How to Instantly Be More Likable

It’s an uncomfortable truth, but being likable makes all aspects of life easier.

It leads to success in every area — from making a positive first impression to landing your dream job to enjoying the most satisfying personal relationships.

But if you’re like many of our members, you may feel that you’re not as likable as other people.

Or even worse… not likable at all.

It’s certainly painful to go through life believing that people dislike you.

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Perhaps you can relate to these comments from our members…

If you’re like them, you long to be more likable but are clueless about how to go about it.

One member confessed…

It’s especially confusing when some people seem to be likable, but you can’t figure out what their secret is.

So it’s understandable if you’re wondering…

What is the “X Factor” that Makes Some People More Likable Than Others?

Likability is a people skill so complex that some people call it the “X factor.”

It’s that mysterious “something” that turns heads and makes people gravitate toward them at social gatherings, wanting to bask in their positive energy.

We’ve all met people like that who are just instantly likable.

And it seems to come naturally to them.

They just walk into a room and ooze likability.

People want to speak to them, get to know them, befriend them, hire them, and spend more time with them.

And it’s often hard to pinpoint exactly why you like someone.

Maybe it’s their wit, their kindness, their compassion, or their willingness to really listen to what you’re saying.

You just like being around them.

But on the surface, they don’t seem that different than you or me.

Keep reading to discover the most important trait that all likable people share in common…

Likable people make you feel good about yourself

Making other people feel good is the #1 secret to becoming more likable.

Think about all the likable people you’ve met in your life.

They know how to immediately put you at ease, help you feel comfortable, and create a positive atmosphere.

You feel like you can trust them.

No matter what is going on in their own lives, likable people are able to put it aside and focus on whoever they’re with.

When you speak to them, they are truly interested in what you have to say.

They don’t constantly check their phone…

They don’t look around the room to see if they recognize anybody…

They give you their full and undivided attention.

That’s why so many people say that likable people make them feel special.

Likable folks have emotional intelligence, which means they not only know how to express and control their own emotions…

They also understand, interpret, and respond to the emotions of others with empathy.

So being likable isn’t about how rich, famous, or successful you are

Think about it.

Many of the most famous and richest celebrities in the world are, well, highly unlikeable.

That’s why if you try to impress others by constantly trying to one-up them with achievements, career success, the latest stylish wardrobe, or how much money you have in the bank…

It simply won’t work.

And you won’t come across as very likable.

So if you’re not coming across as likable to others…

WARNING:

You May Be Sabotaging Your Likability!

If you’re constantly wondering if you’re likable… or if other people seem more likable than you…

There’s a good chance your behavior is harming your likability.

There can be many different reasons…

Perhaps you were hurt in past relationships and are pushing people away to protect yourself.

Whatever the reason, you’re sending social cues that keep others at a distance.

Now, that doesn’t mean you’re not a likable person.

It simply means you’re acting like one… and that’s how others are perceiving you.

If you recognize any of those qualities in yourself… don’t be too hard on yourself.

Everybody has both likable and unlikable character traits.

The good news is it’s easy to unlearn your unlikable traits and develop better social skills.

Here’s why that’s so important…

Why Being Likable is Crucial for Your Success?

If you don’t improve your likability factor, you probably won’t get very far in life.

There’s no getting around it.

It’ll make or break your chances for success.

Whether you want to get a promotion, a new job, a romantic partner, be accepted in a college, or make new friends…

In fact, likability is so important that many companies reject people simply because they don’t like them… even if they were qualified for the job.

Instead, they choose someone more likable with just enough skills to get by.

And when asked, they won’t be able to tell you why.
They simply liked that person better than the other candidates.
So if you don’t learn how to come across as likable, you won’t connect with the people who matter the most.

You’ll continue to accidentally push them away without understanding why.

Here’s the great news…

You already are likable! ✅

It’s simply a matter of learning skills to unleash your likable qualities

You can improve your likability by honing specific social skills…

And reduce unlikable behaviors, such as unconsciously signaling to others that you don’t want to be friends with them.

Learning these new communication skills is easier than you think!

Even if you’re an introvert and paralyzed in social situations.

It’s simply a matter of replacing unlikable behavior traits with more skillful social cues that create instant likability.

And trust me, those likable qualities are already inside you.

We’ll show you how to bring them out whenever you’re around other people…

And skyrocket your likability factor.

