

I often hear how people say:

“This won’t work for me, because I don’t have the right looks.”

“In my city/country people are too self-absorbed/busy/shallow/any negative word.”

“Money/career/status is what’s needed to get accepted in this society.”

“People look down on me because I’m too short/work as a postman/have a car from 1998.”

This is called “letting yourself off the hook”, deciding that your life is a product of circumstances you can’t control. Some people take little responsibility for their life situation and can’t see how they can control it. This program is not for them.

Luckily, we can do a “reality check” and look at people who share our “misfortunes” but still have a great social life. This helps us make a powerful realization:

The way our social life turns out depends largely on the way we approach people.

Some of our participants are unemployed, overweight, short, balding, inexperienced, the list goes on. Still, they’ve made tremendous progress. The reason is that it all comes down to how we approach people. It’s about mastering a specific set of social principles. These are the principles we will learn in Awkward to Awesome.

 

 

What if I blank out in conversations today?

With Awkward to Awesome, you won’t just get “more advice”. No advice in the world helps if you blank out in conversations (because in those situations, the brain doesn’t work like it’s supposed to do anyway).

What you DO need is a small set of precise and powerful mindsets. As these mindsets become second nature to you, you will notice how you’ll no longer blank out. You’ll be able to think more clearly in social settings.

One example of such a mindset change is the OFC-coaching method I emailed you a video about a while back. There, we hooked up a participant to a stress monitor and showed that we could cut her stress levels in half after just 5 minutes of coaching. One mindset change like that is worth more than a thousand well-meant advice. However, in Awkward to Awesome we have the time and resources to go even deeper than the OFC-method and get even more impressive results.

You will also get our “universal fall back questions” that you can use in almost any conversation. These are a few very effective scripts that I use regularly to get out of any awkward silence. Therefore, I know that they are bulletproof, even when your head goes blank.

If blanking out is your problem, this program will be a perfect fit for you.

 

 

Will this help me in business, networking, or job interviews?

Here’s a realization that has helped me a lot in life:

When you deal with businesses (like employers, or customers, or business networks) they are still humans. That means that the same principles that help us bond with someone in private will help us bond with someone in business.

Some get into this weird stiff persona whenever they interact with businesses. But you still want to be easy-going, confident and warm, just like when talking to non-business people.

This program helps you do that.

Little did I understand how powerful the principles here were for business success. When I first started networking around the time of my first company, I didn’t do particularly well. As a result, I lost out on a lot of business opportunities. Nowadays, I have the ability to bond quickly with anyone. That has helped me build up a big business network and have contacts I never would have had otherwise.

“The thing that got me from a socially anxious person to being the most connected person at work now is doing a lot of reading, which is how I found your program, and your research was the eventual turning point I would say in my personality.”

Prakhar V, 26

 

 

What if I don’t want to “play the social game”, be shallow, or turning into a people pleaser?

This is my favorite question to answer. People often think that being social is about being one of those annoying, shallow people you see on the TV commercials for beer.

To me (and to our participants) being socially skilled is the opposite: It’s about getting away with being who you WANT to be because people will like you anyway.

We teach you how to be yourself and get away with it, even if you, like me, have a quirky or odd personality and humor. When you master the foundations of bonding with people, that’s when you’re able to “get away” with being who you want to be.

At that point, you don’t have to “put on a mask to fit in” or feeling like you have to compromise yourself.
Here’s what some participants write:

[…] I end up feeling empathetic, less concerned with how I look, more interested in the other person, and naturally more confident and good in conversation.”

Mateen

“… From this point, I quit putting any pressure on myself and soon my interactions started to become much more natural. I spent more time doing the things I love, and going out with people I appreciate.”

Hugo, Bordeaux, France

 

 

Why not just deal with this by myself?

You can deal with this on your own. I did. It’s possible, but it takes time. I, for example, spent 8 years of trial and error to get to a level I was satisfied with.

This program is like pressing a fast-forward button. Awkward to Awesome is a proven system you can follow that tells you exactly what to do. It’s created by someone who’s been where you are and understand your struggles and challenges.  Awkward to Awesome is the very system I wish I had 8 years ago.

Would I have been willing to pay money for it? Yes. If I had the ability back then to fast-track 8 years, it would have been worth more than all the money in the world to me.

There are so many obvious mistakes and so much needless pain and rejection going through this alone. Those who participate in my program have decided to learn from my mistakes instead of treading water on their own.

