How to Instantly Become More Confident, Charismatic and Interesting to Others
(Even if you suffer from crippling self-doubt)
Can you relate to any of these comments from our readers?
This begs the question: How do you stand out and catch people’s interest if you belive you’re not super charismatic or have an amazing life?
One reader confessed she always feels like an uninteresting and boring person.
She was ignored in groups. People showed little interest in talking to her. Her small talk felt so forced and fake she thought she’d throw up.
She worried she’d be confined to her dim apartment until she grew old and was forgotten about, while the rest of the world experienced life to the fullest with romantic relationships, great friendships, exciting nights out on the town, hikes, road trips and world travel.
But here’s what you urgently need to understand…
There’s No Such Thing as an Uninteresting Person!
Every single person is interesting in their own way.
Yes, even you. Especially you.
The problem is you’re buying into an old internal belief system that keeps saying you’re less interesting than other people.
Since you believe that, each time you walk into a crowded room, you immediately feel a lack of confidence.
And you don’t know how to behave around others.
So you’re not attracting more people into your life because you’re acting the part of an uninteresting person (when you’re anything but that).
It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Think about it. You know those “ordinary” friends of yours who everyone seems to instantly like?
They always make new friends with ease, are dripping with charisma, and quite fascinating to talk to.
Even though they don’t lead lives that are more interesting than your own.
What’s the secret to their popularity?
While deep down, they may lack confidence just like you…
They learned to ignore their inner Negative Nancy that constantly says they’re not interesting or charismatic.
And when they do… something magical happens…
People instantly gravitate towards them. Their phone constantly pings them with new messages. They walk into a room and radiate charisma.
And guess what?
They might not have an interesting life or confidence or feel attractive.
But people still love being around them because they know the “secret” to getting them interested in them and carrying on engaging conversations
There is no difference between you and them except for one crucial thing…
They ignore their “inner critic” that tells them they’re boring and uninteresting, which immediately helps give them confidence.
Next, they learned the “secret” steps to appearing fascinating to others and creating wonderful conversations with them… even total strangers!
You can be truly interesting to talk to even if you don’t “think” you’re confident, outgoing, or accomplished.
I know you’re eager to learn more about this exciting course…
And I promise I’ll share all the exciting details in a moment.
But first, I’d like to introduce myself and share a bit about my background.
My name is David A. Morin, and I’m the founder of SocialSelf, the #1 online resource for improving social skills.
This may surprise you…
I used to feel like I bored people.
I didn’t know what to say (and I was often ignored in group conversations).
I got stuck in empty small talk instead of making deep connections with people I liked.
Fast forward to today, and my social skills were transformed after studying and learning how to apply social skills full-time for over a decade.
My social circle is filled with amazing people whom I love and bring my life deep fulfillment and meaning.
I’m so proud that SocialSelf has now been featured in leading publications such as Time Magazine, WebMD, MSN, Yahoo, Business Insider, and Healthline.
Today, we employ a team of five expert counselors and leading therapists to make sure that all our content is scientifically accurate and actually works.
I’m fortunate enough to share my work with SocialSelf’s 600,000+ monthly readers.
Here’s proof that having an interesting life and being interesting to talk to are two different things.
Ever talked to an old relative who’s had an interesting life, but just goes on and on about it in a totally boring way?
In fact, you’ll find people listening to them struggling to keep their eyes open!
They’re interesting “on paper”, but something in how they talk makes them tedious to listen to.
You see, that’s a hint that “a more interesting life” such as climbing Mt. Everest, going on a safari in Africa or finding the cure to cancer isn’t the solution to get people interested in you that you hoped for.
One reader put it well….
That’s because this reader believes that he isn’t “interesting” or “knowledgeable” or “impressive.”
So when he meets people, he behaves that way.
And equally as important, he doesn’t understand the “secret” techniques to being mesmerizing to others.
But on the flip side…
…A friend of mine doesn’t have a particularly interesting life, isn’t more knowledgeable than anyone else, and isn’t overly confident. She’s even a bit quiet.
Still, people just love talking to her.
…Another friend of mine is 33, broke, and still hasn’t finished college.
Still, he has more friends than he can handle.
Why despite all that… are these rather “ordinary” folks still fascinating to talk to and be around
They know how to talk to people, and engage with them on an emotional level to people.
