Program Overview For

Week 1: More confident and at ease around others

  • How to stop worrying what others think of you in social settings.
  • How to stand out without seeking approval or falling into the trap of “external validation”.
  • How to overcome feeling intimidated by people – especially dominant, powerful, loud, or attractive people.
  • How to “get out of your head” and enjoy socializing without letting self-consciousness get in the way.
  • How to make your social life shine without weird “out of your comfort zone”- exercises.
  • A comprehensive system for how to feel at ease in conversations (that works even for you who feel anxious or shy today.)
  • Why we feel like “they just won’t like us” when we’re about to enter a group of people. Why that is, and what to do about it.
  • How to feel more relaxed and know what to say, even when you talk to someone you’re attracted to.
  • How to stop being “the quiet one” and taking up more space in lively group conversations.
  • The 3 scientifically proven pillars of likability (that even the FBI use for their undercover agents to be instantly likeable and gain trust).
  • We’ll help you design your “daily system” with small steps you can take every day that will be fun and exciting – but never scary – to reach your goals.

Week 2: Starting and maintaining effortless conversation with anyone

  • How to initiate conversations with anyone in a natural, relaxed way (even if you struggle with coming up with things to say today) + REAL LIFE FOOTAGE with analysis of people who initiate conversations.
  • How to get past the awkward silence and conversations “hitting a wall” (and how to always come up with a new, relevant, and interesting topic you can segway into when the old one dies out) + REAL LIFE FOOTAGE with analysis of people who are able to avoid awkward silence.
  • Ever wondered if you’ve bored people? Learn how to make conversation that’s interesting to anyone + REAL LIFE FOOTAGE with analysis of people who keep a conversation interesting.
  • How to avoid saying “stupid” or “weird” things that you beat yourself up for afterwards.
  • How to be more witty and funny in conversations and everyday banter.
  • How to use everyday conversation to open up new doors in life to more fun, new adventures, powerful experiences and meaningful relationships.

Week 3: Socializing in groups

  • How to naturally join an ongoing group conversation + REAL LIFE FOOTAGE with analysis of people joining group conversations.
  • Becoming a part of an existing social group.
  • How to handle being the center of attention.
  • How to become more attractive by telling stories that captures people’s attention + REAL LIFE FOOTAGE with analysis of great storytelling.
  • How to be an active part of any group conversation without being interrupted.
  • How to be more approachable, likable, and self-confident in social settings + REAL LIFE FOOTAGE with analysis of people being likable.
  • How to get people to direct their conversation toward you, even when you’re only listening. (Before I used this method, I was often ignored in group conversations.)
  • How to project your voice so that you can be heard even in loud environments (even if you feel uncomfortable using a loud voice today).
  • Increasing your social status by being able to make effortless conversation with anyone.
  • Standing out from the crowd with your abilities to make interesting conversation and to build connection.

Week 4: Bonding and making friends faster

  • Getting past the small talk and start bonding + REAL LIFE FOOTAGE with analysis of how to go from a group conversation to 1 on 1 and bond.
  • Finding the perfect balance between talking and listening, so that you neither come off as self absorbed nor an interrogator.
  • What really happens when people get bored or uninterested and what to do about it.
  • How do you balance speaking your mind and keeping your opinions to yourself, without compromising your beliefs? + REAL LIFE FOOTAGE with analysis of how to deal with differing beliefs.
  • How to quickly identify if you have something in common with someone. And how to use that commonality to bond and build a close connection + REAL LIFE FOOTAGE with analysis of people finding similarities fast.
  • How much should you open yourself up to others? + REAL LIFE FOOTAGE with analysis of people opening up.
  • How to keep in touch with someone you just met without being too much.
  • Using your new people skills to quickly make close friends with new people in different areas in life.

This is what you get in the program:

  • Lifetime access to the 4 week long program
  • 28+ videos
  • Real life examples + detailed time-coded analysis of what they did. You’ll learn exactly what the people in the examples do well and what they could to better
  • The FREE bonus the Conversation Facility (Value $49)
  • A community of like minded who’ll support you and understand you
  • Exercises that help you improve without being weird or scary or awkward
  • The “Daily System” that holds you accountable and motivated
  • Downloadable audio files of the lessons so that you can listen anywhere on your phone
  • 60 day money-back guarantee if you’re not DELIGHTED by the progress you’ve made, no explanation needed.

“In an online social skills world full of so-called gurus peddling shallow and manipulative advice, David’s site SocialSelf stands apart. David has really done his homework on this site — much of the content is derived from psychological studies, and he takes care to explain concepts in a way that makes them easy to apply.