Even for people who are several years behind, this program gives the opportunity to make a giant leap to close the gap. (Read here about when you can expect to see results) Many of our participants even decide to go further. They use their motivation to rise above what most people can only dream about.

“The thing that got me from a socially anxious person to being the most connected person at work now is doing a lot of reading, which is how I found your program, and your research was the eventual turning point I would say in my personality.”

Prakhar V, 26

 

 

Should I go for coaching, therapy or your program?

“I’m deciding between going to a coach and enrolling in this program.

I like that your programs seems to be really well-made, but how much of a human connection is there? How does your community work?”

When you register for Awkward to Awesome, you become part of an amazing online community of people who support each other. (We call this the SocialSelf Inner Circle)

SocialSelf Inner Circle is only open for those enrolled in our programs, meaning, people who are just as serious as you are.

Inside, you can discuss with hundreds of others who are on the same path as you.

I and Viktor on my team are active in the community. This is rare for online programs as many people want to create a video program and then just kick back and let people try their best on their own.

But that’s not what drives me.

You see, I only need to think back to those lonely nights in my apartment, turning in my bed because I felt like I just wasn’t interesting to others.

Every fiber in my body wants to help you escape that lonely route toward anxiety and self-pity.

Because when you escape that and feel warmth and support and love instead it’s like “Wow! Is THIS what life can be like!?”

That’s what drives me.

That’s why we spend a lot of time to make sure that all our members get the personal support they need.

That’s also why we have such a short registration window – so we can fully focus on our participants once the gates are closed.

We’re talking about charging for this extra support in the future, but for now, everyone who enrolls gets full access to the SocialSelf Inner Circle and mine and Viktor’s expertise as a free bonus.

I always had a feeling that going to a coach or a therapist must be more effective than just reading a self-help book. After all, a coach should be able to give you more personalized help than any self-help could ever give, right?

At the same time, as a person who has consumed a lot of self-help books, I know that they can be life-changing (the good books, that is).

Still, I got surprised when I came across a huge meta-study where they looked at 723 people who had either received self-help or help from a therapist.

The researchers wrote:

“We found no difference in treatment completion rate and broad equivalence of treatment outcomes for participants treated through self-help and participants treated through a therapist.”

The results of the study were not at all what the researchers expected.

It turned out that there was no difference in results between going to a therapist and using self-help when the self-help was scientifically based (1).

There’s, of course, a lot of shady self-help out there which isn’t helpful at all. But this study indicates that well-designed material can be as good as spending thousands of dollars on a coach or a therapist.

Still, there are many cases where people should definitely go to a therapist before doing anything else. One example of this is people with severe depression. Then there are situations where it’s powerful to combine our program with a therapist, such as for people having clinical social anxiety. They can go to a therapist to get help with the anxiety and take our course to master the conversation skills.

Reference:

King, R. J., Orr, J. A., Poulsen, B., Giacomantonio, S. G., & Haden, C. (2016). Understanding the Therapist Contribution to Psychotherapy Outcome: A Meta-Analytic Approach. Administration and Policy in Mental Health and Mental Health Services Research, 44(5), 664-680. doi:10.1007/s10488-016-0783-9

 

 

What if I lose my motivation halfway through?

The most common reasons we lose our motivation are the following:

  1. It feels like we won’t succeed
  2. We don’t see enough results
  3. Something gets too hard

That’s why we’ve designed the program in the following way:

  1. It clearly shows you how you can succeed
  2. You’ll see the initial results quickly
  3. The exercises are fun and motivating, not hard

This is the reason the majority of our participants feel highly motivated throughout the program.

Remember, if it turns out you aren’t able to complete the program, you can use our 60 days 100% money back guarantee. You get a full refund up to 60 days after you bought the program.

 

 

What if I fall behind?

You can take the program at whatever pace that fits you. If you are unable to attend for a period of time, you can just start off where you left. The only one setting the pace is you. We give you the tools and the support you need to achieve the goals you set for yourself.

 

 

What if it turns out Awkward to Awesome is not right for me?

Awkward to Awesome is the result of over 20 000 surveys, hundreds of deep interviews and months of beta testing. Our participants are 18-75 years old and from all over the world.

What these people have in common is that they describe themselves as social overthinkers. If you identify with being a social overthinker, you can be confident that this program is for you.