The more you put these social skills into action…the more being likable will come naturally to you.

Look, there’s no real difference between you and likable people.

They’re not “better” than you are… or possess more likable qualities than you do.

You may be thinking, “Well, we’ve never met so how do you know whether I’m likable or not?”

Because everybody has different levels of social skills… both positive and negative.

Likable people simply know how to use specific social skills to keep their own unlikable qualities at bay.

And we’re excited to teach these same life-changing techniques to you!

We’ve created a unique course that shows you specific proven behaviors to appear — and become — instantly more likable.

I know you can’t wait to learn all about this course, and how you can get your hands on it…

And I promise I’ll share all the wonderful details in a moment…

But first…

I’d love to introduce myself and share a bit about my background.

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Are You Ready to Skyrocket Your Likability Factor?

Learn the secret sentences, phrases, body language, and social skills to make people like you

Fortunately, being likable is a skill you can develop over time, not something you either innately possess or don’t.

At SocialSelf, we’ve taken the guesswork out of trying to figure it out!

From the way you stand to your facial expressions… from the rate of your speech to the way you react to conflict… from your greeting to your goodbye…

You’ll learn specific time-tested strategies for fine-tuning your social skills to become likable in any situation.

Once you get the hang of them, people will immediately be drawn to you.

They’ll feel comfortable with you. They’ll trust you. They’ll open up to you in ways they don’t with other people.

Oh, and they’ll like you! Very much.

And in most cases, one meeting won’t be enough for them.

They’ll want to continue the relationship, and take it to the next level.

Before you part, they’ll ask for your contact information so you can pick up where you left off.

“I’m worried that all this talk about correct facial expressions, calculated steps, and pre-planned sentences might make me sound fake!”

Learning how to be likable doesn’t mean you have to “act” around others or be a phony.

Or walk around with a fake smile plastered on your face.

Or say sentences that don’t feel genuine to you.

If you do any of that, yes, you’ll come across phonier than a three-dollar bill!

Our course will teach you how to release those likability qualities that are already inside you…

So you’ll always be authentically yourself.

And other people will sense that you’re being genuine.

Sure, at first it may feel weird to follow certain techniques while developing more effective social skills…
But the more you practice them while you’re out in the world, the faster these skills will become second nature to you.

“Why do I need a course when there’s an ocean of free advice out there?”

Well, let me ask you this…

If there’s so much free advice out there, why hasn’t everybody become so likable that they’re attracting throngs of new friends and lovers?

But the truth is, studies show that loneliness has reached epidemic levels across the country.

Plus, most of the so-called “advice” out there is created by self-proclaimed “gurus” and not by legitimate experts.

Our course has proven science-backed strategies that are written by leading therapists and other experts in the field of psychology.

That’s why this course isn’t just another “advice-bomb”.

And simply getting advice doesn’t automatically make us better.

You also have to learn how to apply the advice through actionable techniques.

Of course, advice can be helpful at times when you’re trying to decide if a course is right for you.

That’s why we provide tons of advice on our website, so you can decide if our way of doing things appeals to you before spending a penny.

So when you’re ready to change your life for the better…

It would be an honor to have you join SocialSelf, which is proven by hundreds of men and women like you who took the leap and joined our community.

“Am I admitting that I’m an unlikable loser if I take this course?”

Look, it doesn’t make you a “loser” if you want to improve yourself.

Quite the contrary. It’s highly admirable because it takes courage and a willingness to change.

Everyone has certain gifts that come naturally to them, and everyone has to work a bit harder in other areas of their lives.

A person may breeze through algebra, but fail a very basic foreign language course.

It doesn’t make the math whiz a “loser” to devote some extra effort to mastering French.

In the same way, some people are naturally very socially savvy, and others have a harder time navigating subtle social cues or connecting with new people.

Devoting time and energy to improving your social skills is every bit as sensible as committing to losing excess weight or quitting smoking.

Actually, people who are content with being unlikable, and have no interest in improving themselves are the real losers.

“But I’ve already tried countless other courses and they just didn’t work for me”

Here’s why this course is so different…

We took the time to have countless video calls with men and women who wanted to be more likable.

We went through what they’d tried before that hadn’t worked and coached them on what to do instead.

Only when a method made them go “WOW! It works now!” did it earn a place in the course.

And we also worked with leading psychologists, therapists, behavioral scientists, and others.