Even if they’re not living the most exciting and glamorous lives.
So what does all this mean for you?
Now, you can learn the exact secrets the most popular people on the planet use to attract throngs of new friends and relationships. with an easy step-by-step course anyone can follow.
You’ll learn the “magic” steps, exact sentences and interesting phrases that make you irresistible to talk to
When you use these steps and sentences, something wonderful happens in people’s faces:
They’ll lock onto you. Their pupils dilate. They’ll become emotionally engaged.
And one meeting won’t be enough for them.
They’ll want to continue the relationship.
When you part, they’ll say things like “Let’s meet up again!” or “Can I have your number so we can exchange texts?”
“But David, all this talk about ‘steps’ and ‘sentences’ might make me sound fake!”
Before you develop self-confidence, it can indeed feel inauthentic to talk about steps and sentences.
But this breakthrough course will change all that.
You’ll learn how to unleash your true interesting and charismatic self.
That was really there all along.
You just needed to tap into it.
And once you learn exactly how to behave and what to say, this new confident way of speaking will become second nature to you.
You’ll discover what makes YOU uniquely interesting..
So everything you say will actually be fully authentic, interesting and not “fake” at all!
My own relationships have never been more genuine as a result of using these strategies.
My mission is to ensure that yours will be, too!
And you’ll attract throngs of new friends that enrich your life just like I did.
You see, I arrived in NYC back in 2017 not knowing a soul.
Today, I’ve made more friends here than I ever imagined possible.
My birthday party with my wonderful friends in Central Park
In my breakthrough course…
You’ll learn the key to attracting busloads of amazing friends and meaningful relationships
I’ll show you the easy steps to having engaging and mesmerizing conversations.
Learning these “secrets” did wonders not just for me…..
This course is turning members who thought they were “inherently boring” into people magnets:
Why get a course when there’s an ocean of free advice out there?
With all the advice out there, why isn’t everyone a social genius?
For one thing, simply getting advice doesn’t automatically make us better.
You also have to learn how to apply the advice through actionable techniques.
Plus, most of the so-called “advice” out there isn’t written by experts.
Our course has proven science-backed strategies that are written by leading therapists and other experts in the field of psychology.
That’s why this course isn’t just another “advice-bomb”.
Here’s what we do differently to give you results:
- Instead of trying to remember 100 different things, you can just follow our system.
- We focus on one core concept at a time and help you internalize it.
- With my practical video examples, you get experience that no blog post or book can give you.
- Signing up for our program means you become a part of our SocialSelf Inner Circle: Whenever you get stuck or want to discuss something, you get help from Viktor, me, and all our members who share your journey.
- Our material is scientifically based, optimized for results, based on countless video calls with beta testers, and created together with counselors and therapists.
Advice can be good sometimes when you’re trying to decide if a course is right for you.
We give a lot of advice in our free material, so you can decide if our way of doing things works for you before you spend a penny.
And when you’re ready for change, we’ve got a system proven by hundreds of men and women like you who took the leap and joined our community.
“But I’ve already tried other guides and courses and they just didn’t work for me”
Here’s why this course is so different…
During two months, I had countless video calls with men and women who wanted to be more interesting.
We went through what they’d tried before that hadn’t worked, and I coached them on what to do instead.
Only when a method made them go “WOW! It works now!” did it earn a place in the course.
Here’s the big problem…
Most courses, articles, and books out there give terrible advice when it comes to becoming more interesting.
Most of those self-proclaimed advice “gurus” are just in it to make a fast buck.
And their “advice” actually cause more harm than good:
Bad advice #1: “Travel more” – One of our participants had traveled through several countries specifically to become a more interesting person. But to his devastation, nothing had changed. He was still the same insecure guy. If anything, people got bored when he tried to refer to his travels all the time.
Get me right – travel is great. But doing it just to try to be more interesting can backfire.
Bad advice #2: “Just be more confident”– Have you ever tried to “just be more confident?” What are you even supposed to do? It’s not like you can just decide to be confident one day and suddenly all your anxiety is gone.
When I talked to our participants, it turned out that this piece of advice gave them performance anxiety.
In reality, our course will unleash your inner self-confidence by showing you the steps to becoming more naturally interesting. You’ll learn how to quickly become an interesting person even if you’re painfully shy or have self-doubt.