If it turns out the program still wasn’t what you were looking for, you can use our 60 days 100% money back guarantee. You get a full refund up to 60 days after you bought the program.

 

 

What if now is not a good time for me?

A “theme” I recognized whenever I was thinking about committing to a book or a program was a voice in my head telling me things like:

“- But I should try that technique I read about last week first”
“- I should get X handled first”
“- I should get Y finished first”
“- I need to come to terms with my mental baggage first”
“- I should free up more time first”
“-I need to get my ducks in a row”

Truth is, the time will never be perfect. If you wait for things to be perfect, life is what happens while you make up plans. You want to prioritize a great social life sooner rather than later because when you do, everything in life gets both easier and more fun.

You want to ask yourself: I’ve been walking this planet for X years, and I’m still not where I want to be. Should I continue like I’ve done before and hope to one day figure this all out on my own, or is now the time to start following a proven system to get this handled?

 

 

I suffer from Social anxiety. Will this work for me?

Yes! This program is designed with anxiety in mind and works both if you have mild, moderate or severe social anxiety. If you have clinical social anxiety we recommend that you seek appropriate care from medical professionals. A medical professional can help you with the anxiety part, but most likely not the conversation skills part. Therefore, some of those with social anxiety who join our program see it as a great complement to therapy

Here are some testimonials from participants who suffered from social anxiety.

“The thing that got me from a socially anxious person to being the most connected person at work now is doing a lot of reading, which is how I found your program (and your research was the eventual turning point I would say in my personality).”

Prakhar V, 26

“The breakthrough way that you have helped me is when you told me to focus my attention on other people thus away from myself.

I had never realised that my awkwardness or anxiety was rooted by me being self-conscious and my constantly thinking about how I look and how I come across in social situation and I always used to attempt to show myself in a good light.

You advice had helped me liberate myself from this anxiety from social situations. Also, the statistics that show others are also anxious had increased my confidence in initiating conversation as before I assumed they just didn’t like me.”

Armaan Chana, London, UK

Also, make sure to read “Who’s this program for”

 

 

I suffer from shyness. Will this work for me?

Yes! All our advice is tailored to help even to the shyest of people feel comfortable in social settings. Look at some of the testimonials from previously shy people:

“I love that as you say it’s not the usual approach 10 strangers. Most shy or introverted people would die a little inside just thinking of doing that.”

Dawn T

“Throughout most of my life I had terrible social skills. Whenever someone tried to converse with me I would be so shy that I would either give one word answers that don’t really contribute or further the conversation, or I would basically ignore them which made me come off as kinda strange.

This really hurt because inside I actually wanted to talk with people, I just had no idea what people talked about or what the flow of normal conversation was like.

Recently I’ve been going back to school to try and improve my career situation. At first I was incredibly nervous because of the social situations that I would be forced into like group projects, and I didn’t want to come off as the strange quiet guy like I was through my past experiences. I have seen a very positive outcome in my social life.

Group projects are now fun instead of dreadful and the relationships I’m building are growing outside of school as well.”

Riley, Alberta, Canada

Also, make sure to read “Who’s this program for” to get a better understanding of who this program is for.

 

 

How long will it take for me to see results? What results can I expect?

Everyone’s different, but based on the progress of previous participants, here’s what’s reasonable to expect:

“Hi David, I’m very happy with the program. I’m feeling easier around people already. I also listen to others talking & am becoming more & more conscious about interacting & contributing. Thank you.”

Christina Beaumont

“This program is life-changing. In social situations, I feel more at ease thru the “focusing outward” and I automatically start looking for commonalities between us. I include people on the outside into the group conversation and this has really helped my confidence alot.”

Jean D

“I am more at ease when I speak to people and I notice that the conversations I have now last longer and are more meaningful with way less silences and small talk.”

AtoA participant

Because of results like these, we are able to offer a powerful guarantee: If you’re not delighted by the progress you make, send me an email and get 100% of your money back – no explanation needed.

Results you can expect after 7-14 days

You’re likely to experience some results already your first two weeks into AtoA! Your new mindsets won’t be fully implemented yet and you’ll notice how you fall back in old thinking patterns from time to time. But that’s OK and part of the process. When you start to see that change is possible and that the program actually works, you feel how something shifts inside of you.