Here’s the big problem…

Most courses, articles, and books out there give terrible advice when it comes to becoming more likable.

Yes, there are tons of self-proclaimed “gurus” online who give free advice, but most of them are simply regurgitating the same nonsense from each other.

⛔ Bad advice #1: “Just smile more” – Sure, body language is important, but it’s not that simple.

The key to becoming more likable isn’t walking around with a fake smile.

Of course, you should smile if you’re enjoying the company of others. But if you’re simply smiling to try and be more likable, people will sense that it’s self-serving, and you’ll come across as inauthentic.

Smiling is just one of many tools you’ll learn, but any smile needs to come from the heart.

⛔ Bad advice #2: “Be more confident” – Have you ever tried to “just be more confident” on command? What the heck are you even supposed to do?

It’s not like you can just decide to be confident one day and suddenly you’re attracting throngs of new friends.

When I talked to our participants, it turned out that this piece of advice gave them performance anxiety.

In reality, our course will unleash your inner self-confidence by showing you the steps to becoming more naturally likable…

…even if you’re painfully shy with low self-esteem.

⛔ Bad advice #3: “Share your achievements” – This is more terrible advice.

Trying to impress others doesn’t make you more likable, but conceited and trying to one-up others.

It’s fine to mention your accomplishments if it comes up naturally in conversation.

But name-dropping (which includes not just people but universities, institutions, and organizations), and bragging about accomplishments, social media followings, and other ways of letting people know how awesome you are, is a huge turn-off.

“So what the heck works, then?”

What really worked for our participants to become genuinely likable was learning proven social skills that improve likability.

Those are exactly what this course will help you master, and here’s how…

Our course is the most heavily researched out there…

We wanted to learn the specific strategies that likable people intuitively use to win others over so effortlessly…

So we put on our detective hats and spent hundreds of hours researching the latest studies on likability

We spent thousands of hours working with leading psychologists, therapists, behavioral scientists, and others to learn the secret social skills used by the most likable people in the world…

We were literally blown away by what we discovered.

We learned how they get throngs of friends, lovers, amazing careers, and succeed at practically anything else they want.

Next, we decided to put all this incredible information into an exciting new course so everybody can benefit from these life-changing techniques.

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Introducing our groundbreaking course…

Instantly More Likable

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Being likable is entirely under your control.

Even the most likable person you’ve ever met wasn’t born that way.

All it takes is the ability to pick up a few key social skills that build emotional intelligence.

What this exciting course will help you master…

Chapter 1: Radiating Likability And Magnetically Attracting Friends

Likable people know how to make others feel good from the moment they meet.

In this chapter, you’ll learn everything you need to know to make a likable first impression.

You’ll discover how to purposely use your eyes, body language, and even your entrance to help people instantly like you.

You’ll learn how to send social cues that you’re sincere and eager to like them – that you have good intentions and you’re not a threat.

Chapter 2: From Unremarkable to Remarkably Likable

Do you often feel like people don’t notice you at all?

Or feel like people dislike you without even giving you a chance?

In Chapter 2, find out if you’re making one of the common mistakes that can make you seem invisible – or even unlikable – from the very start.

Learn how to make simple adjustments to your appearance and body language to become instantly likable.

Chapter 3: Retaking Control of Your Likability

Do you wait for others to take the first step toward friendships? Do you believe that everyone else is better at socializing, so if they don’t reach out to you, then they don’t find you likable?

Waiting around for others to take the initiative toward friendship usually backfires. It gives away your chance to show your newfound powers. And it often makes you come across as unfriendly or uninteresting.

I’ll show you how, by being friendly first, you can reclaim your power to help others like you.

Learn when and how you should take the lead – even if you’re an introvert or struggle with fear of rejection.

You’ll learn how to “nail” your approach and greeting to build instant rapport. Once you’ve engaged, you’ll learn additional techniques to ensure those first encounters go smoothly.

Chapter 4: Using Conversations to Form Deep Connections Fast and Be More Likable

Do you worry that you won’t sound funny enough, clever enough, or interesting enough, for others to want to talk to you?

Actually, when it comes to being likable and making friends, the point of conversation is not to impress others. It’s to connect with others.

Once you learn this, you can forget the pressure and enjoy finding out what you and others have in common.

Here, I’ll teach you how to start and carry on conversations that help both you and your conversation partner feel connected.