Bad advice #3: “Read more” – One participant told me that she’d spent one hour on Wikipedia every night because she felt like she knew too little. She’d been doing this for almost a year. But when I asked her if it had made her conversations more interesting, she said “no”.
I also love to read on Wikipedia. And if you know everything about, say, ancient Rome and come across someone who LOVES talking about ancient Rome, you’re likely going to have an interesting conversation.
But what do you do when that conversation fizzles out? And what about everyone who isn’t a massive ancient Rome fan?
So what works, then? – It usually doesn’t work to travel and read up on things in an attempt to be more interesting.
What really worked for our participants was to learn how to carry engaging conversations, which automatically made them more naturally confident and interesting.
That’s exactly what this course will help you master.
“Am I a loser if I take a course like this?”
It doesn’t make you a “loser” if you want to improve yourself.
Actually, people who are content with not many friends, unfulfilling conversations, and not wanting to improve themselves are the real losers.
I figured that I only have this one life, so why not make the most out of it and learn steps to ensure it’s the best it can be?
If some close-minded person thinks I’m a loser or weird, that is a prize I’m more than happy to pay for the amazing life I’m able to live today: I can bond with people fast. I have wonderful friends. I have a huge social circle. I can do the things I love every day.
So now I’m super excited to share all the details of this amazing course…
This course teaches you how to, step by step, know what to say to convey who you are in an authentic way that makes you an interesting person.
This course is for you if…
- You feel like you aren’t interesting (and don’t automatically get noticed)
- You worry that you’ll bore or bother people
- You don’t know what to say, and because of that feel like you don’t have much of a personality
- You feel uncomfortable sharing about yourself
- You feel like you lack knowledge or experience, and don’t want to look stupid or like you don’t know stuff, so you avoid engaging in conversation
- You feel like you’re bragging when you do talk about your experiences
So it’s understandable if you sometimes feel like socializing is a waste of time.
If there was only something you could do that would make people more interested in you…
What this course will help you master…
Chapter 1: What Makes Someone Interesting and Memorable
In this first chapter, you’ll learn exactly what makes someone interesting and memorable.
We’ll also cover all the most common mistakes people make when they try to be interesting that make them corny or weird instead.
Already this first chapter will help you master having truly engaging conversations.
Here, you’ll also come across our unique system that will help you follow through with this course in a breeze, even if you usually tend to procrastinate.
Chapter 2: Making People Immediately Interested in You
It’s time to master leaving a first impression that makes people immediately interested in you – even if you feel shy or just never really know what to say.
Having this superpower is like flicking a switch. I still remember going from never really connecting with new people – to being able to create an immediate spark. This ability has done wonders for my self-esteem.
There are lots of common mistakes here that make people either come off as aloof OR over the top. This chapter will help you avoid all those potholes and be authentic instead.
Chapter 3: Making Interesting Conversation (Even if You Never Know What to Talk About)
Here’s where you learn the exact steps to take and sentences to use to have truly interesting conversations with anyone:
- How to get past the small talk and make the conversation interesting instead
- How to share your thoughts and talk a little bit more and why it will make you more interesting.
- When someone asks you what you’ve been up to, always be able to give a super interesting response instead of the usual “nothing much”.
- Practical examples of how to make a conversation interesting
Chapter 4: Daring to be Personal (And Why it Will Make You a More Interesting Person)
Did you know it’s a myth that “People only want to talk about themselves”?
Would you only want to talk about yourself? Of course not — you also want to get to know the other person and not have to do all the talking. When you’re a little bit personal with people, they get to know you, and the conversation becomes so much more engaging and enjoyable.
In this chapter, you’ll learn…
- How to talk about yourself in a way that catches people’s interest, without having to be vulnerable or talking about something you don’t want to.
- What to do if you feel uncomfortable sharing your thoughts.
- How to not over-share or accidentally take over the conversation.
- What to do if you have controversial opinions or past experiences you don’t want people to know about.
Chapter 5: Common issues & Troubleshooting
It’s time to remove any roadblocks on the road toward becoming a truly interesting person. Here are some of the challenges we’ll crush:
- Not wanting to talk about oneself because it feels like people wouldn’t care or judge you.
- What to do if you feel uncomfortable talking about something you don’t know anything about.