  • You become better at avoiding awkward silence in conversations.
  • You cut past the small talk and start making conversation that’s interesting both to you and those you talk to (even if it’s a stranger).
  • You can still feel shaky in conversations, but you are already somewhat more self-confident than before you started the program.
  • You feel in control of where your conversations lead, and you enjoy them more.

“I feel strongly how valuable & accessible the course is. Doing it is a growth path. I have had a long lifetime of difficulty & fear about relating to people. I’ve only started the program recently & am already making good progress.”

AtoA Participant

Results you can expect after 30 days

No matter your reason, you can always get a refund. But if you complete the entire 4-week program, these are the results we guarantee.

You’ve now walked through all of AtoA! Your results from the first weeks are growing permanent; you feel their effect in most situations. Here’s what you can expect:

  • You feel more comfortable starting conversations with strangers and acquaintances.
  • You can routinely initiate and keep interesting conversations going.
  • You no longer “hit a wall” in conversations, now, you almost effortlessly keep them going.
  • You’re so at ease around others that you’ll sometimes surprise yourself by how much you can enjoy conversations.
  • You can tell stories in a way that captures people’s attention.
  • You no longer run out of things to talk about or have to awkwardly bring up an irrelevant topic just to have something to say.
  • You can enjoy having a simple and normal conversation without ending up saying stupid things and feeling like a weirdo.
  • You can be an active part of group conversations without being interrupted.

“So I’m different in the 2 painting groups I belong to. In the new, bigger one, I was on the outside, being shunned, wanting to be friends too quickly. (20 people in this group).

I think from your talk that I was being needy. So the next week I made sure I wasn’t. I consciously held on to my self-esteem.

Then it all changed. It’s all friendly now. A miracle in fact. I’m feeling my world open up. I feel enormously grateful to you, thank you. I’m just beginning, too.

I think the course is tremendous.”

AtoA participant

Results you can expect after 60 days

  • No matter if you have felt socially anxious, nervous or shy, you can now enjoy being more at ease and self-confident.
  • You have more of an inner sense that what you say is “worthy” for others to listen to.
  • If you used to overthink, you can now feel more at ease and fully focus on the conversation at hand.
  • You can “get out of your head” and enjoy socializing without letting self-consciousness get in the way.
  • People around you become more interested in keeping in touch with you.
  • You feel more relaxed and know what to say, even when you talk to someone you’re attracted to.
  • You can quickly identify if you have something in common with someone. If you do – you can use that commonality to bond and build a close connection.
  • You come off as more approachable, likable, and self-confident in social settings.
  • You can be more witty and funny in conversations and everyday banter.
  • You can steer conversations in the direction you want.
  • If you before got stuck in job-talk or felt like you bored people, you can now make more interesting conversation.
  • If you were “the quiet one”, you can now take up more space in conversations, because you know several strategies for what to say and how to feel confident enough to say it.

Maybe you’ve previously felt like a spectator, watching life pass you by. Now, you’re behind the steering wheel.

“The thing that got me from a socially anxious person to being the most connected person at work now is doing a lot of reading, which is how i found your program, and your research was the eventual turning point i would say in my personality.”

Prakhar V

Looking into the future: What to expect in 12 to 24 months

You’ve implemented and integrated your own personalized system into your daily life. The hard work is done and from now on you can enjoy the ride.

When you encounter obstacles in life, you know that you can always go back to our program for support.

  • You can turn strangers and acquaintances into close friends surprisingly fast.
  • You have a higher social status among your peers.
  • Because others see you as more fun and interesting, you become more popular.
  • You are more memorable.
  • You feel like you can be yourself and you no longer have to compromise to fit in.
  • Because of many positive outcomes in your social life, you’ve broken the downward spiral of negative thoughts. Overall, this makes you happier in life.
  • You no longer have negative beliefs such as “People won’t like me” or “everyone will laugh at me” or “I’ll mess up”.
  • Your existing relationships grow closer and deeper.
  • You’re relaxed and natural around people you don’t know.
  • Because of the new mindsets you’ve internalized, you relate to people in a new way and experience a stronger sense of connection with others. This makes you more motivated to socialize.
  • You’re standing out from others with your abilities to make interesting conversation and to build connections.
  • People gravitate toward you.
  • You no longer excessively worry about what others might think of you.
  • As a result of the above you grow a strong self-esteem and a positive self-image.

Because of the consistent success of our participants, Viktor and I have chosen to guarantee these results:

If you aren’t delighted by the progress you’ve made, (or in any other way aren’t completely satisfied) just send me an email and I’ll refund 100% of your money – no need to explain why you want a refund.