Chapter 5: Why Most People Are Terrible Conversationalists – And How You Will Set Yourself Apart

In this chapter, find out if you’re making one of the common conversation mistakes – like talking too much or too little. Learn to achieve the right balance so you can connect with others easily.

Do you often feel like you have a great conversation, but it doesn’t lead to friendship? Here, I’ll show you exactly how to end your conversation in a way that leads somewhere.

Chapter 6: Advanced Likability Strategies

Do you ever feel like you’re getting in your own way by overthinking all of your social interactions?

Does your fear of rejection cause you to reject others? Do you feel like you’ll only be liked if you change your personality and become the “life of the party”? Do you get stuck in an unhelpful mindset, like thinking that your entire social life is riding on THIS.SPECIFIC.INTERACTION?

I’ll teach you how to adjust your thinking and stop getting in your own way – and actually improve your interactions at the same time.

I’ll show you how to stop focusing on whether others like you. Instead focus on showing others that you like them. This will reduce your stress – allowing you to be a more likable version of yourself. Plus others will respond more positively when you clearly signal that you like them.

Chapter 7: Finding the Optimal Positivity-Negativity Balance

Learn whether a tendency to point out the negative is pushing people away or causing others to avoid you. If you complain, vent, or burst bubbles in excess, people won’t enjoy being around you.

I’ll share the guidelines for balancing negativity. Finetune how often – and how – you express the downsides of life, while still lifting up your friends and strengthening your relationships.

Chapter 8: Disagreeing With Grace And Winning People Over to Your Way of Thinking

Are you argumentative? Do others avoid certain topics around you because they don’t want to be drawn into a debate?

Learn how to tell if it’s okay to have a debate, how to disagree respectfully, and when it’s best to walk away.

Chapter 9: Standing Your Ground While Still Being Likable

Do you come across as overly blunt or insensitive? Do you often find yourself in “hot water” with others because of how your words came out?

Here I’ll show you how to filter your words better, how to notice cues if you’ve offended someone, and how to do damage control to repair your relationship.

Chapter 10: Managing Moods and Mitigating Meltdowns

Do mood swings or anger interfere with your friendships? Here, I’ll show you how to identify and manage your triggers so that you can avoid damaging relationships through angry outbursts. I’ll teach you effective and healthy techniques for controlling anger when it arises.

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Time Limited Offer: You Get All These Incredible Bonuses For Free

When you sign up this week, you get these incredible bonuses completely free.

Total Bonus Value: USD 940

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Here’s all the life-changing stash you’ll get in our course, Instantly More Likable…

1. Lifetime access to the full course
2. 35 super in-depth, easy-to-understand videos packed with ultra-practical real-world examples for increasing likability
3. A community of like-minded friends who’ll support, motivate and understand you
4. Exercises that help you improve your likability factor without coming across as weird, scary, or awkward
5. A proven system that holds you accountable and motivated
6. Downloadable audio files of the lessons so that you can listen anywhere on your phone
7. BONUS: Superconfidence (Value: USD 395)
8. BONUS: Conversation Scripts Word-for-Word (Value: USD 196)
9. Invisible to Interesting: The Game (Value: USD 349)
10. 60-day money-back guarantee: If you carefully follow the course, but don’t improve your likability in 60 days, we’ll refund your purchase price… no questions asked.

You’ll Become an Exclusive Member of Our Supportive Community

When you register for Instantly More Likable, you’ll automatically become part of our big supportive family.

You’ll be able to connect with people who share your goals, and they’ll support and motivate you every step of the way.

With these new like-minded friends, you’ll be able to discuss challenges, share life stories, and do exercises together.

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In Instantly More Likable, You’ll Learn…

✅ How to use proven secrets to become more likable

✅ How to make others feel good about themselves

✅ How to put strangers immediately at ease

✅ How to be more approachable

✅ How to eliminate angry or sad facial expressions

✅ How to initiate conversations even if you’re an introvert

✅ How to use body language to convey friendliness

✅ How to be a good listener

✅ How to show empathy for others

✅ How to enter a room and have people gravitate toward you

✅ How to present yourself to others in a more likable way

✅ How to get rid of self-sabotaging unlikable behavior

✅ How to develop immediate rapport by sending out “friend” signals

✅ And much more!