- Feeling uncomfortable talking about yourself because you feel like you’re bragging.
- Getting unstuck from the listeners’ trap.
“In an online social skills world full of so-called gurus peddling shallow and manipulative advice, SocialSelf stands apart.”
Daniel Wendler, Author, TEDx-Speaker, creator of the 2.4M+ subreddit r/socialskills.
Here’s What You’ll Get…
- Lifetime access to the 4-week course
- 28+ super in-depth, easy to understand videos packed with ultra-practical real-world examples
- A community of like-minded who’ll support you and understand you
- Exercises that help you improve without being weird, scary, or awkward
- A system that holds you accountable and motivated
- Downloadable audio files of the lessons so that you can listen anywhere on your phone
- 60-day money-back guarantee: If you can’t talk to people and make friends with them in 60 days, you get your money back.
You’ll Become an Exclusive Member of Our Supportive Community
When you sign up for this course, you automatically become part of our big supportive family. You’ll be able to connect with people who share your goals and will support you along the way.
You’ll be able to do exercises or discuss challenges together.
And of course, you also have the option to take the course by yourself, at your own pace.
Study: A social life is worth $117,322 per year.
A study of 10 000 people in England found that having a more social life makes you as happy as making an additional $117,322 per year*.
What would making more friends and connecting deeper be worth to YOU?
Luckily, this course won’t cost you $117,322. This course is only 9 payments of $37. That’s 1 dollar and 20 cents a day (Or a Starbucks Frappuccino once every Saturday.)
I don’t know about you, but I’d choose the social life I have today any day over a Starbucks Frappuccino. (Psst… you can still go have a Frappuccino with your newly made friends)
*Powdthavee, N. (2008). Putting a price tag on friends, relatives, and neighbours: Using surveys of life satisfaction to value social relationships. The Journal of Socio-Economics, 37(4), 1459–1480. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.socec.2007.04.004
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How to get a refund
If you after the purchase realize that this wasn’t for you, you got two full months to just shoot me an email saying, “David, turns out this isn’t for me”, and I’ll cheerfully refund the full amount, no explanation needed.
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Here’s what happens when you learn how to be interesting and memorable
Imagine talking to someone and knowing exactly what to say to make the conversation truly interesting. Their faces light up. They face you with their entire body and seem to forget about the world around the two of you. You have an engaging conversation together with smiles and laughter.
They ask “It was really interesting talking to you. Do you want to keep in touch and hang out again one day?”
You say “Sure!” and it’s the beginning of another amazing friendship. That’s the power of being able to carry the type of engaging and interesting conversations you’ll learn in this course.
What happens after you register?
As soon as you register for this course, you automatically get logged in to our course portal and get immediate access to the entire course.
This means that you can start watching this course instantly after you’ve completed the registration.
The first video you’ll see is a welcome video that explains how the course works and exactly what to do next.
What to do next
Click the “Get Instant Access” button in the blue box above. On the page that comes up, fill in your information and choose if you want to use your debit/credit card or PayPal.
As soon as you’ve entered your information and clicked “Sign up now”, you’ll be greeted by me inside the course system and I’ll show you exactly how to get started.
I’m looking forward to seeing you inside!
I’ll do my best to answer your most common questions below. If your question isn’t answered, please reach out to me by using the chatbox below.
Why should I get this course?
Why not just deal with this by myself?
You can deal with this on your own. I did. It’s possible, but it takes time. I, for example, spent 8 years of trial and error to get to a level I was satisfied with.
Taking one of our courses is like pressing a fast-forward button. Our courses contain a proven system you can follow that tells you exactly what to do. It’s created by someone who’s been where you are and understand your struggles and challenges. Our courses contain the very system I wish I had 8 years ago.
Would I have been willing to pay money for it? Yes. If I had the ability back then to fast-track 8 years, it would have been worth more than all the money in the world to me.
There are so many obvious mistakes and so much needless pain and rejection going through this alone. Those who participate in our courses have decided to learn from my mistakes instead of treading water on their own.
Even for people who are several years behind, our courses give the opportunity to make a giant leap to close the gap. (Read here about when you can expect to see results) Many of our participants even decide to go further. They use their motivation to rise above what most people can only dream about.