As you can imagine, this guarantee wouldn’t make sense from my perspective unless I knew our course delivered results:

“I personally bought the course about 7 months ago, I honestly couldn’t imagine myself socially successful. I was the awkward guy that smiles at people and act nice but now knowing what to say which resulted in awkward conversation.

Now I’m in college and I can’t believe the person I am today. I easily initiate social interaction and I gradually ask people more personal questions. I am really grateful now that I have so many friends to hang out with. […] I wanna say thank you so much David. You truly changed my life!”

Jack N

“…The way you teach and your methods have helped me so much. I have been implementing your ideas, and it has changed my life in such a positive way.”

Rachel, USA

 

 

Do I need to force myself to talk to strangers?

No. We don’t believe that is an effective method of improving. We’ve tried it, but our experience confirmed what other studies have shown:

Most people can’t push way out of their comfort zone day after day.

Doing outrageous social stunts doesn’t create long-term change.

Our exercises are designed to be fun and motivating. With our system, based on the latest findings in behavioral science, you can practice new mindsets and behaviors in social settings without doing something that others think is weird (or even notice you doing).

 

 

How does the program work?

This is an online program that takes 4 weeks to complete. You can access the Awkward to Awesome on your computer, your tablet or smartphone.

The program is divided into 4 modules and you get one new module every week. I explain all the concepts in clear and easy to understand videos. Then, you see real-world examples from the dinner we filmed with strangers who’d never met before. You’ll get to see real-world examples for every concept we go through, whenever it applies.

Together with the videos, you’ll get exercises that’ll help you turn this into actual change in your life. For each module, there is a comment area where you’ll be able to discuss the material with both us and others.

 

 

How much time will this program take?

Our participants spend roughly 2 hours per week of studying the material. Then, they used their everyday social interactions to think about what they’d learned. A social interaction can be anything from the cashier to family or friends. The duration of the program is 4 weeks.

 

What’s the difference between Self-conscious to Confident and Awkward to Awesome?

Awkward to Awesome is focused mostly on social interactions and conversation, including real-life video examples. This is a great fit if you want lots of practical examples and analyses of real social interactions.

Self-Conscious to Confident is more comprehensive with about 4 times as much content, but with a deeper focus instead of a practical one. Social skills are just one part of this program. Here, we focus on building up your mind and reprogramming your brain to get more confident in life as a whole.

 

I feel weird taking a program like this. Am I a weirdo?

Yes, you’re a bit weird for taking a program like this. But (just like me), you’re weird in a good way.

You see, when I told people that I wanted to become better socially, some thought that I was weird. But to me, it’s even weirder to NOT try to improve all areas of who we are. I figured that I only have this one life, and why not make the most out of it and be the best I can be?

If someone thinks I’m weird, that is a prize I’m more than willing to pay for the amazing life I’m able to live today: I can bond with people fast. I have wonderful friends. I have a huge social circle. I can do the things I love every day.

Maybe you’re not sure if this program is right for you. I encourage you to try it, because I see how it changes people’s lives for good. But if you decide not to, at least take this with you: Never keep yourself from doing things in life because you’re afraid that someone will think you’re weird. This is actually one of the top regrets people have on their deathbed:

“Regret #6: Worrying about what others thought about me so much. Most of us place way too much importance on what other people around us think about us. How will they judge us? In the moment, we think their opinions are crucial to our future success and happiness. On our deathbeds, none of that matters.”

The 25 most common deathbed regrets – Forbes Magazine

To today’s date, over 20 000 thoughtful, smart overthinkers who want to improve socially have taken our free training. So even if you’re a bit weird, you’re definitely not the only one with an ambition to become better socially.

My life philosophy is to not walk around life fearing if doing this or that makes us weird. Instead, I try to always do what I know is the right thing to do.

 

 

Is this a live/interactive program or can I do it on my own?

This is not a live program. You take the program through our website. You’ll be taking the program together with hundreds of others and can get inspired and motivated by them. But if you want to do the program at your own pace and without the involvement of others, that works great too!

 

Below are some results from our previous participants. Also, check out How long will it take for me to see results? What results do you guarantee?

The program is available to you who are an email subscriber. Use the link you got in your email to register for Awkward to Awesome.

Success Stories

We asked some of our members to share how SocialSelf has helped them become more socially savvy. Here are their stories. Some names have been changed.