Here’s the magic that happens after you become more likable

Imagine being able to easily approach and talk to all sorts of interesting people, and no longer allowing feelings of unlikability stop you.

You’ll know exactly what to say to make other people feel appreciated and good about themselves.

Your conversations with others will be engaging, fun, warm, and filled with laughter.

They’ll ask: “It was really interesting talking to you. Do you want to keep in touch?”

You’ll say “Sure!” and finally have the ability to create meaningful, deep, and long-lasting relationships with the new-found skills you learned in our course.

What happens after you register?

As soon as you register, you’ll automatically get logged in to our course portal and gain immediate access to the entire course.

This means that you can start watching this course instantly after you’ve completed the registration.

The first video you’ll see is a welcome video that explains how the course works and exactly what to do next.

What to do next

Click the “Get Instant Access” button in the blue box above. On the page that comes up, fill in your information and choose if you want to use your debit/credit card or PayPal.

As soon as you’ve entered your information and clicked “Sign up now”, you’ll be greeted by me inside the course system, and I’ll show you exactly how to get started.

I’m looking forward to seeing you inside!

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Common questions

I’ll do my best to answer your most common questions below. If your question isn’t answered, please send us an email.

Why should I get this course?

Why not just deal with this by myself?

You can deal with this on your own. I did. It’s possible, but it takes time. I, for example, spent 8 years of trial and error to get to a level I was satisfied with.

Taking one of our courses is like pressing a fast-forward button. Our courses contain a proven system you can follow that tells you exactly what to do. It’s created by someone who’s been where you are and understand your struggles and challenges.  Our courses contain the very system I wish I had 8 years ago.

Would I have been willing to pay money for it? Yes. If I had the ability back then to fast-track 8 years, it would have been worth more than all the money in the world to me.

There are so many obvious mistakes and so much needless pain and rejection going through this alone. Those who participate in our courses have decided to learn from my mistakes instead of treading water on their own.

Even for people who are several years behind, our courses give the opportunity to make a giant leap to close the gap. (Read here about when you can expect to see results) Many of our participants even decide to go further. They use their motivation to rise above what most people can only dream about.

“The thing that got me from a socially anxious person to being the most connected person at work now is doing a lot of reading, which is how I found your course, and your research was the eventual turning point I would say in my personality.”

Prakhar V, 26

Why pay for a course like this when there’s an ocean of free advice out there?

With all the free advice out there, how come everyone isn’t walking around as a social genius?

Because more advice doesn’t make us better. Our courses aren’t “advice-bombs”. Here’s what we do differently to give you results:

1. Instead of just “more information” we help you set up a system for how to improve in real life. We don’t try to give you “all the advice you might possibly need”. Instead, we hand-pick and streamline the information and methods that are important to YOUR social success.
2. With our recordings and analysis of actual social interaction, you get real-world experience that no blog post or book can give you.
3. Signing up for our courses means becoming part of our big community with hundreds of members. Whenever you feel stuck or want to discuss something, you get help from me, Viktor, and all our participants who are sharing your journey.
4. Our material is scientifically based, optimized for results, based on thousands of surveys, created together with a behavioral scientist and finally tested by a team of beta testers.

Advice can be good sometimes. We give a lot of advice in our free material so you can decide if our way of doing things works for you before you spend a penny. But when you’re ready to create a big change in your life, you don’t want more advice, but a proven system that slingshots you to where you want to be.

More advice just makes me confused or overwhelmed, is this different?

If you’re tired of “more advice”, you’re just like me. I give an answer to this question in the step above (“Why pay for a course like this when there’s an ocean of free advice out there?”)

Will this work for me?

Will this work in my country/culture?

There are many differences between cultures. Generally speaking, Americans are more extroverted than Asians. South American cultures are often more expressive than West Europeans.^(ref)

We’ve made sure to take this into account designing our courses, and the results from all over the world show that we’ve succeeded:

I’ve personally used the methods we teach with great success in the US, Thailand, China, France, Spain, UK, and Sweden. More importantly, our thousands of participants from all over the world report amazing results.

The reason is the same for why our courses work for different ages and genders: Different ages, genders, and cultures all have different norms. But the underlying human psychology is universal.

Here’s what some of our participants from different corners of the world have to say:

I was thrilled to see that I could have fun in just a few minutes with a complete stranger, and exchange on our experiences, lives, passions and so on.