“The thing that got me from a socially anxious person to being the most connected person at work now is doing a lot of reading, which is how I found your course, and your research was the eventual turning point I would say in my personality.”
Prakhar V, 26
Why pay for a course like this when there’s an ocean of free advice out there?
With all the free advice out there, how come everyone isn’t walking around as a social genius?
Because more advice doesn’t make us better. Our courses aren’t “advice-bombs”. Here’s what we do differently to give you results:
- Instead of just “more information” we help you set up a system for how to improve in real life. We don’t try to give you “all the advice you might possibly need”. Instead, we hand-pick and streamline the information and methods that are important to YOUR social success.
- With our recordings and analysis of actual social interaction, you get real-world experience that no blog post or book can give you.
- Signing up for our courses means becoming part of our big community with hundreds of members. Whenever you feel stuck or want to discuss something, you get help from me, Viktor, and all our participants who are sharing your journey.
- Our material is scientifically based, optimized for results, based on thousands of surveys, created together with a behavioral scientist and finally tested by a team of beta testers.
Advice can be good sometimes. We give a lot of advice in our free material so you can decide if our way of doing things works for you before you spend a penny. But when you’re ready to create a big change in your life, you don’t want more advice, but a proven system that slingshots you to where you want to be.
More advice just makes me confused or overwhelmed, is this different?
If you’re tired of “more advice”, you’re just like me. I give an answer to this question in the step above (“Why pay for a course like this when there’s an ocean of free advice out there?”)
Will this work for me?
Will this work in my country/culture?
There are many differences between cultures. Generally speaking, Americans are more extroverted than Asians. South American cultures are often more expressive than West Europeans.(ref)
We’ve made sure to take this into account designing our courses, and the results from all over the world show that we’ve succeeded:
I’ve personally used the methods we teach with great success in the US, Thailand, China, France, Spain, UK, and Sweden. More importantly, our thousands of participants from all over the world report amazing results.
The reason is the same for why our courses work for different ages and genders: Different ages, genders, and cultures all have different norms. But the underlying human psychology is universal.
Here’s what some of our participants from different corners of the world have to say:
I was thrilled to see that I could have fun in just a few minutes with a complete stranger, and exchange on our experiences, lives, passions and so on.
Hugo, Bordeaux, France.
…for probably the first time that I remember I stopped feeling insanely awkward around someone I didn’t really know at all…
Group projects are now fun instead of dreadful and the relationships I’m building are growing outside of school as well.
Riley, Calgary, Canada
[…] I can honestly say that it is truly changing my life for the better
John Claveria, Philippines
I was free. In year 2 and during that summer I had people commenting on how outgoing and confident I was (even how much I talk). I was in my element, I was embodying it
Joshua, London, UK
[…] one thing it has done is completely eliminated awkward moments. And because I’m not putting on a mask, it’s not at all tiring.
Now I’m outgoing, social and generally easy to talk to. What I learned is that change is possible!
William, Irvine, California, USA
I have been implementing your ideas, and it has changed my life in such a positive way.
Now I know that I can make a difference in people’s lives just by connecting with them and sharing what I am.
Estuardo Paz, Guatemala
[…] that’s so much more profound than I thought when I dreamed of a silver bullet to solve my conversation dead ends.
Bianca Gelli, Brazil
I do really like the fact that I am (now) able to hold a conversation.
I have to congratulate you and Viktor. Some of the things you teach give what I call “aha moments” or “make me see the matrix”.
References: Triandis, Harry C. (1994) Culture and Social Behavior. McGraw-Hill College.
Am I too young/old for this?
The majority of our participants are between 20 and 50 years old. The youngest is 18 years old and the oldest 75. Human psychology is very much the same no matter your age. We’ve had beta testers and participants of older courses of all ages reporting great results.
Below, I picked out a few testimonials from participants of varying ages. Notice how the youngest one is 18 years old and the oldest one is 75 years old. That’s a 57-year difference! This shows that our courses work no matter what your age is.
I am an older woman who was born in England & migrated to Australia in 1963 with my husband & 3 small children. My husband was a very outgoing character who had no fears or worries about relating to anyone or anything. I was ultra-reserved & well accustomed to keeping to myself, totally scared of people & relationships. I could hide behind that outgoing partner, & did, all the time, for 25 years. Once our children left home there was very little of a relationship between those 2 disparate people & the marriage ended.
