Is This You in Social Situations?
Your mind goes blank when it's your turn to talk.
You freeze, and by the time you think of something to say, the conversation has already moved on. So you sit there in silence, hoping no one notices.
You can feel invisible in groups.
You can't find the right moment to jump in. But when you do say something, no one really notices. When someone else says the same thing, everyone reacts. What's going on!?
You keep replaying social mistakes in your head.
Sometimes your mind races at 2 AM going over what you said, cringing at that one comment, wondering if you came across as weird or boring.
You're completely drained after socializing.
You come home from a party or work event feeling like you worked a 12-hour shift. So lately you think twice before saying yes to anything, plus it sometimes feels like people invite you out of pity anyway.
You'd rather skip talking to people altogether than deal with the awkwardness.
You take the long way so you don't run into a coworker. You mumble "good, you?" and escape. It's not that you don't want a connection. Avoiding just feels safer and less awkward, and trying to make conversation feels meaningless anyway.
You sometimes hold yourself back to the point you feel like the most boring person in the room.
You can't shake the feeling that whoever you're talking to would rather be talking to someone else. So you ask all the questions and share nothing about yourself.
You feel like everyone else got a manual you never received.
You're smart and analytical. You're capable at work and in life. Yet a five-minute chat in the break room defeats you, and you can't figure out why it's so easy for everyone else.
You're confused about what's actually wrong.
You've asked people for honest feedback and they say you're fine. Some days conversations go okay, other days you freeze for no reason. You can't fix a problem you can't even find.
You're behind where you thought you'd be by now.
Weekends alone with your screen. Friends that drifted away after the move, the breakup, or the new job. And a fear that the next ten years will look exactly like the last ten or worse.
You feel like fixing this would mean becoming someone you're not.
You don't want to act loud and fake or perform some memorized script. You just want to be yourself around people, and have that be enough.
All of this probably feels unfixable and like you're broken beyond saving…
The truth is that most social skills theory makes us MORE awkward
I couldn't keep a conversation AND try to remember what I read in books. It just made me more awkward. So I thought I was beyond fixing.
But it's unfair to expect us who didn't grow up socializing to just learn theory and suddenly intuitively know what to do.
Most of our members come from one of the following backgrounds:
- Were highly gifted as children and found it hard to connect to peers
- Experienced bullying
- Had controlling parents
- Didn't enjoy the same things peers did
- Have ADHD/ASD/etc which makes some situations confusing or overwhelming
So we don't have the hours of training our peers got. So we're left trying to figure this out on our own...
So One of Two Things Happens
The Theory Trap
We stay in theory forever, learning and learning but never doing. Reading another book, watching another video, going to another appointment. Always preparing, never practicing.
The Deep End
We throw ourselves at the real world, freeze, and collect another rep of feeling like a failure. Then we pull back and wonder what's wrong with us.
Neither one gets us anywhere. And both leave us convinced that something is wrong with us.
When in reality, it's completely unfair to expect people who never got this training when they were kids to just go out into the world without the middle step.
I once met a pilot and asked if he was nervous the first time he flew a huge passenger jet.
He said, "No, we spend hundreds of hours in the simulator first, then hundreds more with smaller planes. By the time you're in the real thing, you already know what it's like."
What would be insane is skipping the simulator and going straight from the manual to thirty thousand feet.
But that's exactly what we ask of ourselves socially. We go straight from theory or therapy to the real world, with nothing in between.
We need a place to practice the exact thing we struggle with, in a low-pressure environment, before we have to do it for real.
That's the whole idea behind what I want to show you.
Introducing the Social Skills Accelerator
The Accelerator is the in-between step you've been missing.
It's a small-group program where you finally get to practice the exact thing you struggle with, in a low-pressure, facilitated space, before you ever have to do it for real.
Everyone there is in the same boat and there for the same reason. So it never feels awkward, exposing, or overwhelming the way real life can.
And you're never just told to "go be confident." You always know exactly what you're practicing, why, and what comes next.