Hugo, Bordeaux, France.

…for probably the first time that I remember I stopped feeling insanely awkward around someone I didn’t really know at all…

Sven, Germany

Group projects are now fun instead of dreadful and the relationships I’m building are growing outside of school as well.

Riley, Calgary, Canada

[…] I can honestly say that it is truly changing my life for the better

John Claveria, Philippines

I was free. In year 2 and during that summer I had people commenting on how outgoing and confident I was (even how much I talk). I was in my element, I was embodying it

Joshua, London, UK

[…] one thing it has done is completely eliminated awkward moments. And because I’m not putting on a mask, it’s not at all tiring.

Rakesh, India

Now I’m outgoing, social and generally easy to talk to. What I learned is that change is possible!

William, Irvine, California, USA

I have been implementing your ideas, and it has changed my life in such a positive way.

Rachel, Australia

Now I know that I can make a difference in people’s lives just by connecting with them and sharing what I am.

Estuardo Paz, Guatemala

[…] that’s so much more profound than I thought when I dreamed of a silver bullet to solve my conversation dead ends.

Bianca Gelli, Brazil

I do really like the fact that I am (now) able to hold a conversation.

Theodor, Norway

I have to congratulate you and Viktor. Some of the things you teach give what I call “aha moments” or “make me see the matrix”.

Richard, Portugal

References: Triandis, Harry C. (1994) Culture and Social Behavior. McGraw-Hill College.

Am I too young/old for this?

The majority of our participants are between 20 and 50 years old. The youngest is 18 years old and the oldest 75. Human psychology is very much the same no matter your age. We’ve had beta testers and participants of older courses of all ages reporting great results.

Below, I picked out a few testimonials from participants of varying ages. Notice how the youngest one is 18 years old and the oldest one is 75 years old. That’s a 57-year difference! This shows that our courses work no matter what your age is.

I am an older woman who was born in England & migrated to Australia in 1963 with my husband & 3 small children. My husband was a very outgoing character who had no fears or worries about relating to anyone or anything. I was ultra-reserved & well accustomed to keeping to myself, totally scared of people & relationships. I could hide behind that outgoing partner, & did, all the time, for 25 years. Once our children left home there was very little of a relationship between those 2 disparate people & the marriage ended.

I am so happy with what I’ve learned from you, including that I feel a strongly growing sense of belonging to humanity instead of being an outcast! Your personal quick responses are part of this, too. I feel supported by you, thank you. So I’m super keen to continue with the Course

Christina Beaumont, Australia 75

This is sooo good! And don’t forget – your often simple, but brilliant advice can be used by us, who have left the youth! I really wish I had been given so much good advice 20-30 years ago.

Mary Anne, 47

I have more friends in my youth group than I thought I was capable of making. I’m still shy and all of that, but I have definitely changed. Thank you so much! I filled this out so you would know how your blog and guides have really changed my social life. Thank you! (I’m now private schooled and in all honors classes and slowly making friends there as well. 🙂 Once again, thank you!

Kaitlind,Corona, CA, USA, 18

Will this work for my very specific situation?

All our courses are tested on people from all walks of life. Our participants are between the ages of 18 to 75. They are people from all over the world from different cultures with different careers and lifestyles.

Some of them would mainly like to be more confident in social settings. Others would like to be better at bonding with people they come across. Some of them would like to have a better career, live in a larger house, have a bigger paycheck, or have a better physique. Some want to be better in networking and business and career. Still, they’ve had great results with our courses, due to the extensive testing we do.

These people all have one thing in common. They’re quite thoughtful and tend to overthink in social settings. If you can relate to this, I am confident that this course will work for you, no matter your specific situation.

If it turns out the course wasn’t right for you, you can use our 60 days 100% money-back guarantee. You get a full refund up to 60 days after you bought the course.

What if I blank out in conversations today?

In this course, you won’t just get “more advice”. No advice in the world helps if you blank out in conversations (because in those situations, the brain doesn’t work like it’s supposed to do anyway).

What you DO need is a small set of precise and powerful mindsets. As these mindsets become second nature to you, you will notice how you’ll no longer blank out. You’ll be able to think more clearly in social settings.

One example of such a mindset change is the OFC-coaching method I emailed you a video about a while back. There, we hooked up a participant to a stress monitor and showed that we could cut her stress levels in half after just 5 minutes of coaching. One mindset change like that is worth more than a thousand well-meant pieces of advice. However, in our courses, we have the time and resources to go even deeper than the OFC method and get even more impressive results.