I am so happy with what I’ve learned from you, including that I feel a strongly growing sense of belonging to humanity instead of being an outcast! Your personal quick responses are part of this, too. I feel supported by you, thank you. So I’m super keen to continue with the Course
Christina Beaumont, Australia 75
This is sooo good! And don’t forget – your often simple, but brilliant advice can be used by us, who have left the youth! I really wish I had been given so much good advice 20-30 years ago.
Mary Anne, 47
I have more friends in my youth group than I thought I was capable of making. I’m still shy and all of that, but I have definitely changed. Thank you so much! I filled this out so you would know how your blog and guides have really changed my social life. Thank you! (I’m now private schooled and in all honors classes and slowly making friends there as well. 🙂 Once again, thank you!
Kaitlind,Corona, CA, USA, 18
Will this work for my very specific situation?
All our courses are tested on people from all walks of life. Our participants are between the ages of 18 to 75. They are people from all over the world from different cultures with different careers and lifestyles.
Some of them would mainly like to be more confident in social settings. Others would like to be better at bonding with people they come across. Some of them would like to have a better career, live in a larger house, have a bigger paycheck, or have a better physique. Some want to be better in networking and business and career. Still, they’ve had great results with our courses, due to the extensive testing we do.
These people all have one thing in common. They’re quite thoughtful and tend to overthink in social settings. If you can relate to this, I am confident that this course will work for you, no matter your specific situation.
If it turns out the course wasn’t right for you, you can use our 60 days 100% money-back guarantee. You get a full refund up to 60 days after you bought the course.
What if I blank out in conversations today?
In this course, you won’t just get “more advice”. No advice in the world helps if you blank out in conversations (because in those situations, the brain doesn’t work like it’s supposed to do anyway).
What you DO need is a small set of precise and powerful mindsets. As these mindsets become second nature to you, you will notice how you’ll no longer blank out. You’ll be able to think more clearly in social settings.
One example of such a mindset change is the OFC-coaching method I emailed you a video about a while back. There, we hooked up a participant to a stress monitor and showed that we could cut her stress levels in half after just 5 minutes of coaching. One mindset change like that is worth more than a thousand well-meant advice. However, in our courses we have the time and resources to go even deeper than the OFC-method and get even more impressive results.
If blanking out is your problem, this course will be a perfect fit for you.
What if I don’t want to “play the social game”, be shallow, or turning into a people pleaser?
This is my favorite question to answer. People often think that being social is about being one of those annoying, shallow people you see on the TV commercials for beer.
To me (and to our participants) being socially skilled is the opposite: It’s about getting away with being who you WANT to be because people will like you anyway.
We teach you how to be yourself and get away with it, even if you, like me, have a quirky personality and humor. When you master the foundations of bonding with people, that’s when you’re able to “get away” with being who you want to be.
At that point, you don’t have to “put on a mask to fit in” or feeling like you have to compromise yourself.
Here’s what some participants write:
[…] I end up feeling empathetic, less concerned with how I look, more interested in the other person, and naturally more confident and good in conversation.”
“… From this point, I quit putting any pressure on myself and soon my interactions started to become much more natural. I spent more time doing the things I love, and going out with people I appreciate.”
Hugo, Bordeaux, France
What if I lose my motivation halfway through?
The most common reasons we lose our motivation are the following:
- It feels like we won’t succeed
- We don’t see enough results
- Something gets too hard
That’s why we’ve designed the course in the following way:
- It clearly shows you how you can succeed
- You’ll see the initial results quickly
- The exercises are fun and motivating, not hard
This is the reason the majority of our participants feel highly motivated throughout the course.
Remember, if it turns out you aren’t able to complete the course, you can use our 60 days 100% money-back guarantee. You get a full refund up to 60 days after you bought the course.
What if I fall behind?
You can take the course at whatever pace that fits you. If you are unable to attend for a period of time, you can just start off where you left. The only one setting the pace is you. We give you the tools and the support you need to achieve the goals you set for yourself.
What if it turns out this course is not right for me?
This course is the result of hundreds of survey responses, dozens of hours of phone interviews, and months of beta testing. Our participants are 18-75 years old and from all over the world.