Bianca

Bianca Gelli, Brazil

"[...] you know, little did I know that it isn’t about having an endless list of things to say, but about being genuinely interested in hearing from the other person and finding mutual interests. That’s so much more profound than I thought when I dreamed of a silver bullet to solve my conversation dead ends.

David’s course is DEFINITELY NOT a band-aid, it is a cure, for whatever social discomfort you have.

From this life, we don’t take away material things, only the good relationships we’ve had. Also, if you think that you can’t find friends that are like you, I guarantee you they are out there, you’ll find them with the help of this course."

Read Bianca's full story here

William

William lives in Irvine, California where he studies International Commerce

"I always felt I was a good guy, well-intentioned and nice. However, sometimes life and people were kind of stepping over me. I didn't have a lot of girls and social success.

Now I'm outgoing, social, and generally easy to talk to. What I learned is that change is possible!"

Read William's full story here

Rakesh

Rakesh, 20, is an engineering student in India

[...] one thing it has done is completely eliminated awkward moments. And because I’m not putting on a mask, it’s not at all tiring.

In fact, I look forward to more interactions. I’ve even started a brotherhood group so that I can meet new people and forge healthy relationships.

Read Rakesh's full story here

Rachel

Rachel, 25, works in IT-support in Australia

"The way you teach and your methods have helped me so much. I have been implementing your ideas, and it has changed my life in such a positive way.

I have been genuinely interesting myself in others and it makes others feel cared about, and in turn, that makes me feel good!"

Theodor

Theodor from Norway studies History at the University of Oslo

"When I started at university last year, I already knew that I would need to make friends fast, because if not, everyone would start forming groups while I stood outside. The problem was that I wasn’t included, even though I walked around with them and went to every social event during that first ‘buddy week’. I decided that I needed better social skills because the way things always seemed to end was heartbreaking. I felt that no one I met wanted to include me, and I didn’t understand why. The only way to understand it and fix it is to gain access to their groups, and the only way to do that would be to improve my social skills.

During the program, Theodor got more confident and began realizing that others don’t have a strict plan of in which direction they want the conversation to go. That is one thing that has helped him dare to speak more."

Read Theodor's full story here

Claire

Claire, 33, is from UK and currently lives and works in the Netherlands

"I realized when I found your course that it’s not only I who feel self-conscious in social situations but most people feel that way. It was the feeling that there's actually nothing wrong with me that's made the difference. That helped me to start to forget the painful things that harmed my confidence in the past.

Before Christmas, I went to the birthday party of a friend and as a result, I got invited to someone’s dinner party after chatting for some time with someone who seemed to really like me and said that I was fun!"

Read Claire's full story here

Estuardo

Estuardo Paz, 29, works as a data processor for a U.S. media company

"Before I feel all bad because I didn't make any friends. I wasn’t motivated to interact with people because I got depressed. Now I don't panic and can go on speaking until I create rapport.

Now I know that I can make a difference in people’s lives just by connecting with them and sharing what I am."

Read Estuardo's full story here

Anonymous

Richard, 29, is a mechanical engineer from Portugal

"I've read several things about improving social skills and most, by far, are very general, vague tips.

I have to congratulate you and Viktor. Some of the things you teach give what I call "aha moments" or "make me see the matrix". It's those bits of knowledge so well thought of that make you connect the dots."

Read Richard's full story here

Anne

Kaitlind lives and studies in Corona, California

"I've been homeschooled, so I didn't have very much social experience and I wasn't very good at making friends. I hardly had any friends. Almost a year ago, I started going to my church's huge youth group. As you can imagine, from my background, I got off to a bad start."

"Your concept of slowly going out of my comfort zone has really helped. I have more friends at my youth group than I thought I was capable of making."

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Rebecca

"I find that people make an effort to talk to me now and ask me how I’m doing. I know that friendships take years to build, but this course definitely is putting me on the fast-track to do so. I now find small-talk with strangers, and bonding 1-on-1, to be effortless. There is a great improvement in group conversations as well.

This course is amazing and I 10/10 recommend it for anyone who has EVER been at a loss at what to say when conversing. This course holds all these social skills so many of us seem to just be missing. Thank you so much, David! Your product has revolutionized not only my social life but my life in general. Because life is about the connections and relationships you have, and now I know how to have some."

Read Rebecca's full story here