If blanking out is your problem, this course will be a perfect fit for you.

What if I don’t want to “play the social game”, be shallow, or turn into a people pleaser?

This is my favorite question to answer. People often think that being social is about being one of those annoying, shallow people you see on the TV commercials for beer.

To me (and to our participants) being socially skilled is the opposite: It’s about getting away with being who you WANT to be because people will like you anyway.

We teach you how to be yourself and get away with it, even if you, like me, have a quirky personality and humor. When you master the foundations of bonding with people, that’s when you’re able to “get away” with being who you want to be.

At that point, you don’t have to “put on a mask to fit in” or feel like you have to compromise yourself.
Here’s what some participants write:

[…] I end up feeling empathetic, less concerned with how I look, more interested in the other person, and naturally more confident and good in conversation.”

Mateen

“… From this point, I quit putting any pressure on myself and soon my interactions started to become much more natural. I spent more time doing the things I love, and going out with people I appreciate.”

Hugo, Bordeaux, France

What if I lose my motivation halfway through?

The most common reasons we lose our motivation are the following:

1. It feels like we won’t succeed
2. We don’t see enough results
3. Something gets too hard

That’s why we’ve designed the course in the following way:

1. It clearly shows you how you can succeed
2. You’ll see the initial results quickly
3. The exercises are fun and motivating, not hard

This is the reason the majority of our participants feel highly motivated throughout the course.

Remember, if it turns out you aren’t able to complete the course, you can use our 60 days 100% money-back guarantee. You get a full refund up to 60 days after you bought the course.

What if I fall behind?

You can take the course at whatever pace fits you. If you are unable to attend for a period of time, you can just start off where you left off. The only one setting the pace is you. We give you the tools and the support you need to achieve the goals you set for yourself.

What if it turns out this course is not right for me?

This course is the result of hundreds of survey responses, dozens of hours of phone interviews, and months of beta testing. Our participants are 18-75 years old and from all over the world.

What these people have in common is that they describe themselves as social overthinkers. If you identify with being a social overthinker, you can be confident that this course is for you.

If it turns out the course still wasn’t what you were looking for, you can use our 60 days’ 100% money-back guarantee. You get a full refund up to 60 days after you bought the course.

What if now is not a good time for me?

A “theme” I recognized whenever I was thinking about committing to a book or a course was a voice in my head telling me things like:

“- But I should try that technique I read about last week first”
“- I should get X handled first”
“- I should get Y finished first”
“- I need to come to terms with my mental baggage first”
“- I should free up more time first”
“-I need to get my ducks in a row”

Truth is, the time will never be perfect. If you wait for things to be perfect, life is what happens while you make up plans. You want to prioritize a great social life sooner rather than later because when you do, everything in life gets both easier and more fun.

You want to ask yourself: I’ve been walking this planet for X years, and I’m still not where I want to be. Should I continue like I’ve done before and hope to one day figure this all out on my own, or is now the time to start following a proven system to get this handled?

Will this help me with…

Will this course help me with my dating?

This is a course on how to be more likable. There will be no “pick up-openers” or similar techniques. However, what you WILL learn is a natural way to make yourself more interesting to people including those you are attracted to. You will be more at ease and more confident in conversations and know what to talk about. This will make you more self-confident and more attractive. This is why our participants have such great results when it comes to dating and romantic partners.

Here’s what Justin from the Netherlands writes:

I just walked up to the girl I like for soooo long. It was a huge step, but I had the confidence and knowledge of what to talk about. If I hadn’t had this course, I would never dare to talk to her.

– Justin in Maastricht, Netherlands

I suffer from Social anxiety. Will this work for me?

Yes! This course is designed with anxiety in mind and works both if you have mild, moderate or severe social anxiety. If you have clinical social anxiety we recommend that you seek appropriate care from medical professionals. A medical professional can help you with the anxiety part, but most likely not the conversation skills part. Therefore, some of those with social anxiety who join our courses see it as a great complement to therapy.

Here are some testimonials from participants who suffered from social anxiety.

“The thing that got me from a socially anxious person to being the most connected person at work now is doing a lot of reading, which is how I found your course (and your research was the eventual turning point I would say in my personality).”