What these people have in common is that they describe themselves as social overthinkers. If you identify with being a social overthinker, you can be confident that this course is for you.
If it turns out the course still wasn’t what you were looking for, you can use our 60 days 100% money-back guarantee. You get a full refund up to 60 days after you bought the course.
What if now is not a good time for me?
A “theme” I recognized whenever I was thinking about committing to a book or a course was a voice in my head telling me things like:
“- But I should try that technique I read about last week first”
“- I should get X handled first”
“- I should get Y finished first”
“- I need to come to terms with my mental baggage first”
“- I should free up more time first”
“-I need to get my ducks in a row”
Truth is, the time will never be perfect. If you wait for things to be perfect, life is what happens while you make up plans. You want to prioritize a great social life sooner rather than later because when you do, everything in life gets both easier and more fun.
You want to ask yourself: I’ve been walking this planet for X years, and I’m still not where I want to be. Should I continue like I’ve done before and hope to one day figure this all out on my own, or is now the time to start following a proven system to get this handled?
Will this help me with…
Will this course help me with my dating?
This is a course on how to be more interesting. There will be no “pick up-openers” or similar techniques. However, what you WILL learn is a natural way to make yourself more interesting to people including those you are attracted to. You will be more at ease and more confident in conversations and know what to talk about. This will make you more self-confident and more attractive. This is why our participants have such great results when it comes to dating and romantic partners.
Here’s what Justin from the Netherlands writes:
I just walked up to the girl I like for soooo long. It was a huge step, but I had the confidence and knowledge of what to talk about. If I hadn’t had this course, I would never dare to talk to her.
– Justin in Maastricht, Netherlands
I suffer from Social anxiety. Will this work for me?
Yes! This course is designed with anxiety in mind and works both if you have mild, moderate or severe social anxiety. If you have clinical social anxiety we recommend that you seek appropriate care from medical professionals. A medical professional can help you with the anxiety part, but most likely not the conversation skills part. Therefore, some of those with social anxiety who join our courses see it as a great complement to therapy.
Here are some testimonials from participants who suffered from social anxiety.
“The thing that got me from a socially anxious person to being the most connected person at work now is doing a lot of reading, which is how I found your course (and your research was the eventual turning point I would say in my personality).”
Prakhar V, 26
“The breakthrough way that you have helped me is when you told me to focus my attention on other people thus away from myself.
I had never realised that my awkwardness or anxiety was rooted by me being self-conscious and my constantly thinking about how I look and how I come across in social situation and I always used to attempt to show myself in a good light.
You advice had helped me liberate myself from this anxiety from social situations. Also, the statistics that show others are also anxious had increased my confidence in initiating conversation as before I assumed they just didn’t like me.”
Armaan Chana, London, UK
I suffer from shyness. Will this work for me?
Yes! All our courses are tailored to also help shy people feel comfortable in social settings. Look at some of the testimonials from previously shy people:
“I love that as you say it’s not the usual approach 10 strangers. Most shy or introverted people would die a little inside just thinking of doing that.”
“Throughout most of my life I had terrible social skills. Whenever someone tried to converse with me I would be so shy that I would either give one word answers that don’t really contribute or further the conversation, or I would basically ignore them which made me come off as kinda strange.
This really hurt because inside I actually wanted to talk with people, I just had no idea what people talked about or what the flow of normal conversation was like.
Recently I’ve been going back to school to try and improve my career situation. At first I was incredibly nervous because of the social situations that I would be forced into like group projects, and I didn’t want to come off as the strange quiet guy like I was through my past experiences. I have seen a very positive outcome in my social life.
Group projects are now fun instead of dreadful and the relationships I’m building are growing outside of school as well.”
Riley, Alberta, Canada
Will this help me in business, networking, or job interviews?
Here’s a realization that has helped me a lot in life:
When you deal with businesses (like employers, or customers, or business networks) they are still humans. That means that the same principles that help us bond with someone in private will help us bond with someone in business.
Some get into this weird stiff persona whenever they interact with businesses. But you still want to be easy-going, confident and warm, just like when talking to non-business people.
This course helps you do that.
Little did I understand how powerful the principles here were for business success. When I first started networking around the time of my first company, I didn’t do particularly well. As a result, I lost out on a lot of business opportunities. Nowadays, I have the ability to bond quickly with anyone. That has helped me build up a big business network and have contacts I never would have had otherwise.
