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How to Talk to People With Confidence

(Without Blanking Out, Second Guessing, or Getting Stuck in Small Talk)

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Daniel Wendler, Psy.D Author, founder of 1.2M subreddit Socialskills, 2x TEDx speaker
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600 000 people read SocialSelf’s advice each month

Can you relate to our students' most common struggles?

  • Worrying about how to stand, where to put their hands, or if their posture is weird
  • Blanking out
  • Getting intimidated and nervous by confident people, tall people, high-status people, or someone they’re into
  • Sometimes viewing themselves through the lens of the other person – and like they’ll be judged if they make any little mistake.
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This Program Is For Those of Us Who

  • Are tired of being met with blank stares and polite smiles and ready to build real connections
  • Want to feel self-assured in our ability when talking to someone
  • Want to come up with things to say and not blank out, stumble, or feel stupid
  • Want to feel confident even around intimidating people or someone we may want more than friendship with
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79% Report an increase in self-confidence
82% Report an increase in social skills
80% Report feeling less nervous socially
*According to a survey of 819 SocialSelf members

More Confident Conversations - In 10 Minutes Per Day

In 10 minutes a day from the comfort of your couch, Conversation Confidence can help build stronger conversation and connection skills.

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Introducing Conversation Confidence

Conversation Confidence helps us build our conversation skills at our own pace through simple, intuitive, simulated conversations.

This program is designed to help us in the following areas:

  • Knowing what to say to not blank out
  • Over time, feeling much less awkward around people
  • Breaking free from old conditioning we carry from the past
  • Gaining the ability to talk to anyone (Be it someone we’re into, a group of people, or simply someone interesting)
  • Breaking through shallow small talk to build real connections faster.
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Part 1

Course Curriculum

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Simulated conversations designed to help us talk to people with confidence:

Build the ability to intuitively know what to say to move the conversation forward, maintain interest, and form real connections with strangers, co-workers, and friends.

Topics include:

  • Creating engaging, interesting, confident conversations using the “attentional-shift” method.
  • A method to bypass the inner voice that creates self-consciousness
  • A little-known trick to use whatever someone says as a “conveyor belt of new topics” to pick from
  • How to get more permanent, life-long results
  • And much more…

Day 1

How to bypass the part of the brain that makes us feel self-conscious

Day 2

How to use what someone says as a “conveyor belt of topics” to pick from

Day 3

A little known method to overcome awkward silence

Day 4

Creating engaging conversations by asking questions the right way

Day 5

Developing the presence of mind to know what to say

Day 6

The “Attentional shift”-method that helps eradicate remaining conversation jitters

Day 7

Using attention direction to build interesting conversations

Day 8

The “check-in”-method that builds stronger belief in one self.

Day 9

Toward life-long results.

See What Our Members Have to Say

“I feel like a completely different person” “I used to struggle with socializing and felt uncomfortable in social settings. However, after taking this course, I feel like a completely different…” Read moreAnthony, 32
Product Manager
North Carolina, USA
“One of the most valuable investments you can make in yourself” “I feel like the course provided some grounded truths that I had been blind to before…” Read moreBridget Viernes, 31
Teacher
USA
“I highly recommend this course” “I completed the course and found it to be incredibly valuable. It covered a wide range of topics, including effective communication, active listening…” Read moreWallace Rangel, 40
Civil Servant
Brazil
“I’ve felt uncomfortable socially my whole life.” “I have avoided making connections with people. And it has resulted in me not having any friends…” Read moreLorena Hernandez, 23
Doctor Assistant
California, USA
“I felt like there was no hope for me, but it’s amazing to see the progress I’ve made.” “I’ve been quiet for as long as I can remember. Not until middle school did I start…” Read moreJerry Finn, 28
Web Developer
Arkansas, USA
“I really wish I had come across this when I was young” “I am a little older than most people taking this course, (late 50s) but it’s never too late…” Read moreLindy, 58
Musician
Canada

About David Morin

David A. Morin featured in Entrepreneur Magazine

Hi! I’m David, founder of SocialSelf.

When my middle school peers went to school discos, I was at home building model cars.

As I grew older I felt clueless about how to talk to people.

I had some friendships through school, but sometimes they were one-sided and other times toxic.

As an adult I spent lots of weekends alone and the thought of socializing made me anxious.

I felt like I bored people. I got stuck in small talk. I got ignored in groups.