Prakhar V, 26

“The breakthrough way that you have helped me is when you told me to focus my attention on other people thus away from myself.

I had never realised that my awkwardness or anxiety was rooted by me being self-conscious and my constantly thinking about how I look and how I come across in social situation and I always used to attempt to show myself in a good light.

You advice had helped me liberate myself from this anxiety from social situations. Also, the statistics that show others are also anxious had increased my confidence in initiating conversation as before I assumed they just didn’t like me.”

Armaan Chana, London, UK

I suffer from shyness. Will this work for me?

Yes! All our courses are tailored to also help shy people feel comfortable in social settings. Look at some of the testimonials from previously shy people:

“I love that as you say it’s not the usual approach 10 strangers. Most shy or introverted people would die a little inside just thinking of doing that.”

Dawn T

“Throughout most of my life I had terrible social skills. Whenever someone tried to converse with me I would be so shy that I would either give one word answers that don’t really contribute or further the conversation, or I would basically ignore them which made me come off as kinda strange.

This really hurt because inside I actually wanted to talk with people, I just had no idea what people talked about or what the flow of normal conversation was like.

Recently I’ve been going back to school to try and improve my career situation. At first I was incredibly nervous because of the social situations that I would be forced into like group projects, and I didn’t want to come off as the strange quiet guy like I was through my past experiences. I have seen a very positive outcome in my social life.

Group projects are now fun instead of dreadful and the relationships I’m building are growing outside of school as well.”

Riley, Alberta, Canada

Will this help me in business, networking, or job interviews?

Here’s a realization that has helped me a lot in life:

When you deal with businesses (like employers, or customers, or business networks) they are still humans. That means that the same principles that help us bond with someone in private will help us bond with someone in business.

Some get into this weird stiff persona whenever they interact with businesses. But you still want to be easy-going, confident and warm, just like when talking to non-business people.

This course helps you do that.

Little did I understand how powerful the principles here were for business success. When I first started networking around the time of my first company, I didn’t do particularly well. As a result, I lost out on a lot of business opportunities. Nowadays, I have the ability to bond quickly with anyone. That has helped me build up a big business network and have contacts I never would have had otherwise.

“The thing that got me from a socially anxious person to being the most connected person at work now is doing a lot of reading, which is how I found your course, and your research was the eventual turning point I would say in my personality.”

Prakhar V, 26

What can I expect?

Do I need to do out-of-my-comfort-zone stunts?

No. We don’t believe that is an effective method of improving. We’ve tried it, but our experience confirmed what other studies have shown:

Most people can’t push way out of their comfort zone day after day.

Doing outrageous social stunts doesn’t create long-term change.

Our exercises are designed to be fun and motivating. With our system, based on the latest findings in behavioral science, you can practice new mindsets and behaviors in social settings without doing something that others think is weird (or even notice you doing).

About the course

How does the course work?

This is an online course that takes 4 weeks to complete. You can access the course on your computer, your tablet or smartphone.

The course is divided into 7 chapters. I explain all the concepts in clear and easy-to-understand videos.

Together with the videos, you’ll get exercises that’ll help you turn this into actual change in your life. For each lesson, there is a comment area where you’ll be able to discuss the material with both us and others.

How much time will this course take?

Our participants spend roughly 2 hours per week of studying the material. Then, they used their everyday social interactions to think about what they’d learned. A social interaction can be anything from the cashier to family or friends. The duration of the course is 5 weeks.

Am I a loser for taking a course like this?

It doesn’t make you a “loser” if you want to improve yourself.

Actually, people who are content with not many friends, unfulfilling conversations, and not wanting to improve themselves are the real losers.

I figured that I only have this one life, so why not make the most out of it and learn steps to ensure it’s the best it can be?

If some close-minded person thinks I’m a loser or weird, that is a prize I’m more than happy to pay for the amazing life I’m able to live today: I can bond with people fast. I have wonderful friends. I have a huge social circle. I can do the things I love every day.

My life philosophy is to not walk around life fearing that doing this or that might make someone think we’re weird. Instead, I try to always do what I know is the right thing to do.

Is this a live/interactive course or can I do it on my own?

This is not a live course. You take the course through our website. You’ll be taking the course together with hundreds of others and can get inspired and motivated by them. But if you want to do the course at your own pace and without the involvement of others, that works great too!

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