“The thing that got me from a socially anxious person to being the most connected person at work now is doing a lot of reading, which is how I found your course, and your research was the eventual turning point I would say in my personality.”
Prakhar V, 26
What can I expect?
Do I need to force myself to talk to strangers?
No. We don’t believe that is an effective method of improving. We’ve tried it, but our experience confirmed what other studies have shown:
Most people can’t push way out of their comfort zone day after day.
Doing outrageous social stunts doesn’t create long-term change.
Our exercises are designed to be fun and motivating. With our system, based on the latest findings in behavioral science, you can practice new mindsets and behaviors in social settings without doing something that others think is weird (or even notice you doing).
About the course
How does the course work?
This is an online course that takes 5 weeks to complete. You can access the course on your computer, your tablet or smartphone.
The course is divided into 5 chapters. I explain all the concepts in clear and easy-to-understand videos.
Together with the videos, you’ll get exercises that’ll help you turn this into actual change in your life. For each lesson, there is a comment area where you’ll be able to discuss the material with both us and others.
How much time will this course take?
Our participants spend roughly 2 hours per week of studying the material. Then, they used their everyday social interactions to think about what they’d learned. A social interaction can be anything from the cashier to family or friends. The duration of the course is 5 weeks.
I feel weird taking a course like this. Am I a weirdo?
Yes, you’re a bit weird for taking a course like this. But (just like me), you’re weird in a good way.
You see, when I told people that I wanted to become better socially, some thought that I was weird. But to me, it’s even weirder to NOT try to improve all areas of who we are. I figured that I only have this one life, and why not make the most out of it and be the best I can be?
If someone thinks I’m weird, that is a prize I’m more than willing to pay for the amazing life I’m able to live today: I can bond with people fast. I have wonderful friends. I have a huge social circle. I can do the things I love every day.
Maybe you’re not sure if this course is right for you. I encourage you to try it, because I see how it changes people’s lives for good. But if you decide not to, at least take this with you: Never keep yourself from doing things in life because you’re afraid that someone will think you’re weird. This is actually one of the top regrets people have on their deathbed:
“Regret #6: Worrying about what others thought about me so much. Most of us place way too much importance on what other people around us think about us. How will they judge us? In the moment, we think their opinions are crucial to our future success and happiness. On our deathbeds, none of that matters.”
The 25 most common deathbed regrets – Forbes Magazine
To today’s date, over 100 000 thoughtful, smart overthinkers who want to improve socially have taken our free training. So even if we’re a bit weird, we all share an ambition to become better socially.
My life philosophy is to not walk around life fearing if doing this or that makes us weird. Instead, I try to always do what I know is the right thing to do.
Is this a live/interactive course or can I do it on my own?
This is not a live course. You take the course through our website. You’ll be taking the course together with hundreds of others and can get inspired and motivated by them. But if you want to do the course at your own pace and without the involvement of others, that works great too!
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Very useful and practical advice
I have done a few chapters of the course now and I really like it so far. I find the videos very easy to understand and the advice is very practical. I have immediately started to use it in my daily life. I also like the small excercises, quite smart how they are set up.
Teaching me a lot.
I cannot say in enough words how much this course is helping me. It is really helpful to go as slowly as I need to with changing my social habits. It is nice to not have put pressure on myself to go faster. My father agrees with me that changing an old habit to a new habit takes time. He says you “have your falls” at times, but don’t beat yourself up.
Now I go forth
With these ideas, strategies and advice, I go forth to meet new people. I have two toxic friends I’m going to drop and I’ll make *four* new friends to replace them.
This course has good advice. Practice is my main concern now. As society opens up from the pandemic new opportunities present themselves with lots of potential new friends.
I was a person with few friends and no close friends. Now I feel a different plan developing. When meeting people I can hopefully release myself from the fear of rejection. But that’s only the first step. Then I move forward.
I’ll review this course often and attempt to practice the advice.
Good place to start
I did the course within a week. I did the exercises as they came along. Overall, the steps were simple. Excited to see if it works for me!
Interesting approach to daily interactions
The course was really helpful in describing how we should approach our regular interactions with associates and friends. Helpful insight was given on taking intiative while speaking. Thanks to David and team for this valuable guidance.