How It Works: Learn, Experience, Refine
Everything runs on a simple cycle we call LXR: the reason changes actually stick.
Learn
Each week we cover one new concept (something specific, like how to stop performing, or how to talk without monitoring yourself). One idea at a time, so it never gets overwhelming.
Experience
You try it right there in the group. We pair you with someone who's a good match, and because it's facilitated, it stays calm and safe.
Refine
We come back together and talk about what happened. What worked, what felt hard, where you got stuck. This is where the real change happens.
In real life, that feedback loop takes months. Here it takes minutes.
What You Get
Two live sessions every week, for three months. (No need to show up to every call) Each session is 120 minutes.
Live Lesson + Q&A
Go deep on the week's skill and ask about whatever is coming up for you specifically.
Live Practice Session
Do the work together in a safe, facilitated space. Showing up quietly is fine. You go at your own pace.
Over three months we move step by step, starting with the internal side (confidence and managing anxiety) and building out into conversation skills, body language and voice, group conversations, humor, and storytelling.
By the end, you don't just understand this. You've practiced it repeatedly, and you have a system for continuing to improve on your own.
Built for Real Life
Multiple time slots for different time zones. We recommend joining as many calls as you can, but you can watch recordings at your own pace whenever you have the chance.
Recordings sent to you if you miss a session, so you never fall behind.
All courses are self-paced. Work through the material whenever fits your schedule.
Next cohort starts Sunday, July 26. Enroll now to secure your spot.
📅 Weekly Live Q&A Calls
Join whichever session works best for your time zone.
5 Core Programs Included With Lifetime Access
To support what you learn and practice live, you get our complete library of self-paced programs. Each step builds on the last. So instead of random tips, you get a clear route from "I don't know what to do" to "I actually enjoy this now."
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Get steady and clear on the inside
Self-Conscious to Confident
Before any technique can land, you need a steady base. This is where you quiet the nervousness and self-doubt underneath everything else, change the way you talk to yourself, and build a confidence that doesn't fall apart the moment something feels off. Everything else in the path builds on this.
- Breaking down negative thoughts to get a realistic, positive self-view
- Understanding what others actually think of you
- The secrets of truly confident people and how they stay immune to self-doubt
- Rewiring your inner confidence to feel it automatically and intuitively
- Being more accepting of yourself, the way you already are of your friends
- Attention Training to stop getting stuck in your head and stop self-conscious thoughts
- Developing congruent, authentic confidence from within (not a facade)
- Being confident without appearing cocky, fake, or arrogant
- Calibrating your behavior so you never come off as "trying too hard"
- Getting a natural flow in any conversation (no more awkward silence)
- Becoming fluent at everyday banter
- Getting past small talk to actually bond and connect with people
- Feeling confident in large groups, new jobs, classes, or nights out
- Forming instant connections instead of getting stuck in small talk
- Not being intimidated by others. You can meet anyone at your level
- Speaking with rock-solid confidence to anyone you're attracted to
- Becoming bullet-proof when it comes to rejection
- Never letting lack of confidence come between you and someone you love
- Small life changes that make a huge difference
- Crushing procrastination and lack of discipline
- Living your life to the fullest without being confined by what others think
- Making your results stick even when you run into challenges or setbacks
- Developing permanent confidence that carries into any new situation
- Advanced: Becoming truly charismatic
Always know what to say
Conversation Confidence
Here we tackle the blank mind head-on. You'll learn a way to bypass the part of the brain that makes you self-conscious, and a simple, repeatable method to use whatever someone says as a "conveyor belt" of things to talk about. It turns "what do I say now?" into something you can actually rely on.