Plus, his content is ethical and scrupulously avoids shady tricks or manipulative techniques. I’m happy to endorse David and SocialSelf”

Daniel Wendler, Author, TEDx-Speaker, 100 000+ /socialskills Subreddit moderator.

Success Stories

We asked some of our members to share how SocialSelf has helped them become more socially savvy. Here are their stories. Some names have been changed.

Bianca

Bianca Gelli, Brazil

"[...] you know, little did I know that it isn’t about having an endless list of things to say, but about being genuinely interested in hearing from the other person and finding mutual interests. That’s so much more profound than I thought when I dreamed of a silver bullet to solve my conversation dead ends.

David’s course is DEFINITELY NOT a band-aid, it is a cure, for whatever social discomfort you have.

From this life, we don’t take away material things, only the good relationships we’ve had. Also, if you think that you can’t find friends that are like you, I guarantee you they are out there, you’ll find them with the help of this course."

Read Bianca's full story here

William

William lives in Irvine, California where he studies International Commerce

"I always felt I was a good guy, well-intentioned and nice. However, sometimes life and people were kind of stepping over me. I didn't have a lot of girls and social success.

Now I'm outgoing, social, and generally easy to talk to. What I learned is that change is possible!"

Read William's full story here

Rakesh

Rakesh, 20, is an engineering student in India

[...] one thing it has done is completely eliminated awkward moments. And because I’m not putting on a mask, it’s not at all tiring.

In fact, I look forward to more interactions. I’ve even started a brotherhood group so that I can meet new people and forge healthy relationships.

Read Rakesh's full story here

Rachel

Rachel, 25, works in IT-support in Australia

"The way you teach and your methods have helped me so much. I have been implementing your ideas, and it has changed my life in such a positive way.

I have been genuinely interesting myself in others and it makes others feel cared about, and in turn, that makes me feel good!"

Theodor

Theodor from Norway studies History at the University of Oslo

"When I started at university last year, I already knew that I would need to make friends fast, because if not, everyone would start forming groups while I stood outside. The problem was that I wasn’t included, even though I walked around with them and went to every social event during that first ‘buddy week’. I decided that I needed better social skills because the way things always seemed to end was heartbreaking. I felt that no one I met wanted to include me, and I didn’t understand why. The only way to understand it and fix it is to gain access to their groups, and the only way to do that would be to improve my social skills.

During the program, Theodor got more confident and began realizing that others don’t have a strict plan of in which direction they want the conversation to go. That is one thing that has helped him dare to speak more."

Read Theodor's full story here

Claire

Claire, 33, is from UK and currently lives and works in the Netherlands

"I realized when I found your course that it’s not only I who feel self-conscious in social situations but most people feel that way. It was the feeling that there's actually nothing wrong with me that's made the difference. That helped me to start to forget the painful things that harmed my confidence in the past.

Before Christmas, I went to the birthday party of a friend and as a result, I got invited to someone’s dinner party after chatting for some time with someone who seemed to really like me and said that I was fun!"

Read Claire's full story here

Estuardo

Estuardo Paz, 29, works as a data processor for a U.S. media company

"Before I feel all bad because I didn't make any friends. I wasn’t motivated to interact with people because I got depressed. Now I don't panic and can go on speaking until I create rapport.

Now I know that I can make a difference in people’s lives just by connecting with them and sharing what I am."

Read Estuardo's full story here

Anonymous

Richard, 29, is a mechanical engineer from Portugal

"I've read several things about improving social skills and most, by far, are very general, vague tips.

I have to congratulate you and Viktor. Some of the things you teach give what I call "aha moments" or "make me see the matrix". It's those bits of knowledge so well thought of that make you connect the dots."

Read Richard's full story here

Anne

Kaitlind lives and studies in Corona, California

"I've been homeschooled, so I didn't have very much social experience and I wasn't very good at making friends. I hardly had any friends. Almost a year ago, I started going to my church's huge youth group. As you can imagine, from my background, I got off to a bad start."

"Your concept of slowly going out of my comfort zone has really helped. I have more friends at my youth group than I thought I was capable of making."

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Rebecca

"I find that people make an effort to talk to me now and ask me how I’m doing. I know that friendships take years to build, but this course definitely is putting me on the fast-track to do so. I now find small-talk with strangers, and bonding 1-on-1, to be effortless. There is a great improvement in group conversations as well.

This course is amazing and I 10/10 recommend it for anyone who has EVER been at a loss at what to say when conversing. This course holds all these social skills so many of us seem to just be missing. Thank you so much, David! Your product has revolutionized not only my social life but my life in general. Because life is about the connections and relationships you have, and now I know how to have some."

Read Rebecca's full story here