And at the same time, I didn’t want to turn into one of those over-extroverted “party goes” that I associated with socializing.

Out of pure luck, I got to know really socially savvy people that I actually liked.

I studied what they did and realized that you don’t have to be loud and obnoxious or shallow to have a great social life.

You can build close friendships and even enjoy meeting new people – while being yourself more than ever!

When I started figuring this out, people began asking me for advice. And that’s how SocialSelf started, over 12 years ago!

It’s so cool to get out of bed every morning and read emails from people who thank us for their new, more fulfilling social lives. And if this program makes a big change in your life too, I‘d be so happy to hear from you!

How the Confidence of Knowing What to Say Can Unlock Life
Being able to talk to people and connect with them helped me unlock the things I enjoy the most about life.
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What’s included in your program:

  • Conversation simulations to improve talking skills from home
  • Exercises designed to develop core confidence in conversations
  • Lifetime access to all updates

Course Details:

  • Course length: 4 weeks, 10-15 minutes per day
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Frequently asked questions

What’s the difference between this training and free advice?

Free tips are everywhere, but too much advice can get overwhelming and even confusing.

This training goes beyond general tips, offering specific steps to practice at home until we intuitively know what to do in the “real world”.

Plus, you’ll join a group of people working on the same thing, which can be motivating and supportive, and create accountability.

You can try out the program, and get a full refund if you don’t see a powerful difference in daily conversations and connections.

Will this training work in different countries and cultures?

Yes! People from all over the world have found these strategies helpful. While each culture is unique, the core ideas are meant to work across different social styles. 

Some of our members have recently moved to a new country and are looking for a boost to get into this new culture. They find this training very helpful.

What if I get nervous only in certain situations?

This training covers a range of common social situations – speaking to a coworker we usually get stuck in awkward small talk with, ending up next to someone at an event, doing better on job interviews, getting to know someone you like, meeting people in a cafe. 

It’s helpful for people who sometimes feel awkward or overthink social interactions.

Does age matter for this training?

Beneath the surface, how humans connect is surprisingly similar across ages.

The majority of our members are 25 to 45 years old, but the training works well for all ages, with participants ranging from young adults to seniors.

What if nervousness makes it hard to know what to say?

Then you’re in the right place, since this is exactly what our training helps people overcome! 

The training offers simple strategies to help with feeling mentally “stuck” in conversations.

You get to practice at home until you’re ready for the real world.

Over time, these methods can make it easier to stay present and find things to say.

Can this help with work situations like networking, job interviews, and career?

Yes, these ideas apply in both personal and professional settings.

Sometimes, social skills can be even more important to one’s career than learning a new hard skill.

The training can be helpful for feeling more relaxed when meeting new people and creating trust and like, whether for social reasons or for business.

Will this training help me talk to someone I like?

Yes, this program is helpful to our members who get extra uncomfortable talking to someone they like.

Some who in the past couldn’t get past the “polite surface level” were able to deepen their conversations, express themselves in an attractive and authentic way, and thereby build a connection beyond friendship. 

This program is valuable for someone seeking to create new friendships as for someone seeking to go beyond friendship.

Do I have to talk to strangers as part of the training?

No, there won’t be any “get up and talk to 10 strangers” exercises here! (Simply because those exercises are too difficult to stick to).

Our exercises are designed to be achievable, even for those who feel uncomfortable socializing and not wanting to step far outside their comfort zone.

The focus is on gradual, natural practice.

Why should I join a training for talking to people? Shouldn’t this come naturally?

While some people are naturally comfortable in social settings, others aren’t—and that’s completely normal. 

Most people’s behavior is a result of conditioning from when they grew up. Now that we’re adults, we can decide to change that conditioning. And a training program can be a great guide for this. 

It’s not about turning into someone else, quite the opposite actually! It’s about having the social skills and confidence to express who we are.

How does the training work? Is it self-paced?

The training is online and self-paced, with five sections that include short videos and easy exercises. 

There’s also a comment section and community forums to connect with others taking the course if you want.

How much time will it take each day?

Most people spend around 5–10 minutes per day on the course material.

You’ll get the most out of it by trying out what you learn in daily interactions.

What if this training doesn’t feel right for me?

There’s a 60-day refund policy. If you don’t see real world results, go to the account page and process a refund with just a few clicks. No human interaction is needed and no questions are asked. And in case you have any questions, reach us at support@socialself.com