- Why small talk is the first step to making friends
- How to start talking to people and get a conversation going
- Making positive statements and observations
- Following up on what you talked about last time
- How to balance between talking and listening
- Being noticed in groups without forcing it
- Going from small talk to personal conversation
- Knowing if someone wants to keep talking with you
- Avoiding signaling romantic interest by mistake
- Finding commonalities with anyone
- Making conversation with real-life examples
- How to end a great interaction in a way that leads somewhere
- Dealing with feeling forced or not getting a good response
- Memorizing "get to know" questions that actually work
- Practicing being genuinely curious in people
- The link between social anxiety and attention
- Practicing attention training techniques
- Focusing on what someone says instead of your inner critic
- Using attention to come up with questions and things to say
- Shifting your attention during conversations
- Calming your nerves in the moment
- Checking in with yourself to build self-trust
- Dealing with messing up, saying the wrong thing, or being awkward
- Letting your conversation go with the flow
- Intuitively knowing what to say
- Speaking in an interesting and engaging manner
- Putting it all together for lasting confidence in conversations
Become someone people want to keep talking to
Invisible to Interesting
This is where you stop believing you're boring. You'll learn how to be genuinely engaging without needing spectacular stories or quick wit, and how to let your real personality come through instead of hiding behind safe, surface-level answers.
- What actually makes someone interesting vs. common mistakes that make you corny or weird
- The difference between someone who's interesting and someone who isn't
- Our unique follow-through system so you never procrastinate
- Leaving a first impression that makes people want to know you more
- 5 tricks to be interesting right off the bat
- Signaling to people that you are friendly and approachable
- Taking initiative to create engaging conversations
- Getting past the small talk and making the conversation interesting
- Sharing your thoughts and talking more (and why it makes you more interesting)
- Learning to elaborate and bringing up new topics naturally
- Moving past small talk by asking about motivations
- Why being personal makes people get to know you and makes conversations more engaging
- Sharing your thoughts even when it's scary
- Not knowing how much to share (finding the right balance)
- Having controversial opinions without creating conflict
- What to do when you feel uncomfortable talking about things you don't know
- Getting unstuck from the listener's trap
- Feeling like you're bragging (and how to move past it)
Decode group conversations
Group Conversation Mastery
One-on-one is one thing. Groups have their own unwritten rules: when to jump in, how to do it without awkwardly interrupting, how to stay part of things even when you're not talking. This step makes those rules clear, so you stop feeling like a ghost at the table.
- Why you don't need to say something clever. Just something relevant
- The #1 mistake people make trying to contribute in groups
- Natural ways to enter a fast-moving conversation without being rude
- Timing your contributions so they land
- Understanding who has the "spotlight" and how it moves
- Reading the room to know when it's your turn
- Creating new evidence of your social capabilities
- Speaking up even when it feels scary
- Projection techniques so you're actually heard in groups
- Why holding back your voice holds back your personality
- Body language that draws speakers toward you
- How to stay part of the conversation even when you're not talking
- The "baiting" technique to shift dull conversations into engaging ones
- Contributing without dominating or being invisible
- Matching the group's energy so you fit in naturally
- Bonus Masterclass on advanced group dynamics
Turn conversations into real friendships
Fast Friend Protocol
Talking to people is the means. Connection is the point. This final step shows you how to move past the polite surface level and build the close, easy friendships you've been wanting. The kind where you can text someone "let's hang out" without overthinking it.
- Using the friendship-time principle to build connections more efficiently
- Knowing when someone can be trusted for a closer friendship
- Building close friendships by being more authentic and less surface-level
- Avoiding common "friend traps" like the project friend trap or the jokester trap
- Bypassing small talk to build real friendships without being vulnerable or fake
- Little-known questions that deepen any conversation
- How much to share (so you don't over-share or under-share)
- Using smart follow-up questions to rapidly deepen a friendship
- Simple and natural ways to invite a friend to spend time together
- Tips for planning enjoyable activities for both people
- Approaching invitations without focusing on rejection
- Handling worries before and during time spent with a friend
- Safety behaviors: are you sending signals that unintentionally push people away?
- Finding the balance between oversharing and undersharing
- Highlighting similarities to foster closer connections
- Specific behaviors that help strengthen friendships
- Managing differing opinions or beliefs
- Identifying and setting boundaries in friendships
- Clarifying misunderstandings to preserve the relationship
- Understanding how staying updated on each other's lives deepens friendships
By the end, you don't just have a few tricks. You have the full arc: from feeling steady, to knowing exactly what to do, to making real friends.
What Our Members Say
Real results from real people who started exactly where you are now
"Won't this just make me fake?"
This isn't about layering tricks and tactics on top of you.
It's about clearing out the anxiety, overthinking, and self-doubt that are already covering up who you actually are.
The people who go through this don't become fake. They become more comfortable being themselves. Which, ironically, is the thing everyone tells you to do, but nobody shows you how.
Who This Is For
- You're smart, self-aware, and kind of analytical, but you just can't translate that into easy conversation
- You've tried tips, books, or therapy, but you still freeze when it actually counts
- You want to be more yourself around people, not more performative
- You're willing to show up consistently, even when it's uncomfortable
- You're ready to stop reading about social skills and start practicing them
If that sounds like you, the Accelerator was built for you.
The next cohort starts Sunday, July 26. Spots are limited because the groups need to stay small enough for everyone to participate.
About David Morin
David A. Morin featured in Entrepreneur Magazine
Hi! I’m David, founder of SocialSelf.
When my middle school peers went to school discos, I was at home building model cars.
As I grew older I felt clueless about how to talk to people.
I had some friendships through school, but sometimes they were one-sided and other times toxic.
As an adult I spent lots of weekends alone and the thought of socializing made me anxious.
I felt like I bored people. I got stuck in small talk. I got ignored in groups.
And at the same time, I didn’t want to turn into one of those over-extroverted “partygoers” that I associated with socializing.
Out of pure luck, I got to know really socially savvy people that I actually liked.
I studied what they did and realized that you don’t have to be loud and obnoxious or shallow to have a great social life.
You can build close friendships and even enjoy meeting new people – while being yourself more than ever!
When I started figuring this out, people began asking me for advice. And that’s how SocialSelf started, over 12 years ago!
It’s so cool to get out of bed every morning and read emails from people who thank us for their new, more fulfilling social lives. And if this program makes a big change in your life too, I‘d be so happy to hear from you!
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Everything You Need to Become Calm, Confident & Socially Free
Three months of live practice sessions, our full library of core programs, and everything you need. All in one place.
24 Live Sessions (2x/week for 3 months)
Weekly lessons, Q&A, and facilitated practice sessions on Zoom. The in-between step that makes everything click.
Self-Conscious to Confident
Overcome self-consciousness and build unshakable inner confidence so you can show up as yourself without second-guessing every move.
Conversation Confidence
Stop overthinking conversations and learn how to naturally start, continue, and enjoy talking to people without feeling awkward.
Invisible to Interesting
Become more engaging, stop running out of things to say, and learn how to naturally hold people's attention in conversations.
Group Conversation Mastery
Feel comfortable and confident in group settings, know when to speak up, and stop feeling invisible when others dominate the conversation.
Fast Friend Protocol
Turn acquaintances into real friends. Learn the science-backed method for building genuine connections quickly and naturally.
You Get All This
What's included in your Accelerator enrollment:
- 24 facilitated live sessions (2 per week for 3 months) on Zoom (each session 120 minutes) (No need to come to every call)
- Multiple time slots for different time zones. Recordings available if you miss a session
- Lifetime access to 5 core SocialSelf programs (self-paced)
Program Details:
- Next cohort starts Sunday, July 26
- One-time payment or 3 monthly installments
- 15-day 100% money-back guarantee
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Frequently asked questions
What exactly is the Social Skills Accelerator?
How is this different from the courses I've already taken?
Is this a course, or coaching?
Who is this for? Will it work for my situation?
What will I actually be able to do by the end?
- Know what to say, so you don't blank out anymore, even when your head would normally go empty.
- Stop feeling insanely awkward all the time, and start feeling at ease in your own skin around others.
- Break out of the old conditioning from parents and bullies that's been quietly running the show and holding you back.
- Talk with anyone, whether it's someone you're drawn to or a whole group of people.
- Break through shallow small talk so you can build real connections fast, instead of getting stuck at "How are you?" "Good, you?"